She remembers when you forget. 

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her. 

You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to. 

You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.

In colourful, tangy prose Junot Diaz latest collection of short stories tell stories of a young Dominican named Yunior living in the United States. 

Very sassy. 

That pretty much sums it up I think :).

I liked his stories and there were some truly touching moments between Yunior and his mother in stories like Invierno. But, as most of the short stories involved cheating, I can’t say that I LOVED this book. This vibrant set of stories almost seemed to glorify the subject… definitely a way to loose me.

I guess that is the point… maybe?

At the end of the semester she returns home. My home, not your home, she says tetchily. She’s always trying to prove your not Dominican. If I’m not Dominican then no one is, you shoot back, but she laughs at that. Say that in Spanish, she challenges and of course you can’t. Last day you drive her to the airport and there is no crushing ‘Casablanca’ kiss, just a smile and a little gay-ass hug and her fake breasts push against you like something irrevocable. Write, you tell her, and she says, Por supuesto, and of course neither of you do. You eventually erase her contact info from your phone but not the pictures you took of her in bed while she was naked and asleep, never those.
—  Junot Díaz, This Is How You Loose Her

anonymous asked:

Why is This is how you loose her your fave book?

Probably because of the writing style and honesty. Essentially it deals with fucking up in relationships, inadvertently or intentionally hurting others, and oh I don’t know I think I just get tired of books that present relationships as two people that are entirely right for each other and never screw up, or entirely wrong and subsequently implode. This is how you lose her is about all the mistakes, the subtle nuances, the necessary lies and the idea that someone can be good for you, kind to you, love you and be loved in return, and it still sometimes does not work out. You can see the sun in someone, but it can go tits up regardless. and I always try to acknowledge the parts of myself that are manipulative and ugly and dishonest, and that’s very much what that book is about. I think if a work is honest, it’s a good work.