this what you do on holidays you don't like

Deadpool (2016) Sentence Starters
  • "Shit... did I leave the stove on?"
  • "You're my hero!"
  • "No, no, no, THAT I ain't."
  • "I had another Liam Neeson nightmare."
  • "You know, they made three of those movies. At some point you have to wonder if he's just a bad parent."
  • "What the SHIT?"
  • "I'm gonna wait out here, okay?"
  • "Fake laughter. Hiding real pain."
  • "I'm about to do to you what Limp Bizkit did to music in the late 90s."
  • "Yeah, technically, this is murder."
  • "Love is blind, ____."
  • "This shit's gonna have nuts in it."
  • "You're a lovely lady/man, but I'm saving myself for ____."
  • "That's why I brought him/her."
  • "Do you like what you see?"
  • "Your face is the stuff of nightmares."
  • "Like a testicle with teeth."
  • "You will die alone."
  • "You look like an avocado had sex with an older, more disgusting avocado."
  • "So, am I suppose to just smile and wave you out the door?"
  • "Think of it like spring cleaning."
  • "Life is an endless series of trainwrecks with only brief, commercial-like breaks of happiness."
  • "Finish fucking her the fuck up."
  • "Language, please."
  • "Suck a cock!"
  • "I'd go with you, but... I don't want to."
  • "If your right leg is Thanksgiving and your left leg is Christmas, can I visit you between the holidays?"
  • "Maximum effort."
  • "I'd say that you sound like an infomercial. But not a good one, like Slap Chop, more Shake Weight-y."
  • "Do you want any clothes that are not monochromatic? Have fun at your midnight showing of Blade II."
  • "Listen ___, if I never see you again, I want you to know that I love you very much."
  • "Wanna get fucked up?"
  • "Have you decided what you're gonna say to her?"
  • "Fuck me!"
  • "I don't have time for your goody two-shoes bullshit right now!"
  • "Why such a douche this morning?"
  • "Why don't you do us all a favor and shut the fuck up."
  • "Today was about as much fun as a sandpaper dildo."
  • "Oh, I wouldn't do that if I were you."
  • "You can't buy love, but you can rent it for three minutes!"
  • "That's the shit emoji. You know the turd with the smiling face and the eyes. I thought it was chocolate yogurt for so long."
  • "You're really gonna fuck this up for me?"
  • "You've got something in your teeth."
  • "Do you have an off switch?"
  • "We have everything we need now."
  • "I swear to God, I will find you in the next life and I'm gonna boom-box Careless Whisper outside your window."
  • "Ever had a cigarette put out on your skin?"
  • "That was not mean! I'm proud of you!"
  • "I'm gonna need all the guns."
  • "What the fuck is wrong with you?"
  • "Seltzer water and lemon for blood."
  • "It reeks like old lady pants in here."
  • "Your crazy matches my crazy. Big time."
  • "Four or five moments. That's all it takes to become a hero."

the-fifth-key  asked:

My sister and I both live at home, and at the moment, both my parents are on a 4 month holiday so it's just us two. My sister got a cat last year (even though I'm very allergic to it and fleas) which has been alright cause it's mostly an outdoor cat. But last week, my sister decided on short notice to move in with her boyfriend and can't take the cat with her. She wants me to look after it even though I'm really allergic and generally don't like it anyway. What should I do?

I don’t think you should take it. It was shitty for her to get it in the first place while living with you, and it’s utterly unreasonable of her to decide to foist it off on you because her life decisions are making her unable to care for it. This cat’s welfare is not your obligation, and it’s not fair to you to put you in this position. 

Also, it’s worth noting that you’re likely not going to take great care of an animal you don’t want, don’t like, and have health issues related to. Even if you intend to and try really hard, resentment builds up and can affect the cat’s quality of life. That’s not fair to the cat. 

Help her rehome the cat if you’re worried about it’s future care - or if you’re worried she’ll just abandon it - but you definitely don’t have to take it yourself. 

