this twitter is the worst thing to happen to me

I’m glad we’re not getting a Season 2 this year

I’ve seen people disappointed about the movie, and wanting a Season 2 in October.

My perspective is… This is the BEST NEWS THAT I HAVE HEARD in this fandom, hallelujah.

The biggest enemy that Yuri on Ice has always had is its own success. When your show is basically printing money in DVD and merchandise sales, you can bet that the higher ups are breathing down your neck. Do more. Do it now. Do it faster. If you find a goose that lays golden eggs, by all means, make that thing lay as fast as it freaking can, and while you’re at it, can you make those eggs any bigger?

I have seen success absoutely ruin amazing shows/series/book series/etc. Over and over and over again.

This is particularly true when the show/series/book series has a strong romantic subplot, as Yuri on Ice does. That’s because often, in order to keep people who are invested in the romance invested, shows tend to do one of two things: 1. Keep people from getting together long after any reasonable person could imagine that they’d be apart, or 2. Add ridiculous drama to keep splitting them apart and then getting them back together.

I trust Kubo and Yamamoto. I don’t for one second trust bean counters. And I absolutely do NOT want to see someone splitting up Yuri and Victor in nonorganic ways just to keep some unnaturally stupid tension. Yuri on Ice was magical because it was made with love–every aspect of it–and every time the show surprised us, it was with how much more love was in the show than we’d ever imagined. But it is hard to manage that fine line between enough internal tension to move the story forward and that love that makes Yuri on Ice utterly magical.

When I heard details about the production, I could sense that love. They traveled to every venue, constructed the story around what was actually possible. The spirit of everywhere they went to pervades each scene. You can line up shots of where they were with anime scenes. The way they constructed characters, their skates, the music for their skates, how it all fits together to tell an overarching story about love in all its forms, something that is utterly compelling and yet lacks villains. Even details like putting the wedding rings on the right hand. This is storytelling at its very damned best, at every level, and I’m on my knees to it.

And you want them to do what they did in years for season 1 in a matter of months? It’s not possible. Not with the site visits. Not with needing to construct characters with respect and love. Not with commissioning music. Kubo was talking on Twitter today about visiting Mexico, and the idea of her taking Leo’s heritage as a Mexican American so seriously, and with such respect, in a time when Mexican-Americans are being absolutely vilified in this country, makes me almost weepy. That is what I want–that love, that respect for what they do.

The very, very worst thing that could happen to Yuri on Ice is for the second season to be made with money in mind rather than love. I would rather have no second season than to see someone push this show to become more “mainstream” (read: toning down the queerness, fuck that), or for them to not have the time to develop a story line that continues season 1 with the mastery and the love that made it so special.

The fact that they’re taking their time is the best thing I could have heard. We can get it fast or we can get it good. There’s plenty of media out there that comes out fast. There’s a reason this one was special. Everyone who wants something fast, well, there’s plenty of crap out there–feel free to be a fan of it.

Have a little patience, and trust the people who brought you this piece of genius, who have every financial incentive to take as much money as possible. If they say you’re not getting a season 2 this year, you better believe that it’s because they can’t do it well.

Two years may sound like an eternity, but a crappy season is the thing that actually lasts forever.
Lauren J. Brasil on Twitter
“VÍDEO | Lauren durante o #BeautyconNYC (via @katiedelikat)”

Let’s talk about this.

I understand how difficult was to her to have fans telling that she was bi and this really hurts me now that I’m thinking that she was so young when all these things happened. The point is… she’s asking in the video: “how you even see that?”… guess what: CAMREN! The fans saw C-A-M-R-E-N! The fans saw how you used to look at Camila…and how Camila used to look at you. And when you two started to deny it just get worst and worst. Every person with good sense of perception saw Camren happening right in front of their eyes. That’s why all your fans knew that you were at least bisexual…and also Camila.

To me, that’s a really important part of our big Camren puzzle. That’s why she used to get mad when people called her bisexual… now we know that she took some time to accept herself… okay! So…what about Camila? Lauren wasn’t with Lucy and I’m 100% sure of it…because I’m drawing for 2 months a Camren timeline (the post is too long and is not ready yet) but I can advance something-> 2012, 2013, 2014 Lauren always called Lucy like best friend or sister and I’m pretty sure that Lauren and Lucy did not even saw each other in 2014 and I’m gonna tell you why I know that. I’ve been searching for information everywhere. In 2014 there are no NEW pictures of Lucy and Lauren on their social medias, just old pictures of them saying they miss each other. Plus… Lucy moved from Miami in 2013 and just saw Lauren in 2015 again.

Now that’s what I’ve been thinking…

Camila met Lauren in 2012 on X-Factor, they fell in love, they took to long to accept that. Lauren didn’t accept her sexuality, but still in love with Camila. They had problems with management when they started to date and we know they were toxic for each other… we heard it from Lauren talking about “No Way” that is clearly CAMREN!

I think they had something serious until Lucy get back in 2015 and Lauren maybe felt something… or wanted to try something she felt in the past (before she met Camila / maybe thinking that they were soulmates). That’s why I think LAUCY was not PR. I used to think that was, but I don’t think that anymore because Camila is not faking these feelings. Now we know that she was really sad.. and was not just because of her Fifth Harmony departure… I have Questions screams LOVE relationship and nothing more.

You don’t have to be too smart to see their timeline.

We just don’t understand YET who hurt whom… because Lauren seemed really hurt months ago too.

We’re fitting these pieces one by one.

Soon our puzzle will be complete!

I believe.

ps. the Timeline post is really too long… I don’t know if I’m capable of finishing it, but it’s in my draft…and I’m drawing with tiny little details.

stay a minute (chapter 4)

Summary: “The leads of Even Bech Næsheim’s new ‘Romeo and Juliet’ adaption were announced yesterday, with Eva Kviig Mohn taking to Twitter to confirm, ‘Looking forward to playing Julieeeeet’. Her fellow Romeo was announced shortly after to be Isak Valtersen, which his publicist confirmed today. It seems that this will be Norway’s new star-crossed pair of lovers.”

In which there is a tumblr fandom that is dying every time new information for said version of ‘Romeo and Juliet’ drops, Even is a beloved director and Isak - well, Isak would just really appreciate it if his mind would stop surprising him with memories at the worst moments possible.

Pairing: Even/Isak

Chapters: 4/8

[ valtersen]

Omg the most likely game is the best thing that ever happened to me #chris is the fucking best

This is hilarious omfg watch me reblog all the gifs from that interview #chris is amazing #isak and chris together are genius

When she showed him evens new film was I the only one who thought he looked like idk sad?? #feel free to tell me I’m tinhatting #i just don’t get it

Isak’s reaction to elsewhere is literally our reaction too lbr #i screamed my whole face off when even dropped the link on his twitter #i swear that fucker lives to be extra and kill us #i bet he got himself ice cream and watched us have a collective meltdown


imagine Supergirl becoming a lesbian icon after Leslie’s radio broadcast

just all the lesbians in National City being like, “omg I HOPE SHE’S ONE OF US” and analyzing her wardrobe choices and everything else and having insanely in-depth twitter wars about it and there are photoshops of Kara with a rainbow cape getting passed around tumblr

and then Alex starts dating Maggie, who is not in on the Kara Danvers secret yet, and she’s trying to introduce Alex to Lesbian Culture, right?

so one day she’s like, “you’ve got to have a little bit of a crush on Supergirl, otherwise they revoke your lesbian license. I don’t make the rules. Admit it, she’s hot”


Okay so I literally just started writing this Jarchie thing (I put it under the cut) and want to know what everyone thinks/if I should continue it/put it up on AO3 etc etc. Especially since I wasn’t aiming to have a WIP for Jarchie but here I am, writing a thing. 

