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Black Girls 101 🍒

I’m making this post specifically for my black babes. Repost this to uplift a black girl that may need this.


1.) Having darker skin does not make you ugly. Baby girl, you are so beautiful.


2.) Don’t have loose curly hair? that’s fine. You are still so so gorgeous with your naps and all.


3.) Don’t take “pretty for a black girl” as a compliment. You’re pretty POINT BLANK PERIOD. “For a black girl” is unnecessary.


4.) You aren’t obligated to subject to blatant racism. If someone talking shit about your people, FUCK EM UP.


5.) Dye your hair all sorts of colors. All colors work for all shades, they don’t discriminate.


6.) It’s okay to be in an interracial relationship.


7.) Your life matters.


8.) If you can’t handle having natural hair, sis that’s okay. You shouldn’t feel ashamed, because you get a perm.


9.) To my mixed girls, you’re still black. Don’t let people make you feel like you ain’t.


10.) LOVE YOURSELF BABY

Tips for transgirls

I’ve seen so many of these posts for trans boys but never for the lovely ladies, so here are some tips to feel a bit more feminine if you’re not out

Glossy chapstick, if asked about it say you just have chapped lips and it works well, or if you want a tint and can stand it, those cheap Pepsi/cola chapstick make your lips looks red [you can make them very red or less depending on how much you use]

If your family isn’t to judgey you could wear foundation or just buy it for yourself and say you’re embarrassed about acne or a scar or something,

If you’re more into emo/goth culture thats a good excuse to grow out your hair/wear makeup

You could wear panties under your boxers and just do your own laundry, and buy a feminine outfit you can wear when by yourself, and/or girly sleeping clothes

You can get yourself a pink hello kitty shirt or pink backpack or something like little girls would wear and say you got it to be ironic

If you’ve got a close friend you could get matching rings/necklaces/bracelets and say it’s for friendship or a cute girl/boy made you a bracelet in class and it makes you happy to wear it [or lie about having a close friend and just wear the jewelry]

Spandex. Like the thing to hide your tummy? It accents curves real nice and you can wear it under so many things, or if you can’t do that cuz you’ll get found out get long underwear, like the long black shirt and pants you wear in winter? They work amazing too

Get your ears periced if you can

Write your self a message on you’re phone, using the correct pronouns, or get your backround to “you go, girl!” Or something like that and just say irony/ it was a friends prank and you wanna keep it/ it just empowers you Nd u couldn’t find a “you go, boy!”

Change your blog to be a bit more ‘girly’ and make ur videogame characters girls and use your preferred name!! You can just say its supposed to be a random person or a celebrity really of you want

And get yourself a notebook and write about yourself in like third person using your preferred name and pronouns and if found just say your writing a story or it’s for school

Wear longer socks that cover your calf cause they cover your legs if you can’t shave them

Shave your legs if you can, if not your arms and armpits [just say you sweat a lot and that would help ]

Wear girls deordeant if you can

Use lotion. Sounds simple but rlly, mosteruise after you shower, soft skin and plus thats thought of a more feminine activity, plus u can get you some really nice smelling stuff and just says it works well or you didn’t realize it was that strong when you got it or didn’t realise it would smell like that at all

Pinching your cheeks makes them a bit blushy [not for that long] but you could do it when meeting people and such

Get a cute stuffed animal for your bed and just say its from a girl/boy you like or irony

Blow dry your hair instead of towel dry, it makes your hair fluffy and soft

Use girls shampoo or body wash

Wear light colors

Wear tighter clothes or floral things

And remember you are a girl whether you’re out or not or if people believe you

[Feel free to add on and if you have questions or anything, just message me, lovelies!! ♡]

Skincare and Beauty Recommendations

For all you babes, I made a list of my must have stuff to look the best you can go scam an SD

 Body- Lush Ro Argan. This stuff is the bomb. It’s a body conditioner that smells like roses and honey. Smear that good stuff all over you and let it sit for five minutes. Wash it off and your body will be soft and smooth, no other products needed. I’ve used this stuff for five years and every person that gets a whiff of it compliments me. Guys go crazy for this scent, especially in the bed room downtown haha.JUST GET IT! You get a shower and body cream in one! 

