to make an excuse to post it

This is all only my opinion, nothing else, but being mentally ill doesn’t give you an excuse to expect people to forgive or accept your piss poor fucking apologies when you legitimately wanna apologize. 

like take some time to cool off whatever, I’m bpd, i’m schizo, I get it. but at some point if you KNOW you’ve done wrong and you genuinely wanna make up for what you did to the person you gotta give a decent apology that isn’t bullshit as fuck. 

you gotta listen to what other people are saying after you know you’ve fucked up, and address it instead of defending yourself for the shit you’ve done. being mentally ill isn’t an excuse to give bullshit apologies all the fucking time and expect people to forgive you and roll with it. people don’t owe us shit.

like, my parents are mentally ill, that doesn’t excuse them for the horrible shit they put me through lmao. And I’m endlessly furious with the piss poor apologies they give me, which paint themselves as victims for their crimes, and then they’re /mad/ when i don’t accept their apologies? lmao fuck off?

If you genuinely feel remorse and know you fucked up, make a decent apology, address the wrong you’ve done. otherwise imo don’t fucking bother. again imo it does more damage than good to give a bad apology than no apology at all.

like personally, i’m forgiving, I get people do bad shit, i get no ones perfect, a simple sorry is good enough for me, but when someone fucking paints themselves as a victim explicitly to pull heat away from their actions, when they absolutely aren’t, within their apology, and then expect you to forgive them… i’m only more angry with them lmao. 

like literally “I’m sorry for what I’ve done” is all you need to do imo lmao, no fucking added bullshit. and people will either forgive you or not: you have no control over that. 

you don’t have to grovel, you don’t have to defend yourself, it just is, accept it and move on. you have no control over whether they accept it or if they will move on.

i’m not forgiving someone for something when they give me a bullshit apology after they majorly fucked up. And I don’t have to.

lmao @ yppo, especially big name white fandomers– we aren’t ‘holding you to some impossible standard’ by asking you not to be a racist. we’re not 'enforcing black-and-white’ morality. being racist IS ALWAYS WRONG, HAS ALWAYS BEEN WRONG. and when we call you out for being racist? here are some things that you can do to deescalate the situation: stop, look, and listen. stop what you’re doing, look at yourself, your content, your actions, and genuinely listen to people of color. then, you know, apologize. like, actually apologize, genuinely. don’t do it with the intent of being praised, don’t blame others or make excuses, and definitely don’t apologize on your sideblog while liking and reblogging posts about how people of color are being cruel to you and holding you to a high standard that no one can meet, or acting as if we’re misogynistic for calling you, a white woman, out, because newsflash: being a woman doesn’t absolve you of racism. neither does being gay. neither does being disabled or nd. neither does being poor.

a lot of people follow you. a lot of people look at what you’re doing. if you aren’t going to be responsible about what you say and do in front of a huge amount of people, a significant number of which are minors, then you really don’t deserve those followers.


anonymous asked:

honestly you're overreacting lmao, literally no one is going to see that post and think jimin ACTUALLY hates white people. it's just a joke and youre, making a problem out of something that wasn't a problem to begin with. i get where you're coming from but just chill and stop blaming people for 'ruining jimins image' over a dumb shitpost lol

How hard is it to STOP doing it?! It’s not hard to NOT do it either so stop making excuses and saying it’s a joke. A lot of us are already saying that it’s not funny but you all just don’t care. Just admit it’s wrong, very malicious and could hurt Jimin and Bangtan. Just stop doing it. “It really shouldn’t be a big deal” but y’all keep dismissing other people’s concerns about it and making it look ok. You don’t agree with me? Then just accept that people think it’s shitty.

Literally all we ask is that you not be racist, islamophobic, and ableist towards Zayn. Like that’s it. You don’t have to like him or his music. You don’t have to think he’s cute. You don’t have to think he’s the greatest thing on Earth. We don’t expect you to overlook his mistakes or excuse any of his ignorance. All we ask is that you treat him like a fucking human being and don’t partake in those gross double standards or make posts with racist and islamophobic undertones (or sometimes overt racism and islamophobia) and don’t make or laugh at posts that target his mental health and don’t completely make up and spread bogus rumors about him to fit your narrative of him. That’s legitimately all we ask and some of y'all literally refuse to even do those simple things. It’s exhausting having to come here day in and day out and have to beg for people to treat him like a human. Like why does it surprise you guys that you get Zayn stans in your notes when you refuse to just treat him like a damn human and think the racism, islamophobia, and ableism he deals with every day is funny or fake or something to giggle at and use against him? Like legit all y'all have to do is just treat him like a human. Why is that so much to ask from some of you?

