… why do people literally forget that rhodey exists? He’s been in more marvel movies than half of the rest of the avengers, with like, SIGNIFICANT amounts of screen time in the iron man trilogy and yet his character is the real life version of the smudged handwriting meme
I think what irks me the most about patriarchal theory is that, when one points out the myriad instances in which men suffer (e.g. suicide, homicide, workplace death, homelessness, etc.), feminists will invariably either deny the existence of these issues or will backpedal and say, “well the patriarchy hurts men, too.” The former claim is deplorable, and plainly so. But the latter is equally wrong. As well-intentioned as it sounds (and often is, as many feminists do mean well), it’s nothing more than a backhanded way of saying it’s men’s fault that they are suffering.
And that sounds an awful lot like victim blaming to me.