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Interesting! I had no idea about not being able to wield a keyblade without a heart. Was that mentioned in any of the games or just the interview? I suppose Axel only got his once he became Lea again, which makes sense for the heart-keyblade corrolation. As for Roxas, I wonder if he either grew a heart like you said or still had Ven's which would connect both having a keyblade and looking like him.

General Location of Various Interviews:

– In the end Roxas is able use two keyblades. Is this because he now has Xion’s?

Nomura: Well, it isn’t that Roxas has physically inherited Xion’s keyblade, but more that Xion has awakened it within Roxas. In the KH series there are a lot of complex reasons why someone can use a keyblade, but basically you need a “heart” to be able to wield one. So strictly speaking, they are being influenced by Sora. At the present I can’t say more than that, since it would go into whether or not Roxas has a heart. And there is also a part that has to do with Xehanort’s memories. This time there were connections to the Kingdom Hearts I secret movie, and the time will come when this will have a clear connection as well. You’ll just have to ask me then.

– Ventus awakens with Sora’s help, but at first his eyes are blank, and when he first meets Terra and Aqua he falls asleep under their barrage of questions.

Nomura: At that time, although Ventus has awakened, his heart is not fully formed. The imagery is the same as the first week after Roxas entered the organisation in “KH Days”, when he was spacing out.

Q3: Is it possible that Roxas has a heart?
A: It is thought that it could be Ventus’ heart.

In KHII FM there were clues to him having a heart, and in Days we saw Roxas crying–proof that he could have a heart. As was said in Q1, he has taken a lot of himself from Ventus. But perhaps when Sora and Roxas were separated, Ventus’ heart stayed in Roxas?

You put these two together you get the implication that Roxas grew a heart from Ventus’s. Whether or not Ventus’s heart was incorporated into Roxas’s or Roxas heart grew completely separately is left up to speculation. 

Oh also from the same interview

Q1: Why do Roxas and Ventus look alike?
A: Because inside Sora, which is Roxas’ body, is Ventus’ heart.

Shallan’s fifth ideal?

Spoilers for WoK and WoR, obviously

@adolin if you’re still interested in that one theory

It’s just an idea that’s been sitting in the back of my head ever since I’ve read WoR three years ago. Maybe I’m just rehashing an argument that’s been already settled - if so, I’m sorry, ignore me.

Right, so we know Shallan has said 4 ideals up to now - the first, universal for all orders, and 3 truths (‘I’m terrified’, 'I killed my father’, 'I killed my mother’)*. When I was snooping around the internet some time ago I didn’t find a lot of speculation about the final truth and those I found were either about Shallan admitting to some lie she told in WoK/WoR or if she loves Adolin or Kaladin better. So I propose another candidate:

My family’s ruin was not my fault.

Every truth Shallan’s told so far revealed a layer lying underneath which she was determined to forget/disregard (a subject deserving its own meta really). She deals with her problems by forcing herself not to think about them and by redirecting her attention. Thanks to Pattern she’s now made to confront gradually everything that’s happened to her, every traumatic memory. I believe that her defence mechanism comes not only from miserable childhood but also from an intense sense of guilt. Deep down Shallan blames herself for everything that happened to her family. 

Sure, she knows that her mother swung the knife at her and she knows her father was a violent abuser who needed to be stopped. I suppose logically she knows she was just a child with no control over things that happened to her. Yet she keeps coming back to the vision of her family happy together and has to confront it with the knowledge that her mother for some reason decided to kill her. That what happened next resulted in her father turning violent and volatile. In her brothers being abused and turning to gambling or becoming apathetic. Of course being a child she would blame herself - “if only I were different she wouldn’t try to do this, none of the bad things would happen, therefore it’s my fault, I’m the problem, their life without me would’ve been so much better”.

(I’d compare it to a child blaming themselves for their parents’ divorce. Only you know, hardcore version)

I’d say she learnt to bury that sense of guilt under fear and loneliness which got buried under bitterness, next buried under cheeriness kept up for the sake of her brothers and then covered by bravado with which she put forward a plan to steal from Jasnah. 

I think we’ll see Shallan struggle with a lot of grief and guilt and anger in Oathbringer - which doesn’t mean she’ll turn dark, just that she’ll go through a lot of turmoil. And I think she’ll need a really cathartic experience to fully believe and embrace the fact that she was just a child in no way responsible for grown-ups’ decisions and their fallout (especially grown-ups who should’ve protected her and loved her unconditionally) and that’s what I think her big emotional arc will be. And it would be big because overcoming a lifelong conviction - a lie - is a tremendous task. Hence - my family’s ruin was not my fault.

