Extroverted Thinking (Te):I want proof. I strive for self-evident achievement - awards, public recognition, money. I need to show you I’m right in a way everyone can understand. There’s no time for theory; we need a plan of action. What good is it if it doesn’t solve the problem? If hard science can disprove my claim, then I’m wrong. I think logic is more or less universal, therefore right and wrong are very clear.
Introverted Thinking (Ti):I want knowledge. I strive for personal understanding - satisfaction, collecting odd tidbits, feeling like an expert. I only need to know that I’m right, even if I don’t show it. There’s no need for practicality; we need to make sure this is conceptually sound. What good is it if it doesn’t have internal consistency? If you can show me logically that I’m wrong, then I’m wrong. I don’t need proof. I think logic is highly personal, therefore right and wrong are often a matter of opinion.
Fe vs Fi
What they have in common: Morality.
Extroverted Feeling (Fe):I want harmony. I strive for public approval - appreciation, respect, admiration. I need the atmosphere to be pleasant and appropriate for everyone. I’m willing to hide my true opinions if they would upset others; what they think of me is more important than what I want to say. Everyone is more or less the same; it’s easy for me to put myself in someone else’s shoes.
Introverted Feeling (Fi):I want authenticity. I strive for self-approval - knowing I did the right thing, that I was honorable, just, and fair. I need the atmosphere to be pleasant and comfortable for me. I’m willing to displease people if I need to express what I truly believe; what I want to say is more important than what they think of me. Everyone is unique and incomparable; it’s necessary for me to understand where someone is coming from before I can empathize.
Se vs Si
What they have in common: Fact.
Extroverted Sensing (Se):I want stimulation. I strive for things that are pleasing to my senses - food, drink, sports, luxury. I need to be surrounded by a physically appealing atmosphere. I am constantly aware of what is going on around me, whether it is changes in a person’s expression or the passing scenery. I notice all the details. It matters less to me whether something is familiar than whether it is aesthetically pleasing.
Introverted Sensing (Si):I want familiarity. I strive for things that remind me of my past - souvenirs, stories, traditions, our old home. I need to be surrounded by a physically comfortable atmosphere. I am constantly aware of the difference between my current environment and the way it used to be, whether it is the new corner store or my daily routine. I compare all the details to my internal ‘database.’ It matters less to me whether something is aesthetically pleasing than whether it is familiar.
Ne vs Ni
What they have in common: Abstraction.
Extroverted Intuition (Ne):I want novelty. I strive for possibility - ideas, potential, things that sound good in my head. I need to have lots of information to explore. I have a ‘mental playground’ of facts extrapolated from things I have experienced or read. I am constantly aware of what things could be. My thoughts often feel like they lack structure because they branch out in ways that are hard to explain. There are essentially many ways to look at an issue, and many possible solutions.
Introverted Intuition (Ni):I want vision. I strive for insight - the universal truth, the goal, the central meaning. I need to have information relevant to my interests to explore. I have an organized mental space wherein I’m highly aware of what I should be doing to reach the next step. My thoughts often feel like they are pointing in one direction, even if I can’t explain this direction. There are essentially a few ways to look at an issue, which can be narrowed down to one solution.
On National Bow Tie Day, we highlight some 19th-century precursors of this natty neckwear. While dapper men skillfully created decorative knots from kerchiefs or long ties, the less deft could opt for pre-tied versions. Which would you choose?
Featured author - Tessa Dare, When a Scot Ties the KnotOn the cusp of her first London season, Miss Madeline Gracechurch was shy, pretty, and talented with a drawing pencil, but hopelessly awkward with gentlemen. She was certain to be a dismal failure on the London marriage mart. So Maddie did what generations of shy, awkward young ladies have done: she invented a sweetheart.
A Scottish sweetheart. One who was handsome and honorable and devoted to her, but conveniently never around. Maddie poured her heart into writing the imaginary Captain MacKenzie letter after letter… and by pretending to be devastated when he was (not really) killed in battle, she managed to avoid the pressures of London society entirely.
Until years later, when this kilted Highland lover of her imaginings shows up in the flesh. The real Captain Logan MacKenzie arrives on her doorstep — handsome as anything, but not entirely honorable. He’s wounded, jaded, in possession of her letters… and ready to make good on every promise Maddie never expected to keep.
Something New: The Unlikely Lady by Valerie Bowman The past few years have brought a number of exciting new historical romance authors, among them Valerie Bowman with her “racy Regency romps.” The Unlikely Lady, Bowman’s newest release, features some of my favorite character types: the bluestocking and the jaded rake. Miss Jane Lowdnes is a bookish, sharp-witted heroine whose penchant for teacake endeared her to me at once. Lord Garrett Upton is a returned soldier with a wicked case of survivor’s guilt and a wicked temperament to match. The two bicker at every opportunity.