I’m basing it more off the new comic versions, but I’m also keeping in mind the TV show, so I won’t have Grundy and I’ll probably keep Jug in the beanie as opposed to the cap. Idk yet, I haven’t made any description of it yet. 
It’s got ace Jug, possibly aro, since yeah I am basing it more off the comics but im not sure yet and I just want to say that because hell it may end up having qpr jarchie but then it might not idk idk this is just the first chapter. 

Basically, I wanted to write one of those disgustingly cliche high school AUs, except obviously they’re canonically in high school. So AU instead where Jughead and Archie were never friends.
Jughead’s that emo loner & Archie’s that popular jock dating that popular girl (Ronnie) and every girl wants Archie. EXCEPT Archie’s kinda pining after Jug, but has never done or said anything because he doesn’t think Jug would care or want to even be his friend or anything (’then why’s he dating Ronnie?’ you may ask, it’s in the chapter’s my fellas). 

So it’s kinda like, you know the story line… that guy that’s perfect and every girl wants but he ends up falling for that one girl who’s average and underwhelming and people are like HOLY SHIITTT HOWWW because they’re destroying the social ladder or some shit. And writing those really cliche scenes, except all of a sudden, I’ve realised, they might not be that cliche because this is Jug we’re talking about like… how will this fold out? As cliche as I was planning to write? Or maybe not so much??? idk…

Currently about 3k words under the cut! (not edited since I JUST wrote it)

