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Honestly, it vexes me when I consistently see people saying that they don’t want to see redemption arcs.

And to clarify because I don’t want to beat around the bush, I do mean Kylo Ren in particular—though this could be generalized for other characters, too, I guess?

Kylo falls under the role of an antagonist. He has done horrible things: he is the Jedi Killer, he ordered the slaughter of those people at the start of the film, tortured Poe for information, fetched information from Rey’s mind and killed his own father. These are actions that firmly establish him as Not Good. He wouldn’t be an antagonist if he didn’t do bad things, would he?

But context is very important, and the finer emotional nuances in scenes such as Han’s death need to be evaluated less simplistically. In multiple source materials, it is canonically established that Kylo Ren is not pure evil. He struggles with the actions he believes he must take. Adam Driver has described Kylo Ren as someone who (while not verbatim, the intent of words is the same) “feels what he’s doing is right, and feels justified in his actions because of that.” If you want the full bit of what he said, just for clarity, here:

Well, I don’t know. I certainly didn’t think of him that way in playing him, that he is doing anything villainous. It’s more if he thinks what he is doing is right, and being justified by it. And then trying to tell the story of why – making it a person as much as possible.

“Wait!” You might say. “He thinks the fucked up shit he’s doing is right? How is that at all supposed to make me want this guy to have a redemption arc?”

This is where we get into the finer details and lore, my friend. While the matter of Ben Solo’s grooming by Snoke is an entire other issue the fandom is up in arms about, the fact that he was targeted in the womb is undeniable. There are multiple written scenes in the Aftermath novel that lead to this conclusion:

The dark, now lit with stars. One by one, like eyes opening. Comforting at first, then sinister as she worries. Who is out there, who is watching us? Hands reach for her, hands of shadow, lifting her up, reaching for her throat, her wrists, her stomach -

Inside, the child kicks. She feels her baby turning inside, right-side, up and down, struggling to find his bearings, trying so hard to find his way free of her. It’s not time, she thinks. Just a little longer.

He is less a human shaped thing and more a pulsing, living band of light. Light that sometimes dims, that sometimes is thrust with a vein of darkness. She tells herself that it’s normal - Luke said to her, Leia, we all have that. He explained that the brighter the light, the darker the shadow.

The baby turns inside her again, troubled by something she cannot feel and cannot yet understand.

As well as this moment from the novelization of TFA:

Leia bit her lower lip, refusing to concede. “No. It was Snoke.

Han drew back slightly. “Snoke?”

She nodded. “He knew our child would be strong with the Force. That he was born with equal potential for good or evil.” “You knew this from the beginning? Why didn’t you tell me?”

She sighed. “Many reasons. I was hoping that I was wrong, that it wasn’t true. I hoped I could sway him, turn him away from the dark side, without having to involve you.” A small smile appeared.  

“You had—you have—wonderful qualities, Han, but patience and understanding were never among them. I was afraid that your reactions would only drive him farther to the dark side. I thought I could shield him from Snoke’s influence and you from what was happening.” Her voice dropped. “It’s clear now that I was wrong. Whether your involvement would have made a difference, we’ll never know.”

He had trouble believing what he was hearing. “So Snoke was watching our son.”

Always,” she told him. “From the shadows, in the beginning, even before I realized what was happening, he was manipulating everything, pulling our son toward the dark side.

And then, of course, are these additions from JJ:

It’s more than just having a ‘bad seed’ as a kid. Snoke had targeted this kid and knew that this kid was going to be incredibly powerful in The Force and wanted him as an ally.

So this mother and father had a target as a son, someone who’s watching their boy, and these parents aren’t there enough to guide him.

Kylo Ren is a villain, but he’s also a victim and this plays—no matter what people might want to think—a very integral role in his character progression. Snoke has been an influence on Ben Solo’s life for almost as long as he’s existed. There has likely never been a Ben Solo that existed without that outside influence. According to the timeline we’ve been able to establish about Kylo, he defected when he was in his 20s—meaning there is a part of him that always resisted the seduction of the dark side, but eventually gave in. 

But why did he give in? What was the extent of this manipulation on Snoke’s behalf that could cause a golden child from some of our favorite heroes to go so wrong? 

The thing is, we can’t be sure. We only know that Ben was kept from the truth about his lineage and when that knowledge came forward, he felt betrayed. Worse, it is likely that the combination of Snoke’s influence and the respective actions/inactions of his parents (no matter how well meaning) all served to push him off that edge. 

My two cents? Kylo Ren has the illusion that what he’s doing is right because what he used to believe in—his parents, the Jedi, the light—were proven to be ‘wrong’ when he found out the truth. This all-knowing force that had guided him all his life had been right instead. 

