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anonymous asked:

You're almost 30? You must have a lot of wisdom about how to navigate your 20s! What is the biggest lesson you learned about being in your 20s? If you were giving advice to people in their 20s, what would 3 things you would advise? What are you looking forward to most about your 30s?

I appreciate the sentiment, but I still feel like I’m figuring stuff out! And I’m not exactly looking forward to anything in my 30s yet. My future seems so invisible to me still. All I am looking forward to is my career, really, and maybe buying a house someday. Being 28, I feel as though I’m not far enough away from any of those invisible mistakes or beneficial choices I’ve made to know that I’ve even made them. Perhaps these are questions for someone much wiser than me. (See: Ted Talk at the bottom of this post!)

But I can say this: taking up an internship when I was 21 was one of the best things I did to get me where I am now in my career. It wasn’t my dream internship– I was a generalist and it was unpaid– but it ended up being an essential first step on my path toward my dream job.

I would say when you’re in your 20’s, try not to be discouraged if your first internship or job is doing something that may not be your dream job. Because every job you take, and every person you work with, is another connection made and another potential step up to where you want to be. Just don’t settle if you’re unhappy. You have so much agency now that you’re a young adult; you can make your own choices and your future can be anything. I have to remind myself of this sometimes, too.

- Try to get an internship, even if it’s not your “dream job.” Getting your foot in the door is just as good for a first step.

- Fail early, fail often. The earlier you fail the better off you’ll be later on, and the more motivated you’ll be to step up your game. Don’t be afraid of failure. Embrace it and let it fuel you.

- As Meg Jay says in her Ted Talk, invest in Identity Capital…basically invest in things that will make you who you want to be next.

If you’re in your 20’s and looking to get some really great advice, please watch her Ted talk, here:

“A Cheeky...”

How to use “a cheeky…” correctly:

-It always has to come before a thing you would DO, but can use the verb “HAVE” for. ie. Have a cheeky Nandos (squeeze in a tasty peri peri chicken meal at a Nandos), or have a cheeky fag (smoke a quick cigarette).
-It cannot be something you are under any obligation from authority to do. Nor can it be a thing an authority has given you permission to do. If you have a fag on a designated fag break, there’s nothing cheeky about that, nor could you ever have a cheeky scheduled work meeting. A cheeky fag is one snuck in on a five minute walk between two buildings, or quickly behind the bike shed. A cheeky spliff is one smoked anywhere public. A cheeky pint is a quick pint of beer on your way somewhere else. A cheeky study sesh is nabbing a a high scoring fellow student after class for a quick unscheduled 10 minute run-over of something from class.
-To be “cheeky” the action must be impromptu, possibly rebellious or maybe even against rules, and be a thing that is fun or beneficial for you. It may be slightly brazen in crossing boundaries of social etiquette, but you get away with it because even though it’s a bit cheeky it’s effectively harmless and everybody’s okay with it.
-The more working class or underprivileged you or your background, the more inherent cheekiness there is in anything you do autonomously and on impulse for your own enjoyment or benefit.

So why is getting a Nandos cheeky?
1. Everything in the UK is comparatively expensive, so treating yourself to a Nandos with your mates carries an intrinsic guilt. It’s also kind of technically fast food (but it’s the sit-in kind like a pizza hut, not a takeaway, so a little more expensive and respectable) so cheeky if you’re supposed to be eating a home made veggie casserole or something.
2. If you go and get a Nandos, anybody who was not with you when you got the Nandos will be like “You cheeky git, you got Nandos without me!?” because nobody goes to Nandos on their own, so your poor mate who was stuck at home not out with you at the time heating up some crap from Iceland will definitely be annoyed that you snuck in delicious Peri-Peri without them but now they can’t go get some alone; that’d be embarrassing. You didn’t plan or organise it, so it’s cheeky.
3. In the UK we apologise for walking into rooms. It’s not that surprising that treating yourself to anything is considered vaguely transgressive and rebellious if you’re not an entitled upper class toffy wanker.

How to use it if you’re American:

DON’T. You’ll sound ridiculous, just like you do when you try to say “bloody”, “bugger”, “wanker” or “git”. I know you guys always are like “Ohh! Oh haha! It really honestly just slipped out because I watch so many British movies and shows that your way of speaking just seems more natural to me! I say it all the time, really!” Which would be way more convincing if you didn’t say them in such a deliberate way with that fractional pause before them. You know when rich or old people are like “Word up, dawgs, I am giving you the tight shizzle from the streets, yo. Ratchet!”, or like, when some white person otaku is all “Konnichiwa! I am Jedd-san and I am Amerikajin Otaku desu!” and it’s like, “oh my god, this is terrible, make them stop”? That is exactly the level of embarrassing you’re on when Americans start saying “Bloody hell! Look at this minging git! Would you absolute ledge brevs like to have a cheeky Nandos?”