ive been aware for years of how “born this way” rhetoric is inadequate and at times harmful but it hasnt been until recently that ive experienced firsthand its lacking. i think this can especially be said for many wlw and nb folk – it is a conscious choice of mine to avoid relations with men and defy cisheteronormativity because both are exhausting and toxic 2 the spirit body and mind. like this is coming from someone who used to identify as pan but has since retracted all interest in men due to the violence, dehumanization, and lack of understanding between myself and them, favoring instead the solidarity, gentleness, and wholesome nature of being with other women and nb folk. i realize that i really wasnt born this way; its a conscious decision to resist, be free, be soft, find meaningful love, etc
I suffer from pretty terrible nightmares on a regular basis, and I sometimes wake up feeling very ill or start to cry. For Christmas my parents got me a big poster of Cole, and I keep it in my bedroom near my bed. It just makes me feel safer, like somehow Cole being there will keep the nightmares from actually harming me. It’s a comforting thought, but I’m afraid people will think it’s silly, so I never tell anyone.
handcuffs - brand new || aspiring fires - mother mother || flathead – the fratellis || gold guns girls - metric || break me shake me - savage garden || spiderhead - cage the elephant || girl with one eye - florence + the machine || sirens of your toxic spirit - of montreal || iscariot - walk the moon || combat baby - metric
So in the quest “Justice”, Anders says that he can’t tell where Vengeance and Justice begin. I always think that its possible that he was unknowingly possessed by another spirit, and that there is no real Anders to speak of. It could be like a Cole situation, and Anders died in the Circle, but that’s just my opinion.
I love that spirit in Crestwood who “orders” you to kill a rage demon. When you ask Solas to talk to it, its response about the waking world, and its voice actor’s delivery, makes me laugh every time. “THEN WHAT’S THE POINT OF IT?”