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The Best Q&A

(Sammy’s pov)
Y/N and I are at my house. We’ve been dating for about 5 months and we don’t live together but she’s almost always at my house or I’m at hers because we live pretty far apart. She’s in the kitchen fixing lunch while I’m on the couch watching tv. I look over at her just to see a beautiful view. My stunning girlfriend wearing my shirt, I love it when she wears my clothes. I dont know why, maybe it’s the fact that it assures me that she’s mine or maybe it’s because they’re huge on her and it’s cute. I just love her, but she doesn’t know that.
(Y/N pov)
I’m in the middle of cutting the sandwiches I made for Sammy and myself when I feel two arms snake around my waist. I giggle as Sammy starts to kiss my cheeks repeatedly. I turn around to face him, both of us smiling insanely. He goes in for a kiss but I quickly dodge it and dash for the living room. “Ooooh no you didn’t” he says as he chases after me. I laugh as I’m at one end of the couch while he’s at the other, both of us ready for movement. I look at the stairs, then Sammy figuring the distance was far enough to get by him. I quickly try to dash for the stairs but Sammy latches his arm around me throwing me on the couch. I spring up grabbing his arms and pinning him down on the couch, straddling him. Panting from all the sudden movement, we stare at each other for what seemed like an eternity. Until I loosen my grip on him and he sits up. Still straddling him from the previous position, I put my arms around his neck. He puts his hands on my waist.
(Sammy’s pov)
“Babe?” I ask Y/N who’s on my lap facing me, arms around my neck. “Yea?” She responds staring into my eyes. “Can I ask you something?” I say “yea of course” she responds hopping off my lap and on the the couch beside me. “So there’s this friend I have-” I clear my throat and continue, “so my friend he um, he’s been dating this girl for almost a year and uh-” I try to make not so obvious that I’m talking about myself, and Y/N and my’s relationship. “Mhm go on” she says putting her hand on my thigh “basically he was telling me that he likes her a lot” I say “I would hope so if they’ve been together for that long” she laughs. “Haha” I nervously chuckle and continue “well he said that he thinks- he knows he loves her and he doesn’t know if he should tell her or not because he doesn’t know if she feels the same way and he thinks the period of time in which they’ve been together is too short to pull that love card. So my question is what should I- what should I tell him to do?” I quickly finish. She looks me dead in the eye, it was like she was staring into my soul. She studies my face for a bit more until she starts to jump back into the conversation saying “well Sammy, my advice is. To tell your friend, that love has no due date, and there are some people who fall in love after the first hello-” she smiles and continues “so when he’s ready, he should tell her because I guarantee that she is in love with him too and has been waiting for him this whole time.” She finishes kissing my cheek and walking off to the kitchen. I start to think long and hard about what Y/N said. Until she arrives back with the sandwiches she made earlier. We proceed to eat and watch some tv, until the time comes where I have to go to the studio.
(Y/N pov)
Sammy and I finish eating. While I’m bringing the plates to the kitchen Sammy comes up from behind me again hugging me “ohhhhh not again” I say turning around to face him. “You know I’m still missing that kiss from earlier” he says wiggling his eyebrows, I look at the stove clock to see it’s about time for Sammy’s studio session. “Isn’t it time for you to go to the studio?” I ask, he looks at the clock and jumps “OH SHIT! FUCK, yeah” he races to grab his belongings while I finish cleaning up the kitchen. Once I’m done which was fairly quick, I see Sammy is about to leave. As I’m grabbing a water bottle from the fridge, Sammy grabs my butt spinning me around and smashing his lips into mine. He grabs my waist bringing me closer to him if that was even possible, after about 15 seconds we pull apart breathing a bit heavily. “Bye baby oh and when I come back we have to make a Q&A for my channel, the fans wanna see wassup” he says laughing a bit “Ok, I might have to go run a few errands, stop by my house and meet up with some people but I’ll be here by the time you come back” I say. He smiles and nods leaving off to the studio.
(Sammy’s pov)
*at the studio*
Johnson gets out of the booth once he finishes his verse, “that was straight fire bro!” I say giving him the handshake as he approaches me Skate and Gilinsky. “Yeah man this songs gonna be dope” Gilinsky adds on, we all agree as Skate gets the weed out starting to roll up a few joints. “Yo G how’s Madison?” I ask him “she’s good why do you ask?” He questions “well ahh I was just wonderin’, when did you tell her you loved her?” I ask him my head facing downward avoiding eye contact. “Ooohh looks like someone got bit by the love bug, not surprised” Johnson says “yeah yeah whatever” I say taking a hit from a joint Skate passed to me. “You think you love Y/N bro?” Gilinsky asks “I mean I know I do, it’s just I don’t know if it’s the right time and-” Gilisnky cuts me off saying “and if she loves you back or if it’s too early, trust me I’ve been there” he takes a hit continuing “let me tell you this, when I told Mads I loved her all the weight came off my shoulders, it was by far the best decision I’ve made. We were friends for a while and one day we sat each other down and I was just like look I’m in love with you. And she felt the exact same.” “yeah but Y/N and I haven’t been together that long, isn’t it too soon tell her I’m IN LOVE?” I say “so? If you love her now why wait?” Gilinsky says. Then Johnson chimes in saying “I guarantee she loves you back bro, it’s all about the connection and how you guys feel. I may be single but I know about love”. “Johnson does know wassup and that’s a whole fact” Skate says. “Soooo what should I do?” I ask them. They all look at each other for a second and then say “do what you think is right”. I sigh as we change the subject, yet Y/N is always on my mind. After about a three hour studio session I notice it’s about time for me to head home. “Alright guys imma head out” I say. “Aight cool see ya later Sammy” Skate says “see ya Wilk” Gilinsky says “let us know how that Y/N thing goes” Johnson says. Suddenly an idea pops into my head “bye guys” I say as I rush out the studio on my way home. I text Y/N to see if she’s at my place.
Me: baby u home?
Babe❤:at your place yeah
Babe❤: hurry!
Me:why what’s wrong??
Babe❤️: I miss you :(
(Y/N pov)
I was setting up everything for Sammy’s video when he walks in the door, panting as if he ran a mile. “Hey…Sam you good?” I ask confused “yeah,” he pants and continues “I’m just so excited for this Q&A, there are some great questions” he says “yea I started setting up the camera” I say gesturing to the camera. “Ohh I got that just sit riggggghhhttt here” he says placing me on the couch in front of the camera. He goes to turn the camera on adjusting it a bit until he comes and sits down next to me. “Ready?” He asks “yup” I smile and he starts the intro. “What’s up everybody it is your boy Sam Wilkinson and I’m here today with my girl Y/N” he says smiling at me throwing his arm around my shoulders. I smile at the camera as he continues “and today we are doing a Q&A which is what y'all asked for”. Sammy taps my shoulder slightly indicating that I should continue on “we got the questions off of Twitter by tweeting the hashtag ‘Ask Sammy&Y/N’ and thank you so much for trending WORLD WIDE, we appreciate the love and dedication, we love you all so much annnddddd first question Sammy?” I say and he starts. “What’s the worst thing that’s happened to you at a concert” he says chuckling. “Well, this one time-” I decide to cut him off “SAMMY FUCKING RIPPED HIS PANTS ON STAGE IT WAS HILARIOUS!” I yell laughing. Sammy being embarrassed, sticks his head in the crook in my neck and mumbles “stooopp, I wore these really tight pants and when I got on I was really hype and jumpy and….” he starts to fade out. “It’s ok baby it happens sometimes” I say but I gesture 'no it doesn’t’ to the camera, he’ll find that out once he starts editing. “And I had to go out on stage and help him get off without being exposed because keep in mind he ripped his underwear too, not that everyone hasn’t seen his nudes alrea-” Sammy cuts me off “OK OK that’s enough, next question”.
We get through many questions about tours and social media and the occasional relationship questions until some… unusual ones start to pop up.
(Sammy’s pov)
I decide after about 10min to start throwing in the serious questions. “What do you think about Y/N?” Y/N reads “Hmmm Sammy whatcha think about meh?” She adds on giggling. I smile and respond “I think you’re the most beautiful person I’ve ever laid my eyes on”. She smiles at me, as if for a moment she forgot we were supposed to be filming because we were staring at each other for what seemed like hours. I then decided to speak “in fact,” I pause and look at the camera “Y/N is the probably the greatest thing that’s ever happened to me” “oh stoooooopp” she says blushing “No, actually I have to say something.” I say looking at Y/N then the camera then back to her and I continue “Y/N, you are so goddam beautiful, like I don’t think you understand how fucking stunning you are. You’re always talkin’ 'oh Sam I look so ugly today or wow I wish I was as pretty as her’, bullshit. If you could see yourself for a day in the way everyone else sees you, I think you’d finally understand how fucking gorgeous you are.” “Sammyyyyyyy” she says putting her head in my chest out of embarrassment. “Wait baby I’m not done” I say as she lifts her head, her glistening eyes gazing into mine. “I hope you know that every time I tell you to text me when you get home, put on your seat belt, watch your step, stay warm, sweet dreams or have a good day what I’m really saying is I love you. I love you so damn much that it’s starting to steal other words meanings. I didn’t want to fall in love or need someone
I really didn’t want anything 6 months ago, but then you came along and I wanted everything. So Y/N I’m telling you that I Samuel Wilkinson am in love with you, and when I tell you this it’ll be a forever reminder that you are the best thing that has ever happened to me” I finally finish. From the moment I said the words 'I love you’ her eyes lit up, she engulfs me in the best hug. Not just any hug, one of those tight 'lift me up off the floor mama bear hugs’ the hugs were you can feel the other persons heartbeat and a sense of care and love flows. Still hugging me she speaks “Sammy, baby, my love. I’ve been waiting to hear those words for the longest time, ever since we met I’ve known we were special. That the way we talk and laugh around each other is different than everyone else, that I will never meet anyone I trust as much as I do you. And I think most people search their whole lives searching for the thing that we’ve already found.” She pauses and lets go from our previous hugging position, holding my hands “Truthfully I could talk to you all night and day and still have a billion words to say, but too many words become meaningless. So I’ll leave it at that you Samuel Wilkinson are the most wonderful person I’ve ever met, and I couldn’t imagine my life without you in it.” She finishes. We stare into each others eyes both smiling from ear to ear. It’s like we read each other’s minds when we both leaned in for a kiss.
(Y/N pov)
It was like our first kiss all over again, the rhythm perfect, the sensation of each others lips unimaginable. But there was one big difference, it was out of love and that had to be the best feeling in the world. After we break apart I turn around to see the camera still sitting there, I walk closer to it to turn it off. I look to see that the camera is already off. Confused, I look up to see a grinning Sammy looking back at me.

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i should study wtf im doing with my life.

mom im not crazy, they are just too normal to me.

people ask me if i have twitter, i just answer them that i dont know what it is.

i can be tough i can be strong, but with you, it’s not like that at all…

the internet is the best and worst thing to happen in this world.

make your life a story worth teeling.

i tried to put my ex dick as a password but they said it was too short.

its all about money and distance.

am I that easy to forget?

i’m really cool, ask my mom.

everyones getting in relationships and i can’t even find my other sock.

‘you appear just like a dream to me’

my style is expensive and black.

your smile is contagious, no matter how angry or sad I am, all i need is to take one look at your smile and everything seem a little better.

dont get too close, its dark inside.

i don’t like people, so go out, you’re wasting the oxygen.

i’ve never met my idols…

everytime i close my eyes it’s like a dark paradise.

so it’s gonna be forever, or it’s gonna go down in flames.

i want to be cool, but all I do is laying in my bed with coffee, listening to music and watching youtubers.

i want to travel and meet beautiful souls. nobody can destroy my dreams.

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If theres one thing im loving atm and that is endgame ships. IMO marlene is bringing together but at the same time she hasnt forgotten all the hate she recieved from the ship fandom aka twitter fandom aswell. While some dont care how they come together, alot do care. They fantasised about how it was going to happen or wanted it to go but marlene is giving them there ships in the WORST possible way.

