to ask how I was doing and how my mom was

doctorshufflepuff  asked:

☝, 💉/✏️, 💬, 💃, 🍭, and any question you especially want to answer that hasn't been asked yet

1) how tall are you: five foot four inches. I am rather smol

2) do you have/want a tattoo: I don’t have one, but there’s two I’m thinking about getting: a grouping of stars (my sister’s getting a moon and my mom’s getting a sun) and the symbol of the federation from star trek, as a tribute to a friend of mine.

3) I wish…: I wish that no one ever has to think in the manner I do about anything at all because god it’s exhausting and god it hurts
I wish that someday I’ll know how to deal with my emotions in a way that doesn’t involve me being disgusted with myself for having them
And I wish that at the end of the day everyone has a story to tell, and I wish that happy endings (happy beginnings, really) are just around the corner for all of you lovely people 💚💚

whoops that got dark real fast
MOVING ON

4) can you dance: I used to be able to, I was the head captain of a competitive varsity dance team once. I’m a bit out of practice though

5) what’s your favorite candy: white rabbit!!!! I love it so much om g

hunk headcanons

because i love my son:

  • he’s an only child and his mother was always a little overprotective while his dad is just like….. Constant Dad Jokes that his mother eventually joins in on
    • a common occurrence in their house is anytime hunk forgets to do a chore, someone says in a lighthearted tone “how do you expect to get married if you can’t remember to do ___?”
    • sometimes hunk says it back to his parents ironically when they forget things he asked them to do and it’s the family meme
  • hunk: *unplugs the wifi router and plugs it back in*
    hunk’s parents: :o holy shit…. our son, the engineer
  • he was a sunshine child that always did well in school and had his art projects on the fridge next to his report card
  • hunk dips his fries in his milkshake
  • when he comes home from school in the spring, he’ll pick flowers and put them on the kitchen table for his mom
  • constantly forgets how tall he is and bumps his head on things a lot
  • he always makes personalized valentines for his classmates and slips them into their lockers in between class periods
  • every single day in the summer he goes up to anyone that’ll listen and points out all his tan lines
  • is the kind of person that would let you have some of his red starburst
  • “hunk do you have any ideas for a prank?” “um, we could just like… go home and…. not… do anything???”
  • he always smells good and carries around a tiny bottle of hand lotion and hand sanitizer so he’s always clean and his skin is so soft
  • anytime he sees a new movie he latches onto That One Quote and will randomly remember it and start laughing for like a week afterwards
  • makes a serious effort to say goodnight to anyone he’s messaging after 10 pm
  • every time he talks about the future: well one day when i have a dog

my insides are a cranberry bog. it’s snowing and i’m trying to teach you how to thread a needle. i want to tell you that dad left because he is who he is, but i also just want this moment to be between the two of us. once you asked me if i still believed in love after all of this. but i think mom’s been better ever since. do you remember how we all crowded together in one bed for days after. we were so worried about her we walked like tightrope performers, juggling breakfasts we burnt and dinners we made from soup cans. it’s been hard. we avoid the space he left. 

but i do believe in love, i want to tell you. your tongue sticks out while you stick the string through the loop. i believe in you. i believe we can fold ourselves right. he taught me the same skill, but i taught myself the whipstitch. i taught myself the tie off. i taught myself how to teach you. your hands shake sometimes. i try not to notice when mine do. i’m saying sometimes love looks like a bonfire and sometimes it looks like a dark house - but one we’re relearning how to light candles in. 

i show you how to sow. and one day we’ll all learn how to trust again.

