to thy own self be true

♔Shakespeare Starters♔: HAMLET
  • This above all: to thine own self be true. 
  • There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. 
  • But never doubt I love.
  • To die, to sleep; to sleep: perchance to dream.
  • Frailty, thy name is woman!
  • For in that sleep of death what dreams may come?
  • Be all my sins remember’d!
  • He will never come again.
  • But break, my heart, for I must hold my tongue.
  • One may smile, and smile, and be a villain.
  • We are arrant knaves all, believe none of us.
  • God hath given you one face, and you make yourself another.
  • Tis the times’ plague, when madmen lead the blind.
  • Madness in great ones must not unwatched go. 
  • Remember me.
  • Something is rotten in the state of ________. 
  • Though this be madness, yet there is method in’t. 
  • To be, or not to be: that is the question.
  • What a piece of work is a man!
  • He is dead and gone.
  • A little more than kin, a little less than kind.
  • ‘Tis bitter cold, and I am sick at heart.
  • The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
  • I must be cruel only to be kind.
  • So full of artless jealousy is guilt.
  • The Devil hath power to assume a pleasing shape.
  • In my heart there was a kind of fighting that would not let me sleep. 
  • Take each man’s censure, but reserve thy judgment.
  • Our wills and fates do so contrary run.
  • I shall not look upon his like again.
  • We fat ourselves for maggots.
  • By heaven, I’ll make a ghost of him.

I don’t think I have to tell Taylor Swift anything! Taylor Swift knows exactly what she’s doing. But that’s the prime example of just knowing your own self, as they say, ‘to thy own self be true.’

I think she knows her talents, she knows what she’s doin’ and I think she’s smart. I would just say to anybody, know what your real talent is, know exactly where it is you want to go, be willing to sacrifice whatever you need to get that done.

—  Dolly Parton on advice she would give Taylor Swift (x)
Sin of self-love possesseth all mine eye
And all my soul and all my every part;
And for this sin there is no remedy,
It is so grounded inward in my heart.
Methinks no face so gracious is as mine,
No shape so true, no truth of such account;
And for myself mine own worth do define,
As I all other in all worths surmount.
But when my glass shows me myself indeed,
Beated and chopp’d with tann’d antiquity,
Mine own self-love quite contrary I read;
Self so self-loving were iniquity.
‘Tis thee, myself, that for myself I praise,
Painting my age with beauty of thy days.
—  Sonnet 62 by William Shakespeare
No, I won't lower my standards.

I’ve gotten told this a couple times, directly and implied. A “friend” once told me that I needed to change myself to get a man. That no man is ever going to want to date a woman protesting on street corners for politics(I was holding protest signs against Prop.8 in California). My response was the following:

If a guy can’t handle that I care about certain things he is not the right match for me anyway. I would rather be single than change such an important part of who I am inside. Because if I did that he wouldn’t really love me, he would only love the me I was pretending to be. And I have faked my way through life too long to do it in a relationship now that I accept who I am.

I am not asking him to stand on the corner with me. It would be nice if he brought me lunch or something to drink but if he wants to stay home watching sports that is fine. But to ask me not to do it in the first place is wrong. I’m not going to pretend to not feel something is wrong.

I realize I have high standards but I have watched too many people sacrifice who they are just so they don’t have to be alone. I have NEVER seen that end with a happily ever after. I have seen people go into relationships to change or “fix” the other person. That never ends with a happy ever after either.

I learned in my very first relationship that I can’t be someone’s anti-depressant. I’m not talking about a bad day or a run of bad luck. I am talking about a person so hurt inside, so broken that all they feel is pain. I know from experience that only myself, medical science and a higher type power can fix that. NEVER a relationship.

Yes, I may turn 30 in Dec as a virgin. But the only regrets I have are the dates I went on when I was too scared to be alone.

I love my life. I love my friends. I love my interests and hobbies. I am finally becoming who I was always meant to be. And I want someone who is just as excited about life too. If that means I stay single for a while more then I’m really good with that. If that means I never get in a relationship that is okay too. It means more time with my friends doing all the things we love.

  • What can young women learn from your example? What advice would you give Taylor Swift?:
  • Dolly Parton: I don’t think I have to tell Taylor Swift anything! Taylor Swift knows exactly what she’s doing. But that’s the prime example of just knowing your own self, as they say, ‘to thy own self be true.'
  • I think she knows her talents, she knows what she’s doin’ and I think she’s smart. I would just say to anybody, know what your real talent is, know exactly where it is you want to go, be willing to sacrifice whatever you need to get that done.

“Boys, you must strive to find your own voice. Because the longer you wait to begin, the less likely you are to find it at all. Thoreau said, "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.” Don’t be resigned to that. Break out! “- Robin Williams character John Keating, the dead poets society.

my parents: So how’s your Shakespeare essay coming along?

my brain: Thou must not lie. Thou hast not done anything but view stage-plays for endless hours while surfing on the deepest depths of the Internet. Thou hast not written anything but a few words on a page, blanker than thy creativity. To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day. Thou canst not then be false to thy parents.

me: Great. It’s going great.

my brain: Villain! Shame upon thee and thy house!