This is all only my opinion, nothing else, but being mentally ill doesn’t give you an excuse to expect people to forgive or accept your piss poor fucking apologies when you legitimately wanna apologize.
like take some time to cool off whatever, I’m bpd, i’m schizo, I get it. but at some point if you KNOW you’ve done wrong and you genuinely wanna make up for what you did to the person you gotta give a decent apology that isn’t bullshit as fuck.
you gotta listen to what other people are saying after you know you’ve fucked up, and address it instead of defending yourself for the shit you’ve done. being mentally ill isn’t an excuse to give bullshit apologies all the fucking time and expect people to forgive you and roll with it. people don’t owe us shit.
like, my parents are mentally ill, that doesn’t excuse them for the horrible shit they put me through lmao. And I’m endlessly furious with the piss poor apologies they give me, which paint themselves as victims for their crimes, and then they’re /mad/ when i don’t accept their apologies? lmao fuck off?
If you genuinely feel remorse and know you fucked up, make a decent apology, address the wrong you’ve done. otherwise imo don’t fucking bother. again imo it does more damage than good to give a bad apology than no apology at all.
like personally, i’m forgiving, I get people do bad shit, i get no ones perfect, a simple sorry is good enough for me, but when someone fucking paints themselves as a victim explicitly to pull heat away from their actions, when they absolutely aren’t, within their apology, and then expect you to forgive them… i’m only more angry with them lmao.
like literally “I’m sorry for what I’ve done” is all you need to do imo lmao, no fucking added bullshit. and people will either forgive you or not: you have no control over that.
you don’t have to grovel, you don’t have to defend yourself, it just is, accept it and move on. you have no control over whether they accept it or if they will move on.
i’m not forgiving someone for something when they give me a bullshit apology after they majorly fucked up. And I don’t have to.