My Life as an INFJ

Introverted Intuition (Ni):

I look for symbolism and meaning in everything I do. Annotating literature for deeper themes and meanings is one of my favorite hobbies, but I also extrapolate this sort of symbolism to my everyday life. I have a sort of romantic viewpoint of the world, believing that things happen for a reason and can be very focused on finding the path I am supposed to take in a certain situation. The basis for my beliefs comes not from logic or reasoning (I don’t find making lists of pros and cons to be helpful when making a decision, for example), but from recognizing a gut feeling of my own. For example, I believe in God and in the idea that people are good at heart even though I couldn’t explain or reason my way through why (not that other people can’t logically justify those positions, but logic is not why I believe those things). When I meet people, I am not interested in their superficial interests or personality as much as I am interested in their deeper driving forces and emotions that lie underneath the surface. I will try to pick up on facial cues, things said, and just the general aura they give off to me to get a sense of what I think of them. I’m pretty good at picking up on the insecurities or weaknesses of different people, and when I learn about their background and life I fit those pieces into that overarching feeling. For example, I may just get a hazy feeling that someone is very insecure despite the way they act, and then once I analyze their relationship with their family, for example, I can figure out why. I also judge people on intentions rather than actions; I can look very differently at two people who do very similar things. I think, for example, that going out, getting really drunk, and hooking up with a bunch of people is only bad if they are doing it to fill some unhealthy void, it promotes low levels of self esteem in the person, or harms them or others in some other way. I’m very aware of the weaknesses and strengths of those close to me, so their mistakes rarely come as a surprise to me. I approach the world in order to understand it, attempting to see things from all different perspectives. I live life seeking out the “one truth”, trying to piece all of my experiences together to come to some central dogma about the world we live in (this is a very abstract concept, and it’s difficult for me to explain). I am extremely future oriented, and constantly think about the future implications of a present action.

Extroverted Feeling (Fe):

It makes me upset when those around me are sad, and I often gravitate towards the role of helping others feel better. I feel a responsibility to be involved in the lives’ of those closest to me, and often take on their personal issues in an attempt to help them work through them. I am good at trying to put myself in the other person’s shoes and understanding their emotional experience even if I have not been through something similar. I am very in tune to what will offend people; I choose my words very carefully, avoid saying anything that would make someone feel offended/embarrassed/negatively in any way and expect others to do the same. When entering a new group/country/etc., I quickly sense what the norms and values are of the group and make sure not to say anything that would go against these. I don’t believe in free speech for the sake of free speech, and tend to support using PC terminology; while I think social change or other important issues often requires saying things that may upset others, I don’t support being offensive or making others upset for the sake of saying whatever you want. I don’t usually have a good understanding of my own feelings, likes, beliefs, etc. in a situation without talking it over with others or hearing about their perspectives. I’ll have a broad idea that I’m upset, for example, but it’s hard for me to pinpoint the exact reason of why I feel that way. I therefore like talking to friends, journaling, seeing a counselor, etc. in order to process these emotions and understand them. When it comes to decisions like whether or not I like a dress, I often poll the people closest to me in order to understand how I feel about it. I’m extraordinarily uncomfortable with people being mad at me or disliking me in any way, and I have a tendency to do whatever will make the people around me happy. I am a very sensitive person, and I get hurt very easily by criticism or things others say. I have a huge need for social validation, and feel happiest when those around me give me positive affirmation. While I work very hard not to be this way, I do have a tendency to judge others if I think they are breaking certain aspects of my own moral code. However, my Fe is not as developed as in other INFJ’s (I may have been in/am in an Ni-Ti loop at some point?); I repress my feelings often instead of expressing them to others, am often very closed-off emotionally, and often come across as outwardly logical.

