to overcome your fears and insecurities

Tips for Overcoming Insecurity

1. Believe you can make progress, and start to overcome it. That is the first, and the most important, step.

2. Think about a time when you took a chance, and pushed through your fear, and it worked out well. Remember that feeling – it can happen again.

3. Look for a role model - someone you relate to - who managed to overcome their insecurities. Let them inspire you and learn from their success.

4. Let go of the past, and whatever holds you back. Just focus on this moment, and taking one step now.

5. Stop resisting change – let whatever happens happen. You may discover that it works out even better than you’d thought.

6. Let the stress fall away and allow peace to flood your mind. As you learn to relax you’ll start to feel more confident.

Chapter 1.

Fandom: Mystic Messenger. 

Word count: Approximately 1,528 words.

MYSTIC MESSENGER CORALINE AU

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Ahhhh so honestly this idea came out while I was watching the movie with a friend of mine, and I decided to go for it. This is also like the fastest I have written out my thoughts. 

Enjoy! And I apologize for mistakes, English is not my first language. 

★★★★★★

You used to believe that the monsters your mother told you about weren’t even real, that tales like the babadook or the boogey man were just invented. And that continued for a long time. Then you met them. And you met her.

They changed your mind about monsters. Yet, they helped you overcome some of your fears. You helped them in return, with their own secrets, monsters, fears and insecurities.

And it all started when you found the door.

You and the rest of your family had moved a month ago to the Pink Palace. It was a beautiful house owned by a very nice old lady, and as the name said, it was completely pink. The only problem was that the house was divided in parts.

There were four apartments, the one in the attic, above your flat, that’s where Mrs. Pancake lived. She was a nice lady, although a bit crazy about her fifty or so cats. A couple of artists lived in the flat below yours, they seemed calm and they were really nice, even if they were always rambling about a person or two.

There was another apartment next to yours, but that one was unoccupied. You hoped other kids would come soon, you couldn’t really talk or play with anyone.

And you were bored. When you asked, your father said that the tv and the rest of the things you used for fun would arrive until later that month.

However, good things sometimes replaced the boredom, like now. Your parents had assigned you to place the paintings and frames around the drawing room, to make it look as pretty as you were.

That’s when you found it for the first time, there was a door in the far corner of the drawing room. It was weird, not in a bad way, but something was different about that door… you couldn’t tell why.

It just gave you the chills and also an immense excitement to explore it.

So you tried to turn the door knob, but it wouldn’t budge, no matter how much you turned it, or applied force on it, it just wouldn’t open. Maybe if you bit it…

“_____? What are you doing, honey?”

You looked at your mom with a goofy grin in your face, while she just seemed amused and confused that you were about to bite the handle of a door. Even though it wasn’t the first crazy thing you had done.

“I want to see what’s inside mom! But I think the door is locked”.

Your mother laughed, crossing her arms and shaking her head. She looked a bit annoyed, but she was still smiling so you assumed her temper had to with work.

“Wait a second here, _____. I’ll go get the key”.

You plopped to the ground and sat as quickly as you could, looking back at the entrance of the drawing room with a smile on your face. Perhaps you would find the way to enter Narnia in there! Although that one was in a closet… wasn’t it?

When your mother came back, she had a black key in her hand. The key was probably bigger than your palm, black and shiny and it had something, like a black button, at the end. You took the key from your mother’s hands as she talked, and placed it in the keyhole, unlocking the door and opening it with excitement.

Only to be met with a brick wall.

A boring, red and awful, brick wall.

“I told you there was nothing there, sweetie”. Your mother said as she took the key away and placed it in her pocket. “I’m sure it led somewhere before the house was divided, but now it’s just… a door”.

She turned around, walking away from the spot you were sitting until she disappeared behind the walls and doors, probably on her way to the kitchen.

“Mom, you didn’t lock the door!”

Your mother replied back, and although it was a bit muffled, you understood what she meant to say clearly. 

“There’s no reason to lock a door that lead to nowhere”.


But what if it really led to Narnia?

Or perhaps it was magic, maybe the smurfs were behind it.

Or wizards!

Those kind of thoughts and more were the things that kept running through your head. Maybe there was a whole world behind that door, you just couldn’t see it. Theories, solutions, possibilities and other things constantly appeared throughout your whole day.

Next thing you knew, it was past midnight and you were still laying awake in your bed. You were counting the star stickers on the roof that glowed in the night, hopefully that would make you sleepy enough.