Steven Universe Sentence Starters

Most of these are songs, but some are quotes~

  • “If every pork chop were perfect, we wouldn’t have hot dogs.”
  • “Love at first sight doesn’t exist, love takes time and love takes work.”
  • “All comedy is derived from fear.”
  • “Who cares how I feel? How you feel is bound to be much more interesting.”
  • “I never asked to be made!”
  • “I love cookie cat!”
  • “All I wanna be is someone who’s seen a giant woman.”
  • “Why do you have to look up to her?”
  • “I’m telling you for your own good and not because I’m-… jealous.”
  • “I can show you how to be strong in the real way.”
  • “I didn’t even get to know my Mom!”
  • “Squared pizza?! This place is evil!”
  • “I’m not like the other guys.”
  • “In this whole wide world there’s no one like you.”
  • “Could this night get any better?!”
  • “Isn’t it such a beautiful night?”
  • “Let yourself just be whoever you are.”
  • “We’re on the run.”
  • “Wish that I could see that there’s no better place than home…”
  • “I don’t care about what all the others say!”
  • “You people have too much money.”
  • “Well she’s a rip tide queen and she’s super mean.”
  • “I just showed them I don’t got the stuff.”
  • “I tried so hard to fly but I was thrown.”
  • “Have a little faith in me!”
  • “I just wanted to help…”
  • “Some… say I have no direction. That I’m a light speed distraction…”
  • “This is the final frontier.”
  • “Life in the stars is all I’ve ever known.”
  • “I know in my heart it’s been worth it all of the while.”
  • “They’re playing sword. Oh sorry, they’re playing with swords. Oh no they’re bleeding. And they’re dead. Don’t call again.”
  • “Oh! Um… I don’t exactly… eat.”
  • “Is that a weapon?”
  • “Welcome to earth.”
  • “Do you believe in destiny?”
  • “Close your eyes and leave the rest to me.”
  • “What are you doing here?”
  • “What are you doing to me?”
  • “You’re wearing that tee shirt!”
  • “What can I do for you?”
  • “What can I do that no one else can do?”
  • “You are so much fun~”
  • “I hadn’t planned on finding you… quite this entertaining~
  • “I like playing along~”
  • “I can’t believe I just got that on video!”
  • “Quit embarrassing yourself!”
  • “I’ve seen who you really are…”
  • “I ain’t gonna follow your rules.”
  • “Let’s go, just me and you.”
  • “Go ahead and try to hit me if you’re able.”
  • “I think you’re just mad cause you’re single~”
  • “I am made of love.”
  • “I’m stronger than you.”
  • “I won’t let you hurt my friends!”
  • “This is who I am.”
  • “I don’t want that for you…”
  • “What if somehow you get hurt?!”
  • “I have to protect you…”
  • “You’re better not knowing the trouble I’m in.”
  • “You don’t have to be a part of this; I don’t think I want you to be.”
  • “I don’t want you to worry about where I just was or what I just saw.”
  • “You don’t need this… You don’t need me.
  • “C’mon and share this jam with me!”
  • “I’d do it for you.”
  • “I’d do it for him/her.”
  • “Balance is the key.”
  • “Keep your eyes on me.”
  • “Concentrate! Don’t you want him/her to live?!”
  • “Just try and think about the life you’ll have… together after the war!”
  • “When you live for someone you’re prepared to die.”
  • “Maybe you’re better off with him/her…”
  • “I think he’s/she’s better for you.”
  • “I guess I got carried away…”
  • “Is there something I can do to make it up to you?”
  • “I see a tower built out of my mistakes and it all comes crashing down…”
  • “I don’t wanna do this!”
  • “I can’t help it if I make a scene~”
  • “I’ve got a pair of eyes that they’re getting lost in~”
  • “Everybody needs a friend and I’ve got you and you and you! So many I can’t even name them, can you blame me? I’m too famous~”
  • “Haven’t you noticed I’m a star?”
  • “What do I do with all this money, when all I want is you?”
  • “How do I spend all this money? I’d rather just spend time with you.”
  • “Let’s go to _____!!! And let’s bring _____!!!!”
  • “100 bucks? Gee thanks!”
  • “Dance with me!”
  • “NO!!!”
  • “After all those years I never thought I’d lose…”
  • “It’s over, isn’t it?”
  • “You won and he/she chose you…”
  • “Now they’re gone…”
  • “Who am I now in this world without him/her?!”
  • “What does it matter?! It’s already done!”
  • “Why don’t you talk to each other?”
  • “I know you’re trying to avoid it, but I don’t know why.”
  • “You might not believe it, but you’ve got a lot in common. You really do.”
  • “You both love me and I love both of you.”
  • “If I were you, I’d hate me too.”
  • “I don’t hate you…”
  • “I now you both need it, someone who knows what you’re going through.”
  • “_____ don’t cost nothing.”
  • “Don’t tell me, sing me!”
  • “Look at everything you do. Look at everything you are. It’s incredible, as incredible as you.”
  • “It’s a full time job admiring all the ways that you’re inspiring.”
  • “I think I need a little change.”
  • “I always did believe that love is all you need to be a happy man/woman.”
  • “Here comes a thought.”
  • “If I could begin to be half of what you think of me, I could do about anything, I could even learn how to love.”
  • “I’d like to learn how to love like you.”
  • “I always thought I might be bad now I’m sure that it’s true; Cause I think you’re so good, but I’m nothing like you.”
  • “Look at you go! I just adore you! I wish that I knew what makes you think I’m so special…”
Chronical Illness Translation: I'm okay

