too-old-to-be-that-sexy

hey everyone,

it has come to my attention that melissa mcbride has been on the receiving end of some nasty comments regarding her age and sex appeal as a middle-aged woman so i would like to point out a few things:

  • women do not come with an expiration date
  • this stigma around gray hair that makes women feel really old, unwanted and unattractive? needs to go
  • this rampant ageism and sexism that plagues both social media and society in general? also needs to go
  • melissa, as well as her character carol, are only in their 50s – women in their 50s are not “too old” to date, not “too old” to be sexually active if they want to, not “too old” to be seen as sexy or attractive… not old, period (not that there’s anything wrong with being old)
  • in fact, women are never “too old” for anything, except maybe going on the kids’ rides at carnivals (debatable)
  • melissa is an incredibly talented actress, as well as a genuinely good person, and she does not deserve to deal with this petty bullshit
Netizens React to girl groups

*pretty group*- “they can’t sing”
*talented group*- “they lack visuals”
*dance group*- “they can’t sing live”
*vocal group*-“they can’t dance live”
*Well rounded group*-“they’re overrated”
*energetic group*- “they’re such attention whores”
*quiet group*- “they’re so stuck up and rude”
*cute group*- “they’re too old to act that way”
*sexy group*-“they have gotten so trashy these days”
*group that does cute and sexy*- “those girls are such sly foxes I hate them”

anonymous asked:

I feels you about the Broadchurch and DW notp, but the reason it pisses me off is because they clearly do not care about the show. They only care about one thing and that is the tall guy with the beard. It's the inherent sexism that comes with it that a well-written woman around the 40 mark is inherently less attractive compared with a less that steller written woman who cannot be aged over 30 or else. And even that is sexist in itself. It's as though they see no value in this woman other than

I try to tell myself “it’s just fiction and it’s not up to me to tell people how to enjoy something, they’re allowed to express themselves creatively” but it still makes me quietly seethe with vitriol. Some anons expressed to me that Olivia/Ellie was too old and therefore “not worthy” of being his love interest and it made me furious that our perceptions have been warped so much that a woman the same age - a few years younger, even - than a man in his forties is too old for him, and not sexy enough or some shit. Honestly fuck right off.

It’s especially disappointing because Chibnall is actively resisting that unfortunate trend in television through the character of Ellie Miller. He really denies that a woman has to be blonde and young and perky to be desirable. Ellie is career-oriented mum of two boys around the 40 mark with no fashion sense and a volcanic temper. Being sexy or dressing for male attention is the last thing on her mind, but she’s still written as hugely desirable and hot as fuck. She’s demisexual (DEMISEXUAL REPRESENTATION AT LAST) and it tackles her sexuality and shows that it is completely okay for her not to want casual sex, and to only want sex from someone she’s deeply in love with. The people who shame her for her sexuality are vilified and explicitly painted as wrong. Ellie can be demisexual and wear baggy clothes and get covered in goop from playing with her toddler and break a man’s rib and dudes are still lining up to ask her out or mumble about how much they want to kiss her.

It also resists that trope of “pure young girl saves an older, ugly, broken or damaged man from himself through her love” (which is the utter worst and I fucking HATE that trope, ladies should not exist to make dudes better and be a sexual prize for them) because Ellie is just as fucked up and broken and damaged as Hardy. She doesn’t exist to heal him, they heal each other. Ellie’s allowed to be messed up and angry. She can lash out and not be this perfect understanding angel because she’s human and she’s allowed to make mistakes and work through her own issues. She doesn’t coddle Hardy, she tells him when he’s wrong and it forces him to re-evaluate his behaviour and make positive change. Ultimately, she does save Hardy through her love, but he saves her too. There’s no power imbalance here, it’s just equals, equals on every level working together and understanding each other and becoming better people for it.

Ellie Miller is such a subversive and powerful character, and so is her relationship with Hardy. I have no idea why you’d want to throw that away to fall back on dull, tired, and frankly toxic tropes instead.

Dating Tips: How to Attract your crush
  • 1: Tell her about your dead falcon
  • 2: Tell her the plot of Star Wars
  • 3: Wear really tight rainbow pants
  • 4: Make sure your belt has the first letter of your name on it or else it’s no good
  • 5: Tell her she seems to like that horse very much
  • 6: Ask her to be a slave and get you a bunch of scones you won’t eat
  • 7: Wait like 20 years
  • 8: Be the best man at her wedding to your best friend that’s a good idea
  • 9: Play the violin if she’s into that stuff Idfk tbh
  • 10: Pretend to hate her chicks dig that
  • 11: Cut to the chase and propose
  • 12: Beat her and turn her into a new species lol
  • 13: Rape her bc why not I guess
  • 14: Be a heartbreaker
  • 15: Fangirl over a book
  • 16: Write her a poem about loins
  • 17: Compare him to a lion
  • 18: Kiss him in front of your best friend
  • 19: Kiss him in front of your homophobic family/species lmao
  • 20: If you’re too old to be sexy, be a really good cook
  • 21: Try and show her how to protective herself and then cuss in Spanish under your breath and make her feel bad
  • 22: Use your demonic powers to turn into her husband and make her have your half demon child lol 23: Make him soup
  • 24: Kidnap him and put him in a cage and put leather pants on him (and you can wear a princess costume) #fashion
  • 25: Wait for her boyfriend to be killed
  • 26: Become her parabatai and make things complicated with forbidden love bc who doesn’t want that
27: Tell her that you are a shark and she is a sharkhunter and that is why your relationship is special
  • 28: Make out while a manor blows up behind you (bonus points if that was your childhood home)
  • 29: Beg her father for her hand in marriage marry her and then be a confused and suckish husband for the first 3 years
  • 30: It’s great if it’s your sister make out with her
  • Courtesy of The Shadowhunter Chronicles by Cassandra Clare:
Things that annoy me about the Doctor Who fandom
  • people hating on/bashing those involved in making of Doctor Who
  • people hating on/bashing any Doctor
  • people bashing either RTD or Moffat and then glorifying the other and his era
  • NuWhovians who ignore classic Who
  • Classic Whovians who bash everything NuWho
  • people who got stuck in 2009 and seem to be convinced that the way Ten did things is the only right way for the Doctor to be
  • people claiming that they will stop watching after Smith beause Capaldi is too old and not sexy
  • people hating on episodes just because they weren’t what they envisioned them to be
  • people who seemingly don't  enjoy watching the show but still keep wacthing so they can tell us how dreadful it is
  • people who are convinced that the way one show runner did Who is the only right way to do Who
  • people who claim one Doctor to be more the Doctor than the others
  • people who claim one companion to be more important than the others

That came out as a pretty long list, maybe it’s time I re-evaluated my involvement in this fandom.