Pat-pat-pat

You sat up in bed immediately as you heard something, like little footsteps. You hoped it was just your imagination playing tricks on you.  

Kreeee….

That was definitely not your imagination.

…. aaak

You moved a bit in your bed, grabbing your slippers and putting them on before getting out of your safe cocoon, made out of bed sheets. Opening the door that lead to the hall, you walked away from your room. On the way there, you passed by your parent’s bedroom, hearing the loud snoring ­– your father – and the occasional mumbled ‘shut up’ – that was your mother.

Pat-pat-pat

You were just starting to think it was a dream when you heard it again, the soft footsteps. They were coming from downstairs now.

You could admit now that you weren’t dreaming. And you had two options, face the monster that was probably the girl of The Ring and die. Or run back to your room and wait until it killed your parents to call the police.

Either of those involved blood and both were as stupid, if not more, than the other.

Convincing yourself that it was probably just the wind – and not some monster of the horror movies you loved – you walked down the stairs and into the main hall.

The moonlight seeped inside, providing you a way to look around. There was nothing there, not even bugs. You were already turning around to walk back up, back to your room, in hopes of actually getting some sleep now.

Then something moved.

It was not a shadow, or the wind, or dust. It was bigger, and longer than that. It moved down the main hall fast, like the tigers on the documentaries your father sometimes watches.

Please let it not be a rat, you weren’t so good with rodents.

Whatever that thing was, it ran into the drawing room, and you followed a bit nervously.

You were seriously preparing yourself to run and wake the neighbors if you saw something like IT inside there.

The room was pitch black except for a single ray of light that hit the middle of the space. You could see the… thing, underneath the coffee table. Now that you could somehow see a bit more of it, it looked like a cat. Except it was longer than a normal cat.

You stayed still next to the light switch, if it was anything like that horror video game you saw, once you turned the lights on you’d be safe.

The animal crawled away from the table, and ran towards the corner of the room while you fumbled between turning on the light and looking out for Annabelle.

It had ran towards the door in the far corner. You could see that now, there was nothing by that old door, unless that thing could go through bricks.

But the door was slightly open.

You swore you had closed it the day before, but you did it again, turned the lights off, and crawled back into your bed.

You had a very unusual dream that night, it was of a bunch of kids running around. The ones that looked very young ran and played in the garden outside your house. The others, the ones that looked more like adults, sat in the porch, talking, reading, and laughing.

You could also see a woman in the horizon, it seemed like she was looking directly at you. It made you feel uncomfortable.

Then, the woman disappeared, and you were suddenly surrounded by the kids.

Come visit us! Said the ginger kid.

We will have fun together. Said the blonde.

She is very nice. Said pretty boy.

This is paradise! Said the other ginger kid.

You could agree with that, it really looked pretty fun. But it was just a dream. However, you could hear someone whisper, and what they said confused you, a lot.

Don’t come.

It’s dangerous.

Stay away from the door.

It’s better that way.

The world in front of you went black, and you were falling

You woke up with a gasp.

That was a really weird dream, but it felt real. You were already starting to forget it, but it had something to do with a door. And you could still remember a bit of the kids in there, some of them had… unusual hair color. And the house! That was there too.

Just what was that all about?

You had no idea. 

And if for once you to hug me in wrapping all my fears, my weaknesses and my insecurities….. if you to hug me as I do that I know I belong even without seeing your face… as when I chose you among billions of people as we were the only two lights on in the midst of total darkness…
If for once you to hug me in so deep.. so as to overcome the instincts.. so as not to feel the soft shapes of my body.. so as to move beyond mere lovemaking….
For once I would like a hug that goes beyond the flesh.. that tastes of souls and lungs.. and to give me air in case missing me breath….
A hug where the heart centers are listening and in tune …
Then my love… you’re sure I was also with my eyes closed… I will recognize this embrace…I always will recognize my soulmate…💕.B.Z. #FelicityWantASpecialHug #Olicity #Arrow #myCreation

edit by @whoeveryoulovethemost thank you dear for this lovely gif!
-☽Be Positive Spell☾-

I use this a LOT when it comes to overcoming insecurities and negativity. I tend to be receptive and even show off the energy I absorb, so whenever there’s negative energy and I notice it, I use this spell.


You need:

  • Lilac
  • Rose Quartz

Place the Rose Quartz in your hand. 