When you are chronically ill, your definition of “I’m doing okay” or “I’m alright” has to change. When people ask you, “How are you?” or “How are you feeling?”, the answer is actually, usually, rather unwell… but you don’t want to make things awkward or make the topic of your health part of the conversation so you either say “I’m okay” or “I’m alright”.

Just now I had a moment where my mom called me and asked me how I was feeling, the truth is I’m sinking into bed with severe fatigue, muscle cramps, joint pain, some nausea/migraine, and labored breathing & dizziness but because my pain levels are not screamingly intolerable, I answered “I’m alright”; to which she asked if I could go out and run an errand.

I had to all of a sudden clarify, “I’m alright as in I don’t need an ambulance at this very moment, I’m stable but I’m not currently physically able to do a task like that.”

You know throam has got me fucked up cause I was seriously considering buying a Jackie, Me, and this Lady t-shirt and my mom was like “oh, what’s that?” And I told her it was a band and she asked to hear some of their music and… how do I explain I’m buying the shirt of a fictional band from a three-book long gay fanfic about Ryan ross and Brendon urie in the 70’s? How do I explain this?

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12x06 | Celebrating the Life of Asa Fox

Let me talk about what’s wrong with this scene, since at this point I have little hope this will actually be dealt with in the episode.

I can’t believe I have to state this again and again, but just so that there are no misunderstandings: I heavily empathise with Mary’s need for space. I fully get how awkward it is for her to come back from the dead and step into the mom role for two grown men who’re essentially strangers to her.

But here’s how the writers are twisting Mary’s perfectly understandable issues into something unsympathetic and horribly selfish: Nothing she’s done so far has allowed her to get to know Sam and Dean better, to overcome her issues with them. John’s journal contains John’s history, which monsters he killed, which chicks he banged. It doesn’t explain how Sam and Dean became the men they are today. Dean is perfectly justified in pointing out Mary should ask them instead. Yet her answer “This is something I needed to do alone” shows that her interest lies solely in finding out what happened to her friends, her family and John. People who are dead. And again, I think it’s necessary for Mary to catch up on what happened to them, but she’s got the rest of her life to do that. Meanwhile, she is missing out on yet more of Sam and Dean’s lives than she already has.

I doubt the writers are aware of this, but in all her interactions with Sam and Dean this season, she’s displayed about zero interest in them. Her questions to them were mostly about John or new technology. In fact, if I recall correctly, the only bit of personal information about her sons that piqued her interest was when Dean mentioned that Sam went to Stanford.

So please, dear writers, instead of making this all about how Dumb Dean Doesn’t Do Emotions*, actually focus on the story you’ve been telling so far and work with that.

*I think I’ve finally realised why there hasn’t been a single reference to how Dean saved the world in the S11 finale. Because how could they expect us to buy this emotionally constipated Dean crap if they actually reminded us that Dean resolved a cosmic conflict because he was the only one willing to listen to Amara, the only one who didn’t invalidate her feelings?

I rmr in elementary school I thought I had a crush on someone bc like that’s what kids do ?? and then I had a moment of panic and felt rly guilty bc I was like “what if having a crush is haram???” so I asked my mom if liking someone was haram and she told me “pyaar hai na? pyaar kabhi b haram nahi hota hai” (basically love is never haram)

and so now when I think about all of the ways that people are made to feel ashamed of who they love, I think of that moment. love? love can never be haram.

amosaicofmagic  asked:

Hey, tumblr mom! Since everyone is asking you about food can I ask your opinion on frying pans? We need to replace ours and my husband is really into the idea of buying cast iron frying pan. It seems like to much work for me, tough. I've always used either stainless steel or teflon ones. What do you think? Is it worthy? And if you had to choose between teflon or stainless steel which would you buy?