To me this tells me that even though there has been alot of emphasis on the ships throughout these last 10 eps to cater to the twitter fans but by giving them there ships in such outrageous fashion. Its like shes saying theres your ships, and now were getting back to the mystery. Yes she has alot to do mystery wise and whatnot but after tonights episode, (which i wasnt bored at all with (loved it))i feel its going to be a more free flowing with answers and mystery solving.


ponderess replied to your post “@heidiamalia  Yup. Apparently a Roswell Reboot is happening. Calling…”

I do’t know how to feel about this…

join. the. club. I have so many mixed feelings. I kinda want to see what. it’s gonna be like, but I’m like 89% sure it’s gonna be the worst thing ever…?

xtaketwox replied to your post “yo’ guys. shall we freak out about the roswell reboot together? I’m…”

I don’t have twitter at the moment so no twitter freakouts from me. But the tagline they gave sounds nothing like Roswell…it sounds like it’ll be about adults? IDK, it’s bizarre….

yeah, that’s why I think they’re purposefully being misleading by calling it a reboot just to reel us in and get an audience. it’s pretty bizarre.

semperreadem  asked:

honestly i kill for anything that has to do with witch!clarke and dragon!bellamy. so maybe a modern au where clarke does magic stuff in the city (u know those cute aesthetic posts about city witches using tupperwear for potions and sigils in ur phone) and she runs into dragon!bellamy (he totally hoards books omg)at a coffee shop or the library. idk this is my first time doing a prompt but its up to you ! thank you!!

+ Anonymous said: Oh! For the magic prompt how about dragon!Bellamy and witch!Clarke?

a/n: err, probably not exactly what you expected, but we have oblivious!clarke crushing on exasperated!bellamy with a make out session and some petting thrown at the end just because I could, ops? big thanks to @hooksandheroics for helping me with the Baybayin translation, as well as the quick crash-course on some aspects of the Philippine mythology (that did not make it into this story)

send me magic and/or soulmate prompts!

let your magic pull me in | ao3 

Clarke loved being a modern witch – from the all-fresh deliveries Amazon did timed with the moon phases to the witch how-to twitter threads to the enormous knowledge dumped into the digital void that was the internet.

Everything she could ever want was just few clicks away and she still couldn’t get – didn’t think she would ever get – used to having so much freedom with how she chose to manipulate her magic.

Technology was the best thing that had happened to all witches across the world.

But also the worst because some witches had always been greedy and overzealous of their knowledge, and with digitalization of numerous texts, glyphs, sigils and grimoires, many witches put curses on their books to prevent them from being scanned or photographed, and tried to profit from that.

In a way, Clarke understood the subconscious impulses to protect one’s abilities – especially the kind of knowledge that could be harmful if in the wrong hands –, but the bigger part of her wanted to tell them to fuck off because they were supposed to be a community, a worldwide network that helped each other.

And yet, here she was, following her crappy GPS, trying to find a forgotten from the Goddess little run-down bookstore to hunt for knowledge that somebody decided it wasn’t worthy for the public eyes.

The bookstore didn’t even have a sign, just a dark red wooden door with small dragon carved in the center – it was eating its own tail, an ouroboros. Immortality, infinity, unity.

A bit strange for a bookstore.

She put her phone away, and tucked her danburite crystal back under her shirt, the touch of the stone on her naked skin calming her immediately.

The door didn’t have a bell to announce her entrance but it squeaked quite loudly so Clarke guessed that was more than enough. The store was big but cluttered, dimly-lit and stuffed full with overflowing bookcases that were holding on heroically under all the weight they had to support, book stacks littering the little free space between them. Goddess, it was a mess, but somehow a well-managed mess and it had a homey feel to it.

She looked around but nobody came to the front, and Clarke ventured deeper into the store, hastily clutching her bag to her chest when she nearly sent one book stack flying. It wobbled precariously and she steadied it with her free hand.

“Can I help you?”

The unexpected voice startled her and Clarke yelped, her hand smacking against the books and pushing them down.

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anonymous asked:

Hey, so I've just recently been diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome and have barely been able to leave the house. I've had to quit my job and move cities back home away from my partner and am feeling very isolated. Do you have any tips for staying positive/happy with a chronic illness? This whole experience has been very depressing for me. Thank you so much!!

Hello! So sorry to hear all this. Isolation is the absolute worst. 

A couple of simple recommendations:

  • Start journaling, or blogging, when you feel down. Writing things out can help you feel better, and to process what’s happening and how it’s affecting you.
  • Get involved in the spoonie community. We’re on Twitter and Tumblr, and probably some other social networks, too. Having people in your life who have personal experience with what you’re going through is absolutely invaluable.
  • Start some projects. It could be anything–a thing you’ve wanted to create, a skill you’ve wanted to learn, a practice you’ve wanted to get into… this blog was actually a project taken on when very weak and ill, and you can see how that turned out :) This will help you find joy in your own company, and also might help you meet new people!
  • Ask for help and be the one to reach out. It’s SO hard to do this, but it is one of the most important things you can do. Do you have friends locally? If so, ask if you can set up a regular date for visits. If not, talk to your friends far away, and see if you can set up regular phone calls. You can even enlist your family members, if you have a good relationship with them. What matters is that you have social events that you can 
  • Play social games like Words with Friends. Make an effort to send little messages to your opponent, see if you can strike up a conversation.
  • Join a penpal group and make friends across the world. There are lots of these–even spoonie-themed ones!

The list could go on forever, but hopefully these help out. Readers, please feel free to reblog with your own suggestions!

anonymous asked:

why don't you like game of thrones?

So so so many reasons. I think the show captures almost none of the things I liked about the books. The characters that I loved so much in the books have been essentially butchered or entirely erased by D&D. And it’s generally poorly written and very lazily plotted. What’s more the showrunners treat their female characters with misogynistic disdain. I hated everything they’ve done with Sansa and it just got astoundingly worse with Shireen.

I few reviewers that I feel have pretty much nailed it:

“It’s not real. That argument covers all manner of sin, doesn’t it? Because while Game of Thrones is not real, what the show and book series are most often commended for is their realism. And by realism, I mean their brutal, unforgiving, bloody, and broken depiction of humanity at its very worst. And it is real. People die in real life. Horribly, mercilessly. There’s no Hero’s Journey in reality. But, wait: isn’t that what fiction is for? Not Game of Thrones, of course, Game of Thrones is different. It’s gritty, it’s real. Historically accurate (except for the dragons). Of course people die. Haven’t you been paying attention? Stop complaining. Next year, they probably won’t cut away from the death and the rape. They have no choice but to go bigger, darker. Maybe they’ll just kill everyone. Season 6 will be 10 hours of a static shot, showing the snow falling and covering Westeros with ice.

When I was 14, my teacher told me: “The cheapest way to end your story is with the sentence, ‘And then they all ran into a brick wall and died.‘” Because The Story, our story, isn’t about the dying. It’s about how we get to that point. And for all their violence, George R.R. Martin’s books never forget that. I’m beginning to worry that the TV show has. When you cut away the journey of A Song of Ice and Fire, all you’re left with is the violence and the death. And in Game of Thrones‘ struggle to keep the show interesting (despite the lack of actual plot development), that’s when the excess of violence and death begins to feel gratuitous and damaging. Besides, everyone dies in the books, right? So stop complaining. That’s the party line. Except… in the books, there are layers. There is silence. There is melancholy, there is subtlety, there is meaning in the very absence of meaning. In the show, there is death. There is sex, there is scandal, there is screaming. There is no subtlety in the burning of a child. The show is nothing like the books. We kill children and call it art.”