Face Cream- Laneige Water Bank Cream. This shit makes my face look like it’s been kissed by an angel. So dewy and soft! I feel like I look much younger when I apply this because it hydrates so well. Perfect to use if you want something that traps the moisture in your face and is lightweight. I’ve noticed the dehydration wrinkles I had around my eyes and mouth have diminished. My makeup goes on like a dream after I apply this. 

 Face- Kojic acid soap. I use this soap for my uneven skin tone and acne spots. I barely wear foundation because it cleared up my clogged pores and hyperpigmenation. Dirt cheap off Amazon. Haven’t had a major breakout since I used this the past 3 years. 

 Perfume- Tom Ford private Collection comes in 12 scents. With mainstream brands, I feel like ALL WOMEN’s FRAGRANCES smell the same and give me a headache. Too sweet, floral, romantic, too much alcohol, etc.Now, this collection ain’t cheap, so, get a sample from your local department store. They give it to you in a cute vial and box and the sales associates are super knowledgeable about scents. THIS STUFF LASTS A LONG TIME! I wear the Tobacco Vanille all year round. Literally, this scent is my confident booster, I smell unique and luxurious! And the scent projects like a beast, so a 4 ML sample will last you cause all thats needed is a small dab for the day!  I used to buy decants off eBay to save £££ until I got me a SD to buy me the 100 ML hehe.

 Sunscreen- Elta SPF 40. This stuff is the best sunscreen on the market and all the dermatologists I’ve seen recommended it. No white cast and absorbs into skin fast, it’s also super moisturizing! 

 Hair- Bumble Bee Invisible Oil. If you have frizzy, dry, damaged, natural, thick hair, this SHIT IS THE BOMB. This is the only product that works on my hair when I wear it curly and straighten it. It does the job, smells great, and my hair looks so glossy and healthy….best of all it doesn’t weight my hair down or feel greasy. 

 Mascara- Lacome Hypnose is the only thing I use on my lashes in the past six years. I will NEVER STRAY from Lacome’s mascara products. It makes my eyes look amazing and it’s easy to take off at night. Don’t like the other brands like Benefit or Too Faced which are hard to remove at night.

 Makeup Remover- Clinique Take Off the Day Balm. Your makeup literally will melt off when you wash your face with this! I used so many different brands from wipes to oil to alcohol and none of them worked as well as this. 

 Lipstick- Nars Velvet Lip Pencil in Bahama is the best nude/rosy color out there for all girls IMO. I use the Train Bleu colour (quite vampy) when going out at night and always got compliments! Because it’s a jumbo pencil lippy, you can line your lips easily and fill it in! Lasts all night! Taylor Swift uses their Dragon Girl  shade as her signature red colour according to the makeup artist that showed me.! Best secret lippies around!

 Foundation- Giorgio Armani Luminous Silk is a game changer. My skin looks radiant, dewy, and natural which no other foundation has given me. Everyone raves about it and I wish I listened earlier and quit wasting my money at MAC and Estee Lauder.

Concealer- Nars Creamy Radiant Concealer- If you don’t like wearing foundation, this concealer is all you need then. It hides my dark eye circles and any redness on my face like a PRO. Comes with a wand so you don’t need to use anything else when applying it!

Small self-care tips

- shower and wash your hair. you don’t have to dry it if that’s too tiring, letting it air dry or wrapping it up in a towel feels nice!

- put on a comfy sweater and comfy socks. also a scarf if you’re cold! it makes you feel warm.

- do some laundry. even if it’s just the jeans and shirt you wore that day.

- clean up your study area. vacuum, dust, wipe it all down, declutter, take out the trash, everything! make it neat and nice.

- pet your dog or cat

- make yourself a cup of coffee or tea. hold it in both hands and start to feel warm and cozy.

- think about the work you have to do in a positive light. think about how good you’ll feel once its done!

- settle in with your warm cup and cozy clothes and get going! stay soft and light. don’t push it too hard, don’t clench your jaw, don’t be rigid. just stay relaxed and work slowly and calmly.

IF YOU NEED TO CALL 911 BUT ARE SCARED TO BECAUSE OF SOMEONE IN THE ROOM

dial and ask for a pepperoni pizza. They will ask if you know you’re calling 911. Say yes, and continue pretending you’re making an order. They’ll ask if there’s someone in the room. You can ask how long it will take for the pizza to get to you, and they will tell you how far away a patrol unit is. Share this to save a life!!! Dispatchers are trained to ask specific yes or no questions..dont hang up!

