this was a result of a 3 hour drive

A Good Story About Bad Grades

My first year of college was an exercise in humility. I arrived with my type A personality and perfectionism in tow, a living high school overachiever stereotype, eager to sign up for the most difficult classes available. And, despite the warnings of my adviser, I did just that.

By the time third week–and with it, exams–rolled around, I was falling apart. I was constantly behind, staying up till 3 a.m. to finish an assignment then sleeping for 12 hours the next day. I didn’t eat well. I cried every two or three days. I was miserable: physically, emotionally, and academically.

This collapse persisted for the duration of the year. While my schedule and habits improved somewhat, the year concluded with rather abysmal grades–the kind that result in your adviser telling you you’re not going straight from undergrad to med school. When I saw the B- in Gen Chem, my second of the year, I went for an hour-long drive. I thought about transferring. I thought about dropping the bio major. I thought about letting go of medicine. 

Over the summer, I decided to do whatever it took to continue with medicine. I changed my habits (pro tip: make sleep a priority) in studying, socializing, and taking care of myself. I promised to work harder.

However, I was sure that OChem would destroy me. With my background in chemistry, I believed OChem was something to be survived, not something in which to succeed. So when I got a 43 on my first midterm, over two standard deviations below average, it just confirmed my conclusions: I wasn’t that smart, but I would suffer through. 

I was committed to that suffering: I took my exam to my TA’s office hours, desperate to scrape a passing grade. Sheepishly, I flipped through the pages, expecting the furrowed-brow frown that read “how could you not understand this?” to appear on my TA’s face at any moment. But it didn’t. 

“This was a difficult exam,” he said.

“It was more difficult for me than most.” I mumbled. “I didn’t do so well in Gen Chem either.”

“That’s okay. How you did in Gen Chem doesn’t mean you’ll do the same in OChem.”

I was shocked to not be treated as the stupid student. I had regained my motivation over the summer, and now I was regaining my confidence. I threw myself into studying for my next midterm.

63. Just below average. Every insecurity returned: how could I study this hard and still barely brush average? If this is how hard I have to work for this grade, maybe I’m just not good enough. Maybe I just can’t cut it.

Still, I wasn’t ready to give up. When the final came around, I studied for a full week beforehand. 

I got an 85 on that final, two standard deviations above average. I didn’t think it was possible for me to do that well in OChem. I couldn’t believe it–but I began to.

After that, my grades rose across the board. Soon, I didn’t need a week to study, because I had worked so hard and continuously that I developed an instinct for the subject. I began to love OChem–I even tutor in it now.

My last midterm of the year I received a 95, moving from a bottom scorer to top five in my class. My second year GPA was 0.63 higher than my first year GPA. I had done what seemed impossible.

For any struggling student who’s reading this, I hope I can do for you what my TA did for me: believe in yourself. You can overcome bad grades. You are smart enough, and you are hardworking enough. Intelligence is elastic: you can make yourself smarter. There is no point at which you are doomed to fail. So keep trying: you may discover you’re capable of more than you ever dreamed.

anonymous asked:

You should do road trip headcanons!

This is perfect, because I just finished a month long road trip across the continental United States (I’ve seen it all), so I definitely know what’s it like to drive for hours and hours with people. 

So, considering there are seven people, they take a SUV (2 seats in front, 3 in the middle row, and two in the back)

So Hunk gets motion sick, and this applies to cars too, so all Hunk really only has two options:

  1. sleep
  2. listen to music

He ends up sleeping a lot, and as a result he misses a lot of the countryside and such. The rest of the Paladins are nice though, and they wake him up for anything they find interesting. 

(At one point they are going through some very bumpy roads, and since Hunk was asleep he kept bouncing up and down, ‘cause he couldn’t control it…Lance took a video)

Pidge sits in the WAY back, and uses the time to build new gadgets and when they pull the car behind a tour bus they’ll piggyback off of the bus’ wifi. 

Lance is the kind of guy who will want to stop everywhere he can just to get pictures ‘it’s the journey, not the destination’

Keith is the exact opposite, he just wants to get where they are going, and why is Lance making so many unnecessary stops?