Now take the Lilac and inhale the fumes or crush and rub them on your chest. Visualize a light glowing in your chest. Now chant:

“Look above, look above, to the sky

look no lower, look real high,

seek opportunities, don’t look down

seek good in life, don’t I frown,

fear no evil, fear no bad

don’t let the energies make you sad.

So mote it be.” 

NOTE: You can chant this even without lilac and rose quartz when you just don’t have time or supplies, it can be just as effective.

It lasts about a day or 3, depending on the strength.

OPTIONAL: If you’re a sigil type of person, here’s a sigil to write on your wrist!

- Anabiel

Tips for Overcoming Insecurity

1. Believe you can make progress, and start to overcome it. That is the first, and the most important, step.

2. Think about a time when you took a chance, and pushed through your fear, and it worked out well. Remember that feeling – it can happen again.

3. Look for a role model - someone you relate to - who managed to overcome their insecurities. Let them inspire you and learn from their success.

4. Let go of the past, and whatever holds you back. Just focus on this moment, and taking one step now.

5. Stop resisting change – let whatever happens happen. You may discover that it works out even better than you’d thought.

6. Let the stress fall away and allow peace to flood your mind. As you learn to relax you’ll start to feel more confident.

Its no surprise that gin spouts such inspiring quotes and life lessons as an adult because he was already saying deep poop to zura as a kid (like i’ll be your general you just have to be zura). Although he might not have truly understand the meaning behind what he said as a kid and saw it as a simple way to help zura overcome his insecurities… and it meant a lot to katsura. Katsura  probably never forget what gintoki said and remembered it for the rest of his life with less fear knowing that he can live as himself knowing that gintoki will always be there to support him. 

Others can’t overcome fear for you; you have to do it on your own. It’s hard, because fear and doubt hold on tight. We are afraid of being rejected, of being hurt once more. So we keep a safe distance. We think separating ourselves from others will protect us, but that doesn’t work, either. It leaves us feeling alone and unloved. Trusting yourself begins by recognizing that it’s okay to be afraid. Having fear is not the problem, because everyone feels anxious and insecure sometimes. The problem is not being honest enough to admit your fear. Whenever I accept my own doubt and insecurity, I’m more open to other people. The deeper I go into myself, the stronger I become, because I realize that my real self is much bigger than any fear. In accepting yourself completely, trust becomes complete. There is no longer any separation between people, because there is no longer any separation inside. In the space where fear used to live, love is…“

Michael Jackson in his book "Dancing the Dream”

The End of Evangelion, thougts

Shinji prefered to live in the real world, than in the alternate reality in which Rei and Shinji were “one”. Even Kaworu was there. His feelings were ambiguous & uncertain though. He couldn’t comprehend how he felt. ALL HUMANS WERE “ONE” THERE…

Rei said “The walls of their hearts will “seperate” them again.” Hurting each other… feeling fear…

He realised that… That’s how it’s supposed to be… Withstanding, understanding and overcoming your fears, insecurities while creating bonds and with the help, trust of those you love.

SO: HE CHOOSE TO GIVE REBIRTH TO THE WORLD, IN WHICH HIS FEELINGS (even (mostly) pain) ARE REAL, UNDERSTANDABLE.

It’s not bad that humans’ hearts are surrounded by AT Fields (their bodies)…

Bonding may be difficult for some, easier for others. Some people like to keep a distance and making themselves unapproachable in the fear of ‘causing pain or getting hurt. But you have to try… Shinji… after all the fucked up stuff he’s been through…

HE WANTS TO TRY… SO CAN YOU… Keep fighting ! Keep trying ! ;) You can do it !

Interpreting Chille Tid - Transformations, Chains, Whirlpools, and Being Chased in Dreams

Chains

“To dream of chains represents feelings of bondage, confinement, or restriction. Feeling controlled or unable to escape something in your waking life. Feeling intentionally held back from your true potential. Feeling limited. Feeling like a victim, feeling used, hating your job, or disliking having decisions made for you. Difficulty freeing yourself from a responsibility.

Alternatively, chains may reflect your own attempt to confine or restrict someone else.

Positively, a chain may reflect solidarity or group support to get through serious problems. Strong bonds, friendship, or family ties.”

