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21 things black men don’t hear often enough

1. I love you bro. We don’t tell each other as men how much we mean to each other. There is no weakness in that. Only strength, solidarity, and power.

2. You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to commit to getting better.

3. Someone is depending on you, to be exactly who you are.

4. Read more. You have time to read 12 books a year (which is more than the average American). We also aren’t average.

5. Showing and sharing your emotions isn’t a sign of weakness. Paying attention to how we feel helps us become more in tune with what’s actually going on.

6. Your mental health matters. You can’t “work yourself” out of your mind. Emotional trauma is very real and worthy of our time. We’ve been through a lot recently.

7. Living is an act of resistance. You are going to live, get out all these dreams, and thrive – despite the odds.

8. You are a descendent of kings. Seriously, don’t bow your head to life. You were built for this.

9. Their opinion won’t pay your bills, or build your dreams. They won’t always see your vision. Not everyone is supposed to.

10. Failure isn’t a tattoo. Learn how to take the Ls and move on. Adapt and overcome.

11. Getting this money, and doing good, aren’t mutually exclusive. You just have to be clear on your non-negotiables and stand by them.

12. You don’t have to ask for permission to be excellent. Go for it.

13. “Everybody eat’s b” – Ace Boogie. Seriously, we can all get what we want to out here. Helping people doesn’t make you a sucker. Do have boundaries though.

14. There is absolutely nothing wrong with working for someone else (even if you’re from Harlem), but it pays to think like an owner. Signing the front of a check is very different than the back.

15. #BLACKLIVESMATTER

16. If someone knocks you for your 9-5, they (1) aren’t your friends and (2) they don’t know about your 6-10. Keep going.

17. Start owning when you can. Pay yourself first. These loans ain’t loyal.

18. We don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You’re excellent and it’s perfectly okay to still be warming up.

19. Try to take care of yourself. I love Popeyes, but what we put in ourselves can actually kill us. Exercise, eat well, and get active. Put some $$ on your jumper, and invite your team out!

20. Learning how to cook is a great look. Seriously. Watch a couple Youtube videos, hit Home Goods, and start cheffing.

21. “Someday” is never going to show up on the calendar. Write that book, send that tweet, record podcast. Don’t opt out, especially not right now.

Stop and take a moment. Ask yourself, “Is there anything that you need? Have I taken care of you today? Are you genuinely happy?” Just like anyone else on this planet, you deserve to be taken care of. So before you continue, make sure your body and mind are both giving a thumbs up as well.
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin

anonymous asked:

1) welcome back! You were missed! 2) Do you think certain MBTI types are prone to certain problematic behaviors and 3) if so which ones really bother you or you dislike?

Thanks. Yes, certain MBTI types show trends when it comes to problematic behaviors. My top one for each cognitive function:

High Te (ENTJ, ESTJ, INTJ, ISTJ): The Sledgehammer

Summary: Uses a one-size-fits-all solution for different sized problems.

Example:

  • Using brute force to power through situations that might require more patience, finesse, and reflection.
  • “This worked great for me, you’re dumb not to do the same.”
  • “Don’t pursue a career in art, you’re going to be poor. Go into business, law, or medicine.”

Impact: The problem with being a hammer is that you’ll start to see everything and everyone as a nail. It also makes people feel like their opinions and points of view are less valuable than yours. It also falsely presumes that the choice which yields the best output objectively (example: the job that yields the most money) is the best. It negates the reality that people have different indicators for success because there isn’t only one correct answer to every question.

Solution: Incorporate subjective variables into your objective logical frameworks.

High Ti (INTP, ISTP, ENTP, ESTP): The Hamster Wheel

Summary: Invalidates everything in a perpetual logic loop.