Winter Starters
  • "It's SO COLD!"
  • "I'm not sure we're going to be able to go anywhere today."
  • "Would you like to build a snowman?"
  • "Whatever happened to global warming?"
  • "Everything's melting."
  • "I don't think there's enough snow."
  • "Looks like a green Christmas this year."
  • "Take these lights and cover the bushes."
  • "It's a winter wonderland!"
  • "I love the long nights."
  • "You need a pair of sunglasses today."
  • "Do we have any eggnog?"
  • "Looks like a night for alcohol."
  • "I need some soup."
  • "I made you some hot chocolate."
  • "Layers of blankets are needed here."
  • "I'm not getting out of bed today."
  • "I got a fire started."
  • "Look at all the snow!"
  • "What's the temperature outside?"
  • "It's raining again."
  • "I think I'll stay home."
  • "Tea is what's needed here."
  • "The holidays are overrated."
  • "Who wants to wassail?"
  • "Let's go shopping."
  • "Light the candles!"
  • "Is all this really necessary?"

anonymous asked:

Hi! I don't have school right now because of the holidays and I have like, 1 month more without school, and I'm super bored. I do nothing all day! Do you have any idea of what I can do?? PS: I love your Instagram and your Studyblr so just just wanted to ad that you're the person that started my obsession with pens and notebooks.

Me too! It can get a little boring but here are a few things you could do (not all are productive but you’ve gotta have some down time right!!):

  • organise all your work/desk - archive old files, put current things in folders
  • clear out your desk of old books, files, etc
  • declutter your digital space - your email, desktop, hard-drives, etcs
  • back up your files, photos, etc - a good task to do every now and then!
  • exercise a bit
  • start a tv show (I could recommend soooo many!!!)
  • learn to meditate
  • clear out your wardrobe - donate any old clothes, etc!
  • practice yoga
  • start doing art
  • create a blog
  • play sims (definitely a simple way to distract yourself for hours on end!)
  • learn a new skill (maybe an instrument or software like Photoshop?)
  • start journalling
  • read an old textbook/research something you enjoyed
  • learn a new language or sign language
  • find a series of books to read
  • met up with some friends
  • visit different museums or galleries
  • volunteer somewhere (maybe a local animal shelter)

Hope that helps! Thank you so much too! That is so cute hehe :-) xxx

anonymous asked:

I moved to a new city in the Fall and started dating a lady. This is my first romantic/queer relationship! She is much older than me. l I met her entire family for the holidays after 1 month of dating! She wanted me to define "us" shortly after and texts me/wants to see me everyday. I've told her I needed space but she'd bombard me with texts like "You don't care, why are you with me, you're too young, I'm just your entertainment, etc." She also yells a lot. It stresses me out! What should I do?

Kristin Says:

This is not a healthy relationship and this is not an appropriate or respectful way to treat someone, END OF STORY.

Since this is your first queer/romantic relationship, I need you to know something important: There are oh-so-many humans out there who will NOT yell at you all the time, who will be able to hear you when you express YOUR needs, and who will have the ability to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. This person you are dating is obviously struggling with some deep-seated insecurities surrounding commitment – which is understandable and even surmountable with time and work, but something that she needs to work on without dragging you through it and disrespecting you during the process.

In my opinion, you should do one of two things:

1. Break up with her. I truthfully think that, given what you’ve said here, this person is not going to be able to hear what you need enough to work on themselves while in a relationship. Explain that you are not in the same place, and that it would not be good for either of you to continue further. If she will not let this drop and the situation escalates, leave the conversation. If necessary, block her phone, block her socials. Make it a clean break – this situation desperately calls for that kind of action.

2. Explain yourself and try one more time. If you think that I’ve read this too harshly and you want to try a longer-arc approach, make plans to have dinner in a public place. At dinner, explain to her that you are not ready for the level of commitment she is after, and that you need for things to either slow down considerably, or for things to end. If she yells at you, tells you that you are wrong, or implies in any way that you cannot both need space and also care about her, that is when you end things and refer to suggestion #1. If she listens to you and is willing to work & step back a bit, etc, then you can give it a shot… but BE VIGILANT. Giving you space means she is actually going to give you space, not just say she will give you space and then berate you any time you actually take it.

Listen. Relationships of any kind, regardless of age, age difference, or anything else, require respect and communication. What you are saying here can be pared down to: My girlfriend does not listen to how I feel, does not consider what I need, and does not respect me as a person. That is all I ever need to hear to say: end it. You deserve better.

