Hey Emma 💛 Do you have any advice for procrastination? I also have a hard time concentrating, what do you do (or think I could do) that would help with that?
Hi! I’ve had a few questions like this recently so I’m just going to answer this one and hopefully anyone who asked a similar question will see it! But on with the answer. I think there is a few different reasons why we procrastinate so I’m going to note those down and give a few tips for each. You can obviously apply any ideas that you like regardless of what section I’ve put them under!
1. You’ve got poor work/productivity habits. Generally you leave things until the last minute since you “work better under pressure”. (This is so me, omg.) You probably think you’ll do something after you’ve finished something else, and then never do. You get get distracted whenever you’re trying to study and will sit waiting to feel motivated but it never comes. For this I’d suggest:
create a productive work environment - choose a space where you will actually work without distractions, organise your study space, have everything you need in easy reach. Surround yourself with things you find motivating such as quotes!
write it out - write down a few manageable tasks that you need to do. Writing the actions they require will help you see what you should be doing to complete something, instead of just the overall task. One by one you’ll see yourself getting things done!
focus on 20-30 minute periods - generally we lose focus after a while so taking regular breaks can help give you chance to relax and refocus. Apps like Forest allow you to set a timer and will give you off your phone at the same time. Obviously if you’re being productive, don’t suddenly cut that off because it is “time for a break”.
use apps/browser extensions to cut out distractions - ones like RescueTime or StayFocusd will block you from checking certain sites.
find an accountability partner - pick someone who you can rely on to check on your regularly and see how your tasks are coming along. You can send them your to-do list and then every few hours you can update them with your progress. You won’t want to let them down.
use the two-minute rule - if something takes less than two minutes, do it. Don’t make an excuse, just do it. Tasks that are longer you can either delegate or defer. Here is a simple visualisation of what I mean.
record your progress - doing a simple “don’t break the chain” in your planner is a great way to see how productive you’re being and therefore get you more motivated to keep it up!
2. You’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Everything seems to be mounting up and nothing seems doable. You don’t know where or how to start. For this I’d suggest:
find some help - if you’re feeling like this, it is likely you need some help in some form or another. See if a family member, friend, classmate or teacher (or Google) can help or give you a starting point.
tell yourself that getting started is the first step - you don’t need to finish a task in a matter of minutes. Start doing something small. Maybe organise what you need, highlight the important bits of your assessment, or draft an essay plan. The secret to getting ahead is getting started!
divide and conquer - figure out what is the overall task that you need to do and split it into manageable parts. For instance with an essay the aim is to write it! Divide it into planning out what you want to write, any references you need, summarising a final draft and then writing each paragraph. By dividing bigger tasks into actionable parts you can reduce the obstacles and get through each part in a more timely manner.
reward yourself - create a reward system to celebrate completing a selection of tasks. By rewarding your progress you’ll build an incentive to work and reinforce productivity (great for your self-discipline!).
learn to forgive yourself - if you have an off day, that is okay! You can’t expect to see a huge change in a short amount of time. Remember to come back to it later and try again.
don’t over schedule - if you’re feeling pressure from the amount of work and then the added pressure of trying to stick to a time limit, you’re just going to go crazy. Set yourself flexible times to get something done instead of being heavily structured. Give yourself time for a break and the ability to change tasks.
stick with one task - it can be so tempting to multitask but try not to. Try to keep focus on the what you’re doing until it is done. If you struggle with that, you could write down anything useful that you randomly think about for another task, use a break-time to think about that other task or alternate between subjects/tasks every few hours.
3. You’re a perfectionist. You either don’t want to start something out of fear you won’t get it right or you can stuck on stuck on the small details. There is a pressure to achieve “perfection”. For this I’d suggest:
focus on getting started, instead of finishing - it is easy to get overwhelmed thinking about what something is supposed to be like finished if you’re a perfectionist. Take things one step at a time.
remember that your perfectionist tendencies aren’t actually improving your work or productivity but hindering you - you’re continually setting yourself unrealistic objects and (like me) probably feel let down by yourself if you don’t reach them. Be realistic and focus on getting it done!
accept mistakes - you’ve written something wrong, don’t panic! Cross it out with a single line and move on. Things happen and you have to accept it. You can’t rip up the page every time you do something wrong, even if it is so tempting.
put things in perspective - is what you’re beating yourself up about right now going to mean anything in a week, a month, a year? Be honest if it isn’t, is it really worth putting unnecessary pressure on yourself.
praise yourself through the process - try not to criticise yourself but recognise your progress.