Shiro is the main driver, and when he drives Allura is in the passenger seat, Hunk in the middle left window seat, Keith in the middle and Lance on the right middle window seat. (Coran and Pidge share the back).

Shiro is the only one who can keep the peace. Basically the entire car is a constant ticking time bomb that follows a simple cycle. 

First, Keith and Lance start arguing about who should be sitting in the window seat, and then Hunk complains about his headache. Pidge then tells everyone to shut it so they can concentrate, and Coran mumbles about how he’s never seen such a disrespectful group of paladins. 

Then Pidge, Lance, and Keith all team up on Coran and tell him “Of course we are fighting, it’s perfectly normal.”

Now it’s time for Allura to get involved, and she’ll comment something like “Perfectly normal for savages” and that sets off everyone again. 

Meanwhile, Shiro is trying to concentrate on the godamn road and he has a semi-truck pulling up on his right side and why won’t these idiots shut up and finally Shiro yells “QUIET!”

Everyone immediately quiets down and Shiro gets another hour of silence before the whole cycle starts ups all over again. 

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10.04.17 // research question of the week: how long does it take for 17b-estradiol (E2) to inhibit SMAD-dependent TGFb signaling in breast cancer cells that metastasize to the bone? 

experimental plan: pre-treat cells with E2 for different time-points (1, 2, 6, 16, & 24 hr) followed by 1 hr of TGFb treatment, harvest & quantify whole cell protein, Western blot for pSMAD2 and pSMAD3. not in the plan: have the centrifuge decapitate a sample tube (as seen in one of the pictures)!

predicted results: if E2′s effect on TGFb signaling is non-genomic (as proposed by other groups), then the downregulation of pSMAD2/3 following TGFb treatment should happen after a few hours of E2 treatment. if it’s genomic, or for some reason E2 needs a while to do whatever, then we won’t see the effects until the later time-points. 

significance: TGFb signaling has been reported to drive ER- breast cancer bone metastases (subset of breast cancers that express none to little estrogen receptor); however our lab hypothesizes that E2 signaling is the main driver in ER+ breast cancer bone mets, especially because E2 signaling can downregulate tumor TGFb signaling. but to carry out further studies, we need to know how long to pre-treat our cells with E2 before we see that effect. We already see it after 24 hrs of E2 treatment, but if the proposed non-genomic pathway is correct, then we should see it happen earlier.

to be continued!

Male Orgasm Control for a better sex life

Initial source : Benefits Of Male Orgasm control through applied Tantrism and Taoism
Inspired by a post by Aislin Acquati on May 1, 2013
Edited and augmented by Vulcain99 in June 2017

Other sources :

Alice Stockham – A book for every woman, 1886

Wikipedia - Coitus reservatus

“He knows how I like it,” explains Emily Darnell, a married advertising executive in her late twenties. She’s glowing as she details the sexual routine she has with her husband. “First he goes down on me, often for a half hour or so, and then when I’m right there on the verge of cumming, he enters me and fucks me viciously and I have such an intense orgasm.”
She stresses those lost two words, eyes wide with excitement. Intense… orgasm.
“But not him. He isn’t allowed. He stops after I cum so we can have cuddle time and I think it’s so hot feeling his hard cock pressed against my ass, knowing it belongs to me and his pleasure is mine to give or withold. It is quite the power trip!”
Emily is just one of a growing number of women who practice erotic sexual denial, also known as orgasm denial or orgasm control, a sexual practice in which a man is kept in a heightened state of sexual arousal for an extended length of time without orgasm. The length of time can range from hours and days to weeks and months.
“He’s much more attentive to me when he hasn’t cum for a while, much more willing to please me, to communicate with me.” says Emily. “And I’m all over him cuddling and thankful for his commitment while reminding him that it’s me who says when ”

Old knowledge practiced today

Directly derived from the teachings of Tantrism and Taoism, this way of leading a sex life between partners actually puts old knowledge into modern times. Having her man preserving his sexual energy, making it accumulating and channeling it to her is directly inspired from Tantrism. Taoism teaches us complete control of ejaculation as this is considered as a loss of male vital energy if practiced too often. The theory would be ideally having a man releasing his sperm only when the intention of procreation is there (cf. Alice Stockham) but modern society sees this otherwise as pleasure is the main drive of our lives nowadays.