(Also a thing to consider is that her family might have not been so perfect to begin with - Pattern said that he was lured by Shallan’s lies. It’s possible that she was telling herself a story of a happy home from a very young age. Actually, do any of Shallan’s brothers ever mention that their father changed after their mother died or was that something that we were told by Shallan?) 

*Excluding whatever ideals she might’ve said when she was a child, before her bond with Pattern regressed

Now, throwing some of chapter 8 from Oathbringer to the mix:

(Oathbringer spoilers)

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Where Every Brown Sugar Baby Should Look for Her Next Sugar Daddy and Why

The more the game changes, the more it stays the same.

     Best friend, my first disappointment with sugaring came when I realized that sugaring sites were not for me. When I joined Tumblr, I was surrounded by stories of women who signed up for Seeking Arrangement and within an hour found their inbox full of messages from men willing to hand them the world or at least a pair of So Kate’s on the first date. When I joined Tumblr, I thought that I was going to command large allowances just because I existed, not because I did any work. I learned otherwise.

     My successes with sugaring came when I got very clear about what exactly it was that I was sugaring for. I realized that I couldn’t make myself care about designer goods. They’re pretty, and I loved looking at them on Instagram but dating a man so he could buy me luxury goods just did not seem like a lot of fun. But art supplies? Everything I needed to write a novel and maintain my blog? That sounded much more feasible. As soon as I committed to it, it happened. As soon as I got off the sugaring sites, it happened.  

     As an introvert, I did get off the sugaring sites, but it took me quite a while to get off the internet. I used Tinder to find the three gift daddies that I had. Last month, I went free styling for the first time.   

     There is a general horror around free styling that, trust me, I understand. If I didn’t have to leave my house, I wouldn’t. But I realized a few things. The sugar sites are not set up for you to succeed. We, as sugar babies, are the draw that is used to attract men with money and unrealistic dreams.  

     Do you want to have the perfect relationship? A young, beautiful, smart woman who will hang off your every word and, unlike escorts, will be with you and you alone for a fraction of the price that escorts are demanding? Sign up for a membership with our site at the low price of $39.99/month and become a sugar daddy tonight!

     While this might not be the exact language the sites are using, I guarantee if you go on any of the sugar sites you will see something similar being touted to men.  I also promise that the men that have the real potential to be amazing sugar daddies and give you things you didn’t believe that you could get aren’t on these sites.

     And, honey, maybe you haven’t noticed but online dating-sugar or vanilla- is not set up for black women to succeed. I’ll say it once more. You’re far more likely to find the man you’re looking for when you let go of the sugar sites.
So what happens next? Next, you change your mindset. There is one thing that needs adjustment, your attitude, in two different areas. The first is what a sugar daddy looks like. Maybe you don’t have this problem. But I do. I tend to find myself thinking that sugar daddies look a certain way. They’re white and in their 40’s-50’s. Most of them are married. But this isn’t what sugar daddies look like. They can be any age. They can be any race. They can be anywhere. When it’s time to free style, don’t think that if a Black man, an Asian man, a Martian, whatever, approaches you that because they don’t fit in with the idea of what you think an SD looks like you can’t pay any attention to them.

     There will be three types of men that you’ll meet when you go out: cheap men that would like your time and attention for free, men that will simply ask how much you want or make it known that they have no problem paying you, and men that are willing to spend money on you but need some type of connection with you first. Ugh, connection. Don’t you hate that word? Men should just hand us money because we asked for it right? We’re young, we’re beautiful, we’re smart. Just fork over the coins.

     But consider this. How often do you give money to complete strangers because they asked for it? How often have you walked up to an attractive or interesting looking person with $5 that you know you don’t need and said: “here this is for you just because you look cool or like you needed a little help”? Never right? If we were a society where that was the norm homelessness would not be an issue. No, we give our money to people we like, to people that have bettered our lives in some way, to people we trust. But, still. That word-connection. Months and months of dates. Maybe even putting out. That must be what I mean, right? Nope. Not what I mean at all. A connection can be made in 15 minutes or 15 months. It really just depends on how well your personality meshes with his.