Example:

  • “Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?” x1,000,000

Impact: You succeed at winning debates but fail at solving problems. Whether or not you can rationalize the validity of money doesn’t take away from the fact you still have bills to pay at the end of the day. Whether or not you can rationalize the value of grades and traditional education doesn’t take away from the fact you’ll be denied entry into many careers without the right qualifications. Whether or not you can rationalize that having children is a logical idea or not doesn’t take away from the fact that many people aspire to be parents. The validity of other people’s goals, dreams, concerns, and issues are not contingent on whether or not they can explain them to your satisfaction.

Solution: Create solutions, answers, and actions for every hole you poke in other people’s logic– not more problems.

High Fe (ENFJ, ESFJ, INFJ, ISFJ): The Guilt Trip

Summary: Guilt trip. verb. to make (someone) feel guilty, especially in order to induce them to do something.

Example: Self-explanatory.

Impact: This is manipulation. You’ll get on people’s nerves and make them miserable because you’ve forced them into situations they didn’t willingly want to enter or participate in of their own accord. Secondly, you haven’t provided solid concrete reasons and logic for why someone should do something, it’s an argument made without taking into consideration the other person’s comfort or needs. 

Solution: Explain clearly and transparently why you want someone to do something (yes, it’s really that simple).

High Fi (INFP, ISFP, ESFP, ISFP): The Cloudy Mirror

Summary: Judges people for things they don’t want to be judged for.

Example:

  • “I wish society wouldn’t judge me for not wanting to have children and not wanting to be a housewife.” [Proceeds to judge people who want to have children and want to be a housewife]
  • “Not everyone wants to be rich in life, we all have different definitions of success that should be respected.” [Doesn’t respect people who want to be rich in life, automatically think these people are greedy sell-outs]

Impact: This is hypocrisy. It also comes off as illogical and presumptuous when people’s intents and motivations are automatically filled in by you. Some people buy sports cars because they actually have a passion for driving– they’re not necessarily materialistic. Some people seek high-paying careers at the expense of personal passions because they have obligations and goals they’d like to reach– they’re not necessarily greedy. Some people like traditional gender roles in relationships because that’s their personal choice– they’re not necessarily oppressed and/or close-minded. 

Solution: Accept that “conformity” in behavior, goals, aspirations, appearance, etc. doesn’t equate to misery and/or lack of authenticity.

High Ne (ENTP, ENFP, INTP, INFP): The Whiplash*

Summary: Chronic quitting and the inability to commit due to impatience and lack of discipline.

  • *Whiplash: noun. a neck injury due to forceful, rapid back-and-forth movement of the neck, like the cracking of a whip.

Example:

  • “I’m going to do A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, I, J … Z!” [Does none of it]
  • “Let’s do this. Let’s do that. Let’s go back to doing this. Let’s go back to doing that.”
  • “I want to have six-pack abs! I’m going to be SHREDDED.” [Exercises and eats well for one day then goes back to bad habits the next day]

Impact: People stop taking you seriously because you can’t execute on your promises, it dilutes the weight of your words and it corrodes respect (ex: “Yeah, uh-huh, sure you will, buddy.”). No one is immediately an expert at something the first try– seeds take time to grow and you’re no exception to this rule. Developing expertise and skills require time, commitment, and consistency. Results don’t happen overnight.

Solution: Underpromise and overdeliver– don’t overpromise and underdeliver.

High Ni (INTJ, INFJ, ENTJ, ENFJ): The Nutcracker

Summary: Hits people below the belt using knowledge those people shared against them.

Example:

  • Someone is insecure about their weight, you insult their weight.
  • Someone is insecure about their skin color, you make a comment about their skin color.
  • Someone tells you a secret, you expose it.

Impact: People won’t confide in you for fear you’ll use what they told you against them. This creates barriers to having close and meaningful friendships because people will view and treat you like a ticking time bomb they can’t let their guard down around. Understand that certain topics and comebacks are off-limits no matter how you feel about the person at the moment; certain words and actions have a lasting impact on your relationships. Memories fade but scars last.

Solution: The nuclear option should be your last resort, never your first.

