Is it weird that I wish for breast cancer so that, at least then, I wouldn't have breasts? I know it'll be years before I can afford surgery on my own and I'm dying.
from my own personal experience with top dysphoria, i know exactly where you’re coming from and its not weird at all to think that but it is bad to!! i know how hard it can be but wishing for cancer isnt very good mentally. just save up until you can afford it, i know you’ll make it x
The court hearing for my name & gender marker change is tomorrow (10/21/16) and I’ve decided to pay the fee to schedule top surgery on Mar. 8th, 2017 with Dr. Mosser in San Fran. Still have so much to do before I go to Chile but Things are sort of falling into place.
Hello,my name is El ,i am a nonbinary person who is hoping to get top surgery.I have started a patreon and I'm giving out LGBT+ merch to my patrons. I would appreciate it so much if you could let people know about my fundraiser ,it's at the patreon page eltransition2. Thank you so much
- Talk to the surgeon about the size you want your new areolas/nipples (don’t be afraid to ask)
- Numbness. No one talks about this for guys who are about to have surgery. You’re going to be numb all in your chest area, especially where the incisions were. They cut nerves as they pass along your chest, and it can take up to a year to regenerate those nerves. Still, feels super foreign for the first two weeks
- Make your bed into a pillow chair, body pillow, two on each side, and two for your head.
- Sleep alone. I tried to sleep with my girlfriend and it was miserable. You really do need the entire bed for yourself
- Go on Groupon, & get yourself a 10 foot lightning cable iPhone charger, BEST THING EVER, can reach from wherever you are
- Don’t take a week off from work, take two. You will regret the one week, and love the extra time
- When they say “don’t move too much, even after the first week”. LISTEN. I moved way too much and got so sore super quickly.
- Drink lots of water & eat if your taking the pain medication, otherwise your stomach feels super funky.
- Get stool softeners, & don’t be afraid to take those babies. Don’t wait a week to poop. you’ll surely regret it.
- The drains are scary & they may hurt while draining or rewrapping your dressings, but once they come out, the second they do, its no more pain, its crazy.
i hope this helps someone, because i wish i knew all of this when i was having mine a month ago. Looking back its like everyone forgets all the real negatives, its a great experience, & i healed very well & quick compared to most, but the first few days are crazy. They hurt, suck but it gets better.
I just got off the phone with Dr. Garramone a little bit ago and he said that my surgeon has performed the WRONG SURGERY on me. Rather than do the regular double incision, he performed a surgery meant for WOMEN WHO WANT REDUCTION AND LIFT. On top of that, my nipples BOTH died, rather than the simple one nipple that I was told I had lost.
I have absolutely been screwed over by my surgeon, but the good news is that Dr. Garramone says that he will 100% be able to correct this disaster. However, the cost is ASTRONOMICAL (about 11k including transportation and fees). I am going to be working my hardest to save up a 40-50% down payment and applying for Credit Care. The cost is higher than normal for my surgery because my entire chest has to be re-reconstructed and my areola complex has to be completely remade. This is not an easy surgery.
I AM looking into taking legal action against my surgeon, but it could take a while. I am going to have justice brought to me and all the others that he has wronged and I will make sure that he never performs on another man so long as he practices.
If you can read through this and share it with as many people as possible, I would be eternally grateful. If you donate, you have my undying love and may karma bring you everything you deserve in return (or may any higher being of your belief bless you with reward.)
I decided to compile some tips that I found helpful when recovering from chest surgery. I tried to think of things that aren’t are the average lists.
1. Laxatives: Start taking laxatives 2 days before surgery and continue when you get home from surgery for about a week post op.
2. Arnica: Start taking arnica tablets about a week before surgery and continue when you get home from surgery. Arnica helps reduce swelling and bruising.
3. Pillows: If you have a recliner that is ideal but if you don’t then using a bunch of pillows to keep yourself propped up in bed is necessary. Also keep ones under your butt to help with back pain and under your elbows.
4. Gravol: If you’re driving more than just a couple minutes you will probably feel really sick on your way back. Gravol helps keep the nausea down. Just double check with the nurse that it won’t interfere with any of your medication.
5. Pill chart and alarms: It can be hard to remember when and what you took. My partner was great at having an alarm set on her phone and writing down what I took and when.
6. Protein: Protein helps the body heal and helps keep you full which is really important especially if you can’t eat a lot after. Try making smoothies with protein powder and protein bars.
7. Deodorant Wipes: I found a pack of these in the travel section of the drug store and they were good because for over a week I wasn’t allowed to shower and it was horrible but this made it slightly less horrible.
8. Melatonin: For the first while the T3s helped me sleep but after I was off then I had a hard time getting comfortable since I don’t normally sleep on my back. Melatonin helped a lot with that.
9. Avoid alcohol: Obviously, when you’re on pain meds you really can’t drink but I’ve seen a lot of people ask how long you should wait. Its recommended that after plastic surgery, especially something with grafts, you should avoid drinking for at least 4 weeks. This doens’t seem to be common knowledge among the community.
10. Listen to your body and take it easy: It became a joke when I was recovering about “taking it easy” because my Mum said it to me a lot but she was right. Relax. Don’t push yourself. Don’t rush recovery. Just take it easy and listen to your body.
These photos were taken 1 year and 4 days apart. In the past 4 months I’ve undergone 2 procedures that have removed around 50 pounds of skin total from my stomach, chest, sides and back, the most recent procedure being one week ago today.
It’s been an insane journey. Since 2009 I’ve lost over 270 pounds, and when I see myself without the skin hanging from my body, I see the person I’ve felt like for a long time.
Today, I have value. One year ago, I had value. In 2009 when I was 500 pounds, I had value. It just took time to see it.
I’m proud of who I am today, and I refuse to shame who I’ve been.