@inukag-4ever is one of the sweetest people in the Inuyasha fandom! She’s so enthusiastic and encouraging of other people’s creative efforts – she’s given me a boost when I needed it on more than one occasion, and I’m so thankful for that! She makes the fandom a warm and welcoming place for everyone. Thanks for being you, Analisa.  <3

Love, Robin (aka, @mustardyellowsunshine)

anonymous asked:

Im so tired of going in the tags and seeing just. Humanized Chelley. And Blue Sky everything. Everywhere. All the time. Help me Portal is finally losing its appeal to me because of this

The best advice I can give you is to be the change you’d like to see in the fandom, more or less. As a content creator myself, I know what it’s like to be jaded because your work is glossed over in favor of Chelley / Blue Sky related stuff. But if you lose that spark and stop creating, the situation won’t get better.

Of course, this doesn’t excuse the treatment of creators that make content that isn’t the status quo. Frankly, it’s pretty gross and the way to fix that is to be vocal about it. Maybe you don’t write or draw, and that’s perfectly fine! You, as an audience member, have the right to let your desires be known. Want more ChellDOS works? Post about it! Maybe you have a really good fic idea? Let it be known! Comment on that one fic you really love, let the person who wrote it know how much MORE of it you want to see!

There’s so much power you hold as someone that digests content. Do you think Chelley would be half as popular if people didn’t enjoy the fan-works produced relating to it?

There’s nothing wrong with being someone that consumes or creates popular works, so long as you do so responsibly and don’t hound other content creators for their own, healthy works. Variety in content is a wonderful thing.

@allerasphinx replied to your post “Folks are really out here calling Black folks coons and making them…”

yeah, i got harassed for this months back and fandomhatesblaclpeople legit spread some bs about how I wasn’t actually black


Girl, I’m sorry for that foolishness. This blue hellsite has me sitting back and just shaking my head in disbelief. It’s a damn broadway musical. We’re harassing OUR OWN over enjoying a musical?!?!? demanding apologies and renunciations??!?!? when it’s white people turning it into something problematic on this here sorry excuse for a social platform!??! Like…what part of the game is that? 

Like not that I didn’t listen to Philip Quast’s rendition of Stars for years on end to get myself to go to sleep at night (then I got his solo album) but Javert was not actually what I would call a good guy & I feel like even the “Javert is not the villain [ten clap emojis]” posts veer towards … at the very least misunderstanding his character? 

Sure, he’s not The Villain and he’s also one of the people affected by the place and time he lived in but that doesn’t make the things he did in the novel excusable, or good, or anything more than the actions of a man who was clinging desperately to a violently striated social system.  

And when he was forced to realize that people who commit crime are not inherently immoral or worthless he killed himself.

fillefemme  asked:

Bonjour! I saw in your blog that a lot of girls are sending stuff like "gay girls from madrid? Greece? etc". So I'm proposing something to you guys: -> everyone! Send me facts, memories, fantasm, désires, dreams etc etc, everything you want your futur gf to know. I'll be careful and read between the lines, if what you told me reminds me of something that someone else sent me, I'll put you in touch w/ each other (excuse my bad english I'm french :))

thats a good idea! i think we need to do smth more with it, maybe you can make a post about it and ill reblog it? I guess then more people will see it


In a world where werewolves are known, and after the death of his mother, who doesn’t survive the bite of a rabbid wolf, Mieczysław Stilinski decides to join an organization of hunters wanting to get revenge. His new motto: “I kill those who need to be killed.”

my nayme is Deen
in al the lande
no grayter dood
than bruthr Sam
and wen he falls
but is not ded

i hold his face
i lik his hed

[ oops there’s a sam version

scutellatebooted  asked:

Hi Doc! Love reading your blog, I found you first through the Lucifer story (reminded me of a friend of mine actually) and then again through your mermaid post and have been hanging around ever since. I looked thru your archive but didn't find this question so hopefully it hasn't been asked before: what is it about horse anatomy that makes their legs so (seemingly) fragile? You'd think being as big as they are, they'd be more all-around solid. Thanks for reading, have a good one!