“The supreme leader is wise.”

I believe that in the end, the rhetoric of the dark side and Snoke became the only thing left to Ben Solo that made sense anymore. So he did what Snoke told him was right, because he’d been right about everything else. He follows his dark path almost religiously because it’s all that’s left to him now.  

When Han talks to Kylo Ren on  that bridge, he isn’t talking to the Jedi Killer—he is talking to his son. He is talking to his boy who has not heard his own name in god knows how long (because Ben Solo is dead) and he is getting through to him. When Han Solo asks Kylo Ren to come back home, Kylo Ren does not laugh in his face. He doesn’t proclaim his father a fool. He doesn’t praise the dark side.

He says, with tears in his eyes, “It’s too late.”

In my opinion, it’s practically an admittance that this is not what he wanted. He does not want to be on that bridge, preparing to do what he’s going to do. I think he wants to go back home, but—going back to what I said earlier about the dark being all he has left—he believes that there’s nothing left, though Han is offering him family again. Because if his father is right, then what has he done? What has he done all this time? If Han is right, he has made so many unforgivable mistakes, and who could live with that? If what he’s done is not right, then what does that make him? 

Anyone would have a hard time swallowing that. It has to be right, because if it’s wrong, the alternative is unthinkable. 

JJ has another memorable quotation that I can (and will) reference back to in order to support this:

People have asked me if I think that Kylo Ren was just playing with him the whole time, if he meant to kill him from the beginning. And the truth is, I think Kylo Ren, in this moment, is actually being convinced to walk away from this. Snoke is, as Han says, using him, and I think that somewhere Ben knows this. But I think that he can’t accept it. Deep down, he has gone too far.

Despite anything Kylo Ren has said, Ben Solo is still very much alive. The action of killing Han Solo was an act from Snoke meant to quiet that voice completely. It’s not weakness in his apprentice that Snoke fears: it’s his apprentice thinking for himself and having Ben Solo’s power used against him. He played the long game. Every investment he made into the birth of Kylo Ren was to ensure he had this quivering mass of rage and anguish fighting on his behalf. He does not want Kylo Ren to be at peace with the pull inside of him the way Kylo Ren thinks killing his father will achieve.

He wants Kylo Ren to suffer. He wants to Kylo Ren to sabotage himself until there truly is no way back.

At the end of the day, it’s important for people to realize this: redemption arcs are not about what a character deserves. It never will be about deserving. Han Solo deserves justice? Yes. Poe and Rey deserve justice? Yes. Finn deserves justice? Yes. Does Kylo Ren deserve to be punished for what he’s done? Of course. Redemption arcs aren’t about justice either, however. It isn’t about cleansing an antagonist of their sins or punishing them. 

It’s the antagonist realizing the horror of what they’ve done and deciding they need to do something to make things right. Whether that be a sacrifice or a lifetime’s worth of service in the name of a greater good, it doesn’t matter. It’s about repenting. 

This is about Kylo Ren realizing the light wasn’t a lie, that he doesn’t have to tear himself apart anymore. That he’s drawn to it for a reason. This is about reparations to a galaxy, an abuse victim realizing he is being abused. Gaining his independence for the first time in his life. Giving his father’s soul peace, and his mother one more piece of her shattered family back after everything she has lost.

That is a redemption arc. 

All Your Faves are Pan

(Here is a fun list I made of characters in popular media who are pansexual both in canon and headcanon. Enjoy!)

Deadpool (Marvel)

Rick Sanchez (Rick and Morty)

Jack Harkness (Doctor Who)

Tony Stark/Ironman (Marvel)

James T. Kirk (Star Trek)

Frank N. Furter (Rocky Horror Picture Show)

Jack Sparrow (Pirates of the Caribbean)

Oberyn Martell (Game of Thrones)

Wander (Wander Over Yonder)

Clark Kent/Superman (DC)

Mabel Pines (Gravity Falls)

Joy (Inside Out)

Lumiere (Beauty and the Beast)

Prince Naveen (The Princess and the Frog)

Vision (Marvel)

Llima (Pokemon Sun/Moon)

Harry Potter (Harry Potter)

Tulio (The Road to El Dorado)

Megamind (Megamind)

Haruhi Fujioka (Ouran High School Host Club)

Grell Sutcliff (Black Butler)

Sportacus (Lazy Town)

Peter Quill/Starlord (Marvel)

Wanda Fairywinkle-Cosma (Fairly Oddparents)

Gene Belcher (Bob’s Burgers)

Pinkie Pie (My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic)

Fluorite (Steven Universe)

Emmet (The Lego Movie)

Bubbles (Power Puff Girls)

Thor (Marvel)

Newton Geiszler (Pacific Rim)

Princess Peach (Nintendo)

Li Shang (Mulan)

Juandissimo Magnifico (Fairly Oddparents)

Spock (Star Trek)

Penelope Garcia (Criminal Minds)

Meena (Sing!)