4. You’re wanting to do something else. You find whatever you’re doing boring. You want it to be over with but don’t want to get started. The ultimate catch 22, right? For this I’d suggest:
remember that putting it off isn’t going to make it go away - if you leave it too long you’ll end up getting more stressed about it. Best to get it over with.
plan from the get-go - once you know something is coming up (e.g. a test, an assessment, etc) make notes on it! That could be questions, annotations, potential topics, citations, etc. By making the effort to spend time reading through, you’ll save your future self some stress. Especially if it’s a topic you have forgotten. That way your notes act as a reminder so you can get started.
set a finish time with a reward - tell yourself that if you finish something by ..am/pm and then you can do something else. Use your self-discipline to not go back on this. Set a realistic time and try to get it complete before. If you can think that you’re doing something fun once it is completed, you’ll be more motivated to get it done.
make a structure - for note-taking, it can be overwhelming looking at a textbook and thinking what you’re going to write out. Make a note-taking layout/colour code that works for you and that subject. Mine is here - it just give me an idea of how I’d lay everything instead of going in with no action plan.
try to make it fun - this could be using YouTube to learn or starting a study group. Use different methods for memorising information such as flashcards, mindmaps or study guides (like question/answer).
make the effort to refocus - if you’re finding something boring and you’re unfocused, walk away for 5 minutes, get a drink and come back. If you’re really struggling, change topics for a while. Find a point where you can finish and start doing something else that is productive.
listen to some music - generally music without lyrics are best for focusing. Spotify has a great playlist for studying called ‘focus’. However I find my regular music good for getting me a little more motivated and awake. I also like writing essays to music because I weirdly sort of type in the same rhythm. Funny study hack I’ve found that works for me haha!
I hope that is useful! I must have copied and pasted my whole answer like 5 times just incase my tab reloaded and I lost everything, luckily not! You should also check out this post for smaller motivation tips and tricks! xx
So I just made up my mind to start the 100 days of productivity challenge! I’ll try my best to stay consistent :3 Today I got my first few things from MUJI from my friend! I also finished some last minute studying for my delayed science midterm and am current writing an essay for English.
And in the end, he does in fact pull the device out. I thought maybe he’d keep it, have a last minute moment of doubt. But no, he kept on and cut the damned thing right out.
This’ll be the last Black Mirror episode I’m likely to liveblog, though I will absolutely be watching the rest. I’ve thus far found each episode to be interesting and thought-provoking, and I just love the ideas here. A couple thoughts, then, before I wrap up tonight.
For one, the world building in these is just exceptional. I’ve spent most of my posts conjecturing about the details surrounding the story more than the story itself, and even though those ideas rarely play into the real heart of the story in the end, it’s fascinating how many questions they raise about humanity in the process.
Which brings me to my second thought. Hubby said, when I was mostly done with this episode, that the series seemed to be about “technology is the devil”. I could not possibly disagree with this more. To me, it’s clear that in each of the stories I’ve watched so far (this one and “Be Right Back” especially, far more than “San Junipero”) are more cautionary tales about US than the tech involved. In each case, the technology is little more than a tool. What gets the characters in the end is always human nature, always themselves. In this way, it’s so much less “technology is the devil”, and more “technology makes it easier for us to be who we are”, AND THAT IS THE PROBLEM. We’re a small, frightened, petty species, and unless we learn to grow and mature on a scale to match the technology we’re creating, we will ultimately be our own undoing.
Hi, you beautiful soul you. I need to go stalk your FF page to see if you've written anything. I don't know why, but I don't get alert emails for you. Title thing: public enemy #2
That’s weird. I’m guessing you have me on alerts? Must be an issue with FF.net.