Determined to never wed, Jane attempts to create a scandal at a masquerade ball. Her goal is to render herself completely unmarriageable. Unfortunately, the handsome, masked man she chooses for one illicit — and blissful — kiss turns out to be none other than her arch enemy, Lord Garrett. Jane and Garrett’s friends conspire to turn their accidental dalliance into a love affair, in a twist that plays off the beloved Shakespeare comedy Much Ado about Nothing.
This is a delightful tale of two stubbornly imperfect, yet perfectly matched, people and their tumultuous path toward love.
A New Discovery: A Bollywood Affair by Sonali Dev Sonali Dev burst onto the publishing scene in a big way in 2014 with this beautiful romance, which was showered with all kinds of critical acclaim. I somehow missed reading A Bollywood Affair until recently, however — and I wanted to kick myself for not reading it earlier!
Successful Bollywood film director Samir Rathod must travel to Ypsilanti, Michigan, of all places, to find his brother’s arranged bride and formally dissolve the childhood marriage agreement. When he arrives, however, he finds Mili to be anything but the greedy gold-digger he expected. She’s living a humble grad-student life, and her smiles and innocent friendship pierce through his jaded exterior.
Throughout, Dev weaves in details of Indian and Indian American culture, celebrations, and food — oh heavens, the food! — that are as vivid and deft as her descriptions of romantic emotion. And at its core, this book holds a familiar story that resonates the world over: the jaded, powerful playboy who finds the one woman who can soothe his demons… and she happens to be the one woman he can never have. Their gradual romance is passionate, tender, and written in such beautiful prose it made my heart ache.
I couldn’t turn the pages fast enough, and I can’t wait for Dev’s next book, The Bollywood Bride.
Recommended Read: Looking for Trouble by Victoria Dahl Victoria Dahl is one of my favorite authors. Her books are always fun, sexy, emotional, and compulsively readable. She writes both contemporary and historical romance, and I’ve loved reading both — but her 2014 release, Looking for Trouble, had me at hello. The heroine is a librarian (my own original profession)!
Living under the shadow of an old family scandal, Sophie Heyer hides her bad-girl streak beneath a prim, vintage-chic librarian wardrobe. As for the hero… wow. Tattooed, muscled, and cocky as anything, Alex Bishop is sex on wheels. Two wheels, to be exact — the ones attached to the big, rumbling motorcycle that brings him into Jackson Hole, Wyoming. These two are haunted by small-town secrets, gossip, and a whole lot of family drama. Their blistering-hot affair begins as a much-needed distraction for them both, but before long Sophie and Alex find themselves sharing more than just passion. They’re falling in love.
And if you can resist an inked, leather-clad hero who shows up with a kitten tucked in the crook of his arm, you are a stronger woman than I.
A Desert Island Keeper: The Duke and I by Julia Quinn If you’re new to romance, there’s never been a better time to discover (or rediscover) the Bridgertons, Julia Quinn’s beloved series of warm, witty romances — each featuring one of the eight Bridgerton siblings.
Yes, eight siblings — and a more chaotic, charming, loving family you couldn’t imagine. Daphne Bridgerton, the heroine of The Duke and I, is sweet, brave, and caring — just the kind of young woman you’d want to be your best friend. In fact, that’s her problem. She’s always the friend, never the sweetheart. When Simon Bassett, the new Duke of Hastings, proposes they have a mock courtship, Daphne jumps at the chance. At first, it works out well for them both — Simon can avoid fortune-hunters, and Daphne is finally the belle of the ball. But as the attraction between them becomes quite real, Simon’s resolve to never marry is tested.
Daphne is a wonderful heroine, and the Bridgertons are a delight, but it’s the titular Duke who brings me back to this book again and again. Shamed and neglected by his father for a childhood stutter he’s now overcome, Simon carries a great deal of mistrust and deep craving for affection. He’s the perfect blend of strong and vulnerable, and he needs Daphne so deeply. When his defenses finally crumble, and he accepts all the love she has to give…? Dear reader, I cried. Noisily.
It takes a rare book to make me laugh out loud and sob messily, and that’s why The Duke and I is one of my favorite romances.
Tessa Dare is the New York Times-bestselling, award-winning author of more than a dozen historical romances. A librarian by training and a booklover at heart, Tessa makes her home in Southern California, where she shares a cozy, cluttered bungalow with her husband, their two children, and a pair of cosmic kittens.