High Se (ESTP, ESFP, ISTP, ISFP): The Blindfire*

Summary: Leaps before they look.

  • *Blindfire: noun. The term referring to the act of operating a firearm without looking at what one is shooting at.

Example:

Impact: Your lack of foresight and lack of planning will set you back even further from your goals because immediate rewards and instant gratification often only provide short-term benefits that rarely last. There’s a proverb that’s applicable here: “measure twice, cut once” which means that investing time and energy up front to do it correctly the first time will save a ton of time, money, energy, and grief later down the line.

Solution: Stop, drop, and roll think if the path you’re on actually leads to where you want to go.

High Si (ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ESFJ): The Helicopter

Summary: Micromanaging, nitpicking people to death.

Example:

  • “Write the email but let me review and edit before you send it.”
  • “What are you doing right now? Where are you going? When are you coming back?”
  • “I noticed when you loaded the dishwasher you put the spoons and forks in before the pots and pans, you should put the pots and pans in before the spoons and forks.”

Impact: Half the internet is writing posts complaining about you, the other half is writing posts complaining about having to read all the posts complaining about you. Micromanagement saps people of confidence and motivation, it also increases the chance that the bad thing you’re trying to prevent will actually happen. Additionally, you’ll feel paranoid and anxious that something will go disastrously wrong if you’re gone which results in burnout because you’ll always need to be there to keep an eye on things. This is counterproductive for everyone involved.

Solution: Choose your battles wisely– focus on the “what” (the goal) and not the “how” (the method).

Advice If You Ever feel depressed

Everyone goes through tough times, and we all know it’s hard to go through with them, so if you ever feel a bit upset/depressed or if you have things like anxiety, here’s my advice

Please note that I am not a professional and I do not understand the tough time you are going through, also that I haven’t expierenced depression but I do suffer from Anxiety

¤Read a book, start a new series. It will help you distress and relax you, it will also help you sleep if you have sleeping problems/insomnia

¤Start a new TV/Movie/ YouTube Series. When I was going through a tough time, I watched “Animated Atrocities” on YouTube by TheMysteriousMrEnter and it really helped since I enjoy animation.

¤ Colour. You can buy one of those relaxing colouring books, I personally don’t like them but it could work out for you.

¤Talk to someone. I know it’s been said a billion times but it honestly helps.

¤Eat Well And get some exercise. Exercise is proven to help with mental well being, and eating healthier will put you in a better mood than eating unhealthily. Your exercise doesn’t have to be intense, just a nice walk or some yoga will work.

¤ Try ASMR videos. If you want to relax, ASMR videos will help, they may come off as kinds strange at first, but they are great when you want to just relax.

¤ Listen to some music. Whether it’s pop or just relaxation music, it might help your mood, try listening to happier music.

¤ Cry (if you need to). If you are in emotional pain, just let all your tears out, it will help you feel a lot better, just make sure some one is there to help you stop crying and calm you down, you can be surprised how long you can cry for!

¤ Take care of yourself. Do wash your hair, your body, hands etc. It’s better to smell good when you are in a sh*t mood.

¤ Wake up and say something positive about yourself (or write it down). This honestly works! It will help you feel more confident and positive about yourself.

treat yourself like a princess

… lessons learned from princess allura

step 1: do not wait for others to acknowledge your worth | you are deserving of respect and basic human decency by default, whether it’s acknowledged or not.

step 2: do not fear your own emotions | it’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to be scared, it’s okay to be angry, and it’s okay to let people know you’re not okay.

step 3: don’t sweat boys, sis | regardless of your sexuality, boys will try to mess with you, belittle you, flirt with you, do all three at once … even if you like them, you don’t have to act flattered or put up with any bullshit. you deserve the most wholesome, heart racing, pretty, lovely romance, if that’s what you want. never settle for just anyone. you’re always gonna be beautiful, and you’ll never owe a boy your attention just for noticing you.