February 14th (Lin x Reader) Platonic

WC: 1092

A/N: Unpopular opinion, I actually don’t like Valentine’s Day. Wrote this out of frustration, kinda made me feel better. Enjoy!

You took a snapchat of your mug in your lap, adding the timestamp (12:43AM) and the caption ‘anxie-tea’. You smirked at your pun before sending it off to the one person you knew would be awake at this time. Immediately Lin’s face lit up your phone as your ringtone for him went off (Usnavi’s introductory rap from ‘Heights’).

“Hey,” your voice came out barely a whisper.

“What’s wrong?” Lin wasted no time.

“I have a date tomorrow… well, today I guess,” you said.

“That’s adorable,” he stated, “why’s it got you anxious?”

“I dunno, I just have a bad feeling about it. I keep thinking about all the horrible possibilities,” you were honest with your best friend. Your longstanding friendship had taught you it was useless to lie to him.

“Understandable. Who’s the guy? Or girl? You know I love you (y/n), I won’t judge, no matter which way you swing,” he quickly tacked on.

“It’s this guy I met at work. He came in with one of the school groups. Single dad, business man, seemed pretty smart. Stable too,” you mused.

“Stable is good for you,” Lin told you sincerely. You cracked a smile.

“What are you saying, Miranda? You think I’m not stable?” Lin immediately started backtracking.

“No no no! I’m just saying stable isn’t something that comes easy to you. You’ve been fighting battles as long as I’ve known you. Dating someone stable might just make it… easier.”

You mulled over his words for a moment.

“I guess you’re right,” you said.

“I know. Now, finish your tea and go to sleep. Close your eyes and count to 100 in Spanish,” he instructed. You sighed your agreement.

“Night Lin.”

“Night (y/n).”


In the time leading up to your date, you found yourself spending longer in front of the mirror than normal. You were wearing some nice pants, a pink and red sweater you only wore on Valentine’s day, and a good pair of boots. Your hair was done without a strand out of place.

You walked to the restaurant and got a table for two, sipping a glass of wine as you waited for your date to show up. You lost yourself people-watching, seeing all the couples around you and the various interactions occurring.

“Ma’am, are you sure you’re waiting for someone?” Your observations were interrupted by the waiter. You looked at your watch, noticing that you had been sitting alone for over an hour.

“I guess I’m not,” you said, throwing some cash on the table (that was quite a bit more than the price of the one glass of wine you had drank) before gathering your things and walking back out onto the city street, fighting back tears. Your phone was immediately at your ear.

“He stood me up,” you didn’t even let Lin finish his greeting.

“He what?”

“He left me waiting at the restaurant for over an hour without showing.”

You couldn’t decide if you felt anger, frustration, humiliation, or sadness.

“I’m sure he had a good reason. You said he has a kid, right? Sometimes things come up. It was a dick move to not even text you that he wasn’t coming though,” Lin said. You took a deep breath, trying to collect yourself.

“Lin, this is why I hate Valentine’s day,” you reminded him.

You and Valentine’s Day had not had a very good history. You were single for most of the ones that had occurred in your lifetime. Out of the few that you had been in a relationship for, one you were broken up with during your date, one was with a guy who ended up being abusive, one gave you extravagant gifts and made you feel guilty that the gift you gave him was hand-made. You had given up trying to make Valentine’s day a good day after the third year in a row Lin had invited you to go to dinner with him and Vanessa.

“I’m not third-wheeling.”

“Come on. We both know you’re just going to sit at home and eat ice cream. You’ve gone out with V and I before! She likes you!”

“I’ve gone out with you guys to the store, to the theater, to the park, to our favorite pizza place, but not on an actual romantic Love Day dinner date. I’ll leave the mushy gushiness outside, thanks.”

“V told me she doesn’t mind.”

“That’s not going to change my mind, Lin. I’ll be happy at home. Besides, you’ll be making sex eyes at her the whole time, which is gross in my opinion. I don’t mind being home. Go have a nice dinner with your wife and get laid after.”

Lin had ended up having sex with Vanessa that night, as you had predicted, and nine months later were blessed with a cute baby, which made your next Valentine’s Day much easier to plan for.

“Are you sure? I don’t want to intrude on any plans.”