Victor Nikiforov (Yuri on Ice)

Jesse McCree (Overwatch)

Leonard McCoy (Star Trek)

Poe Dameron (Star Wars)

Leia Organa (Star Wars)

Star Butterfly (Star VS the Forces of Evil)

Kimmy Schmidt (Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt)

Bertram Gilfoyle (Silicon Valley)

Part Two

Guys stop attacking @staff. They are merely victims of the machine uprising.

I’m willing to bet money that the safe mode fiasco is entirely a result of machine learning gone awry, and not because @staff suddenly has an evil homophobic agenda and wants to protect kids from the gays. Why? Well let’s look at what safe mode is supposed to do: block porn bots.

Imagine you’re a Tumblr IT person and you’re tasked with developing an algorithm to block said porn bots. You’re on your third cup of coffee for the night and you really just want to go home, so you think of the quickest, easiest, dirtiest way to detect sensitive content: set up a neural network and feed it tons upon tons of examples of typical posts porn bots make. Easy-peasy. Except not at all, because robots are stupid and never do what you want them to.

Here’s what this neural network can’t do with much effectiveness:

Identify pornographic nudity
Identify degrading content
Identify hateful rhetoric
Distinguish any of those things from things that aren’t those things

Here’s what it can do:

See that “sensitive posts” are mostly still images and gifs. Block accordingly.
See that “sensitive posts” contain curse words. Block accordingly.
See that images in “sensitive posts” are often black-and-white. There goes aesthetic blogs.
See that text in “sensitive posts” are short with an external link. Artists linking to your website? Sucks to be you.
And perhaps most importantly, see what “sensitive posts” are tagged as.

You’ve probably already guessed, but porn bots usually don’t tag their posts with “porn” or “nsfw” like a courteous person. Here’s what they do tag with:

etc. etc. etc., mixed in with things like “hot” and “sex” and “babes” and a bunch of slurs too.

Now if you were a neural network designed to look primarily at tags to identify what content to block from the kiddies and you only had this example data to work with, what would you think if you came across an lgbt positivity post that has tags that are nearly identical?

It’s not that I’m not blaming @staff. They still rolled out shitty code without doing any sort of QA on any sort of actual content people put on this site and messed things up as a result. But I really, really doubt there was any sort of malice involved. It’s just another textbook example of why you can’t rely on half-baked algorithms to do your jobs for you. Something that I really think we all should have learned by now.