Introverted Thinking (Ti):

I have a fairly well developed Ti compared to most other INFJ’s. My sense of humor definitely operates off of my Ti; I love things that are witty, sarcastic, cleverly humorous, etc. even if they are a little bit biting. I love solving word games and puzzles; my favorite games are things like Scrabble and Sudoku. I used to hate math as a kid, but as I grew up I began to enjoy the concept of breaking down and solving logical problems, and now enjoy it. My intellect is focused on whatever piques my intellectual interest; I don’t usually think about the practical application, ways to implement my interests into plans, or external organization of a plan of mine. My ESTJ father and I often have these conversations about Myers Briggs. He, being a Te-dom, wants to understand how I could incorporate my interest into a career, company, experiment with tangible outcomes, etc. However, for me, Myers Briggs is just something I find fascinating and enjoy understanding and being able to break down the theory in my mind. I don’t have a problem arguing a perspective that I don’t agree with just to be the Devil’s Advocate (as long as, in accordance to my Fe, the people around me aren’t going to be offended); I like understanding the reasoning of another perspective, and see logic as something personal to everyone. While I tend to sugarcoat rather than be blunt, I do have the ability to analyze a situation and recognize and point out its flaws and weaknesses.

Extroverted Sensing (Se):

I definitely have an underdeveloped Se, as a lot of INFJ’s do since it is our inferior function. My hand-eye coordination and overall abilities in sports are extremely limited. I get overwhelmed very easily by external stimulus and tend not to like bright lights, loud music, etc. I am extremely unskilled in projects that require working with your hands, such as building, and prefer working with these projects in the conceptual stage. I have difficulty living in the moment, and keep my mind in the future, considering the future implications of an action so much that I am rarely reckless or spontaneous. My healthy ways of using my Se usually come from art and aesthetics; I enjoy painting, playing piano, singing, and going on walks, as calming, small activities used to  develop my inferior function. However, since this function represents the opposite of how I usually am, there is also a latent part of me that wishes to become more like that side of me, in an unhealthy way. Therefore, especially when I am doubting myself, I have a tendency to want to act like an Se-dom (especially my shadow self, an ESTP). I can become uncharacteristically reckless, wanting to pursue activities like going to parties, casual relationships, etc. even though these aren’t in line with my usual values and personality.

Ti vs Fi

Ti: No one is more qualified to determine truth than myself.

Fi: No one is more qualified to determine what is morally right than myself. 

Not saying that Ti or Fi is egocentric. Saying that’s the mentality. Ti has to rationalize. Fi has to reflect. Ti reflects on logic. Fi reflects on morality. 

Neither is a standalone. Perception, sensation, and their respective feeling/thinking function act as a means to balance everything out.

Ti-Fe is likely to believe a person must use reason to consider what is the correct solution. They are likely to believe that the solution based on reason is the morally just one. This goes for Fe-Ti to a much lesser degree since the “common good” is prioritized and the reason is secondary. Fe-Ti might use reason to advocate for the common good.

Te-Fi is likely to believe that a person can discern what is morally correct through objective facts and by reflecting upon individualized principles. They are likely to believe that the best solution is the solution is a solution represented by facts outside of them. Fi-Te has this to a lesser degree. They are no less capable, but they prioritize the “rightness” discovered within themselves. Fi-Te makes appeals to facts in the outside world.

The differences can seem nuanced. When we think subjective principles, we tend to think it’s introverted feeling. 

Introverted thinking dominants have a tendency to not prioritize personal feelings at all. They prioritize people’s feelings even when they don’t care about them because, to them, it’s the logical decision. That’s probably why Ti dominants are stereotyped as relaxed and flexible. 

I suspect that Fe-Ti/Ti-Fe don’t regularly care about their personal feelings. If they’re feeling something strongly without reason (Ti-Fe) or group principles (Fe-TI) it might be considered a bad thing. 

I suspect Fi-Te is the opposite. Fi users can feel alone and misunderstood, but, to them, the best option is to see beyond those things and become the best person they can be. Fe users can dish out this advice, but they have the hardest living by it. Fi users (probably Fi-dominants the most) can have a hard time understanding what they want their place in the world, but that’s their ultimate priority. 

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