step 4: remember how powerful you are | you have the power to end bad relationships, to fight for your communities, to make changes in your life and in others’ … to stand up and demand justice! … never let your heart be silenced!

step 5: take care of your mental and physical health | this includes everything from getting enough exercise, to eating well, to taking care of your gorgeous hair (i know it can be work, but you’re worth it) and gorgeous skin, to just fighting your mental illness or personality disorder long enough to get up and shower and drink some water and take your medication. your body and heart and mind are so important! you are so important. you can’t be strong all the time, so be sure to be kind to yourself. a lot of people will be too hard on you in this life. don’t be one of them. our universe wouldn’t be the same without you here, as happy, and as healthy as you can be.

step 6: be sure to rest | everyone needs to take a break every once in a while, including you. try not to strain yourself. you should never have to burn yourself alive just to keep others warm.

step 7: enjoy the little things and celebrate small victories | life may feel like an overall shit storm at times, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t moments of happiness amidst the chaos. ain’t nothing wrong with just giggling at your pets or laughing at a good television show or hanging out with friends. enjoy as much of this life as you can :)

The Mars Series: Mars by Sign

Hi, I’m going to start a Mars series. I will discuss Mars by Sign briefly and then later will go into more detail by aspects in natal charts.

Mars is the planet of war and aggression. It is a red planet. I have written in the past that Mars on the Asc or in the 1st house can give a “reddish” appearance to someone ( blush easily, red tones to hair, ruddy complexion, lean ). I myself have Mars in the 1st house. Mars represents our sex drive, our ambitions and what we go after we want. It represents how aggressive, assertive or passive we are. It represents athletics and sports. Traditionally Mars represents what kind of man a man is and what a woman finds in a man. However, that doesn’t mean a woman doesn’t see the Mars in herself. A woman with a strong Mars present in herself will find her Mars personality strong. Examples of a strong Mars: many well aspected planets to Mars, lots of planets in Aries, Mars in Aries, Mars in 1st house, Mars conjunct the Asc, etc.

For the purpose of this article I will write how Mars influences personality, whether you are a man or woman. This is not necessarily about attraction or anything. You may find some ring true to you and some do not.

Mars in Aries people can be quick to anger but they are quick to forget. They are fiery. Can have temper tantrums, especially during childhood. There is a likelihood that this person likes to be active and outdoors. They like to keep moving; always seems like they are in a hurry.Can be impatient and rude at times even if they aren’t trying to be. Can be mean at times. These people are blunt and direct and know what they want. They know how to achieve their goals. They are not afraid of starting projects; may come off as “pushy.” There is a high sex drive; likes things quick and dirty.

Mars in Taurus people can be slow to anger and can keep their anger pent up. When anger is finally released it comes out like a volcano! Mars in Taurus people are driven to make money and have stability. They are rocks. They can be very sensual and may like to be outdoors like an Aries Mars person, but appreciate nature and trails/birds/wildlife more so. Weight lifting, yoga can be a good way for these people to stay in shape. These people are generally more patient than the Aries Mars person.

Mars in Gemini has a nervous energy. Can be a busybody. Likes to talk during sex. Likes to talk in general. They like exercises in which they can talk to people; maybe running in groups. Running is a good exercise for these people, but maybe not long distances. Short, fast spurts of running in addition to other forms of exercise. Variety is  the spice of life and that includes sexual partners, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Needs to be busy and moving around.

Mars in Cancer can be moody. There could be angry outbursts when upset. Mars in Cancer people when they like sports they always prefer the home team. They are traditional. They are sensual, caring and like to meet their partners’ needs. They are very protective and will fight if anyone threatens their loved ones. Men with this placement may be attracted to very feminine women who would make good mothers. I think this placement would make a good father, if a man. Mars in Cancer person can be patriotic and would take great pride in fighting for their homeland.