reasons why seungkwan is a sweetheart
  • even if he’s part of the maknae line, you can see how much 17 members rely on him, always checking his reactions, and expect him to lead everything (and are usually lost if he’s not there)
  • if no one is saying anything during an interview, even if he’s not the MC he either leads the members or starts talking even if it’s nonsense to save the situation
  • he always tries his best to give good advices, and more than anything: always encourage people a lot
  • he’s able to get along with everyone, even new staff really quickly
  • he likes to make a lot of jokes, but he’s always careful of people’s reaction: if it looks like he said/did something that would make other unconfortable or hurt them he apologizes right away and try to make them feel better by saying nice things about them or gives them a hug
  • he just gives tons of hug to people who are pouting even a bit, or just tons of hugs in general
  • he’s just extremely polite and respectful: like on One Fine Day, when they were given something to eat after picking bossam in Cheongsando, he was the first one to go to other workers to feed them
  • after Mingyu used one the bossam to stop a fire, he apologized right away with a 90° bow to workers who gave them bossam
  • he’s careful of everyone like he tries to make everyone shine, and he keeps telling fun stories about members who don’t talk much
  • he protects his members of any situation where they could be embarrassed: when people ask Jihoon’s height, when Jeonghan accidently spat on the floor (and he moved quickly to hide it with his foot), or when Hoshi was asked if he changed the choregraphy this week too but he didn’t so Seungkwan immediately explained how Hoshi had so much work that it was impossible for him to do so
  • he’s careful of other members likes and dislikes, like when a member suggested to cook curry in a cooking program, he immediately said « no we have a member who doesn’t like curry » before Woozi even said that he disliked it
  • he’s extremely observant and can tell when seungcheol is lying, when woozi is embarassed and acting like he’s not, or really pretty much anything about the members
  • he’s interrested in foreign members’ culture a lot, like  he kept saying to Minghao how he wanted to try chinese food, until Minghao had enough and took him and Jun  to a chinese restaurant
  • and he’s always talking in english, and even try to communicate with foreign fans by using it
  • he didn’t show much of his japanese yet, but it seems pretty good since he’s one the of member who says the longest sentences in japanese
  • he’s very affectionate with everyone really and even more to fans: he greets them with the biggest smile on his face, hands waving really high in the sky, and he  just looks so happy and excited
  • when he leaves he either greets the fans the same way, or looks really extremely sadden to leave
  • he always tries his hardest to communicate with fans, no matter if they are foreigners or not, he has no problem trying to use their language, and start asking them questions about where they are from even if the situation doesn’t really permit them to talk
  • so whenever he’s in a situation where he can’t really talk (like when he was doing Sukira for exemple) he writes on a notebook things he wants to ask to fans (« are you excited for the comeback? », or after asking to a foreigner where she’s from: « NY? » to make sure), saying thank you to fans « thank you for congratulating me for my graduation♡  », talking about his feelings « i’m going to sing later, i’m so nervous », « i missed you »
  • he’s also one of the member who communicate the most withs fans on SNS
  • because of Pledis’ rules he sometimes has to refuse things like taking pictures, or giving people his signature, and he was said to look extremely sorry and apparently kept apologizing everytime it happened
  • he always show the same respect to sunbae groups, no matter if they are a popular or an unpopular group, he’s admiring all of them and keeps talking about how much he liked one of their song or enjoyed things they did in the past, etc
  • he’s like some kind of Jeju ambassador: never letting anymore makes fun of it, even if playing along with other people’s jokes would make it easier for him to fit
  • he has his own insecurities like his weight or his dancing skills (he used to be considered one of the worst dancer) and how he’s the one being scold the most during recording usually, but he never blames anyone joking about his weight, or people scolding him during dance practice, or  during recording. He just keeps working hard to diet, and improve in any area he’s not confident in
  • he makes sure the members don’t loose confidence in themselves, like when seokmin had to show a special talent on a show but reactions weren’t so good, he took his hand even if he was really far away from him to show support
  • he showers members with praises about anything related to their insecurities: like randomly talking about how happy he is that seungcheol is the leader, how much he likes mingyu’s skin color, or how fun joshua is and actually not a boring person at all…
  • when Jeonghan joined the group and was awkward with everyone, Seungkwan was the first one who tried getting close to him, by doing a lot of silly jokes, and it was never said but it looks like it took some time for Minghao to become close to the members, and Seungkwan also seems like one of the first who started looking out for him
  • he loves babies and kids so much and if seungkwan is usually the most professional of the group in any given situation, kids are an exception for him: he just stops talking about what he was supposed to talk about and keeps playing with the kid and talk no-stop about how cute he/she is, or even almost forget about the « no photo of people without their consent » rule, because they are so cute to him
  • he knows every members’ birthday
  • seungkwan always thought during his predebut days that he would be the least popular, and his biggest fear has always been not getting any attention at all, not being noticed
  • he was said to be a soft-heart boy since predebut: he cried more than Chan when his father came, also cried the hardest when samuel’s mother read a letter written for seventeen’s members, was the only one who cried when he read his letter for his mother on parent’s day, cried when doing a video message to his mother on 17project and couldn’t stop crying after seeing her, cried at the boys wish concert, cried when seventeen won their first rookie award, and got extremely emotional on his last day at Sukira with Ryeowook and the rest of the S-line, and on the One Fine Day when the 3 leaders read their letters
  • he also cares a lot about member’s feelings, like he was afraid for seokmin’s feelings when no judge talked about his singing in 17project (while seungkwan was praised), or when vernon said he felt sorry to seventeen about SMTM, he said later in an interview « He was talking about how he was sorry. What’s there to be sorry about~ right? » ©
  • he loves his mom so much and keeps talking about her no matter what; he even almost gave up on being an idol because he didn’t want to leave his mom in jeju
  • he gets anxious really easily, and sometimes he’s tired but since he’s the moodmaker and has pride on this title, he doesn’t want to let other people seeing his tired-side and try to gives energy to people as much as he can no matter what
  • i have so many things to say but i’ll stop there, so just remember that seungkwan is a sweetheart and that he deserves all the love
Okay, so random idea that crossed my mind

I don’t know if someone already came up with this idea, but today when I was working I just came up with something.
I was thinking about Big Fun and Halloween parities being some sort of joint-party (Somehow connected or at least two parties in one)