“When have I ever had good Valentine’s day plans? Of course I’ll babysit for you. Sebastian will be a better date than I’ve ever had anyways.”

“Can you take care of a three-month old?”

“You forget I get paid to hang out with tiny humans. You and Vanessa need a night away anyways. Seriously, with Sebastian and Hamilton, when was the last time you guys had any alone time?”

Lin paused.

“Ok you’re right. I’ll see you at 5:00 then? On the 14th?”

“You got it.”

Back at your apartment, you kicked off your shoes and dug around in your freezer until you found the tub of ice cream you had been saving for the weekend. You sat down on your couch, pulling a blanket over you as you turned on Netflix and started up the show you were currently binge watching. You were only ten minutes into the episode when your apartment door swung open and little Sebastian ran over to you, launching himself into your lap.

Lin and Vanessa were standing in your entryway, holding paper grocery bags full of who-knows-what.

“Valentine’s day isn’t just about dates. It’s about love. We love each other, but we love you too,” Lin said.

“We’re havin’ a picnic!” Sebastian said happily.

“I brought all of the pink food I could think of,” Lin grinned along with his son. You and Vanessa locked eyes, exchanging a look that mutually said “why do I love this man” (though you meant platonically).

Maybe Valentine’s day wouldn’t be so bad after all.

farawaystardust  asked:

For the Kink Starters, I really like #35! (destiel) But, if you don't mind, could I challenge you to write either twink!Dean or neither of them are twinks?? ;) Hope you're having a happy holiday season! And finally, please tag only goodtidingsdean, not this account. THANK YOU! :)

ohohho i have not written twink!dean in years here we go 

35. “That’s good. Now spread your cheeks for me.”


Dean’s not gonna make it, he just isn’t. He’s twenty two but even then he doesn’t have the stamina, not anymore. He has no fucking clue how Cas is doing what he is, but Cas just isn’t stopping and Dean is not about to even though he’s been fucked six ways to Sunday and every muscle in his body aches. He knows Cas is gonna cuddle him and make him dinner afterwards anyways.

“You think you can get on all fours for me, sweetheart?” Cas questions from where he’s sitting back on his haunches on the bed, his dick half hard, desperately arching up towards his tummy. Dean grins a dopey blissed out smile and nods, getting onto all fours, wiggling his ass a little just for show since Cas has been so good to him. Cas chuckles a bit and soon enough Dean feels a warm hand on his thigh, slowly smoothing upwards.

“That’s good. Now spread your cheeks for me,” Cas instructs, and Dean doesn’t hesitate, dropping his chest so he can bring his hands back and spread himself open for Cas who groans loudly at the sight. Dean’s already got come and lube dripping out of him and the sight is just fucking wonderful.

“You sore at all, baby?” Cas questions, tracing Dean’s rim with his finger.

“Not too much. I can go a few more rounds,” Dean sighs. Cas slides his fingers easily into Dean who moans softly, clenching and unclenching around him. Cas just finger fucks him for a few seconds, maybe a minute or two until he can feel Dean’s hard again when he wraps his hand around him and strokes his cock once or twice. Dean whimpers a little and Cas grins.

“One more round?”

kinky stuff

it’s not weird if you’re his #1 priest

(sorry it’s kinda hard to read, tumblr uploaded it too small and linking from imgur didn’t help either, i don’t really know what to do about that)