Brutally HONEST Description for Newbie Sex Workers

I’m fucking tired of seeing all these posts and blogs by aspiring, newbie or fake blogs talking about “gross or ugly SD’s or Clients". The reason we get paid the rates or allowances we do is because we’re doing something (more like someone) most people DON’T WANT.

Let me clear this up for you pretty, naive little girls: This is the SEX industry, meaning YOU are the sexually desired, and THEY are the consumer.

With the small exception of about 5% being the attractive/young men with a ton of money they probably didn’t earn, the rest has a reason why they’re looking to HIRE you. I will repeat, yes there will be exceptions that are not that unattractive or old but again, those are the exception NOT THE RULE.

Realistically, why would a gorgeous, wealthy man not date normal women he doesn’t have to say that he paid for when women are lining around the block for him? That would be like you fucking these old, crusty ass dudes for free when you’ve already won the lottery. Wouldn’t your young and beautiful self just date men your age then?

Take it from someone who’s been in the industry for several years now. Most of your clients will not even rate a 3-4 on a 1-10 scale when compared to vanilla men your age.

There will be:
•morbidly obese men
•men old enough to be your grandfather
•ones with terrible hygiene
•definitely rude and entitled jackasses that will make you secretly hate yourself sometimes
•wrinkles, wrinkles and wrinkles
•sandpaper French kisses
•some with body odor that cologne can’t cover up
•scraggly, hairy chests
•balding scalps with few strands left held on by his last shred of dignity
•moments when you tower over your very short SD or client

and it is YOUR job to:
•make them feel sexy, adored and in love.
•make them come
•hold their hand in public
•even kiss them so often infront of people, regardless of your 30+ gap
•be able to have the mental strength to withstand the judgmental sneers and glances.
•get dressed up in lingerie for them
•let them touch and grope you
•pretend to enjoy it when they go down on you
•giggle at his terrible jokes
•make out with them when they’re basically treating your entire face like an ice cream cone
•maybe be forced to watch yourself have sex in the mirror he chose for the suite
•convince him his dick is probably as good as his son’s

All these dumbass girls with their heads up their asses literally believe the fake accounts on here. Do you really think making more than an average person’s weekly checks in a few hours is that easy? Yes, there are exceptions where the SD/Clients aren’t that bad. BUT, it takes seeing dozens of the expected type of client before ACCIDENTALLY running into an exception.

I see too many barely legal girls sitting on Tumblr believing they can just quit school, and every Brad Pitt on the site will come along and hand them 5k for MUTUALLY satisfying sex. 😂😂😂

Listen, if you’re not able to prepare yourself and be able to walk into a hotel room with a man (age 35-99) that’s a 2 on a 1-10, you don’t have what it takes to pull in high income as the girls you’re envying.

This is not easy work.

There’s always a price to pay for everything, especially money.

Stay safe and smart, ladies.

Make that money. 💸💸💸

When Baby is on her Period

-she might be more little or less little than normal. Listen to your babies cues and hints. If she is feeling little, treat her little. If she is feeling big, treat her big. Don’t try and coax her into feeling big or little, just let her be where she needs to be. 

-She might be in a limbo stage. Not big or little. Give as many choices as possible, cup or sippy for example. But don’t force her to choose. If she cant choose, get her both. That way one minute she can be big, and the next little. This is helpful because just like mood swings are prevalent during this time, switching between big and little also happens, at least to me.  

-be understanding, give punishments less frequently and less harshly. Try to remember that she is probably in pain and is just trying to express it. If you would normally give spankings for doing something, try lines, or corner time, and if you do give punishments during this time, after care is so important! She is probably very emotional and vulnerable right now and need reassurance. 

-Get her some medicine and a cup of water or juice to help her get it down. Your baby is probably in pain and medicine helps so much. Basically the only time I ever take pain killers in during this week.  

-If baby wants cuddles, she should get them. If she wants to be left alone, leave her be for a bit. 

-LOTS of liquids. If your baby wants a special drink, try and get it for her, unless its alcohol. If you normal don’t let her have soda, consider it once or twice during this week. She is losing LOTS of fluid, and it needs to be replenished. Water and juice are the best, but any drink gets some liquid back in her system, except for alcohol. I always like to have like three cups at all times during this week. Three different drinks in three types of cups.  Maybe a cup of coffee, a bottle of juice, and a sippy of water. This way I can have lots of choices.

