From an anon…
lol how boring is your life if everytime a guy is flirting with you you think it’s rape culture.and your sex life must be so boring. i bet there aren’t that many guys who want to fuck you if every little thing make you cry rape. or maybe you do that because nobody wants to fuck you and you’re just a sad virgin. you know maybe if you stopped being such a man hating bitch guys will actually want to sleep with you. seriously you getting your panties in a twist over a relationship like cs that’s just romantic and sexy like it’s rape or something says so much about you
Did it make you feel good to send this?
Did it give you a feeling of power? Did it make you feel superior? Were you
expecting to hurt me with your childish and baseless attack on my personal life
and your infantile thoughts on sex?
This message only shows that you’re
incredibly immature and that you’re just as influenced by media like OUAT that
sells relationships like CS as sexy and romantic that we worry people will be.
And by sending it on anon, you showed that you’re a coward as well.
Your attempts to somehow hurt me or
undermine my opinions by bringing my personal life, my romantic life, into this
are childish. It shows that you can’t actually respond to anything I’ve said
with canon or facts to back up your disagreement, so you needed to try to
undermine me personally.
What does how often I have sex, who I
have sex with, or whether or not I’ve ever had sex have to do with being able
to recognize when something is or isn’t rape culture? What does it have to do
with my ability to critically analyze media? What does it have to do with my
ability to recognize misogynistic behavior and writing? What does it have to do
with anything other than your
infantile ideas about what’s “sad” or “acceptable” or “cool” or “valuable”?
Furthermore, you’ve only managed to
demonstrate your complete inability to understand what the actual discussion is
about. Nobody is saying that anytime a man so much as flirts with a woman that
this is rape culture. It would be
rape culture if she was unreceptive and he kept pushing. If she said no and he
wouldn’t take that as an answer. If he tried to insult her or undermine her in
an attempt to get her to want to earn his approval. If he expected her to sleep
with him or give him some other kind of physical reward for being nice to her.
If he acted in any way entitled to her. It’s entirely possible to flirt without
doing those things. The fact that some people seem to think it’s not, that they
think these things are normal and “just flirting” is a part of the problem.
I’m not sure where you get the idea that
anyone has “cried rape” on “every little thing”. When it comes to Hook, the
only time rape, and not rape culture
has been discussed has been in regards to his comments about plying women with
alcohol in order to have sex with them. Yes, that is rape, and at best that line is Hook making a joke and the show
yet again acting like rape is something to joke about and no big deal, and at
worst it’s Hook admitting that he’s a rapist and the show acting like it’s no big deal. Nobody cries rape on “every
little thing”. We call things rape when
Unless you don’t actually understand what
the difference between “rape” and “rape culture” actually is. Which, at this
point, considering how long this conversation has been going on, is indicative
of willful ignorance on your part.
And the fact that you see CS and Hook’s behavior
as “romantic” and “sexy” only shows exactly what the problem is in the media’s
portrayal of relationships like this. This is a relationship where the man
tried to kill the woman, where he left her to die, where he hurt people she
cared about, and it’s never been addressed. This is a relationship where the
man implied to a woman who was in a vulnerable place that she owed him a kiss
for a good deed. This is a relationship the woman has, more than once, been
treated like an object to be won rather than a human being. This is a
relationship where the man continued to pursue a woman even after she was
clearly unreceptive and where the man decided that the woman had to deal with
her issues on his timetable. This is a relationship where the man has been
lying to the women since before they were even together, where part of her
perception of who he is is based on lies. This is not a “romantic” and “sexy”
relationship. And the fact that the media sells it as those things and that
people buy it is exactly the problem.
And you’re not somehow worldly or smart or more mature or sexually superior
just because you were easily sold dangerous relationship behaviors by the
And the idea that women who demand to be
respected, to not be treated like objects, whether in their romantic
relationships or just by every single person they come into contact with, must
be a man hater, or a virgin, or somehow sexually inferior is ludicrous.
Seriously, how ridiculous is it to think that women who demand respect and who
have no problem being open about what they expect and want would somehow be worse when it comes to sex.
So, actually, your childish ideas about
sex and your willful ignorance says a lot about you. And I, personally, have absolutely no problem with what my
ability to recognize misogyny and rape culture in the media and in real life, and my unwillingness to bury my head in the sand
says about me.
I hope that writing this message made you
feel good. Because as soon as you hit that button to send it you proved that
there’s nothing about your behavior right how that you should feel good about.