If we look behind the curtain, science has shown that orgasm and sperm release are two different things and are triggering chemicals in the male brain. Spermal release through various non orgasmic techniques will ease the physical pressure the male partner might experience after longer periods of chastity. The pressure of seminal fluid in the prostatic gland might become uncomfortable and trigger an unwanted release during jntercourse so it is actually preferable to ‘milk’ the male partner when he feels that he is on the brink of uncontrolled release.


Sciences tells us also that orgasm denial builds up high dopamine levels in the brain while orgasm generates prolactin, a substance that makes dopamine drop rapidly. Without high levels of dopamine, a male partner is less attentive and loving than when kept on the edge for weeks and months. Of course masturbation with an orgasm will subsequently drop dopamine levels and thus it is important that the female partner stays in control rather than him. The couple’s harmony depends on these high dopamine levels and to keep these high discipline is required.

Now where is the issue ? Things are Males are addicted to orgasm by their biology and will search to relase as often as possible their sperm through masturbation or intercourse. This is what happens for most of them and intercourse with their partner is centered around his penis and his orgasm. Very often the female partner doesn’t even reach one orgasm while the male partner once done, gets quickly disinterested and the session is over.

The point here is to change this old rule by using ancient orgasm control technique together with modern sexual life where the female partner becomes the center of attention and in control of the male’s orgasms. Basically if the male partner is not allowed to cum when he wants, he will stay aroused and focused on her. He will keep his sexual energy, build it up and wait for her to tell him when he’s allowed to release. You can increase your male partners energy by edging him and by making him wait longer periods of time. This works only with discipline and trust. The truth is, men clearly need help controlling their cock.



Teasing and denying a man is extremely pleasuring for you and sexy to him. Eventually, you might allow your lover to have an orgasm as a reward for pleasing you and to strengthen your intimate ties. But when you finally decide to let this happen - make it HIS moment. Offer yourself to him and whisper sexy things in his ear to ever increase the sexual tension. Be focused on him so that he can release without any afterthought, freeing himself in an incredible orgasmic wave from the accumulated sexual tension.

When asked how she ensures her man isn’t masturbating, Emily said, “well – that’s the trick, he has to give you his word, and you have to let him know how disappointed you’ll be if he masturbates. Most guys who give control of their orgasm to you will at some point cheat and masturbate. You’ll soon recognize the signs – he becomes less agreeable, and his sexual response time slows. You’re able to pick up on subtle clues.”


Kimberly Thomas, a recent college graduate, has a similar approach and says, “A guy’s whole demeanor changes after masturbation. After you get to know him, it’s really easy to tell if he’s jerked off. If I suspect it, I just extend the time until he can cum again.
In some couples the game goes as far as that she physically locks his genital parts in a chastity device but this is more an SM fantasy game than a necessity. Basically this ‘game’ relies on trust and honesty. If one of the partners is not fully involved in the game and it’s rules it’s not going to work. On the other hand full adoption of the rules leads to permanent sexual excitement and a strong couple.

Benefits of Male Orgasm Denial


1. You’re in charge. He cums when you decide.
2. You’re the focus. Receive sexual and sensual pleasure the way you want and when you want.
3. You’re always desired. He’ll want you constantly.
4. The lines of communication are now open. He’s now more willing to share his thoughts and feelings with you and you are driving his desire for you with ever loving attention to make him feel that you value his commitment
5. You will explore your sex life to every extent

There are numerous benefits to women who practice male orgasm denial, and don’t worry about him, because he will experience pure ecstasy as a result. He will enjoy hours of passionate sex, rather than a short session of fucking for release. And, when you do allow him to cum, it will be a mind-blowing, earth-shattering orgasm.