-Try to remind her to change her pad or tampon. I know this may be awkward for some, but if she is feeling extra little it might be hard for her to remember. Try to give reminders every two hours to be safe. 

-snacks and meals. Similar to drinks, try to be lenient.  She still should be eating healthy, but if she has a craving, try to get it. If she wants mac and cheese, try and make some, but also make her favorite veggie. She might not want it, but it will help if you get it ready. If she is not hungry, I never want to eat during this week, encourage her by making some of her favorite foods and snacks and give her the choices. Don’t force her to eat, but if you keep her favorite foods around and ready, it will help her find the will to eat. 

-Your baby might be more tired than usual, encourage naps and rest time. 

-Set up a bathie or shower for her. Warm baths are the best, but if that isn’t an option, get her a warm shower towel and help her get in. Getting the energy to get up and actually take a bath or shower is hard, but it helps so much! She will feel much better during and after. 

-If you can’t be with her, like if you need to go to work, send as many cute messages as you can. It makes us feel really special and loved. 

-If she needs to go to work, remind her that it’s very important. If she needs to take a sick day, that’s fine, but encourage her to only do it once. Usually for me its the first 24 hours that’s the worst.

-Set up her favorite show or movie and lay her down. If you have a TV in the bedroom, her bed is probably the best place. Lots of pillows and blankets, so she can sit or lay. I always get cold, and then hot, so try to have a fan and blankets so she can switch back and forth. Ask if she want to watch a big show, or a little show, but again don’t force her to pick. If she can’t make a choice try a teen movie or show, something she might like to watch no matter what she is feeling, or if you have a special show you two like to watch together do that. 

-Ask your baby if she needs anything. Try to be helpful in any way you can. 

-Remember that even if your baby is fussy she still loves you and really appreciates all the things you do to help her. Emotions always run high during this week. She might be really sad, really happy, really mad. It might switch every few minutes. Keep a level head. If you get emotional, it won’t help. 

-remind her constantly she is beautiful, cute, sexy, loved. She might be feeling really self conscious, bloated, or just ugly in general. -Never ever blame a littles behavior or emotions on her period, even if you know that’s why. Yes, we are more emotional or likely to act out, but NEVER say “are you acting out/being bratty because of your period?” Our feelings are still valid and very real.
EYELASHES AND EYEBROWS GROWTH TIP

Well…

Recently I’ve been asking my male friend ‘bout why his eyebrows & eyelashes r so fucking good.

And he was like “Well, I didn’t have them dat big before”


So…he wanted his lashes and brows big, so he decided to order cosmetic shit for them to grow. Tho, his mom said he shouldn’t, as it didn’t work for her. In other words - she’d forbidden it.

So that’s what he did.

He took 1 camomile herbal bag & 1 black tea bag. THEY SHOULD BE CONSISTING OF, LIKE, NATURAL LEAVES, SO YOU CAN SEE THEM. NOT SOME SHITTY TESS BAGS ( nothing personal, Tess), put them in a glass, filled it with boiled water for 30 minutes. When it turned warm, he put a cotton disc (sorry, probably making a language mistake) in it, and then put it on his eyes for 15 minutes, took a ten minutes rest and then repeated that shit twice.

And before sleep he gets castor oil on his brows and lashes.

Started doing it and that REALLY FUCKIN WOOOORKS.

The Art of the ‘Baddie’: The Rundown Pt. 1

The long-awaited Baddie Rundown tailored towards those trying to achieve the classic ‘baddie’ look and/or recreating it for dependents/minors and those on a budget.  

Attitude: The Basics 

  • Rule number 1: Don’t let people push you around or walk over you. 
  • Have confidence.
  • Be unbothered/don’t care what other people have to say about you. 
  • Don’t be rude.
  • Encourage and uplift others. 