Selina Wilken

David Benioff and D.B. Weiss are remarkably bad at their jobs. Last night, they proved once and for all that they don’t know how to keep an audience invested in their show. In an interview with Entertainment Weekly, Weiss defends the decision to have Shireen killed by saying the comically inappropriate death scene was “entirely justified” by the narrative. “It was set-up by the predicament that Stannis was in. It will be awful to see, but it’s supposed to be awful.” “It’s supposed to be awful.” That’s the sentiment from one of the people running your favorite show. My Sunday night was “supposed to be awful,” and dammit, it sure was. Any growing sympathy I had for Stannis is gone. I would now prefer that everyone involved with the battle for Winterfell take a nosedive into the nearest frozen lake. We also lost one of the best ongoing friendships — the one between Davos the Onion Knight and Shireen. Providing Davos ever returns, I can’t imagine he will take Shireen’s death lightly. But the worst thing of all is how utterly predictable and boring the decision was. The Lord of Light decrees it must be done, and so shall it be done. Stannis is now firmly established as a character who cannot think for himself, and the viewers suffer the consequences. Game of Thrones the TV show was never going to follow A Song of Ice and Fire to a tee, but this season in particular has been irreversibly marred by bad decisions behind the scenes that have nothing to do with the novels.The season began its descent into misery when Sansa was forced to marry the show’s most gruesome villain, Ramsay Bolton (née Snow). The sexual violence perpetrated against her character was gross and unwarranted, failing to provide any meaningful character development for anyone involved. So what have we learned? Benioff and Weiss have some vendetta against the young, female actors on their show? It’s too difficult to corral this many actors week in and week out, so we might as well torture and murder the ones that aren’t actively participating in an important storyline? By the time Drogon came to the rescue last night, igniting the Sons of the Harpy and attempting to wash the brutality of the earlier scene from our mind with even more violence, it was far too late. I was already numb to the tiresome pessimism of the show and its crew.”

- Game of Thrones is intent on sucking all the life out of the most imaginative world on television, Jacob Siegel

Last night, Game of Thrones continued its assault on young girls by burning Shireen Baratheon alive while her parents watched. The HBO hit is notoriously ruthless with its characters, but this season has gone above and beyond when it comes to the violence committed against its young female characters. After the marriage of Sansa Stark and Ramsay Bolton in episode six, “Unbowed, Unbent, Unbroken” (subtle!), the future Lord of Winterfell rips open Sansa’s wedding dress and rapes her while Reek—and the audience—stands by.The episode was met with some serious Internet backlash, including from Senator Claire McCaskill, who took to Twitter to publicly denounce the show. “Ok, I’m done Game of Thrones. Water Garden, stupid. Gratuitous rape scene disgusting and unacceptable. It was a rocky ride that just ended.” — Claire McCaskill

“ Jessie Heyman: Did that really happen to Shireen?

Monica Kim: The worst thing I’ve seen on that show, probably.

JH: The thing with this show is that it, famously, will do the unthinkable. Like with Ned. The Red Wedding. And all those other crazy deaths. But I really, really felt this was beyond the pale. What did you think?

MK: My thoughts exactly. Even though it was heavily foreshadowed, part of me didn’t think they’d actually go through with it—especially not the way they did it. The burning of Shireen was insanely disturbing. I think I’d rather sit through five back-to-back showings of Theon torture porn than watch that one scene again (and no, I didn’t enjoy the torture porn).

JH: Time and time again, Game of Thrones disgusts and shocks me to my very core, but this seemed gratuitous. Do you feel like, as a book reader, all this little girl assault is really necessary?

MK: You know, George R. R. Martin recently addressed the criticism of the show’s treatment of women, in which he explained that to not portray sexual violence and violence against women in a war story is fundamentally dishonest. And I agree that to whitewash things and not address the darker sides of human nature in this story would be unsettling. But I think the show, this season in particular, has really taken Martin’s ethos and completely mishandled it. Yes, horrible things happen in the series, to both men and women. And even on the show, the most graphic depictions of violence are generally reserved for men. I really checked out during Theon’s season-long flaying, and Oberyn Martell’s squashed-in head was obviously nauseating.

JH: Not to mention Joffrey’s barf death.

MK: But the treatment of young girls this season has felt gratuitous in a different way than the graphic physical violence the show heaps on the men. It’s a bit more like it’s used for cheap, emotional manipulation, don’t you think?

JH: Yes, 100 percent. In a weird way, I feel like the male death we see in the show is somehow more straightforward (excluding, of course, Theon—I suppose we can call that a death of one person, right?), whereas the violence toward women seems more perverse. Think about the worst death during the Red Wedding? Talisa wasn’t just killed, she was stabbed in her pregnant stomach.

MK: And she was stabbed repeatedly.

JH: Even when Mance Rayder was about to befall a Shireen-like fate, Jon Snow “saved” him—or his dignity, at least.

MK: Yeah, I’d agree that the men, other than Oberyn and a few random side characters, are generally given more dignified deaths.

JH: And this all differs from the books tremendously, right?

MK: Yes. It seems like the further the show gets from the source material, when the writers no longer have the books to guide them, the more clumsy and heavy-handed things get. This season, Gilly suffers a near rape, which doesn’t occur in the books. Why? To show that the Wall is a dangerous place for her, and to bring her closer to Sam. But of all the things they could’ve worked in—it’s cold, food is running out, I don’t know, an army of very fast zombies is coming their way—the writers went right to rape attempt. Meryn Trant is a bad guy that Arya wants to kill, but how do we remind readers, who might have forgotten that he beat up Sansa, that he is bad? Let’s make him a pedophile, in this completely unnecessary brothel scene! Just, why.

JH: There’s so much more outrage to be had as a book reader! But to get back to the original point of whether or not the show has gone too far, I mean, is that even a question at this point? The real question is: Why do they keep upping the ante? And more than that, will we actually stop watching?

MK: I think it’s a straw and camel’s back situation. Looking back, the showrunners have included lots of moments of weirdly perverse, gratuitous violence against women that weren’t in the books. Think of Ros being forced by Joffrey to savagely beat another woman, or the rape scene between Cersei and Jaime, or Ros (again) being shot to death with crossbow bolts. Not only was Talisa’s counterpart, Jeyne Westerling, not killed in the books, no female character was ever stabbed repeatedly, almost cartoonishly, in her pregnant stomach. We’ve ostensibly sat through all these unnecessary moments to get to the story itself, but I think it’s getting to the point where those moments have piled up and people are tired of putting up with them.

JH: You know what I was struck by? I was expecting to encounter an incensed Internet post Shireen’s gruesome death—and while there were a few people who were, like, “THAT IS SO MESSED UP”—mostly, they were just talking about the dragons. Was that just me, or did you feel that way too?

MK: Yes! Right after the episode ended, I went straight to Twitter to find some rage solidarity, but all I saw were a bunch of excited tweets with dragon emoji.

