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This entire scene makes the episode for me. Scully has already been sent to a jail cell once. I’m sure she doesn’t want to go again, so she’s looking somewhat nervous because it seems like a situation that’s doomed to repeat itself. She’s unable to answer questions because she refuses to divulge information about Mulder. Then he appears (somewhat dramatically) and you can see in Scully’s face that she’s so relieved, and all she wants to do is run to him, make sure he’s okay. Instead she plays it cool, remains calm, and basically tells the panel to go fuck themselves. Then, of course, the hug to end all hugs - Mulder and Scully reunite and then all personal space between them disappears - as it should.

[My Top 10 Favorite Episodes] #10, pt. 2 - Terma, Season 4

⭐️ top 10 ways to improve your recruitment communication skills! ⭐️

One-on-one conversations are the heart and soul of sorority recruitment. PNMs and sisters can make some improvements to increase their communicate abilities. Having better rush conversations is the key to making the best sorority matches!

⭐️  Top 10 Ways to Improve Your Recruitment Communication Skills ⭐️

  • REALLY Listen. While the PNM or sister is speaking, don’t be thinking about what you’re going to say next. Don’t be thinking about ways to make a cool impression. Don’t be plotting your next move, Instead, really tune into what the girl across from you is saying. Only then can an authentic dialog take place. If you honestly hear what she’s speaking about, you will respond on a deeper level and a genuine connection will be made. Pay attention. Let the other person talk without interruption. “A good conversation is a bunch of words elegantly connected with listening.” Listening attentively is hard work. Doing it all week is even harder. But a keen ear and thoughtful responses are what real bonding is all about. Avoid the “fake” sorority chat trap! Truly listen with your heart and your head at all times. 
  • Show Empathy. Empathy is about understanding what the PNM/sister is talking about. During your rush talks, respond with “ah” and “oh” to let the other girl know you’re getting the point and you empathize with what she’s saying. Slow down a little, don’t cut off the other person’s sentences, think before you speak and ask followup questions. Embrace what’s being said and what emotions are being shared in each conversation. Connect with what the PNM/sister is feeling and you will increase the effectiveness of your rush communication. 
  • Be Appropriately Brief. Rush conversations are just a few minutes each, especially in the early rounds. Avoid droning on and on about a boring subject. A successful rush chat should be energetic, to the point and quickly moving forward. Rush rounds are high energy. Your speaking style should be nimble, sharp and spirited. Practice some of these C’s of good recruitment communication ~ be concrete, clear, coherent, charming and courteous.
  • Tailor Your Message. Each PNM/sister is different. Some will get your whacky sense of humor, others won’t. Some are bubbly and others are quiet. Be quick thinking and tailor your talking points to the type of person you are chatting with. Some conversations will be easier than others. But a skilled communicator will adjust to her “audience” and make it work. Take the other girl’s personality into account when you are pitching yourself or pitching your sorority. 
  • Tune Out Distractions. Sorority houses are filled with maximum distractions. So many girls, so many conversations going on at once! Laser focus on your partner and tune out the rest. Never dart your eyes around the room looking for another sister or PNM. Don’t let our attention wander to the decorations while the girl across from you is speaking. Ignore the urge to use the restroom, eat a cookie, pull at your bra strap, listen in on the conversation next to you, sneak out your cell phone, etc… Your communication will be improved if you make everything else disappear except for the lovely girl right in front of you. 
  • Ask Questions and Follow Up. Recruitment talks are not monologs or interviews. Conversations flow back and forth naturally. It doesn’t matter what the topic is, you can ask a question about it. Engage in what’s being discussed and follow up with additional comments of your own. Be inquisitive, curious and fascinated by every topic. You should be interested, as well as interesting! 
  • Tell a Story. Stories are powerful. They make an impression. Share stories of your high school adventures, your family’s travels, your unique life experiences and other things that make you memorable. Practice your storytelling before recruitment to make sure you’re sharing the positive highlights. Get used to speaking about your life in a humorous, lighthearted way ~ or a sensitive, sincere way. If you touch the hearts of the girls you speak with, you are sure to make a lasting impression. Don’t read from a script, but do have your personal stories nailed down. 
  • Have a plan. PNMs and sisters should not sound “rehearsed,” but some pre-planning is necessary for recruitment success. Plan what you’re going to talk about, what questions to ask, what you want to highlight, what you want to down play, what your interests are, who you are as a person or a chapter, etc… Role play small talk before rush week. Have your talking points firmly in your mind, but leave room for improvisation. Be prepared to find at least one thing in common with every girl you speak with!
  • Get Rid of Annoying Conversation Fillers. Work hard to eliminate “uh” “um” “like” and “you know” from your vocabulary. The first step to ridding yourself of these irritating bad habits, is to start counting how many times you utter them when you speak. Once you catch yourself saying “like” ALL THE TIME, you can begin to stop it. Constantly repeating those unnecessary words keeps you from sounding confident and mature. Break yourself of the “uh/um/like/you know” habit as soon as possible. 
  • Watch Your Body Language. If you stand with your arms crossed across your body, that says more about what you’re thinking, than what’s coming out of your mouth. If you try to shrink away, twist your legs into pretzels, tap your toes, crack your knuckles, constantly touch your hair or face, fidget, drum your fingers, hang your head and other non-verbal cues, you will send the wrong message to the PNM or sister you’re trying to impress. Check yourself. Always be aware of what your body is doing, while your mouth is busy making small talk. Remain calm, open and relaxed in your arms, legs and overall posture. Even if you don’t feel that way inside!
(My) Top Ten Characters Who Are Fellow Book Nerds

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Aka fellow bookers! I did a post that’s very similiar for a Top Ten Tuesday a few months ago but here’s an updated version.

