tmvs

“First of all, did you know I was adopted?” I asked, looking at her face to see if she was about to lie.

“You know I can’t lie to you! Of course, I knew you were adopted. You don’t even look like us. I thought you would figure it out by now,” Eve laughed.

“I can’t believe you never told me!” I slapped her.

“Well, I didn’t want to hurt your feelings. Plus it’s really obvious that you’re not related to us because you have blond hair,” Eve said, looking at her hands.

“Oh well, whatever!” I said, laughing. I wasn’t going to let that ruin my day.

…well that was a rollercoaster from start to finish

men: probably they have emotions

So I’ve been thinking about that last tmv quote about men “not being emotional” and how it stands in stark opposition to like.  All the behavior of the men in these books whatsoever.

And I think there’s an interesting observation buried in there.

The men aren’t interpreted as emotional because, under this worldview, men don’t do feelings, feelings are just things that happen to them.  It is the job of the women around them to direct and manage these feelings-events.

This explains why Kristella is constantly feeling guilty for “causing” Garrid or Jake or whoever it is today to have bad!feels over circumstances beyond her control.  (or like.  completely legitimate things that they did and should feel  bad about.)  She has failed to predict the feelings-weather!  A feelings-natural-disaster has occurred on her watch.  She is a bad feelings-meteorologist and now there are innocent male feelings!victims everywhere.

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I found him in the library. He was alone, looking at a picture. He was sitting in the chair with his hand on his chin, which made me feel as if whatever he was looking at was about me.

normally I’d quibble about how these thoughts connect, but to be fair it’s a pretty reasonable assumption in this book