- Let’s Talk About That Game of Thrones Scene, Jessie Heyman and Monica Kim

Every once in a while, you watch a sweet, bookish little girl burn to death while screaming for her parents and you think, Oy. More child sexual slavery? More rah-rah decapitations? More massacres? Welp, it’s a very brutal world. I know. I know that Game of Thrones is big on carnage, big on desperation, big on bloodlust, and lust lust, and a bunch of other kinds of lusts. I get it, Game of Thrones. I do. But I just want one happy episode. No killing, no raping, no plotting out killings and rapings, just … a holiday celebration, say, where no one’s fetus gets stabbed out. A concert. A play. Some random serfs having an ordinary afternoon. A sporting event that does not result in anyone’s death. Something!I’m kidding, sort of: Game of Thrones will never give us this, and I’m (reluctantly) resigned to that fact. The show is primarily invested in excavating every depraved moment in its characters’ lives, in bringing out the absolute worst in everyone. And fair enough: People here in the actual world are also overwhelmingly terrible. But we also know that even in the most dire of circumstances, people seek happiness and foster comfort and express their humanity by creating art. They find meaning in small rituals. They cook favorite meals. (Come back to us, Hot Pie!) They form lasting, meaningful bonds. They find light in the darkest of times. GOT has of course portrayed romantic love, but generally to leverage it for sadness that can be caused by death or separation or betrayal. We’ve seen wedding celebrations, but they tend to end badly. The show loves wondering how bad … or how far … or how much … But this constant brutality becomes numbing, and each “surprise” has diminishing returns. The show’s merciless entropy has exhausted me. The point of GOT is not to be cheerful, clearly. But a show that can find this many ways to be unhappy could surely find one even small way to engage with joy that wasn’t immediately poisoned somehow. If you can have a surprisingly easy to foil army of eunuchs, you can have, oh, double Dutch.”

- Game of Thrones’ Relentless Misery, Margaret Lyons

Obviously, the world of Westeros is not a safe place for little girls (or anyone, but especially girls). But as the showrunners push their agenda over the storyline from the book, that element of danger is a crutch that they rely on far too frequently, and in a way that is gratuitous and often feels unearned. This episode took the theme to new and darker places, when we’ve already been in very dark places this season. As viewers, there’s a hope that these bleak depictions will lead to some kind of glorious vengeance, but it’s just not clear if we can trust Benioff and Weiss with that hope. We’ve been burned too many times before. Quite literally this time around.“

- Katie Walsh, The Playlist

“Despite what many of “Game of Thrones’s” legions of devotees like to argue, it is not, in fact, a “medieval story.” It is not received wisdom from another age. Though it has the trappings of an earlier Earth, it is actually a contemporary story and should be considered as one. And as such, I fail to see what the horrific immolation of a teenage girl added to the narrative in any way, shape, or form. What I do understand is what it took away: a pleasant performer in Kerry Ingram, any whiff of empathy or support for Stannis, and “Game of Thrones’s” torrid streak of 13 and a half days without a violence-toward-girls incident. For God’s sake — not you, Lord of Light, you smug asshole — even Iphigenia’s fate remained unclear! Terrible things can and should happen on “Game of Thrones,” just as they should in all adult drama. But the more Benioff and Weiss hammer the same chords, the less they sound like musicians and the more they remind me of Cousin Orson, another one of their inventions who, in retrospect, seems like one more clever, meta way to shrug off criticism.“

- Andy Greenwald, Grantland

“Shall we recap, one last time? Let’s recap what made me decide to switch off, in fact.

Arya’s still walking around selling oysters and trying to kill the Thin Man. She gets sexually harassed by some guys on the street because of course she does. Then, she finally runs into Meryn Trant! It’s about time. She tracks him to the local brothel, and there we learn that Trant is also a paedophile, because of course he is! He enters the bedroom with a terrified-looking girl not much older than Arya, and that’s that. Was any of that necessary? No. We already hate Trant. We already know Arya’s going to kill him. What’s the bloody point of another implied rape of an underage girl? But it gets worse-

This was the big one. I said a few weeks ago, “Fun fact: if a small child gets BURNED TO DEATH on this show, I am probably out for good,” but I genuinely didn’t expect them to go that far, especially not after the Mance affair in the opener. I know child death is far from unheard of on this show - the very first episode featured the attempted murder of a little boy, after all - and I know that it was done with George R R Martin’s approval, and I know that men suffer on this show as well as girls and women. But none of that changes the fact that I really, really didn’t want to hear (thankfully, you don’t see anything. but still) a little girl’s screams as she’s burned to death. The fact that Shireen’s one of the sweetest, kindest characters on the show only makes it worse: I liked her a lot, and her death not only happening but being horrible and at the hands of her own father feels like a swift kick in the teeth.

I know that the show’s mantra for about three seasons now has been, “If you think this has a happy ending, you haven’t been paying attention.” Which, alright, but now that’s turned into “If you think this has a happy ending…we’ll introduce some more sexual violence and child murder into proceedings to thoroughly disavow you of that notion.” That’s no way to run a show, although it’s certainly a way to ruin one. Taken down with Shireen is any sympathy the audience might have had for Stannis, who in one scene went from fairly acceptable parent to one of the biggest, cruelest monsters in the whole big, cruel story. Even Selyse was allowed a moment of redemption when she tried to save her daughter, but nothing of the sort for Stannis: he may have eclipsed even Joffrey in disgusting behaviour. 

The misogyny that’s run rampant through this season hasn’t gone unnoticed (not by me or by anyone else) but I thought that maybe the rape scene in “Unbent, Unbowed, Unbroken” was the worst of it. Now I sort of wish I’d quit there. Salon summed up the show’s current mission statement rather nicely:

“Game of Thrones is obsessed with reminding its audience that a woman’s work is never done, that her body is never her own, that her life is never safe, and each time the audience pushes back against the idea that such depictions are a foregone conclusion, they are informed that it is the way of the world they themselves live in and painting the world any other way would be disingenuous.”

So- goodbye, show. It’s been an, um, interesting ride. But I simply can’t stomach it anymore.“

- Three strikes against young girls and you’re out, Sarah Barrett

For anyone wanting to see Arin’s reply to all this Suzy nonsense

I’m absolutely impressed.

It has been my sincere effort to approach the subreddit with positivity and encouragement, and I apologize for the tone I am about to strike, but I don’t know any other way to phrase it.

I read that all people want is an apology. There is an apology. And now it’s like the apology is the worst possible thing that could’ve ever happened. It makes me think that, even if Suzy were to do something as drastic as refund everyone, nobody would care, or it would make people angrier.

Not to mention this person who is criticizing Suzy at the heart of all this detective work has been harassing Suzy’s customers under multiple twitter handles and, from what it looks like, fabricating evidence? Suzy has made countless reports to Twitter for this person’s alternate accounts and unethical actions.

The only difference between Suzy and me here is that Suzy is selling a product and my product is free. I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing running a business, and I’m sure I’ve made some equally careless if not EVEN MORE careless moves in my business practices. The point is that they’ve been owned up to, and that is what Suzy has done, and yet she is being vilified. She is not saying “no no, guys, I swear, the parts were bought locally!” she admitted they were not and apologized, without much of an excuse aside from admitting that she’s human. Have any of you here bought from her store specifically because she said her parts were bought locally? Surely Suzy would love to make good on that claim if that happened to you.