  • Regulus: I heard that in America they celebrate a whole weekend just for things they're thankful for.
  • Severus: Kind of pointless if you ask me...
  • Regulus: Right, like, as Slytherin's we don't really have much to be thankful for, do we?
  • Barty: Why can't we celebrate anyways! A Holiday is a Holiday!
  • Regulus: What are you thankful for then Barty?
  • Barty: I dunno...
  • Severus: [sighs] If you need something to be thankful for, check your pulse and be glad I haven't killed you yet.
Birthday/Holiday Starter Sentences
  • Could be used for other holidays or parties, just switch out the 'birthday' mentions with said holiday!:
  • "Happy Birthday!"
  • "Surprise!"
  • "This calls for a celebration!"
  • "Today is your day, enjoy it."
  • "Just another year closer to death."
  • "You're getting old!"
  • "No matter how many of these you have, you're still gonna be a baby to me."
  • "We/I invited everyone!"
  • "No no no, you are not going into work, not today!"
  • "Come on, I have something special planned for us today."
  • "Come on, you have got to let me put frosting on your nose, it's tradition."
  • "Whoa, there's cake all over you--let's get you cleaned up!"
  • "I got you a present."
  • "You got me a present?"
  • "It's a surprise, you have to close your eyes!"
  • "Are you legal now?"
  • "Here, a drink to the big [age here]!"
  • "You're going to have a night you'll never forget!"
  • "It's nothing, really."
  • "Do you like it?"
  • "I could get you something else if you don't like it."
  • "So what do you want me to get you for your birthday?"
  • "This is the best birthday ever."
  • "This is the worst birthday ever."
  • "It can't be worse than last years, right?"
  • "So how old are you now?"
  • "We're definitely going to have to celebrate in private later."
Easter rp Starters
  • "Are you wearing bunny ears?"
  • "Don't eat those! I'm saving them for Easter!"
  • "That is MY chocolate."
  • "I thought you were dyeing eggs, not yourself."
  • "Who came up with a rabbit for this holiday anyway?"
  • "You hid the eggs, right?"
  • "I can't wait until all the Easter candy goes on sale."
  • "Isn't Easter suppose to be about, like, Jesus or something?"
  • "I don't understand this holiday."
  • "Look at this egg. I decorated it myself!"
  • "I don't like Easter."
  • "I'm decorating for Easter. Do you like the flowers?"
  • "What do you mean you lost the eggs?"
  • "Do we have any candy left?"
  • "Why did you leave the chocolate out?"
  • "Thanks for helping with my Easter decorations."
  • "I am not wearing that bunny costume."
  • "Ugh! Easter grass! Easter grass everywhere!"
Lord of the Rings {Sentence Starters}
  • "All right then, keep your secrets. But I know you have something to do with it!"
  • "Save your pity and your mercy! I have no use for it!"
  • "I'm sorry I brought this upon you, my ____."
  • "You shall not pass!"
  • "It's just a feeling. I don't think I'll be coming back."
  • "And some things that should not have been forgotten, were lost."
  • "I don't know. I don't know what's going to happen."
  • "You don't see it, do you? He's a villain."
  • "Throw yourself in next time, and rid us of your stupidity!"
  • "I mean, they don't actually expect me to do any fighting. Do they?"
  • "You cannot hide. I see you!"
  • "You just startled me is all. What were you doing?"
  • "I'm sorry that you must have to carry this burden. I'm sorry for everything."
  • "Shut up, you! Go away! Get out of here!"
  • "Fly, you fools!"
  • "Certainty of death. Small chance of success. What are we waiting for?"
  • "There's no promise you can make that I can trust."
  • "LEAVE NOW, AND NEVER COME BACK!"
  • "If I take one more step, I'll be the farthest away from home I've ever been."
  • "None of us should wander alone. You least of all."
  • "Look at them. They're frightened. You can see it in their eyes."
  • "I cannot jump the distance, you'll have to toss me!"
  • "Whatever you did, you’ve been officially labeled a ‘disturber of the peace.’"
  • "Let him stay there. Let him rot! Why should we care?"
  • "One does not simply walk into _____."
  • "You don't mean that. You can't leave!"
  • "You must trust yourself. Trust your own strengths."
  • "I know what I must do, it's just that- I'm afraid to do it."
  • "If you want him, come and claim him!"
  • "I need a holiday, a very long holiday. And I don’t expect that I shall return. In fact, I mean not to."
  • "Oh, what business is it of yours what I do with my own things?!"
  • "I don't feel like parting with it! It's mine, I found it!"
  • "Well, if I'm angry, it's your fault!"
Thanksgiving with the RFA be like..
  • Zen: Hey babe! Do you know what I'm thankful for this year?
  • MC: Is it... Me?
  • Zen: My looks.
  • MC:
  • -
  • Yoosung: Hey MC! What are you seasoning the turkey with?
  • MC: Garlic, Onion, Paprika, and Salt!
  • Yoosung:
  • Yoosung:
  • MC: What?
  • MC:
  • MC: OMG don't say i-
  • Yoosung: Rika!
  • -
  • Jaehee: Happy Thanksgiving MC! Do you want to know what I'm thankful for?
  • MC: Our relationship?
  • Jaehee: Our completely platonic friendship.
  • MC:
  • -
  • Seven: Hey hey hey MC can you pass the salt?
  • MC: Sure!
  • MC: Oh.. I can't find it.
  • Seven: It's somewhere between my feelings for you and my hatred for myself.
  • MC: Huh?
  • Seven: TIARANOL!
  • -
  • Jumin: Hello MC. Would you like to know what I am thankful for this holiday?
  • MC: Does it involve a girl? Maybe a girl with brown hair and ember eyes?
  • Jumin: Elizabeth 3rd.
  • MC:
  • -
  • Seven: NVM I found my salt.
  • Seven: it's by V.
  • Seven: Not surprised he couldn't see it. Lololol
  • MC:
Gods and Monsters Starter Sentences
  • "In the land of Gods and Monsters."
  • "I was an angel."
  • "Doing anything that I needed."
  • "You got that medicine I need."
  • "fame, liquor, love, give it to me softly."
  • "Put your hands on my waist."
  • "Do it softly."
  • "Me and God, we don't get along."
  • "No one's gonna take my soul away."
  • "Headed towards a fucked up holiday."
  • "Fuck yeah."
  • "Give it to me."
  • "This is Heaven."
  • "It's innocence lost."
  • "Dope, shoot it up, straight to the heart please."
  • "I don't really wanna know what's good for me."
  • "God's dead."
  • "Baby, that's alright with me."
  • "When you talk it's like a movie."
  • "And you're making me crazy."
  • "(If I get a little prettier)Can I be your baby?"
  • "Life imitates art."
  • "Life isn't that hard."