Oh, and I was going to mention it in the other ask I sent but forgot. I have IBS and one thing that really helps me is chilean boldo infusion. Idk how easy it to find it where you live (the fresh leaves work best), but it’s something a lot of south-americans use to treat hepatic and gastrointestinal issues. (Fun fact: the nurse at my high school used to have a bottle of concentrated cold boldo infusion in the fridge to give to students who were hangover)

Thank you for that last little bit, it’s something I will bring up with my allergist/many doctors as a quick google tells me it could also help my gallstone/bile production issues. So thank you :)

And ooooh god not teflon, anything but teflon, firstly because I don’t like how they cook/retain heat, and secondly because of some of the health concerns that comes with what happens when teflon starts to break down and you start eating it/breathing it in. Y’all can call me a mad hippy over that if you want but when your immune system is as fragile as mine you’ll avoid anything at all that might harm it.

Both stainless steel and cast iron have their merits. 

Cast Iron

You are right in that the cast iron takes a little more work to upkeep—initially. After it’s been seasoned a few times and you don’t do things like soak it in water or scrub it with lemon juice, it’s going to become practically indestructible. There’s a reason you can still buy cast iron skillets in antique stores that just need a little bit of salt and oil to get them back in working order. If you maintain it right, your cast iron will likely outlive you by quite a few decades. I wipe mine clean after every use using waterand  a non acidic soap, dry it on a high heat, and then season lightly with some oil after each use. Once it starts to smoke, that’s you, you’re done seasoning. You only really have to do the salt and oil scrub if it loses the coating or if something gets burned onto it, or if you have rust spots, which happen form not being properly sealed. 

I will say, cast iron is hard to get used to working with at first, because of how differently you have to manage the way it conducts heat. Cast iron is great at retaining heat, which is what makes it great for searing meat and yes, even baking in, but you need to get it hot first, which can require about ten minutes of prep over a hot stove trying to ensure even heat coverage. (I throw mine in the oven for 20 mins)

That might seem like a lot of work, but given how well it retains the heat after that, it actually cooks things better. With stainless steel the output of heat is enough to sear the outside of something, but to cook say, a chicken in it (yes you can cook a whole chicken in a skillet) you’d need to keep it on the heat for longer for the heat to reach the middle, resulting in chewy over tough food. With cast iron, the heat output from it is so much better that it’s already starting to cook the rest of the bird while you’re searing it, resulting in less cook time, and hopefully a more juicy meat—as well as making the outside very nice and crispy. Cast iron is great for making things crispy.

That and you know, you can fight the Fae folk with it if the need arises.

Stainless Steel

There’s a common misconception that you can just throw things into a stainless steel pan and it’ll be fine. But the truth is if you want to maintain your stainless steel in good working condition, you will want to make sure it’s evenly oiled before any food touches it (Ask ETD about the time he made popcorn and ruined my pot because there wasn’t enough oil around the SIDES of the pot so the heat just obliterated everything and I had to buffer the pot to get it back to working condition, he felt so bad lol) and make sure that it is adequately preheated. Otherwise your food is just going to burn and stick to the base and it’s going to be a mother fucker to get it off. I’ve seen far too many people burn away the caramelization going on in their stainless steel pans because they don’t know how to heat/preheat with it. (note if your caramelization does get stuck, loosen it up with some water or better yet some stock, get that flavor back in your food yo!) Other than that, yea, once you get used to how stainless steel works and retains heat, it is lower energy when it comes to maintenance vs cast iron. Just don’t use cold salt water in them, or you risk pitting the pans. (As I have previously talked about)

Because you have mentioned you have IBS, I will stress the importance of trying to buy as high quality stainless steel as you can, as not all stainless steel is made equal. 

Surgical stainless steel is the safest as it is non porous, while a lot of the cheap stainless steel you can pick up (I’m thinking of places like Walmart and Target) can break down and leech into food during the cooking process. Stainless steel is an alloy made from a mix of metals including iron, chromium (is what keeps it from corroding) and nickel to name but a few components, and given nickel is a high allergy metal you don’t want that going into the foods of people who may be sensitive/allergic. (I had a friend find this out the hard way that that is what was going on with her)

The way I was taught to test the quality of the pan is by holding a magnet up to it. If it sticks? It’s typically going to be higher in nickel than you want it to be and could cause a possible health risk for people with nickel allergies. Nickel is also a carcinogenic and considered worse than aluminium which everyone and their dog is now trying to get away from because of the metal being linked to cancers and altzheimers, so, just something to keep in mind seen as how you already have a compromised gut <3 

(Also to those of you reading this now who are about to go check your pans: if it sticks? It’s not a cause for panic. Although if you have a known nickel allergy and you keep getting sick and you have no idea why…you may want to consider replacing your pans.)