Your man will also gain heightened sensual sensitivity. Emily says, “My husband often jokes that he gets a hard on whenever the wind blows. I can just brush my hand across his cock, and it gets hard almost instantly.”
Make no mistake about it – Emily is in control of his orgasms but this is a 50/50 relationship where he enjoys new sensations and she gets more attention and orgasms than ever before – her lover enjoys the results of being played by a woman who has mastered this art. “My husband has become my willing sex toy and I reward him with lots of kisses, cuddles, caresses, teasings and whisper sexy words  in his ears. I can ask him to undress when I want,  to have him licking my pussy whenever I desire, to kiss and massage or have intercourse anytime. He is always aroused and ready to go. And it almost never ends with him cumming, only me.’’

Male orgasm denial is erotic for both partners, but it offers multiple benefits to women. Being in charge of a sexually aroused man is electrifying – both mentally and physically. Knowing you have the power to cause and prevent events from happening, as well as create the conditions, is exciting.
Kimberly says, “I feel very excited. I mean, I control a very key part of his manhood. I learned by experience that a horny man is an loving man,” says Kimberly. On the other side she covers him with compliments, affection, massages, flatters his cock, whispers thankful words in his ear for taking care of her many orgasms and shows gratefulness while reminding also that she counts and controls the days on which he’s allowed to cum.
This is precisely the way this partnership works, keeping him confident and aroused and her sexually satisfied to every extent.

 Orgasms – Orgasms – Orgasms


Since you decide when your man will be able to cum as a reward for pleasing you, he will make every effort to give you orgasms – with his cock – his tongue – a vibrator – any way you please. Some men can stay hard and please their woman as long as needed once they are used to restraining themselves from cumming. As a result, you can expect to have multiple orgasms.
When asked how she benefited from male orgasm control, Kimberly said, “More orgasms more often for me, harmony in our partnership and peace".

Teasing and denying

Teasing and denying is fun, and it gives both sex partners a rush. When practicing male orgasm denial, you arouse your lover until he is on the verge of cumming, and then you make him stop – he is not allowed to cum. Tease and denial can take place during sex, but you can also get very creative by using sex toys.
Kimberly says, “Tease and denial is a very important aspect. I’m really into edging and brewing guys. I also like to use some emotional teasing – like when I’m cumming, I’ll say something like, ‘No, don’t cum, I don’t want you to, resist the urge. I decide ok ?’ to him which makes him even more excited. I’ve also told him in the past a man’s orgasm is for making babies, and since we’re not trying to make a baby, why does he need to cum? This makes him even more aroused. I’ve also reasoned with him that a woman’s orgasm is purely for pleasure. It’s really fun between us as we have a huge complicity in sex.

Milking or brewing


The problem you might encounter is that your man might actually build up too much sperm in his prostate, especially if you keep him chaste over weeks or months. This might make him unstable when rocking in and out of you. To reduce the risk of ejaculation or spilling sperm unwillingly, you might want to tease and milk your man to reduce the pressure. It will slightly reduce his levels of hornyness but evacuate the excessive sperm and allow again long sessions with him in you.
To milk or brew your partner i.e. to evacuate the excessive sperm without making him cum there are basically two options. Either you tease and deny him until sperm starts to flow like lava from his cock (sexy and exciting but this can take up to an hour and you take the risk of a preorgasm through risky stimulation) or you can stimulate the prostate gland directly by introducing one or two fingers in his anus and gently massaging the prostate’s seminal gland (not easy to have him accept this in the beginning btw). This second option might be surprising and requires lots of trust but it’s very efficient and rather quick depending on the levels of fullness of the gland. Some couples even use a prostate stimulator to make sure he gets the right stimulation.

You see, when you tease your man and deny him an orgasm regularly, you are building his frustration tolerance; therefore, he becomes very affectionate and more fun to be with. Why ? Because when a man is teased and denied, he experiences a mindset change. Remember the dopamine/energy pile up ? This is the reason. As a result, he reacts much like a female does after an orgasm. He wants to be intimate and snuggle. This allows for a more like-minded, enjoyable relationship.

 An Energetic Lover


As you now know, when a man cums, his energy level declines. However, a guy who has his orgasms controlled has an increase in vitality due to built up sexual energy. The result is a man full of life who is willing to use his energy – by taking you out – communicating – massaging you - however you want.