The horse, Equus caballus, is one of my favorite arguments against Intelligent Design. I’ve spoken before about why I no longer see them, but even as a student I would wonder why and how this species existed when there were apparently so many things that could go wrong with its own anatomy, especially next to something tough like a trusty cow.

I don’t know how it’s possible to believe in a benevolent, loving, wise creator when creatures like the horse come to exist.

So I’m going to use your question as an excuse to write a post that had been on my mind for a while:

Things That Are Wrong With Horses

The basic structure of a horse has a few significant design flaws.

  1. Cannot vomit. This means that anything which would make another species sick enough to vomit results in a horse getting s distended stomach and colic, where the stomach can rupture and the horse can die. Also means symptoms of illness are hidden longer
  2. The large bowel (hind gut) of the horse is fricking huge, but can actually displace itself and bend around the wrong way, resulting in obstruction, colic and death without surgical intervention. This can commonly happen after exertion (splenic contraction) and giving birth. Colic due to nephrosplenic entrapment is particularly common after the horse has an adrenaline release, which causes the spleen to temporarily contract, and this seems like a poor design to risk death every time you spook or go for a fast run, especially in a species known for spooking and running fast.
  3. Giving birth is a fast and explosive affair in the horse. The whole pushing business should be over and  done with in about 20 minutes, however this assumes that everything is lined up just right for a normal delivery. Foals are all long legs and necks, which are easy to get tangled or bent around the wrong way. A mare is strong enough to push her foal’s feet through her uterine wall, which is death all round.
  4. Speaking of strength, sometimes horses will kick each other when they have attitude, and they can do so with enough strength to rupture each other’s spleens.
  5. When galloping most horses, best studied in thoroughbreds because they are made to gallop on a regular basis, horses routinely bash their diaphragm with such force against their liver that their liver bruises.
  6. Galloping also often makes their lungs bleed. That’s why racehorses have their head held up after a race, so you don’t see any blood come out their nose and disqualify them. Even horses that you don’t see bleed have evidence of pulmonary bleeding after a gallop if you scope them.
  7. Their leg bones are actually pretty damn tough, but the ends are spindly little things compared to the mass of musculature up top. Their legs are subjected to huge biomechanical forces when a horse runs which can often subject them to ligament damage and lameness. A fractured leg bone can heal like any other, but if a horse can’t bear weight evenly on all four legs for an extended period of time (eg after a fracture) then they are at risk of laminitis.
  8. Laminitis can cause the hoof to slough off. (Aaargh!) They can also get laminitis from eating a bit too well.
  9. Speaking of eating, they can also get colic (and risk death) from eating not enough fiber or the wrong sort of plants or from eating too much dirt.
  10. Oh, and just to mess with you, horses have a space in their head called a guttural pouch which seems to exist for no other reason as far as I can tell (okay, maybe it’s about heat regulation) other than to get fungal infections that eat through the exposed artery and cause the horse to die from blood loss through it’s nose.

And Bonus: Exquisite sensitivity to tetanus and vulnerability to Hendravirus

This list is by no means complete. I haven’t even touched on their anesthetics or drug reactions, but it’s a simple start.

i say “i’m seeing a therapist” and he takes a step backwards. why he wants to know. what happened. what made me like this, basically. what was the final step that pushed me safely into the side of scary people like them.

there’s a lot i think about. like how my illnesses effect me outside of the actual symptoms. like beyond the weight there’s a second river to drown in.

i mean we don’t talk about having to stare at employment papers where they ask you to self-identify your problems. that little bead of sweat that forms when you worry - what if i don’t tell them and i need help? what if i tell them and they think i’m a risk factor? what if they won’t give me the job?

we don’t talk about the way some people act when they find out. the ones who are rude about it are one thing. but then there’s those people you thought were your friends who act like you just told them you’re infectious. who become weird and distant and suspicious like a switch flipped. like if they get to close to you, you’ll give it to them.

