They never went on a spontaneous road trip again

Dear parents of autistic children,

No, your child doesn’t do weird things “for no reason”. They do it for a reason, you just don’t know it yet. You have different brains, different perspectives, so sometimes things that are obvious to them are a mystery to you. But you don’t have to ignore it and blame it on them. You can make an effort, reach out to them and figure out the reason.

Do they scream in public when it looks like everything is okay? Well, there’s probably a reason for that. Maybe the situation is overwhelming to their senses, it’s too loud, to bright, to crowded, and they need some space and time to recover. Maybe they can’t stim because other people keep telling them it looks weird, so they end up exhausted much faster. Maybe you are breaking their routine by being outside at this time. Or maybe you are going through the supermarket “the wrong way”, not how you usually do it. Maybe they forgot their comfort object at home, and just realized that. Maybe they are in pain and can’t communicate that. Maybe they are very hungry and don’t realize that yet because it’s hard for them to recognize their needs and emotions. Maybe it’s a combination of those, or something different altogether.

Either way, they probably don’t do it “for no reason”. You just don’t see the reason. Make an effort to communicate. If they are verbal, ask them. If they can’t speak with their mouth at the moment or ever, use alternative methods of communication. If they can’t explain it, consult other autistic people, including autistic adults who probably have a bunch of ideas as to why your child does that weird thing. Don’t dismiss it, don’t complain about it, don’t blame your child for doing it. Try to see the world from their perspective. Respect their needs and feelings. Learn more about autism from other autistic people.

And life will be much better and easier for both you and your child.

My sweet love I know it hurts right now. I know nothing feels right and you have that sinking feeling where a heart of love is suppose to be and I want you to know it’s gonna be okay. Maybe not now or in a week or a year but it will be okay. I know you’re hurt because your best friend forgot about you when she got a new boyfriend and she said she would try harder & never did. I know it hurts to see him happy while you’re staining your pillow sheets with your acid like tears that seem to run all the time. I know it hurts because everyone who ever promised you they wouldn’t leave left & I know it hurts because it made you cold. I know it hurts that your mother doesn’t seem to understand why you sleep all the time because dreams are better than reality even though you stopped dreaming a long time ago. I know it hurts to see everyone around you leave you like trash on the side walk without thinking twice and I know it hurts because that’s how you see yourself. I know you think you aren’t good enough because he left and she left and they left but my darling the way you put yourself back together every morning is something remarkable. The way you still have love in your heart  after all the bad is something extraordinary. You are extraordinary and every beautiful word in the dictionary. You are magic and I am so sorry that the world and the people in your life made you think you were anything less.
—  For the heartbroken, you are everything but ordinary. 

Hi my name is Phoenix the Vape God and I have long smokey colored hair (that’s how I got my name) with black streaks and white tips that reaches my mid-back and icy blue eyes like limpid tears and a lot of people tell me I look like Anne hathaway, a very cute gal (AN: if u don’t know who she is get da hell out of here!) I’m not related to Keith Kogane but I wish I was because he’s a major fucking hottie.


└ Masaki-kun, it was more like you FLUNG ASIDE the dog’s leash right~

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└ We get to see Neens shove shout *ahem* show his love for Oh-chan.  The brat~~

Cr: Music Station 21.10.2016 (Ai wo sakebe+Don’t You Get It? Medley)