Emily explains it this way – “In some spiritual beliefs like Taoism, orgasm control is encouraged to preserve a man’s strength and essence. Ever heard that old adage in sports that athletes should avoid sex while training? You know that brief moment after a guy comes where he gets emotionally distant and physically spent? Taoists call that ‘the little death,’” she said.

Getting Started

It’s easy if your partner is willing and trusts you. The key is the way you make him feel how much you appreciate him for leaving you in control so that you build up his trust in you. Be aware that handing over his orgasms to you is a true gift from him to you and a sign of true love and devotion to your person. Make it clear that you’re now managing this part of his life but that you also highly appreciate his commitment. This is key in the rewarding mechanism that makes him feel good for giving you pleasure and affection. It’s this that keeps the whole thing going. Being a selfish bitch that uses her man just to cum whenever she wants it will ruin the alchemy rather quickly.

If he’s not, try to explain the benefits and start having sex where he holds back for a day, then 2 then 3. He’ll get to understand how this works and how exciting it is.

How long between two orgasms ? Keep in mind that you will have to increase the amount of time he goes without an orgasm gradually, but 2 weeks to 1 month is a good time frame for a build up.
In the end it can be one per month as a routine but some couples have been seen with him having an orgasm only once per quarter and sometimes more.

The thing is that he can improve and master his orgasms or need to orgasm through tantric exercises where he releases his perineal muscles completely combined with slow breathing to evacuate the contractions leading to orgasm. That way he stays in control of his body and will serve your pleasure endlessly without fighting constantly the urge to cum.

You are the sweet princess - he is your energic knight. The ability to tame him lies in your hands.
Have you mastered the art of male orgasm control ? If not, are you ready to start?

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This is whats been keeping me from doing draws the past few months! Including you do voodoo ofc! Me and another artist on the course (Sean) have spent over 100 hours the past few weeks really polishing our Art assignment! Out task was to design and model a shop for diagon alley! Here are the results from start to finish! <3 I did the exterior and he did the interior, it was very much a combined effort!! We also added spellbooks from other artists on our course as an easter egg :3c

Download and walk through it here!!
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/0BwNvkRy0r3_HalBsQlR0aVlXRVk

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Roy has been to The Oaks so many times over the past few years visiting clients with drug and alcohol abuse issues he really should have his own parking spot. Freddie, aka The Brick with Ears, has now been a reluctant resident of the facility for two days and has issues with the food, the counselors, the group sessions, and with the horse riding therapy. He also hates the carpet in his room.

Freddie: This place is hell. I thought there was supposed to be a 5 star chef? I can’t eat the crap they’ve been serving me! Look! I’m fading away to nothing! And I only want one-on-one counselling, no group therapy. Group therapy sucks big time, man.

Roy: I’ll talk to the director, but I’m pretty sure you have to do both. What is it about the group therapy that you dislike?

Freddie: The worst thing is, that at the end of the session we all have to hug each other.

Roy: You hate hugs? Seriously? Whoa. Who the hell hates hugs?

Freddie: Because I’m so big, everyone always has to stand on tip-toe to hug me. Their arms don’t fit all the way around me. It’s awkward. It makes me feel like a freak. I don’t like feeling like a freak.

Roy: You’re not a freak, Freddie.

Freddie
: I don’t know, man. People always stop and stare at me on the street.

Roy:
That would be because you’re famous, Freddie.

Freddie: Are you sure?

Roy: Yup. One hundred percent.

Freddie: Thanks man, you always know how to make me feel better… hey. I nearly forgot to tell you. I made some awesome macrame llama key holders in my art and craft therapy class this morning. Do you want to come and have a look?

Roy: Any other time Freddie, but I’m in a bit of a rush and I really don’t want to hit the peak hour traffic driving back into town…

He talks match results and player ratings with him for a few minutes then slaps him on the shoulder and turns to go, before nearly colliding with a well-preserved strawberry blonde who’s just entering the room.

Roy: Sorry, I…Jesus Christ. ANITA??

Anita: Oh. Shit. Hello, Roy.