There is also a third option available to you, which is ceramic pans. Which honestly have become my favorite frying pans to cook with. Due to their low metal content they will not work on induction stove tops, but if you’re using electric or gas you’re good to go.

Ceramic

They still don’t have the slippy non stick you get from teflon pans where flipping a pancake is akin to wielding a projectile weapon, but given how ceramic heats up and retains heat, they are pretty non stick and it makes them ideal for cooking with a lot of things. You also generally shouldn’t use metal utensils on them, because you can damage the glaze, but plastic, wood and silicone are fine.

They’re sort of like the easier to maintain version of cast iron in that regard and use less oil to cook with. (I personally would never fry eggs on stainless steel, meat and veg sure, but eggs need a surface that is more forgiving and ceramic was a god damn revolution to me. I speak from over a decade’s worth of experience of making breakfasts in restaurants and cafes) They are also great for throwing in the oven, and using as shallow casserole dishes, provided you make sure they are listed as oven safe. (Mine is good up to 350′f)

Due to the materials  they are made with, they are also pretty damn sturdy and hard to break, and you also can’t damage them by soaking them in water, which is also nice. You should not however cook on anything higher than a medium-high heat on them, whacking your heat up as far as you can with a ceramic pan is going to cause issues (it will cause issues with a lot of pans tbh, but you can generally get away with it for boiling water, just not in a ceramic pot), like breaking down the glaze quicker and ruining the non stick. You also should not take it from a hot stove and throw it in the sink right after cleaning. You really shouldn’t do that with any cooking utensil, but especially do not do it with ceramic as you might crack or even explode it. And no one wants that. 

Again, like stainless steel, not all ceramic pans are made equal and some will be made from cheap material/coated with an extra non stick layer to compensate for this, and they will break down faster/ruin your food, so keep that in mind if you do decide you want to look into them. Between the three, ceramic is in my experience the best, most easily maintained non stick without the health risks of teflon. It’ll also cost less in the long run, because you wont have to replace the pan as often as you would a teflon one.

I currently have the Green Pan Lima frying pans, which tbh I found a lot cheaper in an outlet mall than Amazon currently has it listed for, and I think Target might be selling them right now too for cheaper. It’s an excellent pan and I can get really crispy results with it due to how well it holds heat. I’ve also used it to bake with.

I have also used the Cuisinart ceramic range, which you can use metal on, but I sort of found the heat retention to be not as good as Green Pan Lima.

And then there’s also the Green Life range which tends to be cheaper and rather cute, even if it doesn’t feel quite as sturdy in my hands. (They currently have both the large and small pan on sale on Amazon for $30, which is pretty good)  I’ve got my eye on their ceramic bake ware sets though. I’m intrigued to see how they’d work out compared to my metal tins.

Anyway, I hope some of that was helpful for you, in weighing your options. Ultimately it’s about personal preference. I love all my pans, cast iron, stainless steel and ceramic, but it really depends on how much maintenance you are willing to put in, and how much you are willing to spend.

As for the rest of you, you now know more about cookware than you likely want to, but who knows, it might be useful for you one day :)

Question for Jewish trans people or just people who know their shit about Judaism

So I’m a trans boy, and I wasn’t out when I was 13. So I had a bat mitzvah, and it’s honestly one of my worst memories because of how dysphoric and miserable it made me. I had to wear a dress and my mom wouldn’t let me cut my hair until after the party, my dad told everyone how much of a “beautiful strong woman” I was in his speech, and I barely invited anyone because of how miserable i knew it would be, and it was. But I really don’t want what is supposed to be an integral part of my life as a Jewish man to be one of my worst most dysphoria inducing memories, so I guess what I’m asking is, can I get a redo? Does anyone else do that? I shouldn’t have had a bat mitzvah, I should have had a bar mitzvah and I still want to have one. Does anyone else do this? Am I just being weird?

two girls, one bed.
we are five and i show you my new doll and you smile and say it’s pretty and the sunlight hits your face making you look like an angel so when you ask me to play with the doll i don’t even complain and tell you you can keep it. you laugh and hug me and i feel happy.