we learn to be okay with things we overhear on the bus but we never get used to it coming out of the mouth of the people we love. we carry this secret with us like a rotted fruit, clutching it to our bodies. we’re ashamed of our scars in front of our boss. we don’t talk about our panic attacks during lunch breaks. when the cop pulls you over “i’m disassociating” isn’t an excuse we can open the page on. when you watch people make these ranting posts about how real friends always text back, how if someone loves you, they’ll find the time to spend. success stories make other people cry with inspiration while some part of your brain is saying you can’t do that, you’re not like them. things are uglier at the bottom. you can’t explain why you can’t just make friends. you can’t write because you’re depressed but when you’re depressed you write best. you can’t eat today and no don’t ask why please. nevermind taking the train. never mind trying to be happy. never mind reading books and watching movies and wondering where exactly are people like you in hero stories. i watch a video where a man tells me that being depressed is just a mindset. when i wear all black someone remarks i look particularly emo today. it’s 2017 does anyone say emo anymore, i ask her, and she laughs, “you just look like one of those fake-depressed girls.” okay.  

i don’t tell him my therapist is actually why things don’t happen anymore. why i’m getting a handle on it. my tongue feels swollen. i feel embarrassed talking about it. in the highest twist of irony, i think of how many people know my problems anonymously on the internet. i almost spill out all my troubles onto him. instead i tell him it’s just a precaution. that i think everyone should really see a therapist, they’re brain mechanics and we all need a tune-up now and then. he relaxes.

okay. okay. i’m sorry i’m one of them.

Why are non artists who treat artists like shit, talk down to them, justify the theft of their work, and disrespect their wishes regarding their work so fucking common and when will it fucking end.

If an artist makes a request not to repost (or other request) and your response is “too bad, you posted it online”, you dont deserve to see anyone’s art at all.

Yes, we know its part of the risk. You don’t have to inform us. We KNOW. But dont shit on us for trying to stop it, for talking about how much it sucks and why, and for getting mad when people do disrespect us.

And DEFINITELY don’t use it as an excuse to take advantage of what we provide. Don’t come into our inbox acting like you own our art now that its out there. Like your opinion on how artists should be treated matters more than artists themselves, and tell us we’re being ridiculous for trying to protect our work. Dont tell us to “stop posting if we dont want to deal with art theft and people disrespecting us” just because we decided to make our feelings clear.

Thats such a low, disgusting, disrespectful, EVIL thing to do to an artist and anyone who pulls this shit doesn’t deserve to have art in their lives.

 Post-Reveal Superhero team with Nino ‘the normal human bestfriend’ Lahiffe

  • Nino having to make excuses in class all the time whenever the other 4 need to make a quick get away. 
  • “Girl’s travel in packs to the loo Sir, Adrien’s just got a weak bladder,” 
  • Their school has an unusual amount of fire drills, but no culprit is ever found 
  • Nino loosing count of the number of free deserts he’s been given when Alya’s had to run out on a date. 
  • Nino becoming pretty good friends with Sabrina as Chloe seems to just deposit her with him when they need to rush out. 
  • Nino becoming a pretty decent amateur photographer due to the fact that Alya makes him take photo’s of the four miraculous holders for the Ladyblog
  • Nino carrying around supplies in his backpack just in case anyone needs anything. This includes a first aid kit, snacks and drinks and a supply of tampons (because grumpy badass superheroes are not one to be messed with if they need something) 
  • Ladybug’s superpower may be to save the world with everyday objects, but it does help that Nino carries them around with him.
  • He also has an emergency makeup bag for Chloe so she can fix her face and hair before heading back to school.
  • Also carrying emergency supplies for all the Kwami (he smells of cheese a lot - damn plagg)  
  • Nino has a lot of casual selfies of all 4 of them on his phone, just in case, someone asks for proof that they are with him. 
  • Nino, who has never been very academically inclined, suddenly taking lots of very detailed notes in class and helping them catch up and study. 
  • Nino keeping spare clothes for them all at his house, just in case they end up all transforming there and feeling too tired to head home again afterwards. 
  • Just Nino being the ultimate bro, and defending and supporting his best friends as they save the world, with no complaints.