[TRANSLATION] Lay - 140902 Elle Magazine Hong Kong: "If People Look Down On Him He Works Harder"

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Elle: Would you like to be more comprehensive and well rounded?

Lay: While keeping the things I’m good at in check, I would also like to expand on other aspects as well. For example, even though I debuted with dance, I have been working hard on piano, guitar, composing, arranging, singing, etc.

Elle: Do you think this kind of understandable, clear image is a good thing or a bad thing?

Lay: As for artists, “Art does not pressure the body” is a proverb I have always really believed in. In addition, since I’m a Libra, I tend to seek and chase after perfection and harmony, so I encourage myself a lot. I work hard to make every aspect of what I do right.

Elle: From an artist’s perspective, a comprehensive, well-roudned personality is an advantage, right?

Lay: Yes yes yes!! The mature type can, like me, showcase more things.

Elle: Is your own personality the slow type?

Lay: I don’t have the best personality. Usually I am really calm, but sometimes I can have outbursts after accumulating feelings over a long period of time, it can shock people.

Elle: If there were a good opportunity within the film industry, would you take it?

Lay: Of course, because a good acting opportunity can also help me to write music. I can also learn a lot in the film industry and make new friends, and maybe the friends I make also like music, that would be even better!

Elle: What if you were asked to write the title song?

Lay: Wow… If they accepted a song I wrote as the title song, then I wouldn’t ask for any appearence fees!

Elle: What are your goals and aspirations in music?

Lay: In terms of music, our sunbaes are already a great aspiration. I had never thought to bring Chinese music to different places, but I have thought of this: I am part of a Chinese group, but I am also from a Korean entertainment company who trained me to be an Asian star, so our promotions are around the globe. I hope that through this type of channel and bridge, there will be some sort of unity. I am giving myself 10 years of time, no, maybe 5, to lead the Chinese music industry myself. This is my biggest aspiration.

Elle: Pretend that you have returned to the Chinese music environment, and you find that it does not live up to your expectations. What do you do then?

Lay: I am very willing to accept failures, very happy to accept failures. In music, there is no right answer, there is only an approach. When the music you make: your beat, your melody, your lyrics, has two out of the three that captivates the audience, then this song is pretty much complete. You cannot possibly expect everyone to like your music, but if people can cry with you and feel your emotions after they hear the song, then it is good.

Elle: What kind of music do you usually like to listen to?

Lay: I really like to listen to the songs I compose myself. Do you want to listen? Recently, I’ve written a rap, a demo, which has a lot of ties with Chinese popular music (When the interviewer was listening to the song, Lay was there explaining the meaning of the song and also accompanied the music with his own dance moves…….)

Elle: Then, do you watch television dramas for inspiration?

Lay: I really do not have time to watch! Wasn’t ‘My Love From Another Star’ really popular? I never had time to watch that. I always thought that it was about a girl who came over from another planet, and then there was a series of events that happened.

Elle: What do you think you will be like in 5 or 10 years time?

Lay: Besides my career, it would probably be the time to find a girlfriend, right? Or marry? Hahahaha!

Elle: Then what about in terms of career?

Lay: Of course I cannot give up my career. My dream is pretty enormous, so the preparation I have to do is a lot as well. I am always accumulating and building up, because I hope to lead the Chinese music industry well.

Elle: How did you acquire and excel in your meticulous and courteous qualities?

Lay: I was raised by my grandpa and grandma since my youth, they were both teachers, so they influenced me a lot. Also, I am a person who respects my elders. When I first arrived at the company, there was a lot of etiquette. When cultures collide, it really makes one’s head hurt. In Korea, people respect and emphasize status: you have to greet and bow to people who are above you, and you can use informal language to people in a status below you. But, I have been educated in manners since I was small, so I thought that anyone and everyone who helped me, everyone who works on my behalf behind the scenes, they are all people I am grateful to, they are all people who are above me in status.
To fans, this is even more pertinent. We do not have a very direct way of communicating with them, and I have never said, “You guys are my girlfriends”, or things like that, but everyone knows that it is a feeling that wholly exists. All we really do is put on some makeup, wait in an airconditioned room, and then go on stage to perform and sweat a lot. But the fans, they probably wait from early in the morning, the day before yesterday, buy tickets more than a month before, and sometimes they even visit us at the airports, so I think that the love that our fans (who are also our friends) is worthy of respect and love. If my bow can represent thanks and respect, I hope you all don’t think I bow too much; the things you all do for us, I could bow a hundred or a thousand times and it wouldn’t be enough.