Mars in Leo, like any fire Mars, is quick to anger and quick to respond. While a Mars in Aries may quickly let go of anger, a Mars in Leo person may hold on for a little longer. Mars in Leo is a fixed sign, so there is definitely some stubbornness and a slight tendency to hold grudges. While Mars in Leo may enjoy sports and being active, they also can have a laziness streak. Mars in Leo is driven by pride, their ego and looking good/keeping appearances. That being said, they can be very charming when they want to be! They are overall very likeable! It is possible that they get bossy.

Mars in Virgo does not get angry easily. While Virgo is a sensitive sign, they do not easily show. Mars in Virgo is not showy with emotions or anger for that matter. When they do get angry, it is often manifested in a more irritable manner. They can be perfectionists with athletics, their diets, sex, etc. If they are angry with you, they will pinpoint your every flaw and won’t make you forget it. But this is only because they can be sensitive themselves. Mars in Virgo likes order and structure and routine. Eating well is important to them, as well as having a routine for exercise.

Mars in Libra prefers balance and tries not to anger easily. They are driven by cooperation and friendliness. Mars in Libra can be very flirty, even if they have no intentions of being with you sexually. They are naturally very friendly and want to get along with people. Mars in Libra men tend to care about their appearance and like to appear clean cut. Mars in Libra may fight for equality and fairness in marriage, love, gender rights, etc. They may not be the most intense, but they can hold conversation and can be charming.

Mars in Scorpio can be very intense. Can be very moody. Anger can be an issue here, but not in the same way for a fire Mars. Can hold in anger until it explodes and becomes unpleasant for everyone. Can be brooding. High sex drive, though, even if he/she doesn’t get it all the time. Is very passionate. Can be a doting partner, but very intense and may scare people away. Can be powerful and delegate tasks easily. Do not want to cross this one when they are mad! I think this is a good placement for endurance sports, but may be taken to the extreme. May overdo exercise, or get obsessed with it. Can become obsessed with sex, or sexual partner/s.

Mars in Sagittarius is generally fun loving and likes to move around and be active. Like all fire Mars, they can be quick to anger but are quick to forget. Can be impulsive. Sports are generally a good placement for Mars in Sagittarius… sports of all kinds. Mars here is freedom loving and relaxed. A high sex drive here as with many fire signs. May be attracted to different lands or foreign men/women.

Mars in Capricorn can be icy. They are not quick to anger, but are generally more patient than other Mars signs. They are steady and work at their own pace. They have their own methods for doing things; they like to be busy and have order. They like to make money. They are not the most showy when it comes to sex and affection, but prefer to keep things private. Some things are best to be kept to the imagination. Not the most affectionate, but very loyal. Sexual encounters may come later in life, maybe a late bloomer. Can lack confidence in early years, but confidence grows as the person gets older. Likes structure. Good for endurance sports. If you are financially secure, this is a turn on.

Mars in Aquarius, like Capricorn, can be very cool and in some people cold. When they are angry, it can come off as indifference and aloofness. They do not like anger and are uncomfortable with emotions. Aquarius is a thinking sign. Aquarius is driven by fairness, justice, equality and will fight for the underdog. They can be fanatical about their political opinions. Could sleep with someone after discussing politics or sleep with a political “foe”. Intelligence is a turn on. They are caring yet cool. Sex lives can be erratic; may have  alot during a period of time, then none. They are freedom loving.

Mars in Pisces is driven by creativity. This is a creative position. A good position for creating art or music. Mars in Pisces is generally a soft position, but the downside can be moodiness, emotional ups and downs, and indecisiveness. Can be scared to ask for what they want. Can cheat on partners or be cheated on. Can appear soft or weak, even if person isn’t. Can be passive aggressive. Can be hot or cold. But these are people who are very caring and do not want to hurt anyone. They can be doting partners. People who make art or music is a turn on. Artists. Sometimes this can indicate drug use to escape but not always.

another coping post, people have told me to update it a bit and not limit the skills to delusions and auditory hallucinations. so now, the bigger and better coping post for psychotic symptoms (not just schizophrenia!) and i won’t do the “keep reading” thing, even though it’s a veeeery big post, because i kind of want people to see it. 

