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Aries: Wrath- Aries can act in a split second when provoked, fire fueling rash decisions over anything logical. The danger with Aries comes from moments like these, because actually, they aren’t malicious personalities, and rarely manipulate or taunt, but rather act out in a moments notice with how they are feeling.

Taurus: Gluttony- Taurus can seek comfort from the sensual surroundings, often leaving them with an attitude of wanting “More.” Food, drink, spending are all mood lifters for Taurus, and an attitude of wanting excess can get the better of them. Especially when in actuality, the simple life suits them rather well, remembering to treasure the little moments in life.

Gemini: Scatter- Gemini can suffer from forgetfulness, swift changes in views and opinions, confusion over what exactly it is they want in that minute, which can all lead to a feeling of being like a wound up coil ready to spring at any moment. Nerves and anxiety are possible with this sign, as well as a certain clumsiness, even if they somehow manage to still look graceful while this happens.

Cancer: Fear- Cancer can feel vulnerable just simply because of their very nature, a nature of being rather sensitive and receptive to everything around them, from simple temperature changes, environment changes to scathing remarks that seem to stay with them forever. They can feel the strong desire to stay indoors, to stay safe, but also have the bravery to survive.

Leo: Pride- Leo can stick to their guns over the immense amount of pride they have, the ego that they cherish but also fear somewhat. They can come across as self-absorbed at times, but ironically, it is in these times where they struggle the most with themselves. You can tell Leo are truly happy in their lives when they become more generous, loving and protective.

Virgo: Worry- Virgo can work themselves into a box, trapped by all the little conflicting and taunting thoughts in their head until they really do feel sick. But worry often comes from being a conscientious personality, and this is certainly true for Virgo. Carelessness can be exactly that, careless. Care can equate to value.

Libra: Loneliness- Libra can find it difficult to grasp themselves when isolated from the people around them, as they often admire and find pieces of their own psyche in others. They often need company to bounce ideas from, and can get wrapped up in this idea of having another “half.” Being alone for extended periods of time starts to feel a little less creative, and a little more plain lonely.

Scorpio: Vengefulness- Scorpio aren’t known for being pacifists, especially when they themselves or someone they care deeply about has been hurt. They can often ruminate with ideas of revenge, maybe even to the point of obsession, until they feel that justice can be served. The very thing that tips them over the edge can become a central point in their lives, something to think about for much of the time ahead.

Sagittarius: Flight- Sagittarius often cannot stand the idea of being restricted by outside forces, and often need an element of freedom in decision making, the freedom to change their minds and ponder. When caught up in heavy responsibly, they often have the urge to escape, the take flight to somewhere else where they can retain this sense of freedom. Some may even accuse them of being irresponsible and reckless at times.

Capricorn: Formality- Capricorn can vehemently stick to logic over allowing themselves to be overtaken with the expressive waves of the universe, often clinging to a law of sorts, a traditional way of looking at the world. For them, a handshake can feel like enough when others need more support, but this often does not come from a place of not caring, but rather just a struggle about how to go about an uncomfortable situation.

Aquarius: Chaos- Aquarius can be overcome with the urge to destroy controlling systems, especially those that are repressive, even if what is left in its wake is chaos of sorts. The thrill of knocking down established bricks can be wondrous for Aquarius, often without thought of the sacred quality of effort that goes into those systems being established.

Pisces: Fantasy- Pisces can wisp themselves away to somewhere better than here, to somewhere that feels so real that they can even start to believe it. This can be a wonderful quality, apart from when they start to project these traits onto the people around them, seeing only a mirage when unfortunately, not everyone is this world has pure intent.

neverenoughhoursinaday  asked:

Hey, first of all, thanks for your great blog and the advice you've already given! I'm sort of a pre-med and have an odd question. A friend recently suffered a loss, and I found that I'm not very good at consolation. I've noticed at the hospital a few times as well. I'm just awkward and feel like whatever I say won't be adequate. I mean, it won't be. It never is. But other people seem to manage it better than I do. So my question is, can you learn that at all? Or am I just not empathetic enough?

No worries friend. We are all pretty awkward at consolation at first - except those rare few people who were designed to go into palliative care. Those people are treasures. 

Pro-tip: unless you’ve been in the exact same situation the patient is in, your words will probably never be adequate. What is important is your presence and your body language. 

If you don’t know what to say, be quiet. Sit with the patient. Let them open up to you. Cry with them. Ask them what they’re thinking. Touch their shoulder. Hand them a box of tissues and let them know it’s okay to cry. 

If you can’t grasp what they’re going through, say that. “I can’t begin to imagine how hard this must be.” “I can’t imagine what you’re going through.” “I wish I understood better what you’re feeling.” This conveys your sympathy without belittling their own experience. 

You absolutely can learn to console people. My school actually had a clinical skills session on breaking bad news where psychiatrists and palliative care specialists came and helped us practice consoling actors and gave us tips to improve. You can’t really learn compassion or empathy, but you can learn to channel it and express it better. You can watch others who you think are good at comforting people and emulate them. Chances are they were pretty nervous or awkward at it at first too (or maybe they still are!  I’ve had many attendings tell me that I played it so cool at times when I knew I was a nervous wreck inside). 

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Why Writing is Good for Your Health: The healing power of self-disclosure

Years ago, when I was in college, I wrote poetry—not good poetry, but impassioned writing, pouring out my hopes, pain, frustrations, and aspirations, feelings too raw, too personal to talk about. And I always felt better.