Elle: Can you tell us about your childhood?

Lay: Since young, my mother loved showing me videos of Michael Jackson; at the time the Moon Walk was really popular, and I wanted to learn it, but I couldn’t learn it no matter how hard I tried. In high school, I started to show interest in Popping, and now I am our group’s lead dancer. I think in the road I took, the most important aspect is that you have to work hard and perservere to train. I also tell my friends, no matter what field the company they’re entering is in, they have a good chance of doing well there. When I was still a trainee, I would practice over 10 hours per day, and I could also spend nights where I would not return home to sleep. My motivation was drawn from the multiple instructors who who did not approve of me for my poor results, so I had to make some good results. People who look at you with contempt can drive you to work especially harder.

Elle: What is your favorite motto in life?

Lay: Work hard, work hard, and then work harder1

Elle: Please state 3 good points about yourself

Lay: So far, I have only listed one: Gratefulness. This is absolutely truthful, but I have to think about the other ones…. I think I am a person who has talent, hahaha, and also perserverance!

Elle: Lastly, please say something for ELLE MEN’s one year anniversary!

Lay: Firstly, to be able to represent EXO and attend ELLE MEN’s photoshoot, to be able to interact with Hong Kong friends and interact with them face to face, I feel very blessed and happy. During the Hong Kong concert I really wanted to say something: Thank you so much to everyone who came to watch our concert! Thank you everyone! So I also hope that EXO will have better and more promotions, and show everyone a better side of us. I hope everyone will continue to love ELLE MEN, and continue to love EXO!2

Credit: translation: dailyexo.tumblr.com, Source: Elle Magazine. (1Note: this phrase is used in the profile of Lay’s weibo account, 2Note: said in Cantonese)

What made me smile this week:

Sunday: While preparing for our big trip to Seattle, Andrew spent the day calming our collective nervous tension with humor. Example: “Shane, I hope our plane crashes, in water, so that I have a chance of escaping but you still don’t.” Brotherly love makes me smile.

Monday: I am currently sitting at 36,000 feet, in an airplane, jetting off towards the west coast for three big speaking engagements in Washington. My team of caregivers did a phenomenal job with the plane-boarding process. I am comfortable in my adaptive child’s car seat. Now, all there is to do is sit back, relax, and enjoy these complimentary pretzels. I am smiling.

Tuesday: At the conclusion of our opening keynote tonight, a man approached me and Sarah. He told us with teary eyes that we had changed his life, and that he was going to start working towards accomplishing the goals that he long-ago gave up on. Knowing that our message is truly helping people makes me happier than I can convey. It made me smile.

Wednesday: After performing two more speeches today, we piled in our rented van for the hike back to Seattle (the conference we attended was 3 hours away in Wenatchee). By this point, we were all borderline delirious with sleep deprivation—the result of the time zone change, stress from our talks, and the excitement of traveling. However, driving back through the breath-taking Cascade Mountains put us all at ease. Listening to the four of us “ooooh” and “ahhh” at the snowcapped mountains made me smile.

Thursday: We arrived to the Seattle airport at 3am this morning, functioning on the faux-energy of caffeine alone. As soon as we were through security, Andrew made a direct route to the nearest food kiosk, where he bought a massive grilled chicken sandwich. Watching him devour it at 3:30am made me smile (and gag).

Friday: I ordered a cheesy double beef burrito at Taco Bell (I know, I know, I’m the worst), but the drive-thru clerk said they don’t have them anymore. During my existential crisis that immediately ensued, another clerk hopped on the system and said, “Ya know what? I can make one. It’s not like we don’t have the ingredients.” It made me smile.

Saturday: I got a new tattoo today (picture forthcoming), and while the artist was working on a section near my spine, I said, “What if you somehow triggered something in my spinal cord and suddenly I could walk.” There was a long pause. I thought the joke had fallen without effect. Twenty seconds later he said, “Well… I’d be famous.” It made me smile and laugh.