Okay, well, the last one of these I did got crazy long, so I’m going to keep this one brief.
So one day, Jane was in the kitchen making a sandwich, and she realized that she forgot to buy peanut butter. That won’t do. Time for a grocery run!
She gets in her car and is almost immediately caught in a traffic jam. She sits there for five minutes with no movement at all. Everyone around her is getting antsy, honking their horns and screaming. Jane can’t say she blames them, but she’s tired from a long week of work and doesn’t have the energy to be upset, she just really wants these goddamn cars to move.
Finally, they do, and as Jane drives by, she notes there was a big accident on the side of the rode. Two cars smashed together with an ambulance loading two injured people onto the stretchers. It looks bad, but nobody else appears to be hurt. Jane continues on to the store without any trouble. She starts to park in the first available car seat, but before she can unlock the door, a man comes out of nowhere and rushes into the passenger seat of her car.
He’s a very handsome man in a ripped dress shirt that has flecks of blood in it. He’s sweating and breathing heavily like he ran a long distance. He reaches into his pocket, and for a split second, Jane’s life flashes before her eyes, because surely he’s about to pull out a gun.
Instead, he takes out a roll of hundred dollar bills.
“Drive me where I need to go, and you can have it,” he tells her. He has a British accent, sort of like her ex-boyfriend, Thor. Come to think about it, Thor had some photos of his estranged brother in his house if Jane remembered correctly, and he looked exactly like this guy.
“Excuse me?” Jane asks, flabbergasted. “No!”
Three more cars tear into the parking lot, and suddenly bullets are flying everywhere.
“I’m afraid you don’t have a choice anymore, Jane.”
The fact that he knows her first name would be a top concern if it wasn’t for all the shooting going on. Jane somehow manages to step on the gas and get them out of there. Her passenger sticks his head out the window to return fire. Their aim is as bad as those guys in the action movies, but of course he gets two of them right in the head. By now, there are sirens blaring in the distance, so now there’s not only insane killers chasing them, but also the cops.
He won’t let her stop because the cops can’t be trusted. They can’t go back to her place either because the police and the news crew flying overhead is probably already running her plates to get her name and address. They pass the accident site, and Jane again notes the blood on her passenger.
By the time they’re driving out of city limits, Jane’s name is all over the news as ‘a possible accomplice of career criminal, Loki Laufeyson.’
And that’s how Jane became a wanted fugitive over peanut butter.
This little fluff explosion was inspired by the fact that ‘Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic’ by Sleeping At Last is going to be in tonight’s episode. It’s such a beautiful version of the song, and I don’t know I was walking to the train and this happened xD
“Danvers.” Maggie smiled, opening her eyes and rolling over, her eyes fixed on the beautiful woman in bed beside her. “How long have you been watching me sleep?” She continued, a little bit of a grin showing itself.
“Not long. Couple minutes. Maybe.” Alex smiled right back at her, resting her head on loosely closed fist and her elbow on the pillow.
This wasn’t the first time she had accidentally lost herself in Maggie. If she was to be completely honest it happened all the time. She just couldn’t believe how lucky she was, a woman like Maggie, a beautiful, smart, tough, funny, beautiful woman was her girlfriend. She still couldn’t believe it, she didn’t know if she would ever be able to.
Maggie slept so peacefully, like none of the world’s problems existed, like she had never been hurt and everything was sunshine, rainbows and unicorns. She smiled in her sleep. That was what really got Alex. She would run her fingers through her soft hair, and hope with everything she had that they could stay like this forever.
“You’re such a nerd.” Maggie grinned, pulling at the blanket and shuffling herself around so she was a little more comfortable.
“I love you.” Alex said without even thinking. Her feelings had taken control of the drivers seat in her brain and they were ready to just let everything out.
“You…” Maggie started, not actually able to finish her sentence because of how shocked she was. It was a good shocked, a wonderful shocked.
“I… I…” Alex got all flustered, wondering if she had just made a huge mistake and she should quickly take it back before more damage was done.
“Alex.” Maggie said softly, calming her down without even really having to do anything.