However, the request to refund all customers is bananas. People are upset over a post on this Subreddit seen by, at most, 3000 people, who I guarantee are not the target demographic for her shop. Not only that, but it was a reactionary post, and not a post overtly advertising her shop to the subreddit. There’s no text anywhere in her store stating her parts and accessories were bought locally, and she apologized for claiming they were elsewhere. All the descriptions in her shop are honest and fair. If you have a problem with the semantics of claims like “handmade,” then there is really no arguing, that’s like arguing a fruit snack is deceptive for listing it contains “natural flavors.” If you’re worried about her selling a product that contains parts from other sellers then you should be holding artists who sell perler bead sprites of existing characters as necklaces and magnets under as much scrutiny for not making the Perler beads or the magnets or the sprites themselves. Not saying that they should be, because they shouldn’t.

So what “shady” business practices are left? That she sells her items for a price that she researched via art shows and found out what people were willing to pay for her work? How is that shady? Is it shady that Jackson Polluck’s paintings sell for millions? Art is subjective, and it is simply a fact that something as trivial as a dot drawn on a piece of paper has a fluctuating value based on who drew that dot. We’re not Wal-Mart, we don’t have to sell absolutely everything we make as artists at cost.

If someone’s not interested in buying Suzy’s items for whatever reason, that’s fine, but this sort of micro-policing is absolutely ridiculous. Reveal all of her sources for parts and specimens? When has that ever been a common practice among product makers aside from marketing stunts (which are mostly lies anyway)? Did anyone ever demand that Hasbro tell their sources for that 100 dollar Transformer because it was way too expensive for a hunk of plastic? No, they would say “that’s too expensive for my interests” and go on with their lives. No one researches Hasbro’s sources in a deceptive manner to find out that it only costed them 4 dollars to produce that toy and then personally attack those responsible. You strive as a creator of a product and the owner of a business to make your products at as low a cost as possible while retaining as much quality as possible while finding a price people are willing to pay for what the product is. It is always a balance, and it’s careless and silly to buy only expensive things just because they’re expensive and justify the cost. You can see by Suzy’s Etsy rating that her customers are happy with the quality of her items, because if the items were cheap, or bad, she wouldn’t have such high ratings, and I have no reason to believe the ratings are because the customers assumed the items costed a certain amount of money to produce since nothing like that is implied in the descriptions of the items. Simply put, it is not a selling point.

I’m disappointed that this sort of highly vitriolic discussion is happening on this subreddit, which as of late has been very fair and goodhearted. To entertain someone obviously trying to vilify more than “save future customers” seems highly indicative to the overall tone I have seen toward Suzy, although I’m sure that’s a very controversial thing to say since no one wants to admit they don’t have saint-like level-headed perspectives of the things we do. This subreddit and moreover /r/ventgrumps does not strike me as a place teaming with “future customers” needing to be “saved,” but rather an easy place to get a rise out of folks who already have a negative disposition towards Suzy. The sort of language being thrown around from the get-go to describe the topic in discussion is just malicious at its most fair, although I won’t discount the few who have said as much as I have in terms of what should actually be considered an issue or not.

What I don’t think anyone understands or knows is that Suzy has refused again and again to post about her shop on her channel, and it wasn’t until I hounded her to do so that she reluctantly did it. She did NOT want her sales to be influenced by her fanbase, she wanted her work to speak for itself, and she wanted her success in business to be as a result of the skillful handling of her shop. I’ve never talked about her shop on Grumps and we’ve never done a call to action on any Grumps social media, so to claim that she’s taking advantage of hers or my fans is silly. I have very little patience for people trying to bring someone down for trying to make something of themselves while owning up to the things that they’ve done wrong. Suzy is not trying to pull one over on anyone, she’s an independent online shop owner who is figuring out the do’s and don'ts of the trade by diving in head-first and doing craftwork that brings her joy.

To hear her ask me “should I just stop being on Game Grumps?” in the most sullen, defeated tone I’ve ever heard in order to protect the one thing that fills her with excitement the most breaks my fucking heart. Of all of us, Suzy has been the one who has come up with the most ideas for acknowledging and appreciating fans. She was the one who thought of sending signed postcards to people, she is the one who opened up the instagram and proposed the ideas of “takeovers” to give fans a more personal look at us, she is the one most consistently retweeting and acknowledging fan-made content on her Twitter and the Game Grumps twitter, and she is the one who hangs up fan-made art in the office. When you hear her say that she gets frustrated with fans, she is talking about instances like this, not the fanbase as a whole, and I can certainly see where she’s coming from, because I, too, am very frustrated.

We were friends since 2010. For most of that time, I solidly considered her my best of friends. A few years ago she’d moved out of town, but we still communicated just about daily. She was going to be back home for Christmas, so I let her know about how a new pastry shop in town had a particular favorite of hers (IE: macarons).

Given her reply, I just presumed it was a bad time, so I waited until the next day to continue business as usual; no reply. After a while, I figured something was up with her computer or her Facebook account, so I tried a text message …no reply. E-Mail a while later, in case it was FB and her phone? reply. Christmas came and went with her not contacting me while she was in town, so I sent a belated card asking if I’d done something horrible or if things were just bad in her life …no reply.

Since then, she’s been dropping me from various social media. In going back and checking FB/Twitter/Tumblr/Instagram comments/messages/posts, text messages, etc.. between that day and the day before (when everything seemed fine), nothing is presenting itself as something that’d make one drop all contact to myself, nor to mutual friends to whom I’ve talked with about this.

The worst part, more so than the fact that I have no clue why this is happening, is that she’s normally the person I’d go to about things like this.

Why is it like this?

I find myself feeling a bit sad and adrift. I’m not sure what to do with myself. I love being part of different fandoms. I love coming online and talking to the lovely, lovely people I’ve met on Twitter who share the same interests. I like looking a new pictures of my favourites.

But something just isn’t right. And it’s bothering me. A lot. 

Today, being a member of a fandom, though it comes with so many positives, saddles a person with so many negatives. And while social media makes it all possible to exchange ideas and stories with each other, social media is also the problem.

Well, I think it’s all media that’s the problem. 

It used to be, with media in general, that you got the news on TV at supper time and at bed time (unless something big happened to interrupt regularly scheduled programming). With newspapers, it was once a day. Now we’re bombarded with the 24 hour news cycle. There’s 24 hours to fill. Within seconds of an event, someone’s reporting on it. And generally reporting badly. There’s no time for finding out the facts. There’s no time for verification. Everything’s got to be out there right now. It’s a sad thing that many people go to Twitter to find out what’s going on. 

And it also means that the most banal thing is reported. Innocent remarks are broadcast and picked apart by people looking for offence when there was none intended. A person who’s famous has stories written about the least thing they do because they are guaranteed to get clicks on a news site. 

And where once comments were sent into newspapers’ Letters to the Editor where the best ones could be chosen and printed, anyone can write whatever they want on a comments section. 