Attitude: Other Things To Keep In Mind 

  • The tricky part: Know when and when not to follow the crowd 
  • Be mindful of who you confide in 
  • Be independent. Even if you are a minor or dependent, try to start doing what you can on your own 
  • Create short-term and long-term goals and work to accomplish them  

Other Things To Remember When Adopting the Attitude or Look:

  • Have good posture
  • Be proud of the way you carry yourself 
  • Step out of your comfort zone (take baby steps but don’t do stuff you’re not comfortable with)
  • Keep up with your appearance/hygiene 
  • If you have a budget, when it comes to clothes and makeup especially, make dupes your best friend
  • Take your time investing in your items. Don’t break the bank on recreating the look asap. Start with what’s free, use what you have, and save up

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thanks for inviting me to the party. if you need me, i’ll be in the corner, drinking & trying not to make eye contact
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How to make a gaff, a step-by step tutorial for transfeminine people

You will need:

  • Scissors
  • A sock OR Length of pantyhose
  • A pair of underwear

Step One: Cut a 6-inch/15cm segment of the sock or pantyhose. You can throw away the rest, or keep it to use in making another gaff.

Step Two: Cut off the elastic waistband from the underwear. Throw away the rest.

Step Three: Thread the waistband through the sock.

The gaff is now complete! To wear it, put your legs through the waistband on either side of the sock and pull it up like a pair of panties - lots of other posts have covered tucking, but even if you can’t tuck “properly” (i.e., with the testicles in the inguinal canals), it still works if you just kinda smush everything under. Put a pair of panties on over it, and you’re done!

cc @transgenderteensurvivalguide, @relatabletransgirlthings

things we’re gonna be doing this 2018:

⚡️EMPOWERING EACHOTHER

⚡️not seeking validation from others, but from ourselves instead

⚡️minding our own business, not getting caught up in other’s drama and staying on the low about yourself

⚡️NOT letting dusty boys control our emotions

⚡️accepting our flaws and mistakes, knowing ourselves well enough where we apologize and own up to our problems but don’t let people walk on us and give us false guilt

30 day glow challenge ✨

Day 1: Cut out all sodas/juices/energy drinks and switch for tea or water for better sleep, skin, metabolism, and to kill excess sugar cravings.
Day 2: Do 50 squats every day before your shower to get that ass🍑
Day 3: Do a face mask.
Day 4: Paint your nails/toes with a cute ass design💅
Day 5: Make yourself a bomb ass breakfast before starting your day.
Day 6: Clean out your closet and try on shit to configure some cute ass outfits for future reference.
Day 7: Take an epsom salt bath to detox and relax.
Day 8: Buy yourself a new highlighter. Even a cheap one like ELF or Makeup Revolution can ya shit pop✨
Day 9: Take a selfie. Take 10. Take 100. Do your makeup or go natural, and gas yourself up with as many selfies as your heart desires. Y'all have no clue how much this boosts your self confidence.
Day 10: Pick/buy yourself some flowers. Love thyself.
Day 11: Do something different with your hair. Part it a different way, straighten it, curl it, dye it, whatever makes you feel glammed up💆
Day 12: Go for a walk outside. Get that fine ass some fresh air and exercise.
Day 13: Get your eyebrows done, or do them yourself if you prefer.
Day 14: Trim your split ends💇
Day 15: Try out a new lip color💅
Day 16: Go through old makeup and throw out anything unwanted or expired. Keep that vanity fresh.
Day 17: Go to bed early for that young beauty rest💤
Day 18: Go through social media and your phone contacts. Delete/block people you don’t like or want to talk to. Cut that toxicity outta your life.
Day 19: Wear a new perfume, or one you normally don’t wear.
Day 20: Exfoliate ya face with your favorite scrub.
Day 21: Apply coconut oil (to lenghten) or castor oil (to volumize) to your lashes before going to bed
Day 22: Buy or make a lip scrub to get them soft kissers😘 (diy scrub: honey+sugar+olive oil)
Day 23: Buy yourself a cheap, fake little engagement ring to remind yourself that you are married to yourself. It also wards off fuckboys.
Day 24: Stretch properly after you wake up, and before you go to bed.
Day 25: Make yourself a lit ass playlist on spotify or your phone’s music to jam whenever you’re feelin down.
Day 26: Make a fruit salad and gobble that shit up for a healthy snack (melt some dark chocolate and drizzle over it for a little treat)🍎🍓🍇🍉🍍
Day 27: Do some yoga.
Day 28: Wing out ya eyeliner like a bad bitch💁 Use scotch tape as a guide for beginners.
Day 29: Buy yourself a new bra or pair of panties to feel sexy af in💞 Target has cute shit for cheap.
Day 30: Meditate to clear your mind and boost your mood.