Being Chased

“To dream that you are being chased represents issues or situations that you are avoiding facing, or confronting. Something you may feel is impossible to overcome or defeat. You may feel stressed or threatened. It may also reflect something you don’t want to acknowledge. You may have anxiety, strong fears, insecurities, or guilt. Situations you find emotionally dangerous.

Your actions in a chase dream parallel your waking life reactions to pressure, fear, or stress. Instead of confronting the situation, you are running away from the issue. Less serious dreams of being chased may reflect waking life situations where you are avoiding problems with friends, family, or colleagues.

Alternatively, being chased in a dream may be a sign that you feel pressured or driven by a sense of fear or failure. Avoiding embarrassment at all costs. It also reflect your desperation to avoid a serious illness.” 

Whirlpools

“To dream of a whirlpool represents problems or uncertain situations that you feel powerless to stop yourself from being “sucked into.” Feelings about problems or consequences being inescapable. The potential for problems to endlessly repeat until you experience total failure or embarrassment. Concerns about being sucked into other people’s problems. Fears about being pulled into a disaster that you can never get out of. Fearing being pulled into an situation that is an inevitable failure. Feeling that if you don’t have someone around to help you that you may get “sucked in” to a big problem.

Negatively, a whirlpool may be a sign that you are underestimating the power of getting involved in other people’s problems. Ignoring warning signals about being involved with problems that nobody else has ever overcome.”

Transformations

“To dream of a transformation may reflect feelings about personality changes or lifestyles changes. Personal change. Feelings about yourself or others changing. Something in your life that is causing you to feel different. A slow recovery from illness or depression.

Negatively, a transformation may reflect feelings about witnessing good people become corrupted by arrogance or conceit, or selfishness. Feelings about people change in bad ways or that they used to be nicer or more honest. Witnessing problems that have become worse. Experiencing relationships deteriorating.”

- DreamBible

Tips for Overcoming Insecurity

1. Believe you can make progress, and start to overcome it. That is the first, and the most important, step.

2. Think about a time when you took a chance, and pushed through your fear, and it worked out well. Remember that feeling – it can happen again.

3. Look for a role model - someone you relate to - who managed to overcome their insecurities. Let them inspire you and learn from their success.

4. Let go of the past, and whatever holds you back. Just focus on this moment, and taking one step now.

5. Stop resisting change – let whatever happens happen. You may discover that it works out even better than you’d thought.

6. Let the stress fall away and allow peace to flood your mind. As you learn to relax you’ll start to feel more confident.

Honestly, I took this shot not only because I wanted to get out of my comfort zone. But because it is okay to be imperfect. It is okay to show the world that you are not a perfect person and that you might not be what majority of people perceive or want sometimes and that’s okay. It is okay to show your imperfections to the world. Whether is your body, your face, your legs… Anything you might be insecure about.. I got honked at, looked at, laughed at, screamed at as I was taking these pictures in such busy street and I honestly think this is the only way to overcome an insecurity or a fear.. facing it and getting all the criticism out of the way… And YES, men have as many if not more insecurities as women have. If you see men all try so hard to act the same as each other.. why? because they are all so afraid to show the real them and get judged for it… And yeah… you might think? what is this dude talking about.. he looks just fine in the picture.. but although you might not notice. ME as a person, I notice my imperfections everyday as I look in the mirror every morning. I can point out right away one of my biggest insecurities ever in my whole entire life which was the fact that I was short. With this picture you can see that I am short. Some might not see it but I do. With clothes I might seem a little taller it is why I took the pictures almost naked. But who cares.. Not the rest of the world might think a short man is attractive but I know somewhere in this world, someone might find that my most attractive feature and it is okay… I will wait till that happens.. Till then I will be loving myself just the way that I am.. because honestly me, myself is the only thing I can truly say I have. And honestly I prefer and will be mine before I am ever societies…

Photography: Marc Cherry

Because bikinis are no longer for just size twos… I’ve struggled with body image issues for a majority of my life and wearing my first bikini ever this past weekend was a pretty big deal for me and I just wanted to share with all of tumblr and the Internet that it’s possible to overcome your fears and insecurities! Although this did not come easily with all of the bullying and eating disorders over the years, I’m just so glad to think that I went out in public like this and even took a picture because just a year ago I refused to leave the house wearing this even though I had just boughten it. I know I’m not the skinniest thing and I might not even be considered fit, but I am healthy and happier than ever and I don’t give a f*ck what anyone else thinks!

-A.R.A