So my mom told me that she thinks that im just coming out as bisexual because im "looking for attention"? She also said that she doesnt "get the vibe that i am attracted to girls" and she said shes right because she has asked herself questions about her sexuality... I dont know how to react but maybe shes right? Maybe ive convinced myself? Im so confused and i dont know how to deal with those comments... Thank you for answering :/
ONLY YOU know what attraction you do and don’t experience, sweetie. Nobody else ever gets to say what you are and what you aren’t, because they aren’t you. How could your mother possibly know what you feel? All she’s doing is repeating a lot of biphobic rhetoric and dismissing you, your feelings, and your identity.
Bisexuals are not attention-seeking, they are as normal as anyone else, because bisexuality is normal. Hell, there are more bisexual people than gay people! Less than 50% of teens identify as straight! Honestly, I wonder if your mother is herself bisexual and she’s been repressing it all this time because someone else told her this biphobic shit.
Generally speaking, people don’t “convince” themselves they’re queer - they usually try to convince themselves they’re straight. It’s perfectly normal to be confused, but you’re the only person in the worlds who knows if you’re attracted to girls. Nobody else gets to tell you that you’re making it up, because how the hell do they know? Are they you? Anyone who isn’t you can’t say shit about what you experience.
If you feel like you’re bisexual, then you’re bisexual as fuck and nobody else’s opinion matters. I hope your mother comes to realize that too and accepts you as you are.