REPOST // DON’T REBLOG

NAME: Luri
GENDER: Agender (she/her)
EYE COLOR: blue
HAIR COLOR: all natural ginger
RELATIONSHIP STATUS: single
ZODIAC: leo
FAVORITE COLOR: greens!
FAVORITE SEASON: summer and winter? im odd
FAVORITE PLACE: small spaces like my bedroom
FAVORITE HOLIDAY: christmas
FAVORITE VIDEO GAME: Okami, Journey, and LoZ 
LAST SHOW YOU WATCHED: Hannibal wheezes
WHAT’S YOUR HONEST OPINION ABOUT YOUR MUSE? ah AH Airin and Xavier are my literal sons. i’ve had them both for so long they’re basically their own entities. MY LOVE Airin is headstrong, not afraid to get down and dirty, very courageous, but he’s not afraid to show people his true nature of being childish and energetic. he has many flaws. one being he believes he deserves to be alone so he tends to cut off many relationships he has. one other being he feels little to no remorse when it comes to his actions. Xavier on the other hand– i don’t care if people despise him or his actions I LOVE HIM. there i said it. my murderous, zero empathy, doesn’t give a shit about you son. bitch he knits. if he likes you he will make you a hat. or a shirt. he’s also very cuddly when he isn’t being an ass. he’s also very very wise/intelligent. he just doesn’t have the mental capacity to interpret information/voices half the time. i love them both to pieces i’ll stop here before i go further LMAO
WOULD YOU DATE YOUR MUSE?: I wouldn’t date Airin honestly? we would be like bffs. he would make an excellent friend. i would totally date xavier though because i’m trash.
WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE KINDS OF THREADS?: oh man i don’t have a preference? i really like angsty ones though, or ones that are really involved in characters learning about one another through deep conversation.
ARE YOU A SELECTIVE ROLEPLAYER? hmm i’d say so yeah. not to certain people. unless grammar is poor/little to no information about their muse. i’m selective when times get busy really.
DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE MUSE? ah i have so many ocs. all them are dear to my heart, but it’s obvious…. it’s airin…. oops
WHAT MADE YOU DECIDE TO JOIN THE FANDOM? let’s change this to why i started rping on tumblr? since my story Luria isn’t published quite yet lMAO. i started rping here out of mere curiosity and wanting to write airin through asks and such. i’ve made so many lovely friends. ones i still talk to today even after four years. ahh it’s been great.
DO YOU SEE YOURSELF STAYING WITH THE FANDOM FOR A LONG TIME? with tumblr? why yes. i enjoy the community here, and i never see the nasty part of tumblr cus i never follow those kinds of blogs lmao. depending on my future i think i’ll stay for quite a while