two girls, one bed.
we are eleven and doing our homework when you ask me whether i like any boys from our school. the question makes me nervous and anxious and my stomach feels weird but i push it down and just shrug it off. you tell me about david and how you two hung out at the library and how he kissed your cheek and you called him from your mom’s phone and talked for two hours. i don’t know david and i don’t think i even want to. one week later i see you two holding hands in english class and i feel angry.


two girls, one bed.
we are sixteen and listening to some music and you sing along when your phone starts ringing and you ask me to turn the music down. it’s your boyfriend and you laugh at everything he says and promise to meet him tonight at the park. you hang up with an ‘i love you’ and i leave the room to get some water though i’m not thirsty and my hands are shaking and i can’t drink without spilling it. later that night i sneak you into my room and you smell like smoke and beer and you tell me about how good it feels to kiss someone. your words leave a bitter taste in my mouth and when you fall asleep i kiss your shoulder and feel guilty.


two girls, one bed.
we are twenty and you are crying because yet another boy broke your heart and i try to tell you that it’s not you, that you are amazing and beautiful and kind and that not a single one of them deserves you and i’m crying too. we fall asleep in each other’s arms and my dreams are soft and quiet, filled with fairy lights and roller coasters. when i wake up you are looking at me and something feels different and when you kiss me i understand and i feel happy again.

—  cotton candy taste // m.p.
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To quote Elizabeth Holly: ‘I’M NOT CRYING YOU’RE CRYING!‘

I wanted to put more things, like eliza showing up asking philip2 who whe was talking to, but the post would bee too long?
and instead of asking “how’s mom doing?” I thought in “How’s everyone doing” so little philip could answer with “everyone’s fine, but mom says angelica(Hamilton) is sick” referring to her mental health after philip’s death.

Oh,

and the “make me proud” is a reference from blow us all away  ‘’be smart, make me proud son’‘

Hey mom, sorry I’m asking you this when it seems like you’re in a lot of pain, but do you know how to stop yourself from feeling like shit about your teeth? As in, people always assume that you have bad teeth because you’re lazy and gross and I just?????? I floss, I brush my teeth like everyone else, yet I have to deal with cavities every year and I’ll need a root canal treatment in december which I’m terrified of. Just, yeah. A lot. (also can you not show my username? I’m quite ashamed of it).            

Oh bb, I wish I had an answer for you. I’m currently going through the same thing. It doesn’t matter how many times you explain something to certain types of people, they’re going to hold it up and measure it against themselves as the gold standard for how Things Should Be, and if you fail to meet that criteria, well. It must be Your Fault.

Which is entirely untrue.

For instance with my teeth, it’s not so much an issue of personal care and hygiene, or even what I eat or drink, but rather I had extremely bad dentists growing up and now all the work I had done has gone nova in my mouth. I’ve had 13 fillings replaced in the last year, two root canals and a possible three extractions required to get me out of this hellish pain. Every single dentist has been skeptical about how well I look after my teeth until they get in there and see the extent of the botch work. And then they’re just amazed I have any teeth at all.

Some people also just have poor genetics, and they can’t help what happens with their teeth no matter how hard they try. Lord knows, I floss and brush three times a day, I have done since my teens. But I’m still sitting here with a mouth full of shrapnel like nobodies business.

And that’s the crux of it. It’s nobody’s business but yours. If you know the truth about you, then ultimately that’s what matters. If others want to make assumptions…*shrug* let ‘em. Those assumptions don’t impact the truth. You don’t have to fight them over it if you don’t want to. You can just simply move on and let them go on looking for ways to make themselves feel better because their lives are so empty they need to pick on others to feel valid.

In the end their good opinion is not needed for you to be valid or for your pain and discomfort to matter. It might take a while but soon you’ll develop the wonderful inability to give a fuck about the gross mean things people say.

Just you take care of you. That’s all you can do.

anonymous asked:

Fuck Management: I work for the same company as my mom, but I'm 23 (ie. very much a legal adult), and it pisses me off how they never tell me anything, they always go to my mom. If my managers want to gush about how good of a job I'm doing? They tell my mom. Ask about my schedule availability? They ask my mom. Talk about training me up for a higher position? They tell my mom. Like.. am I in high school again? I feel disrespected, honestly. HR does this too.

