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-I can help
-Cas, we tried that
-Sam. You can’t blame what that demon did to your arm on–on me.
-I’m not… I’m not blaming anything on you. What happened, happened, And… ….You need to be worrying about yourself.

Funny enough, I dragged Matt out of bed for this shoot even though he was sick as a dog because I wanted to catch him before he left town tomorrow


If my brother was a demon I would have exactly zero qualms about dragging Matt along with me.

i.
you’re wearing your favorite skirt.
you spent ten minutes on your eyeliner.
you are here to feel indestructible.
ii.
he undresses you with his eyes and you tug on the hemline.
he stares and you look at the floor.
he bites his lip like he’s thinking of shattering you.
iii.
you came to dance like no one’s watching.
iv.
his gaze is burning into your skin.
v.
you are beautiful and you know it.
vi.
he is not looking away.
vii.
you are beautiful and he knows it too.
viii.
he stares at you like you are a piece of meat.
ix.
you are beautiful and it terrifies you.
x.
he is very, very hungry.
— 

On Dancing at Concerts and the Male Gaze 

by Auriel Haack

anonymous asked:

hey I was just wondering, doo you see clarke as extroverted or introverted? I always think of her as introverted personally, but I think a lot of people see her as the opposite so I was just wondering if I missed something?

clarke griffin is the textbook definition of an ambivert. here’s forbes’ 9 signs that someone’s an ambivert, compared to some canon info about clarke:

1. I can perform tasks alone or in a group. I don’t have much preference either way.

this one’s fairly self-explanatory. clarke has proven herself to be perfectly capable of working and thriving alone, formulating and carrying out plans fine by herself (living in the woods along for 3 months). but she’s also shown to do great things within a team, collaborating and working together with those around her quite well (the entirety of season 2).

2. Social settings don’t make me uncomfortable, but I tire of being around people too much.

think the unity day festivities. she’s perfectly comfortable interacting with people, socializing, and even taking part in drinking games with others. social situations don’t make her inherently comfortable. (i actually think this episode is the reason a lot of people consider clarke an extrovert) however, these situations are very rare for clarke, as she’s usually much too focused on other things to let herself be energized by social situations, as is typical of extroverts.

3. Being the center of attention is fun for me, but I don’t like it to last.

while i use “fun” loosely, i do think it’s really important to note that clarke has been shown to be perfectly willing and able to place herself in the middle of a large crowd and speak her mind, get her point across, and convince large numbers of her ends. that said, she never stays there long, often fading into the sidelines shortly after. it’s a momentous occasion when she does things like this because she’s usually running things or making plans from the sidelines.

4. Some people think I’m quiet, while others think I’m highly social.

this whole debate is proof of that, is it not?

5. I don’t always need to be moving, but too much down time leaves me feeling bored.

i use “bored” liberally here, for sure. we’ve seen that clarke definitely enjoys her down time, especially with those she cares about (with finn in season one and some of her moments with lexa in season 3). that said, in these moments she’s also very cognizant of other things she could be or should be doing. you could definitely attribute this to being responsible rather than wanting to do other things, but the fact is she doesn’t let herself get caught up in these moments of downtime because there’s a part of her that’s telling her she should be active.

6. I can get lost in my own thoughts just as easily as I can lose myself in a conversation.

clarke is definitely one to get lost in her own thoughts, particularly negative ones, or things she feels guilty about, or her grief. this is shown most obviously in season 3 after lexa’s death, as octavia’s talking about lincoln and that brief silence after luna says “you cared for her”. it’s easy for her to get caught up in her negative emotions. however, she also really seems to enjoy engaging in conversation (think post-sex with lexa, and the flashback with wells in season 1)

7. Small talk doesn’t make me uncomfortable, but it does get boring.

while i don’t necessarily consider her talk with niylah “small talk”, and i again use “boring” liberally, it’s important to remember that clarke shuts conversation down when it starts draining her emotionally. she’s okay to talk until she isn’t.

8. When it comes to trusting other people, sometimes I’m skeptical, and other times, I dive right in.

bellamy, anya, lexa: trust had to be built over a period of time, but after that period she began to rely on them quite heavily

raven, monty: trust in them and their capabilities was immediate, and she’s never wavered in her reliance on them

9. If I spend too much time alone, I get bored, yet too much time around other people leaves me feeling drained.

this one’s sort of up for debate because we’ve rarely seen clarke in casual social settings, or the immediate effect they might have on her afterwards. so i’ll leave it up for headcanons and what not.

in conclusion, clarke is an ambivert and no one will ever be able to convince me of otherwise.

anonymous asked:

So I finally blocked my stalker on here, and I'm really grateful that he's stationed in Japan, but also, that fact that he's in the navy, has military training, and access to weapons makes me really uncomfortable. I changed my privacy settings on my account but he also knows where I work, having shown up unexpectedly while he was on leave. Is there anything else I can do? I'm a little scared. There's too many news stories of girls getting hurt because they rejected guys

I would alert your boss to the problem. They might not do anything about it, but maybe your coworkers can give you the heads up or distract him so that you don’t have to interact with him at work.

I would also see about getting a civil restraining order. You might get rejected, but it’s worth a try. Something to help you feel a little more safe.

There’s also motion sensors that text your phone when they sense something, they’re about 30-50 bucks for the cheapest models. Better models go up to 100,150 and have a camera attached. That way you can hide it in the front of your home or apartment and you’ll have that bit to help you too.

-Lou the Lobster

I hate conflict. Real conflict. I argue a lot but it's for fun, for broadening myself and my opponent. But real conflict solves nothing. It is pointless and sets me on edge. It makes me so uncomfortable.

I don’t see much about INTJs and fighting. I’ve seen a few other types avoid conflict but do other INTJs hate true conflict as well? Personally I don’t care enough about most things to start anything and when people try and start fights with me I tend to walk away. If forced to I will stand and fight, but if I can escape I will. Do others do the same?

shout out to my brother for pointing out bisexual validity whenever someone in our family invalidates it bc he knows it makes me uncomfortable and he sets a good example for the other straight people 

christmas mvp

The fact that the Chairman has Maine’s entire armor set makes me really uncomfortable b/c he pays it such a reverence. Gently strokes the chest plate, it is in pristine condition and safely kept away in a floor vault, and it’s even been stored in a fashion that closely resembles an expensive instrument or jewel settled in its own custom case.

I am so sure that the trophy room is more for the suit than for the trinkets that are being so openly displayed.

All the girls in the wlw moodboards look the same. This isn’t even a fatphobia/racism post. They all look the same even for conventionally attractive skinny white American girl standard. There’s not even one with *short hair*.

We talked about me learning to set boundaries in therapy today and how I need to start doing it. K text me earlier asking to switch to having dinner at her place instead and since that would put pressure on me and make me uncomfortable, I told her I’d rather just wait and go out another week. I’m really proud of myself even if I feel really weird and guilty about setting that boundary. It’s a big step for me to be able to say something makes me uncomfortable and set a boundary for it because I grew up being told and shown that my feelings don’t matter. I’m really proud of myself.