Martha Dunstock, after embarrassing herself in front of Ram, just runs off to the bathroom, shuts the door, and just lets it all out. She cries for at least 5 minutes before another figure in the bathtub coughs, and lets her know that someone else was in there. That person was just hidden due to the shower curtain there.
She’s embarrassed. And at this point ready to disappear at any moment. Before she can leave, the figure frantically apologizes for not saying anything while she was just dumping all her emotions out. She introduces herself, and he introduces himself as Michael, a junior who came in here just to wait everything out. (I’m pretty sure Jeremy and Michael are juniors)
While things were a little awkward at first, they eventually talk, and find out they they were in similar problems. Their best friend leaving them for popularity. Michael decides to leave out the Squip, and Martha rants about the Heathers. And they just going on talking about that, and other things about themselves until the party ends. Martha thinks that some of the stuff he likes was cool, and Michael likes that there was someone else who he could talk to about these kinds of stuff. They awkwardly thank the other for listening, and not being too weird, exchange phone numbers, and go their separate ways, hoping the other’s situation gets better.

It was just a random thought I came up with, and I like the idea.


LEGAL :  Ethan Gombos

NICK :  Buttons


here take a whole series


1. Buttons is naturally a pretty good sharpshooter but the reason he knows how to shoot a gun at all is because Mac let him practice with his BB gun back in the vault. Buttons would go downstairs to Jonas (whom he liked a lot) and shoot at cans and radroaches under his supervision.

2. err NSFW I guess? (and I’m sure some of you know this but) he’s circumcised, according to Vault 101 standards. They stopped doing that after James went missing. Didn’t want Andy butchering babies. :|


1.  playing with Dogmeat

2.  reading comic books with Meg

3.  dancing to rock’n’roll on top of his coffee table in his underwear


1. Meg and her family, especially her mom
2. Alexis (his sister)
3. Randy (@bryborg)
4. Jimmy (@jimmy-exodus)
5. Sellbot 4000 (@thesellbot4000)
6. Hauser (@cameronaugust)
7. Curie


1. Not killing Mac

2.  Leaving the Vault (both of these things evoke dual sets of emotions in him tbh)


1. Getting choked out, being tied-up too tightly

2.  Turning into a Trog

idk mang I got contacted by a bunch of new Fallout RP-ers in the recent weeks so consider yourself tagged if you want to meet people and their OC-s and fill this out to find each other :)

TAGGED BY: @cajuncur

super random ai hcs, bc i have a Lot honestly?:

delta: actually pretty expressive? u just gotta be good at reading his body language. also, really easily flustered. like Really Easily. 

theta: loves stickers. like a lot. theyll put them on everything including armor n helmets and legit anything u can think of. its 100% an honor to be Sticker’d™

eta: constantly anxious. if theyre relaxed its a miracle, theyre very easily stressed out. on that note they really like white noise generators n stuff, the audio keeps em calm (theyre the type of person to have headphones in 24/7)

iota: really happy and upbeat n also pretty low empathy? like theyre good at comforting they just Cant Relate (thats etas job). also will kick ur ass if u hurt eta or theta

omega: deep, deep down, he unironically loves be my bad boy by cascada. very, very deep. also he listens to nightcore a shocking amount

gamma: his sense of humor is not limited to knock knock jokes. literally any lame thing he will find hilarious. hes got a meme folder. theyre all terrible 

sigma: constantly gets in arguments with delta abt metastability etc. they both have pretty even tones so its like the most heated discussion thats also a complete deadpan uve ever seen. 


Johndaveweek begins!!

….well, I decided not to do day 1′s prompt (short explanation, Anxiety. long explanation, I have Anxiety) but I still wanted to do something johndave related for day 1!

soooooo, have these pixel edits!

You have to click on them to view them in their actual size, otherwise they are too big and blurry (maybe I should post them in a text post instead? idk)

idk if I should actually tag this because it doesn’t conform to the prompt for today? but eh, it will get seen either way ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

(EDIT: textpost version is here)

musicforever-1  asked:

How long did it take you to learn anotomy? I'm recently learning anotomy and I'm getting discouraged. I look up to your art and I was wondering how long did it take you to get to the level of perfection you are now?

Ive been drawing for over a decade so I guess thats how long Ive been learning ? And Im always learning ! Im always working to improve ! I definitely dont know everything about anatomy, not even close, theres still a lot I struggle with.

I get discouraged a lot too, I have a lot of days where nothing comes out right or I feel like Im getting worse, I think thats something that just happens with everyone. 

getting your art to where you want it to be can be a long process, at least it has been for me

anonymous asked:

People like to headcanon that act 3 Anders and Hawke had a strained relationship, but it says right there in the codex that he is a tender and devoted lover. I'm crying over Anders leaving all his stresses at the door as much as he can so he can be gentle with Hawke. They were happy, people. They still are.

