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Kiss Scenes 101: How To Write The Perfect Kiss

Anonymous said: Hey there. Not sure what kind of questions you accept but…here goes. Do you have any tips for writing kiss scenes? Not fluffy kiss scenes but really passionate ones. Thanks!

I was hoping to post this on Valentine’s Day, but I got a little busy so it got pushed back. Happy (late) Valentine’s Day, and enjoy!

|| 1 || Detail. Remember that describing a kiss means including more detail than just what is happening and when. Be sure to include description of how the protagonist’s five senses are being affected, as well as some other elements such as:

  • What the protagonist smells
  • What the protagonist tastes
  • What the protagonist hears
  • What the protagonist sees
  • The inner monologue of the protagonist, if the point of view in your story allows it.

|| 2 || Make the kiss(es) realistic. Situational details are a key factor in making the scene more satisfying and memorable. Pay attention to details like the character’s physical characteristics, such as glasses, braces, messy hair, etc. and incorporate those tiny details into the scene.

She turned her head to the left, leaning in to brush her lips against her partner’s, but was interrupted when their noses bumped together, making them both giggle, and the awkwardness fade away.

I mean, sure, that’s not the best example, but at least it’s better than:

Their lips collided, and they made out flawlessly, as if they were in a Nicholas Sparks novel.

Little details like bumping noses, giggling, grinning like an idiot, stumbling, hesitating, etc. can make the scene so much better.

|| 3 || It doesn’t always have to be a full on make out session every time two characters kiss. A lot of the time, kisses are short and sweet and that can be enough to send a substantial spark to the fingers and toes, and send the reader out smiling. Pecks, if only on the cheek, can be more than enough and are extremely underrated.

|| 4 || Pay attention to what your characters do with the rest of their bodies. Kissing is in no way just about the mouth. Keep in mind that most of the time, people don’t just lean forward and mush their faces together. Grab the face, caress the lower back, hold their hand, hell, sweep them off their feet and carry them into the sunset! Don’t just stand there!

|| 5 || Lastly, but not VOCABULARY. Using the right wordage can improve your kiss scene-no, scratch that- ANY SCENE a million times better. I’ve made an entire post on vocabulary and synonyms to use for your sex/kiss scenes {shameless plug} and you can find it: 


|| 6 || Read kiss scenes as a writer would. Read kiss scenes that you’ve enjoyed and nitpick them to find what you do and don’t like about them, adding the good things to your own scene and being wary of the bad. 

And now, here are some extra tips to get you going:

 I. Practice - If you’re in a relationship or have a really great friend {;)}, practice the act and take notes on how it actually feels! A lot of people who read these kiss scenes take it as the reality because some have never kissed anyone, so teach them how it’s done!

II. Know your characters - Would they actually bite their partner’s lip like that? Would they actually go as far as caressing the majestical inner thigh? Think about it.

III. Add elements of the setting - Are your characters standing in the middle of a crowd? In a high school hallway? Elevator? Include details like sounds and smells and lighting to give the reader a more full-sensory experience.

IV. Dialogue can be fun to play with - Kissing doesn’t always have to be silent. Maybe they break for a second to say “You’re so beautiful” or “Did you pop a mint when I wasn’t looking, oh sneaky one?”. Include those little mutterings or comments because they are some of the best parts.

V. Have someone you trust read it - If you’ve got a good friend who will be honest, have them read and suggest edits. Google docs is fantastic for having your friends read and help you edit your work, because you can change the setting to “suggest edits” and you can see everything they’ve suggested without permanently altering the scene.

We grew up naive, thinking the fighting had already been done for us.
Thinking the generations before us fought so that we wouldn’t have to. But we’re seeing now that just because people die out doesn’t mean their hateful ideas do. We’re seeing now that it is our turn to stand up and fight. That maybe there will always be a fight to be had, but still we fight. We fight for ourselves, for those who have fought before us, and for those who will fight after us.
We don’t back down.
—  a.m. // we are the resistance
I needed her you know? She was my best friend and i loved her. Not in a romantic way, it wasn’t like that. But she was the person i went to when i was too sad to say a word, or so tired that i could not sleep. I needed her like an inhaler to help me breathe.
And now the weight of the world is sitting on my chest.
You are the moon, and all of its phases. You are the silence that hangs in the air after a thunder storm, and the warm waves washing against the shore. You are the furious wind and the softest breeze. You are anything, everything and all that’s in between.
—  You are life itself
It took a lot for me to open up to you. Even if it did seem small, to me it was huge.
And when you left. That was it.
When you left me in the middle of the night crying alone. That’s when I swore I’d never tell anyone anything ever again.
—  E.T // 01:25

And if tomorrow I am not here,
If tomorrow my parents are cutting ropes,
And my friends are buying black dresses
Please do not stand at my grave and weep
Go to the last place you were you,
And I was I

If you thought I looked pretty
When you saw me by my locker ,
But didn’t tell me
Go back in between second and third period,
And tell me please

If you just wanted to say hey
Or just tell me about your day
And now you’ll never have the chance
Pretend I’m in your passenger seat (like I always was),
And start there

If you saw how violet the skin under my eyes was,
And you saw the tears I was tying to hide,
But you didn’t say anything
Please know this isn’t your fault
Do not stand at my grave and weep
You can apologize to me, in your sleep

—  m.n // “A Suicide Letter I’ll Never Write”
People will only love the things they can relate to.
—  n.c.d - Aladea // that’s what i noticed
My own world is like a black rose, different and unreal but beautiful
—  Viola CN ‘’My own world’’
I used to see in colour but I slowly started building walls around myself and before I knew it, everything went black.
—  Georgiaonefour
And he thinks he knows you because he’s touched your skin and kissed you in places no one else has, but baby, he can’t even tell someone what your favorite color is.
—  n.g // excerpt from a book i’ll never write #25
1. Showing more skin does not equate with more beautiful.
2. You don’t have to wear makeup everyday.
3. Your mother loves you.
4. He doesn’t love you.
5. Things take time.
6. There is art in you and everything you do.
7. You don’t have to pretend anymore.
8. A cup of coffee every morning will not kill you.
9. You can’t live in your bed forever.
10. Time will heal a broken heart.
—  m.n // “Ten Things I Wish I Knew at Sixteen.”