When Maggie spoke like that, Alex knew everything was okay, and was going to be okay, every single time.
“I love you too.” Maggie said, her voice soft and quiet, a smile spread across her entire face.
Maggie had never really been too good with relationships or feelings. She would often close herself off in order to keep from getting hurt. She had got so good at it that she would fool herself, think that she was okay when she really wasn’t, not be able to actually feel it when it really was good. It wasn’t like that with Alex. It had never been like that with Alex, from the first day she had met her at that crime scene. It was like things were finally how they were supposed to be. She told Alex she loved her and she wasn’t scared. She was overjoyed.
“You do?” Alex’s face practically crumpled, half in disbelief that Maggie actually loved her, and half in just tremendous joy. She could actually feel herself tearing up a little.
“I do.” Maggie nodded, she hadn’t been more sure of anything in a long time.
“You do.” Alex let out a happy sigh.
Maggie glanced over at the clock on Alex’s bedside table.
“We’re gonna be late for work.” Maggie said, with a little laugh.
Alex immediately began to pout, she just wanted this to last forever. Stay in bed all day, cuddle, eat, watch as the sun went down.
“Come on.” Maggie smiled, getting out of bed herself and standing beside it, waiting for Alex. She knew exactly what Alex was thinking, but it wasn’t like they could take every day off to spend together.
“Okay.” Alex gave in, sighing and pulling off the blankets.
Rucas oneshot au: Riley is in her last year of college, and Lucas is working as a police officer. Their semi new relationship has hit a snag when Riley realizes that not everything has been fair.
Lucas and Riley met during Riley’s senior year of college. They got set up by some mutual friends. The connection was instant, and they made things official within the first month of dating. Riley was studying Media, and was involved with many clubs. Lucas was a police office for a neighboring town right near Riley’s college, so he only lived five minutes from her, super convenient.
His schedule was annoying though. His two days off were in the middle of the week, and sometimes he would work extra shifts. Riley found herself getting annoyed because Lucas always wanted her to sleep over, unless it was a morning he had to be up early for work, but if it was a morning she had to be up early for class, he’d get sad if she didn’t want to stay over. He didn’t understand that it was a lot of work to get ready in the morning. The days Riley had class she didn’t care if she was in sweats, but if she had work, it took her a solid half hour to get ready. All Lucas had to do to get ready was throw on his uniform.
Riley loved Lucas a lot, but this was his first serious relationship, and there were a lot of things he had to get used to, as there were things she had to get used to as well. There was a weekend he went away for a cop thing, totally fine. He wanted to hang out the night he got back, but Riley had already made plans to see a concert, so they made plans to grab lunch the next day. That morning she received a text from him.
Lucas: I got called in early to work…I can’t get lunch :(
Riley: Okay, maybe tomorrow then
Lucas: I didn’t have a choice, if it were up to me we’d still be seeing each other.
Riley: Mhm, I know
Lucas: I have to go in at noon and stay until 4am
Riley didn’t want to answer him.She knew Lucas secretly loved working extra shifts. He had gotten out of working them before, why not now? They called him in on Valentine’s Day and he made a stink about it, so they didn’t make him go in. On Mondays he usually only worked 4pm to midnight. Usually Riley would wait up for him and he would pick her up, but she had class early on Tuesdays, and she had already told him she wouldn’t be available until the afternoon. Their schedules were totally not insync. He sent her another text.
Lucas: I really want to see you
Riley: Me too…I wish we could get a quick coffee or something
Lucas: Me too
Riley checked the time and saw it was only 10:20, plenty of time to meet up for a coffee, but she didn’t want to badger him about it, or ask “why don’t we do that then?”, and a get response like, “I don’t have time” or “I have a lot to do before I go in”, or “I won’t want to leave once I’m with you”. All dumb excuses. Maybe Riley was being too harsh, but she was so annoyed, that she turned her phone off, and sat at her desk fuming trying to get her work done. Part of her wanted to see Lucas walk through the door with a coffee in his hand, but the other part of her knew he wouldn’t do that. He would probably stay in bed for as long as he could, and get to shower, and then leave for work. He claims he misses her, and wants to see her…
She does everything according to his schedule, Riley realized she hasn’t been doing much for herself lately. She always says yes to him whenever he wants to hang out, she figured it was time to start telling him no.