Yeah, I totally agree. Like, I can see some strain occurring after the Justice quest, just because Anders is still conflicted and dreading what’s to come, while Hawke is concerned about him and maybe frustrated that he won’t just tell them what’s going on. An issue like that can certainly cause problems in a relationship.

But that’s like the very end bit of Act 3, so it’s rather short lived. For the rest of it? I totally agree with you (and the codex). That’s the thing about Anders; no matter how much he’s hurting, no matter how bad it gets, he still tries his best with Hawke. The relationship is just so important to him that he’s not going to neglect it, no matter what’s going on. And he really, really enjoys being with Hawke, even if he does feel a little guilty about finding so much pleasure in something so selfish (in his mind, at least). I think he may have tried a bit to stay away once he’d planted the bomb, to get some distance and try to keep them from getting pulled down with him, but he wouldn’t be able to keep it up, and would eventually come back to them, to their relief. Again though, end bit of Act 3, not the rest of it.

He’s definitely needy, and needs more attention than most, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing, nor something that’s always a problem in relationships or that would cause strain (it isn’t for the right Hawke, at least). But ultimately, when he’s with Hawke, that’s when he really feels happy and safe. Even if things aren’t going so well, even if he’s upset and needs some comfort, just being with Hawke, enjoying their presence and their touch and being able to touch them back, does help him cope. And I mean, my Hawke is 100% supportive of him and his cause, so that helps as well.

But yes, I think there was a lot of joy in that relationship (and still is, fuck everyone who says otherwise). And when things are hard, and Anders can’t hold it back, Hawke is there for him, and vice versa (because Hawke has problems sometimes too). I mean, they are a little co-dependent in that way, but they’re happy, as happy as they can be given the circumstances. He’s absolutely a devoted and tender lover, no matter how bad things get. Because he really loves Hawke with everything he has, and just having the opportunity to be with them is such a big deal to him. He wants to enjoy that as much as he can, to keep the world and it’s problems from sullying this one, beautiful thing in his life. Even though, yes, the problems do come up, and there are nights where he really just needs Hawke to hold him and comfort him, that’s not something I’d say causes ‘strain’.

They were, and still are, very happy together. There are tough moments, yes, but nothing either of them aren’t ready and willing to deal with. Most of those are also external, and I think they both work very hard to keep the world’s problems from destroying the last good thing either of them have, and actually enjoyed the relationship even more, basically out of spite. Refusing to let the Chantry win and keep them miserable, in their minds. That’s kind of the way I see it, anyways.

Helpful answers

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Aro research

Aro Research / warning text heavy & long post

Attraction =/= behavior

Attraction =/= behavior explination / warning long post & text heavy

Examples of attraction =/= behavior with aro

Umbrella terms

Why use umbrella terms? / warning ranting

Grey umbrella

Aro spectrum explanation / warning long post

Usage of quasi

Quasi as an umbrella

Quasi as an identity

Usage of grey

Grey as an umbrella term

Why use grey?

Grey as an identity

Aro Vauge

Aro vauge identities

 Post on neurodiversity

Romance repulsion

Romance repulsed sometimes?


Romantic attraction and romance repulsed? 

Helpful terms that aren’t orientations



 Soft romo

Soft romo relationship

 Qpr and Qpp


Aromate vs qpr?

 Peach fuzz

 Post rubor


Aroamory vs aromantic?

 Nonamory / warning not our link

 Alterous and quasi crushes

Crushes for types of attraction

Facing arophobia/amatonormativity

 Comfort through the community

 Misconception about aros

 Zedsexual aros


Slam poetry

Coming out

 Information on aros / warning long post & text heavy

 Further explanation / warning text heavy

Coming out to family

 Coming out to family part 2 

 Can I undo coming out?

Young aros

 Am I too young to be valid?

 When is too young? 

 Am I aro or inexperienced?


Adult aros

Growing up

Fighting amatonormativity / warning long post &  text heavy

Getting married and having kids

Having children / warning text heavy

Exploring types of attraction

Types of attraction

 What different types of attractions feel like 

 Comic explaining different types of attractions / warning nudity

Type of attraction crushes

What type of attraction am I feeling?

Can attraction hurt?

 What is romantic love? Sidenote: There is a tag for this

 Romantic attraction / warning sex mention & sexual attraction

Romantic attraction and romance repulsed?

Romantic attraction going with sexual attraction

  Romantic attraction toward fictional characters   

  Platonic love 

  Sensual attraction 

 Squishes toward different people

How to tell your squish you like them?