What made you smile this week?

anonymous asked:

You don't work at the bux anymore right? What's one thing you miss? One thing you don't? And what's your general view of the company after working there? And do you still visit the siren often?

Something I miss? My coworkers and the coffee. I love the coffeeshop atmosphere and I think there’s a certain unspoken bond built between people who have to work from 6pm Thanksgiving night through to 2am on Black Friday because capitalism. 

Something I dont? Working with the general public. People take Starbucks WAY too seriously. Like they’re special for drinking it, special for having a custom drink, special for being a gold card member, special for tipping, special for knowing what a fucking french press is. And because of all this specialness, they feel like they’re entitled to be chucklefucks to baristas, treat the store like shit (get your fucking feet off the chairs) or make unreasonable demands of the staff. All because “the customer is always right”. Again, I blame capitalism. 

General view of the company? Starbucks has fallen into the trap of efficiency and it’s crippled the idea that a well made cup of coffee is the work of a true craftsman. Just look at how people scoff at this blog. “pfft, you’re just a barista, shut up and make my drink” without any consideration that a barista should be held in as high regard as a chef or a mixologist. 

And Starbucks ignores that. They want efficient cogs that are replaceable shift to shift and consistent between stores. I get that, obviously, its the company model but the model sucks, largely because consumers suck. Sure, if I go to a starbucks and order a cup of brewed coffee, it should be relatively the same from store to store. But you know what? If I go to a store and order a flat white, I want the barista to wow me. Give me some personal flare. A flat white should be well made at every store but each should be a testament to that individual baristas style and skill. But individual style in a barista? Not something Starbucks is about. 

And that sucks. I wish Starbucks would do a few things to really improve both the customer and employee experience. 

1) Brick up the drive thrus. Seriously

2) Simplify the menu. Get rid of half the flavor options and seriously limit seasonal drinks. Thats a good start. 

3) Double available training hours and spend a full week on quality and skill before we worry about speed. 

4) Establish a company wide disclaimer that reads “Starbucks drinks are handcrafted by local baristas. While we endeavor to maintain a high level of consistent quality, there will be small variations as a result of personal style. We believe this creates a more authentic experience and feel to our locations. ”

Do I still visit often? Not like I used to. Theres one barista in this metroplex I trust and shes about to quit. I’ll still swing in for the occasional cup of brewed or a black eye but my opinion of the local barista talent is so low, I simply dont trust them to not ruin anything else. 

pointtoesforwhat  asked:

Top 5 inspirations.

1. All those senior ladies and men who refuse to quit after years of hard work until they get the results they want and deserve

2. Everyone who has ever had a serious injury and still comes back to this crazy sport

3. All the underdogs, who’s stories give me hope for my own future results

4. All the teachers who have dedicated their lives to dance, who spend even more time in the studio than us dancers, and are proud of us no matter what the judges think

5. Our parents, who spend thousands a year for lessons, shoes, dresses, wigs, etc. who drive for hours to the next feis. And who love and support us through it all

These are the people who get me though the countless hours of class, through the blood, sweat, and tears. They truly inspire me to do my best and enjoy this passion we all share ❤️🍀

Choosing not to have children should not make me feel devalued as a human being.

After reading a few posts written by women who either choose not have children or just don’t want them, I have a few things I’d like to say about it.

I get that most people who follow me won’t agree with any of what I have to say but hey-ho.  I’m not here to please everyone and these are my opinions on the matter.

First off, I would like to point out that I don’t hate women who have kids, I really don’t.  I’m at an age now when most of my friends have at least one child, if not two or three.

But I do have an issue with how myself and other women who choose not to have kids are treated by the majority of mothers that we encounter on a daily basis.

As a result, I felt compelled to write something about it.  I don’t see enough literature out there that represents people like me: a woman in her mid-30’s who isn’t married and who chooses not to have children.

I have listed some of my biggest problems with choosing not to have children.  A lot of these refer to the workplace but some are just the just the usual issues I have on a daily basis. 

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