First off

try to manage your stress - psychotic symptoms has quite a lot to with stress. it’s also important for any mental health issue. 

don’t “self-medicate” - marijuana has shown to make psychotic symptoms worse and makes the risk of falling back into a psychosis bigger. other substances that can trigger/worsen/even cause psychotic symptoms are cocaine, speed, crystal meth, ecstasy, LSD, magic mushrooms and ketamine

take care of yourself - selfcare, mindfulsness, exercise, eat reguraly and healthy, sleep well… you get the idea.

know your early signs - it’s good to know when you start getting signs of another episode, so you can adjust your medication or talk to your doctor more often so you can avoid another episode. early signs may be sleeping less or more, isolation, being annoyed or thinking “is medication even necessery?” i

don’t isolate youself - this is a early symptom for me, before i get a psychotic episode, i often isolate myself and hate the world. that often lead to me being alone with my delusions and they get worse. so try to see friends often, especially when you have early signs. 

Auditory hallucinations

relax - voices are often caused by stress, so try to focus on your breathing.

distract yourself - focus on a task or watch tv.

ask your voices a question, that you dont know the answer to - if they dont know the answer the voices must be coming from within you.

background sounds - people have reported that listening to music or having the tv on sort of drowns the voices.

talk back to your voices - ask them to leave and say no if they order you to do things, remind yourself who’s in control.

know your triggers - it may help to keep a diary of when the voices are more active.

medication - modern anti-psychotics are 80-90% effective in revieling voices and will often make them disappear.

hum or sing - it drowns the voices as well as distract you.

read out loud - same with hum or sing

open your mouth really wide - i have no idea why or if this works, but you can try it! 

just a symptom - try to think of your voices as just a symptom, and not something that has a special meaning. after all, it’s just a random thought you can hear.


Visual hallucinations

this is quite a hard one, i haven’t experienced much visual hallucinations, so i don’t personally know what works and what doesn’t. and i don’t find much about it on internet. if you have any coping skills for visual hallucinations, let me know and i’ll include it! 

take a picture - if you’re unsure something is there you can try taking a picture 

turn away - or break eye contact, leave the room. if you don’t see it it’s not there 

shine on them  - if you see shadows you can try shining light on them from your phone flashlight 

medication - well, yeah, you get the idea. they work. 

five senses method -  acknowledge five things you can see; four things you can touch; three things you can hear; two things you can smell; one things you can taste. 

•  keep your pet near - if you have a pet it may help to tell you if something is real or not. if your pet doesn’t react you can assume it’s not real. 


Delusions

distraction - try to take your mind of it, even though it’s not that simple.

give them facts - checking facts and statistics may help

talk about them - in my case, the more i talked about my thoughts, the more unrealistic they seemed. That may not happen to everyone, but it is helpful to talk about them.

know your trigggers - delusions are also good to know when they’re more active.

medication - antipsychotis aren’t just helping for your hallucinations, but other symptoms as well - including delusions.


Disorganized speech

• count from one to three - start by thinking about (visualizing) the numbers in your head and focus on them before saying them aloud to align thought and speech centres of your brain.


Other symptoms 

trust me, i really wish i knew how to cope with the other symptoms. i don’t personally have much advice, and i can’t find much on internet, but if any of you know how to cope with these symptoms*, let me know and i’ll include it!