And that’s just the problem. It’s the first thing that pops into people’s heads that is getting put out there for everyone to see. And so much of it is either full of hate or ignorance (or both). It’s like when you write a paper for school. You don’t just write it all down and hand it in. You stop and read it, consider whether you said it correctly or should change the order, and generally rewrite. But not on the Internet. Not anymore. 

The same thing happens on Twitter and Facebook and all social media.

Which brings me back to fandoms. 

I belong to several. And what gets me is the sheer negativity out there in the world. Fandoms are supposed to be fun. They’re supposed to be for people to share ideas and stories and pictures about things they love: specific actors or singers or television shows or movies, and so on.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I have absolutely lovely people on my Twitter TL who are fantastic. But I do hear about things. 

The worst is people who have decided they aren’t fans anymore. Which happens. Your interests change over the course of your life. I was a big fan of things in the past that I’m a less interested or not interested in at all anymore. But what’s awful is those who decide they aren’t fans and bully people who are. Or make up stories to badmouth the actor or singer or whomever. What pleasure they get in all this negativity is beyond my understanding. What’s also disturbing is people who leave fandoms because the actor or actress or singer gets married. Do they really think that the person they were a fan of was going to someday meet them and marry them? Did they think that person should stay single all of their life? 

I’m a Benedict Cumberbatch fan. And when he announced he was engaged last year, it was the beginning of some nasty stuff in some corners. Some immediately said they weren’t going to be his fan anymore because he was getting married. Others took a different route. 

The conspiracy theorists began. At the first red carpet he went to with his fiancee, she looked very nervous. Because they weren’t kissing on the red carpet, some started in on the “this is all a publicity stunt. I just know they aren’t in love”. It went on from there. When, after a red carpet or two, she was obviously more at ease, they stared smiling and laughing more, and he would kiss her on the cheek often. No, say the conspiracy theorists, this is fake. When it was announced she was pregnant, at first they argued that was the only reason they were getting married and then it switched to, no, it’s all publicity, she’s not pregnant at all. The conspiracy nuts thought they would last only until he got an Oscar nomination and breakup. (They only seemed to think this of him, though. When Keira Knightley was nominated and announced she was pregnant, no one said it was all a publicity stunt to get her the Oscar. When Eddie Redmayne got married in December, it wasn’t called a publicity stunt to get him the Oscar.) Then they said that they would only last until the Oscars then quietly breakup. When they got married a week before the Oscars, they thought it a publicity stunt so the Oscar voters would vote for him (though the ballots were in by then). They conveniently ignored the fact that if it had been a publicity stunt, they would have plastered wedding pictures everywhere but not one has ever been released. Paparazzi pictures showing a clearly pregnant Sophie were released but the theorists insisted that that wasn’t her. When the baby was born, still they insisted that it wasn’t real. When paparazzi pictures of them with the baby came out, no, it’s not theirs (or, I read one post saying it was a doll they were carrying around). These people are clearly delusional. 

And they aren’t alone. I know some people have mentioned the same thing happened to the actors on Supernatural when they got married. Their wives were harassed. Friends of their wives were harassed. Rumours surrounded them. 

What is it? Why can’t people let other people be happy?

It’ got to the point now where absolutely everything Benedict Cumberbatch does is criticized. Someone finds offence in everything he does, no matter how innocent. I’ve gotten so I can’t read interviews without nervously scanning them to see if there’s anything anyone could possibly take the wrong way. I can’t watch interviews either. I’ll record them but sometimes can’t even bring myself to watch them. It’s absolutely ruining being in the fandom for me. 

And I know it shouldn’t. He’s said in the past that he knows there will always be people who don’t like him. And he’s okay with that. Why does it bother me so much? I don’t know.

I guess it’s because his work has always helped me deal with my depression. I can put on one of his movies or TV shows and it takes me away from it. It makes me happy when so very little else does. But now when I watch things of his, the back of my mind is buzzing about what the last thing he did that made people upset was. I guess I feel helpless. I want people to stop it. But I know I can’t do one thing about it.

Why people can’t let other people enjoy things, I will never know. Why they get pleasure from ruining things for everyone, I’ll never know. 

Sometimes I find myself in tears because of this. And I know I shouldn’t be so upset. I know it doesn’t do anyone else any harm, just me. I know I can’t change people. 

It’s made me question being on Twitter at all. I took a break earlier this year. I’m on a complete ban of it right now until at least Sunday. Benedict Cumberbatch is on The Graham Norton Show tonight and already nasty things were starting to appear so I won’t be watching it or on Twitter to see what people think. Normally I would be. And I feel sad and let down that I can’t watch it. But I can’t stand the thought of sitting there with my stomach in knots waiting for some innocent thing he says to send some people into “why did he say that” mode. I just can’t do that to myself. 

Will it change? No. I don’t think so. We’re in an age where the absolute nastiest things are accepted as just part of what life is like now. I wish it wasn’t. 

JUST A NOTE: Thanks everyone for your reblogs and comments. You’ve made me feel much better to know that I’m not the only one who feels like this and that there are such wonderful supportive people out there who are fans of Benedict Cumberbatch.


Because I sprint to my car and quickly lock the doors at any time of day, just in case.

Because a guy who I wasn’t even dating got mad at me for talking to someone else at a party.

Because I am genuinely afraid of getting raped when I go to college this fall.

Because I was relentlessly harassed for something I tweeted while a boy who tweeted the same thing remained untouched.

Because when I was 8 years old, my mom taught me the proper way to hold my purse to avoid getting attacked.

Because while #YesAllWomen was trending on twitter, a boy from my school STILL tweeted “nice guys always finish dead ass last”.

Because I had to stop going by myself to the Starbucks closest to my house after being approached every single time I was there.

Because people judged me for not liking a guy after he took me out on expensive dates.

Because my guy friends have told me the worst thing that can happen is a girl saying she just wants to be friends.

Because when I was 15 years old, my boyfriend at the time constantly told me- and others- that I needed to lose weight even though I weighed 100 lbs.

Because I’ve been told “you know you want to”.

—  Because I wanted to say all of this on twitter but was afraid of getting judged.








i feel so guilty for being offended oh my god how is this happening twitter is definitely the worst thing

anonymous asked:

I'll celebrate if and when babygate ends. At this point it simply feels like Harry's Independence Day. Louis is still as stuck as ever in the worst mess. Harry has freedom over his Twitter, he has the Azoffs by his side. What about Louis? He's surrounded by possibly some of the worst ppl ever introduced to this fandom. He's stuck with having claimed being a father to a baby to 20+ million Twitter followers. But you guys go ahead and celebrate freedom!

To everyone complaing why Harry gets his freedom while Louis is totally not.. here’s a few things to munch on:

- they signed the same main contracts. Why would Harry have a different day??

- you can believe me or not but there’s information that ALL of them got their freedom (from M!M) months ago.

- same complaints happened on Tamara day and in retrospect that action was a fucking blessing because my stomach would not have been able to accept B being used as a girlfriend.

Lessons learned? WAIT before you judge.

Lesson2: Don’t let this solo!Harry bullshit affect your judgement.

Lesson3: there’s a lot of hours remaining from Feb 1, even this week so sit down.