How do you feel confident in being a plus size woman? Don't get me wrong, i think bigger ladies are gorgeous. But i personally feel its hard to love myself especially when i don't see my body shape ever celebrated. A lot of the plus size world is still toned heavier women. I never see women with double bellies (which i have) and it makes me feel insecure.
I mean, personally my confidence stems from the realization that it was a lot more effort to hate myself than it was to love myself. Hating yourself is a crushing weight on top of you that sucks up all of your energy and constantly leaves you feeling gross but loving yourself is just…freeing. It’s the feeling of a cold glass of water when you’re parched. And I was so tired of giving myself so completely to something that was killing me.
As for the whole fat aspect of it all, my family was OBSESSED with weight growing up and they bullied me and put me on diets, claiming I would be ‘so much happier’ if I was skinny. But I’ve watched my mother, who is in her mid 40’s, hate her body for as long as I can remember. She’s lived her life going back and forth between different diets that will 'change her life’ because she 'wants to be able to keep up with her kids and grandkids’ and she 'wants to feel confident in pictures’ and whatever else but…here we are. She sits out of stuff because she thinks she’s too fat. She won’t wear things she really likes because they’ll show her arms or her legs. And I have veeery few photos of her because she doesn’t like having her picture taken. And that’s heartbreaking! She’s wishing her life away in the hopes she’ll start living when she’s skinny but time waits for no man. I love my mom with all my heart and she’s such a beautiful woman who is an example of an amazing mother in so many aspects but I’ll be damned if I spend my life the same way.
You should follow @fatseux and @fairyfatty because they’re both stunners and they have double bellies! I’ve also seen quite a few of the same body types come across my dash submitted to @chubby-bunnies so you should check them out as well!