In order of the character name to avoid bias. Also add Hermione in here somewhere because I kind of forgot about her, but I always associate her more with studying. Special mention to Belle and Rapunzel from their respective Disney movies.

1. Briony Hatch (Briony Hatch)

I really enjoyed this graphic novel, mostly because of the title character, Briony Hatch. While I’m not as intense a fangirl as she is, her love of books (especially one series) is relatable.

2. The Semperes (The Shadow of the Wind)

The Shadow of the Wind is one of my favourite novels and there’s lots of reasons for that - two being the bookish element and the characters. Daniel and his father stand out to me especially, due to the Sempere and Son bookstore and Daniel being the protagonist who we visit the Cemetery of Forgotten Books with and his interest in Julian Carax’s novel.

3. A.J. Fikry, Lambiase and co. (The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry)

Such a lovely character-driven story about books. I loved Fikry’s introductions to each chapter and the other characters and their connection to books. Lambiase stands out to me.

4. The Guernsey and Literary Potato Peel Pie Society

Another lovely book with a small town/island and their connection to books. People in Guernsey during WWII and the German occupation accidentally start an eccentric book club.

5. Hazel Grace Lancaster (The Fault in Our Stars)

Something I appreciated about The Fault in Our Stars was always Hazel’s love of An Imperial Affliction. Also her and Gus exchanging books. Random but when I was watching the movie, I was trying to see what books Hazel had on her shelves. I spotted quite a few classics and Catching Fire.

+ Murph (Interstellar) because I got a little carried away

(I did the same with Interstellar too. Ooh can I add Murph to this? Probably not but yes, I love Murph’s bookshelves. A couple of books I spotted on her shelves were Sherlock Holmes and Wonderstruck by Brian Selznick.)

6. Jess (Ink and Bone)

Well, this one’s a little more complicated than the others but he’s a book thief. He’s devastated when something happens to a book infront of him and he seems to care for them. Early on in Ink and Bone, he was reading something his dad’s supposed to sell on the black market.

7. Jo March (Little Women)

My favourite March sister. Yay for Jo!

8. Liesel Meminger (The Book Thief)

I love Liesel. She’s a word shaker! The only books I’ve “stolen” are a book on Henry VIII I “accidentally” forgot to return to a teacher, and The Lovely Bones and The Time Traveler’s Wife from my mum.

9. Matilda

Matilda, along with Belle from Beauty and the Beast, was the first character I came across who loved books like I did. She encouraged me to read more - especially classics, though I wasn’t quite as advanced as her - and told me it was awesome to be a reader.

10. Sara and Amy (The Readers of Broken Wheel Recommend)

This book turned out to be pretty disappointing as a whole but I loved the bookish element and how relatable Sara and Amy’s love of books was. There’s so many lovely quotes and references, and it was also nice to see a friendship that was formed through books.


Thanks for reading! Feel free to share your thoughts on these books or your own top ten list

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Guys~ i did a thing. 

My top Ten fave Voltage men in one chibi sketch! Ren took me 45 friggin’ minutes for his draft while the rest took like, 5 minutes (except Kippei, Taka, and Sats, who took 10 mins).  sketching is all i’m good at sadly. still epic fail.

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Akiyoshi & Hideki: Nailed it. (no more words needed to be said.)

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Ren & Taka: ZZZ… (score sheets and research schematics strewn everywhere.)

Takao: Sheesh these two… *drapes blanket over them*

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Daichi: ….

Sor: *whips out gun before anything can be said*

Satsuki: Now, now… calm down… Ichinomiya-san! please get your friend out of here before both our hotels are burned down.

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Noel: Ramen?

Kippei: Sure. After i submit this report.

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zaizenakiyoshi greeneyedsky laughedwiththeplague aquadoozy spyoflove kissedbysoryu kalina-a 

i dont think i did your hubby(s) enough justice…

THE CINNABON LADY CALLED ME “HE” I PASS IN THE EYES OF GOD HALLELUJAH

Who: Malia Tate (Shelley Hennig)

What: (Possible Match) Ten Sixty Sherman Stripe Crochet Inset Tank in Oatmeal Grey, $28 $9.95

Where/When: Teen Wolf Season 5 Episode 6 ‘Required Reading’ / July 27 2015

Worn with Free People Hooded Denim Jacket, Free People Irreplaceable Cutoff Shorts in Army

ID by notthepathtonarnia /  Photo badassbilinski