I am 30, and I am accomplished and (relatively) successful in my field, I get paid decent money to do what I do. I train young people who have gotten jobs at very large banks, I manage digital properties for shows that deal in the millions of dollars range.
I also have ADHD.
This morning I missed a meeting: my coworker emailed me about thirty minutes before it, sent a calendar invite, I accepted, all fine. But Outlook on my phone didn’t update and i got distracted by another piece of work. The discussion, the meeting, I lost track of it about ten minutes after it happened.
When my coworker emailed me (20 min after the meeting was to start) to say, essentially, “wtf, dude, we JUST talked about this?” I apologized profusely. I did not tell him that I have ADHD and that things like calendar reminders, pop ups, alarms are sometimes the only thing that keep me on track with what I’ve said or where I’m going or what I’m supposed to do. And that if they do not update properly, it can cause a lot of problems for me. I do not tell him that I don’t actually remember the conversation we had and I had to look back to see what I’d said.
It always feels like an excuse. I forget sometimes that the only REASON I am successful, the only REASON I can do these things is because I have tools in place and coping mechanisms in place to help keep me on track.
All of this is to say: Go easy on yourself today, friends. You are doing the best you can. Sometimes you’ll mess something up. That’s ok. Dust yourself off, pick yourself back up, keep trying.