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anonymous asked:

SUPER IMPORTANT!!!!! I'm feeling really dysphoric and for Easter I have to wear a dress because no one in my family knows I'm trans and when I get home I'll be alone for a really long time and I don't know what to do to help get rid of the dysphoric feeling. Please help

Ren says:

To all my lovely trans sisters and brothers and siblings having to undergo Easter dressup (or Passover dressup, or any holiday dressup):

You’re valid. No matter what clothes they put you in. Maybe you’re undercover, like a spy; maybe you’re crossdressing; maybe you just look really darn good in a dress or suit or whatnot. Your clothes don’t determine your gender. You do, and you’ve already done that, so - congratulations! You’re valid and you and amazing.

But that doesn’t always help dysphoria go away. So what’s a [your gendered noun of choice here] to do?

Biutiful Starters
  • "Look in my eyes. Look at my face"
  • "Remember me, please"
  • "Don't forget me, my love, please"
  • "You can give up, let yourself go, or grit your teeth and hang on like stupid people do"
  • "If I close my eyes then the thoughts start"
  • "They make me scared"
  • "I called you. I called you many times"
  • "I can't give the children what they need"
  • "I'm doing what I can to survive"
  • "I really want to be faithful to you, but I also like to have some fun"
  • "Don't say that"
  • "Forgive me"
  • "Take me with you on holiday again"
  • "At the clinic they have to restrain me"
  • "Calm down. Easy. It will be alright"
THIS. SPEECH. THOUGH.
  • Doctor: What is it that you actually want?
  • Bonnie: War.
  • Doctor: Ah, right. And when this war is over, when you have a homeland free from humans, what do you think it's going to be like? Have you thought about it? Have you given it any consideration? Because you're so close to getting what you want. What's it going to be like? Paint me a picture. Will you live in houses? Will you go to work? Will there be holidays? Oooh! Will there be music? Do you think people will be allowed to play violins? Who's going to make the violins? Well? Oh, you don't actually know, do you? Because like very other tantruming child in history, Bonnie, you don't actually know what you want. So let me ask you a question about this brave new world of yours. When you've killed all of the bad guys and when it's all perfect and just and fair. When you have finally got it exactly the way you want it... what are you going to do with the people like you? The troublemakers. How are you going to protect your glorious revolution from the next one?
  • Bonnie: We'll win.
  • Doctor: Oh, will you? Well, maybe you will win. But nobody lives for long. The wheel just keeps turning. So, come on, break the cycle.
  • Bonnie: Why are you still talking?
  • Doctor: Because I want to get you to see, and I'm almost there.
  • Bonnie: Do you know what I see, Doctor? A box. A box with everything I need. A fifty percent chance.
  • Kate: For us, too.
  • Doctor: And we're off! Fingers on buzzers. Are ya feeling lucky? Ready to play the game? Who's going to be quickest? Who's going to be luckiest?
  • Kate: This is not a game!
  • Doctor: No! It's not a game, sweetheart, and I mean that quite sincerely.
  • Bonnie: Why are you doing this?
  • Kate: Yes, I'd quite like to know that too. You set this up. Why?
  • Doctor: Because it's not a game, Kate! This is a scale model of war. Every war every fought, right there in front of you! Because it's always the same. When you fire that first shot, no matter how right you feel, you have no idea who's going to die. You don't know whose children are going to scream and burn, how many hearts will be broken, how many lives shattered, how much blood will spill until everybody does what they're always going to have to do from the very beginning: sit down and talk! Listen to me, listen. I just want you to think. Do you know what thinking is? It's just a fancy word for changing your mind.
  • Bonnie: I will not change my mind.
  • Doctor: Then you will die stupid. Alternatively, you could step away from that box. You could walk right out of that door and you could stand your revolution down.
  • Bonnie: No. I'm not stopping this, Doctor. I've started this, I will not stop it. Do you think they'll let me go after what I've done?
  • Doctor: You're all the same, you screaming kids, you know that? Look at me, I'm unforgivable. Well here's the unforeseeable: I forgive you! After all you've done. I forgive you.