36 Questions That Can Make 2 Strangers Fall in Love ♥

In Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.

The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the study’s authors, “One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.” Allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult, so this exercise forces the issue.

The final task Ms. Catron and her friend try — staring into each other’s eyes for four minutes, with the suggested duration ranging from two minutes to four. But Ms. Catron was unequivocal in her recommendation. “Two minutes is just enough to be terrified,” she told me. “Four really goes somewhere.”

Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?


25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
Indivisible: A Practical Guide For Resisting the Trump Agenda
Wow. There is so much interest in resisting Trump’s agenda that Google Docs is overloaded. We spent the weekend with a couple dozen volunteers putting together this new website and a pretty PDF version of the guide. See it at: And we’ve got a new Twitter handle, @Indivi...

“We wrote this guide because we believe that the coming years will see an unprecedented movement of Americans rising up across the country to protect our values and our neighbors. Our goal is to provide practical understanding of how your MoCs think, and how you can demonstrate to them the depth and power of the opposition to Donald Trump and Republican congressional overreach. This is not a panacea, nor is it intended to stand alone. We strongly urge you to marry the strategy in this guide with a broader commitment to creating a more just society, building local power, and addressing systemic injustice and racism.”

Recovery Kit/Grounding Box/Self-Help Box Thingy!

So, there are several different names we could call this, like grounding box, comfort box or coping skills toolbox.  I’m going to go with recovery kit because…idk why. In any event, I made a self-help box thingy, and it was actually sort of fun doing it. It reminded me of those rainy-day boxes we had to make in elementary school.

For those of you haven’t done something like this before (including myself, until yesterday), making a recovery kit is sort of like making a first aid kit for your mental health. When you’re in a moment of crisis, or just having a bad day, you can take out the box and use it to soothe yourself. You can put whatever you want in it, as long as it makes you feel good.

I was inspired by these posts, but there are probably a lot of other sources for inspiration, too. I tried to get an item to represent each of the five senses, as well as items that fostered creativity and mindfulness. Things that serve as a distraction, funny items, reminders of loved ones, and emergency phone numbers are also helpful. Honestly, I’ll probably wind up taking a few things out of it before an emergency strikes, like my ginger and sandalwood candle from the Body Shop (which smells rididiculously good).

Contents (and the function it plays)

  • One miniature sock monkey. Touch.
  • One ginger and sandalwood candle. Smell.
  • Two mini bottles of white musk shower gel and satsuma body lotion. Smell and taste.
  • One mindfulness-based stress reduction CD. Sound and mindfulness.
  • One packet of Starbucks’ salted caramel hot chocolate (hyfr!!!) Taste.
  • One Luna bar. Taste.
  • Two containers of cheap-ass nail polish (hot pink and black, because I’m apparently tapping into my inner scene kid???) Sight and creativity.
  • Small pocket Sudoku book. Distraction.
  • One blank composition notebook and two small pens. Creativity/self-expression.
  • One box of watercolor pencils. Creativity/self-expression.
  • One Lolcat Poetreez magnetic poetry kit. (I can has recovery box?) Silly/fun stuff
  • Multi-colored foil star labels. Because I love them, okay?!?!
  • One index card containing seven phone numbers (parents, three friends, therapist and psychiatrist)

If you guys have done recovery boxes or plan to do one, I’d love for you to share them with me. You can submit stuff or send me a message with your post and I’ll reblog it here :) What’s in your box?


Side tool chest, strictly machining tools.

Drawer 1: height gage w/riser, squareness comparator, dial indicator stand, bench block, V-block, gage blocks, sine bar, cylinder square.

Drawer 2: ER32 collet set, .060″-.250″ gage pins, 1-2-3 blocks, 1″ machinist vise, v-blocks, collet blocks, machinist jack, slitting saw arbor, 3MT dead center, 2MT dead center, 2MT live center, collet chuck, boring head, precision keyless drill chuck.

Drawer 3: .251″-.500″ gage pins, feeler gage set.

Drawer 4: tap & die set (dies are in tray underneath taps)

Drawer 5: reamers, reamers, reamers. (this is a very expensive drawer).

Drawer 6: socket head cap screws.


More toolbox porn, woo! You guys sure liked my last toolbox post, so here’s another.

Picked up another toolbox today and reorganized of some my tools. The last two images in this post are an update to my previous toolbox post from about a year and a half ago which was extremely popular, with over 7700 likes/reblogs! Two of the drawers in the blue toolbox are currently vacant, as well as one in the black toolbox. Need more tools! :D

12″x18″x3″ granite surface plate on top.

Gage blocks, cylindrical square, height gage and riser, squareness comparator, dial indicator stand, precision v-block, and sine bar in the top drawer.

ER32 collet set and .060″-.250″ minus gage pin set in the second drawer.

.251″-.500″ minus gage pin set.

Reamers! all straight flute, all chucking. 14 pc over-under imperial set, 25 pc 1-13mm x 0.5mm metric set, 15 pc 1/16″-1/2″ x 32nds, and 8 pc 3-8mm oversize set.

Mastercraft Maximum 86 pc tap & die set (will fall into disuse, as commonly used sizes have been aquired in real HSS spiral-flute flavours, pictured among the cobalt drill bits in the top of the black toolbox)

Makita 18v Li-Ion drill & impact driver, and Drill Doctor XP.

Top of black toolbox: 115 pc cobalt drill bit set with asst. unibits, center drills, and spiral-flute HSS taps. Screw machine/stub length HSS drill bits, Mitutoyo digital calipers, Starrett automatic center punch, Groz machinist squares, zero-flute countersink set, 0.2-1.2″ inside micrometer, ratcheting tap wrench, Mitutoyo 0-.5″ depth micrometer, Starrett 0-1″ and 1-2″ digital micrometers.

Top drawers of black toolbox: ball-end hex drivers, lots of assorted endmills, and several dial and test indicators.


I finished my toolbox \(^-^)/

I think it turned out nicely :3 and it is very light too :D

I had to remove 4 mm in thickness from the lid to get a usable surface again and I didn’t have enough wood to make a diagonal part for it (-_-)

I like how the handles look on it :3

I used some paste wax on top of the Kakishibu to finish the toolbox :)

I didn’t apply any Kakidhibu to the inside of the toolbox because I didn’t have enough to do so and because I kind of like the contrast :D

I intended to put my beech toolbox on its side and use the lid as a sliding door but it didn’t work out that well because I couldn’t access my tools the way I wanted to so right now I need to put my new toolbox away whenever I want to access it which is kind of cumbersome but I don’t have enough space do do it in a different way (^-^;) I realized how heavy my beech toolbox is (°_°;) 

I keep the tools I use the most in the toolbox that is on top :D

For everyone wondering whats in the small carrying case :) It is the case I use for my multimeter :) I’m an mechatronics engineer after all :D

Also I do agree that a toolbox doesn’t need to be perfect but I wanted to set myself a challenging goal and this was the only project that I needed at the time :) Also it is the first project I used Paulownia or きりand this served as a guinea pig for future things :D

I wish everyone a great week and fluffy things (^-^)/