On Tuesdays, Riley has two classes in the morning, and two meetings in the evening. She had the whole afternoon to do whatever she wanted. She wanted to go to the gym. She hadn’t been going as much as she wanted because most of her free time went to Lucas. So after he second class got done, she went right to the gym. Of course he texted her right when she got there.
Lucas: Are we seeing each other this afternoon?
Riley: probs won’t be available until 2…then I have a meeting at 5, then another at 730
Lucas: no dinner together then…what about after the second meeting
Riley: maybe, I have work Wednesday morning and I have some hw to do
Lucas: are you mad at me or something?
Riley: no, I just have my own stuff going on, and I need it to get done. I’m at the gym, I’ll call you later
At around 2, after Riley had showered up, she called Lucas.
“I’m not saying I don’t want to come over, I can come over now for a couple of hours, but I have to be back at school by five.”
“Why are you talking to me like a child?”
“I’m not, I’m just saying sometimes when I tell you I have to be somewhere you say okay, and then you make it very hard for me to leave when I have to go.”
“Because I never want you to go.”
“Look, why don’t you just come get me?”
“I can’t, I’m on my way to the gym. I was gonna go earlier, but one of my buddies got held up. I can get you at like 3:30 though.”
“Why so I can be there for like an hour? I told you I’d only have a couple hours this afternoon.”
“Yeah I know.”
“So couldn’t you go to the gym later?”
“I already told my buddy I’d meet him there Riles.”
“So are you coming over tonight?”
“No! I have work in the morning and I want to get a good nights sleep, for the millionth time. I’ll come over tomorrow night.”
“Okay but remember I have work early Thursday.”
“I’m well aware.”
She was absolutely annoyed with him. Whenever he had work early he’d always remind her. It was to make sure there wouldn’t be any funny business after a certain hour so he could sleep. But he was the one with no self control. She’d be fine watching TV and going right to bed, without even cuddling. But him? Lucas would cuddle her, and then they’d makeout, and then they’d do it once or twice, maybe even three times depending on the night, and then he’d spoon her until he fell asleep. But you know, it’s definitely all her.
When Wednesday evening rolled around, Riley wasn’t sure if she even wanted to see Lucas. He would be picking her up soon. She hated having to lug so much stuff with her all the time. She must have asked him a million times by now to buy a spare pillow so she wouldn’t have to bring hers back and forth. What idiot has a queen sized bed with only one pillow? She saw his car pull up, and she walked outside. He got out of the car and took her things from her and put them in the back seat. He took her in for a hug and held her tight.
“God I’ve missed you.” He kissed her deeply, and that just about made all of Riley’s annoyance go away.
“I missed you too.” They got into the car, and headed towards his place.
“I got some groceries earlier so we can cook.”
“That’s great babe, what did you have in mind?”
“I got some potatoes, brussel sprouts, and chicken.”
“My favorite.” She kissed him on the cheek.
After cooking, eating, and cleaning up, they got cozy on his couch. He was like a big, brawny teddy bear, and her favorite thing to snuggle up to. He rubbed her back and played with her hair. She could barely remember why she was angry earlier.
“So, how was your day?” He asks her.
“Long and busy as per usual. Yours?”
“Well I had today off so I slept, went to the store, then I picked you up.”
“That’s all you did?”
“Pretty much. It was nice.”
“You didn’t go to the gym?”
“Why didn’t you go today instead of yesterday?”
“Because my buddy couldn’t go today.”
“You know you don’t need to go to the gym with someone every time, right?”
“Why are you getting heating?”
“I’m getting heated”, she sits up to look at him, “because you made a big fucking deal about not seeing me, then make plans to go to the gym when you knew I only had a little bit of time to see you, and then today you barely did anything! We could have seen each other yesterday, you could have gone to the gym today!”
“Riley, please relax.”
