to give us a decent rhaegar


#EliaMartellWeek: Day 2 → Elia and Rhaegar

The man had her brother’s hair, but he was taller, and his eyes were a dark indigo rather than lilac. “Aegon,” he said to a woman nursing a newborn babe in a great wooden bed. “What better name for a king?”
“Will you make a song for him?” the woman asked.
“He has a song,” the man replied. “He is the prince that was promised, and his is the song of ice and fire.” He looked up when he said it and his eyes met Dany’s, and it seemed as if he saw her standing there beyond the door. “There must be one more,” he said, though whether he was speaking to her or the woman in the bed she could not say. “The dragon has three heads.” He went to the window seat, picked up a harp, and ran his fingers lightly over its silvery strings. Sweet sadness filled the room as man and wife and babe faded like the morning mist, only the music lingering behind to speed her on her way.

I’ve realized there are some truly ugly ass people on here who blame Elia for Rhaegar fucking off with Lyanna because she couldn’t give him the third head of the dragon, blah, blah, so he had to look else where- as if that’s some kind of a justification. And even if it was (it’s not), I’ve realized, in all likelihood, that was probably Rhaegar’s own fault?

He got her pregnant with Rhaenys almost instantly, a difficult, painful pregnancy that left her bedridden & fragile. She needed time to recover before she was somewhat healthy again. But not even six months later, probably just when she can walk straight, he knocks her up with Aegon- literally the minute he can. This leads to her disastrous second pregnancy which almost kills her (after which he abandons her). That’s when Pycelle (assuming his Lannister loyalist ass was telling the truth) informs him she cannot carry another child without dying herself.

How do we know Elia’s second pregnancy wouldn’t have gone better if Rhaegar had just waited? Given her the time she needed to be in any decent shape to bear another child? Because Elia could still conceive, her body just couldn’t take another pregnancy after the effects & proximity of her last two. Even today, it’s recommended to keep at least 18 months between pregnancies and our Rhaegar here did it in 6 months, to a woman who was already of a delicate health, leaving her unable to have more kids without risk to herself. And then used it as an excuse to leave her & screw someone else for a year, in her homeland?

And all the while Elia lay alone, recovering from giving him the heir he so desperately craved, almost at the cost of her own life, knowing her husband had repaid her by running off with a 15 year old, disgracing her, her children & her entire house in front of all of Westeros.