*some other symptoms are:

negative symtptoms - this could be not having energy, feeling indifferent towards things and gestures may decrease. 

catatonic behaviour - a bit more rare. it’s when the person stops moving and can be completely still for a long period of time. 

disorganized behaviour - appears as a decline in overall daily functioning, unpredictable or inappropriate emotional responses, behaviors that can appear bizarre and have no purpose, lack of impulse control. 

trouble thinking -  having too much thoughts or having slow thoughts

trouble functioning in social situations, isolation, trouble handling jobs or everyday chores. 


also, a big thank you to you guys who come with advice, you’re awesome 

I found this photo from high school (left) before I cared enough about myself to exercise and eat well. Fast forward to post graduate school and here I am, probably the healthiest I’ve been in my life. I’m still working hard, but it’s important to honor the journey and remember how far we’ve come.
I believe I weigh about the same in both photos (max 5 lb difference)

I Know Now What?

by Samsaran

I love Alan Watts. I have read most of his books and watched hours of his videos and learned a lot in the process. There is no doubt that Professor Watts, a philosopher, knew a great deal of the teachings of the Buddha. Yet, he died an early death of acute alcoholism. People who knew him described him as an intensely lonely and sad man.

How can this be?

You see for Watts the dharma was just an academic study. He did not follow the precepts He did not meditate. His is a valuable lesson for us. Knowing and doing are not the same thing. I can read all about fitness and health but if I don’t exercise and eat well all that knowledge is useless. Knowledge, if it is to be anything other than mental gymnastics, must be put into practice.

Don’t think for a moment that you are going to read yourself into inner peace.

In fact, often students spend their time trying to understand instead of doing the things they are taught. This is why I cringe when people speak of Buddhism as a “philosophy”. There is a great deal of philosophy in the Buddhist tradition but you could know it all and not be an inch closer to accomplishing what the Buddha was trying to convey.

The goal, if you can call it that, of Buddhist practice, is to eliminate the fear which we human beings are heir for the simple reason that our intellect allows us to see that we will age, sicken and die. We are afraid of losing that which we cherish all the while knowing that it will happen. Not might happen WILL happen.

So far as we “know” we have just this one life. Most people are still just animals concerned with food, shelter, sex and security, They are born asleep, live asleep and die asleep. All the while they live they are haunted by fear. This fear causes them to hate others, covet what they have and to take what they want. Their spirits never rise above the desires of the body.

Then as they begin to stir awake they are plagued by doubt and ask “is this all there is?” Asking this is the very first step on the path.

hey so i just wanna say that if your mental illness(es) make it hard to shower, or clean your room, or brush your hair, or brush your teeth, or take out the garbage, or do the laundry, or eat well, or exercise, or maintain a healthy sleep schedule, or do any other regular habit expected of independent individuals, you are NOT gross or lazy or pathetic! you are trying your best and while these are very important things that we should all strive for, if you aren’t fully able to do all of these as much as you wish you could, it is not your fault and anyone who judges or shames you is not treating you with the compassion and understanding you deserve.

you deserve people in your life who support you in improving yourself and genuinely help you face your challenges. and you deserve to treat yourself with kindness and understanding.

stay strong my friends ❤️

TBH I’m just gonna pretend like today is the first day of me ever trying to eat well and exercise with the goal of reaching the 160s by the end of the year.

New journey, who dis?

Today I will:

Eat the food I packed and brought to work with me….

Walk on my lunch break….

Go to the gym and hit legs….

Eat the dinner I already planned to make, without any extras…..

NOT eat all of the cookies and candy and cake in the break room!

BTS Scenario: Your Schoolgirl Outfit

Okay so I’ll be writing my very first BTS reaction! I decided to write a quick scenario if you looking super attractive in a schoolgirl outfit. I hope you like them! 

Masterlist


♡ Kim Seokjin

Originally posted by taegidda

You start making your way down to Professor Seokjin’s class and notice that you’re the first one there. It was the first day of the school year and you haven’t seen Professor since last year. You hoped he could recognize you.

You felt like your body slowly began to look in shape, all the exercising and healthy eating was well worth it! You spot Seokjin sitting on his desk reading a book. The sudden squeak of the doors made him jump.

“Oh hello Y/N-” He stops and his tracks and takes a closer look at you, “Oh wow hello Y/N..” His voice went from happy to flirtatious. He steps towards you and his eyes are glued to your body, “Wow you’ve changed tremendously Y/N, that uniform looks great on you.” You giggle at his response, “Well thank you Professor Seokjin, I’ve missed you a lot.” 