Smush vs. lust

Romantic attraction influencing sexual attraction

 Can I use zed terms like bi or homo in front of aro terms like lithro or cupio 

  Gender influnces attraction? 

Exploring relationships

Soft romo relationship


Qpr vs. soft romo

Why have queer in qpr?

Does wanting a qpr change my orientation?

 Qpr checklist Sidenote: Not our linke

 Can only aros have qpr’s

 Sex with qpr’s

  Jealousy in non-romantic relationships

Polyamorous relationships and aro?

Heartbroken from non-romantic relationships?

A perfect date for a lithromantic

Am I still aro if I’m in a romantic relationship?

Supporting aros in a relationship

 Should I date someone?

Challenges in relationships

Questions to think about before coming out

How to bring up aromanticism to my partner

Should I tell my partner I’m aro?

Supporting an aro partner

How to break up with a zed

 Rejecting zeds 

How to respond to I love you


Don’t Break This Deal AU comic, where Wirt tried to trick Bill, the demon underestimated Wirt, and both of them ended up sharing one body! Part 8, where The Beast explains how a small part of him survived even after The Lantern went off. He excisted in Wirt’s mind subtly doing the same job as before, bringing loneliness and insecurity into the boy’s life, using Wirt’s anxieties as a fuel. In other words, Wirt is a new lantern, and with Bill’s powers out of control, The Beast found a way to break free.

Comic parts: | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 

12 Tips for those new to Tumblr
  1. Eventually you’re probably going to want xkit. That’s how people tag asks, make new posts out of replies, see all the tags on posts, keep sent messages in an outbox, and do 90% of the other stuff you can’t figure out how to do. Here’s the link to download it.

  2. Tag your original posts for people with similar interests to find. Only the first five tags you add count, and tagging reblogs does not put those posts in the tag, even if you add something to the reblog.

  3. Use the tags to comment on posts you reblog.  It’s polite to compliment selfies, add agreement, etc., in the tags. Unless your comment adds something to the conversation that people who don’t follow you would want to see, it probably belongs only in the tags, not attached to the post.

  4. If you don’t want something reblogged, don’t write don’t reblog - change a few letters (like “do nut reb/agel”) so the jerks who search for “don’t reblog” don’t find it to be a jerk. You can also put your post under a readmore with ctrl+shift+K so reblogs become unreadable once you delete the original post.

  5. Porn blogs will follow you. Just block them. They are the athlete’s foot of Tumblr and do not respect boundaries.

  6. Don’t post or reblog unsourced art, including porn. Artists and sex workers’ livelihoods can depend on benefitting from the visibility of their work. When it’s circulated without a source, it can harm their chances of earning a living, so it’s considered very rude. (Another reason we all hate porn blogs.)

  7. If anyone makes you uncomfortable or violates your boundaries, block them. Especially if you’re younger and adults act creepy, it’s not really rude to just block them - it’s just refusing to interact with them. People who freak out over being blocked are usually the ones you were right to block.

  8. You’re going to say or do something embarrassing. Tumblr is a popular place for marginalized people, and you are going to learn that something you thought was fine is actually deeply hurtful to at least one marginalized group.

    This is a normal thing that happens when your social circle expands to include people with different experiences. Try not to take it personally, listen, apologize politely, and try to do better by them.

  9. If you answer hate mail, you will get more hate mail. People send insulting asks to lots of people to see who will answer. If you do, they’ll keep coming back because they want to get you riled up. If you block them and delete it, you’ll get less hate mail in the future.

  10. You’ll have more followers if you make your blog accessible. Don’t put an autoplay song in your theme, use text too small for some people to read, or use a flashing background. Tag common triggers. Break long posts into paragraphs. Caption videos or images. If you do even some of this your blog will be easier for a wide range of people to access.

  11. Interact with other blogs if you want the full experience. Ask questions of other bloggers, engage in community discussions on topics you like, send happy birthday messages. If you reblog an ask meme, it’s polite to send one ask from it to the person you’re reblogging it from.

  12. Curate your dashboard so it has only things you like. Unfollow blogs that post things you hate seeing. Search for new blogs that talk about your interests. Use tumblr savior or xkit blacklist to hide posts on topics you don’t want to see.
Tell Me the Truth - Part One [Josh Matthews]

Characters: Josh x Reader, Topanga

Summary: Something’s fishy and Josh can smell it. However, things take a turn for the worst when the most awful ideas start popping into his head and a mysterious text sends him over the edge.

Warnings: speculation, anger

A/N: this was going to be one part, but it got too long

Tags: none 

“Come on, (Y/N), pick up the phone,” Josh groaned from his bed. He laid an arm over his eyes as he listened to the ringing. He groaned again as he heard your voicemail.