Vets X-ray Pets, Not Wallets

Early on in my career I saw an elderly Golden Retriever owned by a single mom with 3 kids. The entire appointment she kept saying how she barely had money to feed her kids and she really hoped this visit wouldn’t be expensive. Her dog ended up having multiple abdominal masses, one of which appeared to be bleeding into his abdomen. She was devastated by the news and then said her mother would be coming in to help cover the cost of the visit. When she asked me what we should do the first thing I thought about was how difficult it would be for her to pay for surgery and chemotherapy. I thought about her kids not getting new school clothes because all the money went to pay for their dog’s surgery. So I told her the best, most kind option was euthanasia. She agreed and we euthanized the dog, they took the body home to bury it.

Several days later my hospital manager got a very angry phone call from the owner. She had been speaking with a friend whose dog had many of the same problems and had undergone surgery. The owner was furious that I had not even offered surgery as an option. She would have borrowed the money from her mother had she known. I euthanized her dog without discussing other options because I thought I was helping her and her children.

I have never made that mistake again, much to the chagrin of some clients. When presented with an estimate for care some people become angry and ask me what makes me think they have X amount of money to spend on a hamster. Other people laugh because to them, it’s just a cat and they would never imagine spending that amount. But lots of people don’t even bat an eye and tell me to proceed.

My job is to offer the absolute best care for animals, not to try and guess what people can and want to pay for. There is usually a plan B, C, and sometimes D and E if A is too expensive. Always keep that in mind when going to the vet before you become upset at the cost of something. There is nothing wrong with saying you just cannot afford it and you’d like to know the next best option.

Also remember though that sometimes, there is no option B. Unfortunately there are some cases when it’s either option A or euthanasia. Not because the vet doesn’t want to help but because the nature of the disease or problem requires a certain treatment. Euthanasia is far from being the cowards option or the option of someone who doesn’t care, sometimes it really is the kindest choice.

Discuss all of your concerns with your veterinarian and be honest about what you can and cannot afford and we will do our best to help you.

Its not really a fuck anyone story, I honestly was pleasantly surprised. I’ve been having a really rough time lately with my mom in the hospital an hour away, having no car, being in school and working full time, so I’ve been an ass occasionally. I’ll admit it. So yesterday a woman in the drive thru was being extremely rude at the order box, and I was being rude right back, so when she got to the window she proceeded to call me a rude cunt. I shrugged it off because I can’t say I care what the crackheads in my town think of me. Today i was working front counter and i had a customer ask me to get a manager for him and I thought “oh great I’m gonna get called a cunt again”
he proceeds to rave to my manager about how good my customer service skills were, and how they should do anything to keep me, and if they didn’t, he’d hire me at one of his restaurants, because apparently he’s a district manager for one of the other fast food chains in town.

One thing I learned through all of this is that you gotta love yourself. When you love yourself, you don’t rely on anybody for love. And when you don’t rely on anybody else for love and you just appreciate their love as an additive, as a bonus to your life, then you’re powerful. You got the power to do anything; can’t nothing really hurt you or faze you. It may rough you up a little bit but you’re gonna keep it moving. That’s what my mom taught me. She taught me how to take care of myself.
—  Big Sean (when asked about his last breakup)

The heartbreaking thing about moonlight is how everyone forced Chiron to put on this armor and then Kevin calls him out and he’s like what did you think I’d turn out to be like do you think I wouldn’t have problems from being bullied my whole life? Judging what someone had to become in order to stop being hit and getting no apology. Your only mentor destroying your only family and the silence when Chiron’s mom asks if he still loves her and that feeling of loving someone but not liking them and hating them bc they’re the one person you’re suppose to be able to count on and Kevin failing to stand up against those bullies and not apologizing that he helped create this Chiron character and then learning your childhood love could so easily make a baby with a woman when you thought you two were the same and how everyone so easily accepts the falls in life and knows who they are or pretends to know and Chiron just clearly can’t even tho he tries and when he’s a grown man, there’s this depressing sense that he’s too old to not have figured it out yet so when is he gonna? As his whole body is still on that beach with Kevin, he hasn’t moved in years

Every time I think about having to be an adult I get so mad. Like I want to call around to see if I can get lower car insurance but I literally have no idea what I would be saying. Besides “I want cheaper car insurance”. Like wtf is a premium, wtf does 100/300/100 mean, how much insurance do i need???