You turn to find a desk and all you could hear was Seokjin whisper “wow” over and over again.

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What You Need to Eat to Get Flat Abs

We wish we could tell you that exercise alone is enough to give you the flat-ab-ulous waist you seek. It’s not what you want to hear, but we’re here to offer some help! The secret to flatter abs is consuming fiber-rich foods that reduce bloating, protein to jumpstart your metabolism, and antioxidants to reinforce the efficiency of your ab workout. Here are some of the best foods you can eat to achieve killer abs:

·  Leafy Greens – Super low in calories, leafy greens are perfect for shrinking your waistline. Eating just one cup of broccoli makes up 20% of your daily fiber requirement while weighing in at only 55 calories! Most leafy greens also provide a good dose of calcium, so always keep spinach, kale, broccoli, and arugula on hand.

·  Eggs – Unless you suffer from high cholesterol, try eating one egg a day to keep you feeling fuller throughout the day. Eggs offer a balance of protein and fat that satisfies hunger so you can ditch complex carb-filled breakfasts like bagels.

·  Apples – The high fiber and water content of apples will help you feel full, so it’s a great idea to eat one or two apples a day. Yes, not only will it help you keep the doctor away but the weight off, too!

·  Almonds – Almonds are quite possibly the best on-the-go, extra-lean snacks due to their ability to block calories. Studies indicate that the makeup of their cell walls may help reduce the absorption of almonds’ fat, which is great news all around. Go for an ounce of these a day (just over 20 almonds).

·  Berries – By now you may have noticed a pattern that fiber is the answer to nearly everything diet-related. Berries are loaded with fiber so eat about half a cup of them daily—that’s only 30 calories! Any and all berries will do the trick.

There you have it. Supplement your crunches and planks with these healthy, nutritious foods. Before you know it, you’ll start to see sleek, sexy abs that will be ready just in time for summer.

What The Signs Should Do This Month (June)

Aries: Work on listening to what other people have to say and communicate with the ones you love most.

Taurus: Show the world what you have to offer!

Gemini: Start fresh! Clean your room and throw away anything you don’t need anymore.

Cancer: Rest! It’s okay to say no sometimes. Trust yourself and follow your intuition.

Leo: Make sure your friends no how much you appreciate them for being there. Also meet new friends in new places.

Virgo: If you want to get a new job or start your own business then now is the time you do it.

Libra: Remember to stay strong and appreciate everything you have in your life to be grateful for .

Scorpio: Go do something crazy that will scare you a bit. Also a good time to fix money issues.

Sagittarius: This Month is about love and meeting new people. Go on a date if you’re single or if not tell your lover how much you love them. Or fix relationship issues now if it’s not going well…

Capricorn: If you’re thinking about eating healthy and doing more exercise (even if it’s just walking) now is the time to make that commitment and stick to it!

Aquarius: Just have fun this month and let go of any stress!!

Pisces: Make sure to tell your family how much you love and appreciate them! Maybe even stay home instead of going out or be grateful for your home, friends and family.

A little bit of honesty

Ok friends so this week so far has had a lot of ups and downs.

I have eaten out for almost every single meal since Tuesday, I haven’t been counting calories, I’ve not gone to the gym, and honestly…I’m feeling a lot less stressed about life right now.

That all being said I need to kick it back into high gear. I just had some soup and I’m planning the rest of the week’s meals so I stop slipping up and ordering out. I’m gonna clean today, take down Halloween decorations, and get some laundry done.

Nonscale victory by the way!! Down one size in jeans! I’m now a size 20S in Torrid jeans :) Also, fun fact, yesterday I bought jeans for the first time in 5 YEARS. Can you believe it????

I’m going to make a yummy fall quinoa dish tonight and I’ll post pictures if it’s successful!!