Now I write letters to a friend who still writes letters, a novelist who lives in a cabin in redwood country. I treasure our letters. Over the years, we have shared our hopes and pains, frustrations and aspirations¸ developing a rare kinship of spirit. Our letters always makes me feel better.

Paradoxically, in our fast-paced world of 24/7 communication¸ e-mail and texts, we are deluged with information but often isolated and starved for intimacy. Texas psychologist James Pennebaker has found the writing about our deepest feelingscan be profoundly healing.

Pennebaker’s research reveals that failing to express our feelings and concerns compromises our health. The continuous stress of holding our feelings in, keeping our pains and problems undisclosed, undermines our immune systems and adversely affects the biochemistry of our brains. In research with thousands of people facing bereavement and other major life crises, he has found that writing about problems can release the stress of inhibition, relieve our emotional pain, and bring us greater insight, improving our mental and physical health (Pennebaker,1990; Pennebaker, Francis, & Mayne, 1997).

I'm sort of pissed about the wilde hopps fandom and I finally figured out why.

Most have totally missed the point of the movie (posting stories with Nick calling Judy “cute” even though that is supposed to be a slur to rabbits), in favor of this romantic endeavor.

This movie was so important and well executed in its message about tolerance and diversity.

Two complex, likable characters built a friendship that became unbelievably close

– not because they have romantic/sexual tension–

but because they were able to share their experiences with oppression and discrimination with someone who understood.

And EVEN BETTER they found someone who was willing to LEARN about their unique experiences with prejudice, apologize when called out, and modify their behavior to “make the world a better place” for EVERYONE, not just their friend.

As a biracial queer woman I know how important and impactful a bond like that can be firsthand. It is an emotional and meaningful connection that is rare and treasured.

Like most fandoms, Zootopia has been essentially hijacked by mostly white writers who choose to reduce the complexities of Nick and Judy’s bond to a mere romance, essentially erasing the central theme of the movie.

Endlessly coveting the rare treasures available over at @thesacredorder . This memento mori ring stopped me dead in my tracks! Hand painted skeleton set under beautiful crystal glass, surrounded by pearls, and inscribed “John Thompson Mar 1773”. Does it get any better?!… Actually yes, they also have a true antique “Lover’s Eye” ring for sale… Be still my bleeding heart.

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So I kind of had a rough day, and what better way to make yourself feel better than to write some quiet morning captain swan goodness? It’s just a short little thing, but I hope you enjoy it. 

She’s not typically a morning person, but lately she’s been treasuring these rare moments where she wakes just after dawn, tucked snugly into Killian’s side, her own body rising and falling with his gentle breathing.

The world is quiet and thereis a peaceful stillness in the way the sun’s golden light begins to fill the room. She relishes in these moments when she can press a soft kiss to Killian’s heart and feel his arms tighten around her as he pulls her closer, still sound asleep. She cherishes the chance she has to trace his features with her eyes uninterrupted. Soaking in the opportunity to memorize every line, every dip, and every curve. 

And maybe, just maybe, in the safety and stillness of the morning she whispers that she loves him.

Emma Swan never thought she’d have this. Never thought she’d wake up in someone’s arms feeling so whole, so complete. For so many years she’d walked around with an incessant ache in her chest. Most of the time she didn’t notice it, so accustomed to its presence, but every once in a while it would hit her with an intensity that left her breathless. Leaving her feeling as though she was destined to a life haunted with feeling broken and alone.

But ever since she came to Storybrooke and met her son, met her parents, met Killian, that ache had all but disappeared, and it was in mornings like this one that she thought maybe it was gone for good.

If Emma could somehow tell her fifteen year old self that one day she would have more than she ever dreamed she’d have, she would. She’d tell herself that one day she would be wanted and loved, that she’d have a family that cherished her and a man that looked at her like she was the only source of light in this world. She’d tell herself that one quiet morning she’d wake up and no longer feel like the lost little girl she’d always been.

Because Emma Swan no longer felt lost, and when her sleepy pirate finally blinks his eyes open and whispers in her ear that it is much too early to be awake, his voice low and rough with sleep, Emma Swan has never felt more found.

taxation-on-this-dick  asked:

What is Ramiels favorite thing?

“Do you mean, specifically, a material possession?”

“Aside from my pearl, there’s the crow skull my mother gave me when we parted. My harpy blood isn’t something I’m proud of, but my mother was always better to me than my father–even if she did treat me more as a rare treasure than a son. It’s the only thing I have to remind me of her.”

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Arr, it be Talk Like a Pirate Day, so I be shillin’ the greatest pirate game ever made, Donkey Kong Country 2. For only eight US dollarrs–I mean uh, pieces o’ eight, ye can experience this mastarrpiece on the Wii, Wii U or New 3DS (ye be welcome for me salesmanship, Nintendo n’ Rare).

This treasure chest of a game has it all: fancy computerized graphics, wonderful sea shanties pleasin’ to the ear, a challenge scarier than Davy Jones’ Locker, rappin’ monkeys, and rollarr coasters. If ye find all 75 of the Kremcoins and beat the scurvy Kaptain K. Rool in the Lost World, Cranky Kong will rate ye better than those landlubbers Mario, Yoshi and Link. But can ye do it all without one a’ them internet treasure maps? Arr!