“Don’t tell me to relax! Do you know how stressful this is? I always want to hang out with you, and my schedule is always all over the place, and I know your job is demanding, but that’s no excuse to not have some wiggle room for me. I’m always rearranging things for you, but you never do it for me, or if I ask I feel bad having to do it, it’s not fair.”
“I always want to see you too, I know this isn’t the easiest situation. I wish you could just m-” He stopped himself.
“You wish what?”
“I wish you could just move in here. Then our paths would cross more, we wouldn’t have to worry about pick up and drop off because you’d have your car here, everything would be easier…”
“You really want to live together already?”
“I don’t know…maybe. For the convenience, yeah. I mean I would love to come home to every night and crawl into bed with you, it would be great. I know you can’t break your lease with the school though, so I never brought it up before.”
“Lucas, I think once I graduate, which is only a few months away, everything will get easier.”
“Would you move in with me, after you graduate?”
“Of course I will, where else would I go?”
They hugged each other for a long time. They loved each other so much, and they both hated getting into arguments like that.
“Do you feel like going up stairs?” He asks.
“Yeah, I do.”
He picked her up and carried her upstairs to his room. He gently put her on the bed and layed next to her. She put her arms around him he rested his head on her chest. This was Lucas’ favorite thing to do, just bury his head into her. She enjoyed holding him as well, she knew he needed it. Being a cop was not easy at all, and this made him feel better. Lucas was never used to someone caring about him the way that Riley did, and he never wanted to lose her.
“I got you something.”
Lucas gets up and goes over to his closet. He takes out a pillow and throws it to her.
“Are you serious?”
“Yup, picked it up today.”
She opened her arms up and he came back over to her. They started kissing. They would probably both be extremely tired in the morning, but who cares? They were in love.
(Based off @catchthespade’s Fairy Tale AU post with a sprinkle of Vocaloid’s Cendrillon here and there. i’m trying a new format and… this was a tad more angst than I’d like. Revenge plots aren’t my most fave thing in the world because reasons behind them can be really weird sometimes…)
Nessian Modern AU: Cassian Montem proves two things every night, as he walks in seventeen minutes before the Nocte Diner closes: he is devoted to his music and he is immune to Nesta Archeron’s death glare. He slouches in his customary booth drinking his plain black coffee and flirts shamelessly while Nesta fights to balance a job, piles of homework, and a changing relationship with her two younger sisters.
favorite things about 70s family feud: - the hairstyles - Richard making every husband just as insecure and uncomfortable as i am - glasses bigger than the face - the difference between root beer then and now - the giant collars and ruffles and bellbottoms - Richard swallowing one victim entirely whole and the crowd going wild - when a family gets 3 strikes in a row and they all just dematerialize slowly and never are seen again, the last thing they do is beg Richard for forgiveness - when the crowd begins chanting and Richard points to the viewer, before the words “DEHUMANIZE YOURSELF AND FACE TO BLOODSHED” flash on the screen. a contestant is suddenly reported missing and no one seems to notice. - the giant poster of my dad in the background - the surreal, demented aura of the show when there’s 15 whole minutes of nothing but Richard standing in the empty stage, looking disapprovingly into the camera while leaving a hand on the buzzer which gets louder every minute and never stops, even after the show ends and
So my dorm room was used as a show room for prospective student tours today and I didn’t know about it until last minute, when it was too late to go up and clean it, so…… apologies to the high schoolers and parents who wanted to see a normal college dorm room and got to see my eccentric nest, complete with a giant poster of alex ovechkin’s face with anime eyes, a cardboard cutout of Draco Malfoy, a bro code poster, a bunch of plastic dinosaurs, and a million other random drawings and post its and things that my roommate and I have put on the walls. Also, like, the door to the room itself, which has notes such as “rachel rae is jailbait” on it.
Russ and Danny started a new life together, and together they
now go through rain and sunshine and embrace life. Some things never
change; some things will never be the same. But there is one thing that
remains and will see them through: their love. Always. And forever.
Whatever you do I’ll be two steps behind you Wherever you go And I’ll be there to remind you That it only takes a minute of your precious time To turn around and I’ll be two steps behind.