     How do you tell these men apart? Let’s build a scenario, shall we? Let’s say you meet a man at a bar. You each talk a bit about who you are and what you do for a living. His job sounds promising. You don’t know exactly how much he makes but when you google it in the bathroom after touching up your lipstick you see that it’s an acceptable amount. He buys you a drink to continue the conversation you’ve already started, but when the night ends, he doesn’t pick up the tab you had started before he sat down. Splenda! Salt! That’s what Tumblr will tell you. I say wait. You spend some time texting. He says he wants to take you out. This is when we find out what kind of man he is by analyzing a few things:

  • Where does he want to meet? TGIFridays or one of the best restaurants/bars in the city. Look at where he wants to take you and why. If he asks you where you want to eat and then shoots it down because it’s overpriced or “just not his scene” you have two options: dig your heels in or run. My first meeting with Bentley took some time to plan because he shot down the restaurants that I chose as not being good enough for a first date. It was a good first sign. 
  • How and what do they order? We know what a man who doesn’t want to spend a lot of money looks like when he orders at a restaurant or bar. He asks if there are any discounts or deals. Asks what’s the best and cheapest drink or food item on the menu. Makes “jokes” about how expensive everything is. 
  • How do they look when you order? A man that asks if you want anything else after you’ve decided what you want is a keeper. A man that asks what you want scans the menu and then asks if you’re sure you want those things or if you’d be happy with something cheaper presents you with two options: to dig your heels in or run.
  • What are they talking to you about? A man that talks about sex as soon as he meets you only wants you for one thing and it ain’t playing cards. Now, if he’s willing to compensate you for that time in a way that you find acceptable, fine. Get your money girl. If you want a man that cares about you as an individual but he can’t stop talking about how well he’s doing on Viagra, you have two options. Dig in or run. I suggest you run, but this is your life, not mine
  • Do they listen when you speak? Do they remember what you said? I got my first laptop from a man who listened when I talked about wanting to write. I got my second laptop and art supplies from a man who listened to my business plan. If they can’t hear you, they can’t help you. 

     When the date is over, look at this man’s behavior. You’ll know if he’s the type of man that you can keep in your life. If he isn’t, let him go. LET HIM GO! Don’t, please friend, don’t hang on to a man because you don’t think that you’ll be able to get another. This game isn’t for the desperate that need quick cash because their life is falling apart. This is going to take time. You’ll find yourself getting dressed up and going out quite a few times before you find a man that you’re willing to stick with. If you understand this from the beginning, that reaching any goal is going to take time, you’ll be far less likely to fail.

     I’d like to give one piece of controversial advice. Do not ask for a gift or token or whatever you want to call it on the first date. Remember what we talked about earlier? About how we don’t give away our hard earned money to strangers or the undeserving? This applies here. And I know, I know. The posts of girls that say they asked for a gift and got one is so much more fun to read than what I’m saying, but here we are best friend, here we are.

     You do have one thing on your side. Men know that it is their responsibility to take care of the women in their lives. Vanilla men know this. They know. I’m going to say it one more time, best friend so it really sinks in. All men know that it is their responsibility to take care of the women in their lives. What’s more, they know that the younger and better looking a woman is, the more they will have to spend. Your job is not to convince a man to spend money on you. He already knows he should. Your job is to separate the men willing to spend from the men not willing to spend by opening up your mouth and talking about what you want. Talk about college and the class that you’re going to be taking, but god isn’t it crazy how expensive books are? Talk about how much you love to write, but your laptop broke. Talk about how you want to get into digital photography but don’t know what camera to get or if you can afford to buy one. Give it a couple weeks. The right man will show up with a laptop, or an iPad, or a book, or a camera or whatever it is you say you need. The wrong man won’t have made it past the first date.

Happy hunting, best friend.

Best friend, be honest, what did you think? Do you think you could ever get off the sugar sites? Go free styling? Do you think my approach makes any sense or is something that could work for you? Leave me a comment and let me know so we can talk about it.

A quelli che si siedono nell’ultima fila per non essere osservati.
A chi quando gli fai un sorriso in ascensore abbassa lo sguardo e arrossisce.
A chi rimane digiuno ai buffet.
A quelli che non dicono niente quando qualcuno taglia la coda e passa avanti.
A quelli che si scusano anche quando non dovrebbero.
A chi è educato anche a costo di sembrare scemo.
A chi ha un’intelligenza arguta e sa riconoscere quando è il momento di non arrivare primo.
A tutti quelli che nella vita si sono persi un’occasione importante, perché un prepotente gliel’ha portata via.
A chi ha la risposta giusta e non alza la mano.
A quelli che ancora credono alla lealtà, a costo di essere sconfitti.
E niente.
Io vi vedo.
E siete proprio belli.

(Roberto Pellico)

- a chi, come me, intelligenza arguta a parte, quando legge queste righe ci si riconosce proprio -