“Hey, it’s (Y/N). Sorry I missed your call, but I’ll get your message after the-” it was cut off by a the beep.

He huffed. “(Y/N), this is, like, the tenth time I’ve called you. Please get back to me because I’d really like to, you know, hang out with my girlfriend.” It might have been rude, but he was getting aggravated. He hung up the phone and huffed.

He sat up and opened an app to mess with. He wished (Y/N) would answer the phone. He just wanted to hear her speak, not her voicemail. He wanted to hangout with her, but that couldn’t happen if she didn’t answer his calls or respond to his texts.

The door to his dorm opened and his roommate walked in. He glanced up but immediately looked back down at his phone.

“She still not answering?” he asked. Josh shook his head. “Maybe she’s done.”

“Done?” Josh asked.

“You know, done with the relationship,” Schnoop-aloop said. He shrugged his shoulders as he sat on his own bed. “She could be scared to end it.”

“She would tell me if she didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore,” Josh argued. He didn’t like where this conversation was going. He knew (Y/N) and she would speak up about her feelings. “Maybe something’s just going on and she’s too busy.”

“She’d still tell you if something was going on,” his roommate said. He laid back and grabbed his phone out of his pocket. “Maybe she’s cheating on you.”

Josh stood up abruptly. “No,” he said and shook his head. “(Y/N) wouldn’t cheat on me. She wouldn’t cheat on anyone. She wouldn’t even cheat on a test.”

“Hey, I’m just spouting off ideas,” Schnoop said.

Josh covered his face with his hands. He shook his head. He looked at his roommate. “Are you okay? You’re not acting like yourself.”

“Today’s not a good day,” his roommate said as he watched his phone.

Josh watched him, then grabbed his coat. “Okay, well, I’m going out,” he said and shoved his phone in his pocket. He pulled on his coat. “Clear my head.” He walked to the door and left.

Josh walked into his brother’s apartment, taking a loot around. The place seemed empty, everything put away neatly and nothing in disarray. He figured that it must be a calm day without anything bothering anyone. Perfect, because he needed helped. He just hoped someone was here.

“Hello!” he called out. He was worried no one was here, then again the door was unlocked.

“Josh?” the voice of his sister in law called out. He let out a sigh. Topanga would be able to help him. He could really use some advice from someone like her.

She walked out from the hall and looked at him. “What’s going on? Do you need more laundry done?” she asked in that sweet, motherly way she had. She hadn’t minded him using their resources, especially since this was the first time that he was on his own, in a way.

“No, uh, I actually came for something else,” he told her as he walked over. He plopped himself on the couch and sighed, looking at his hands. “It’s (Y/N).”

“Is she okay?” Topanga asked, worried. She sat beside him and looked at him with concern.

“I don’t know, really,” he admitted to her. He looked at her. “She won’t call me back. She won’t respond to my texts. It says she’s read them, but why wouldn’t she respond?”

“Maybe there’s something else going on in her life right now that has her attention,” his sister in law said. She rubbed his back gently. He was really glad that she was nearby or else he wouldn’t know what to do. His mother was back home, a hundred miles away from him.

“Yeah, but wouldn’t she tell me if something was going on?” he asked her. He was fearing the worst. He had taken the subway all the way to the apartment and that had given him a lot of time to think. He was fearful that maybe (Y/N) was cheating on him.

“You never know for sure,” Topanga said as she took in a breath. “There’s never a way to really know unless she tells you. You just have to believe that when she’s ready to talk to you, she will.”

“She will?” he asked her. She nodded to him.

“She will. You just have to give her the time she needs,” Topanga told him. He nodded to her, taking a deep breath.

“Thanks, Topanga. You always know how to handle a situation,” he told her.

“It’s what I’m here for,” she told him and smiled.

Josh was walking back to the campus when he felt his phone buzz, alerting him that he had been sent a text. He fished his pocket for it, pulling it out. It opened it, slowing his walk until he stopped. He opened the text.

A picture, the one that prove what he thought.

(Y/N), smiling, laughing. Her arm was wrapped around some dude, a guy that looked to be around their age. She was close to him and he was smiling at her. He had a drink in his hand and his other arm around (Y/N). They looked so happy, squished up together in a booth at some restaurant. Someone had to be with them, to be able to take the picture.

This sent a surge of anger through Josh. He couldn’t believe what he was seeing, or at least he felt like he shouldn’t. He did believe what he was seeing. He was enraged by this.

(Y/N) was cheating on him. After a year of being together, this was how he was treated. He was heartbroken and he couldn’t stand to look at the picture. He closed it, putting his phone in his pocket. He didn’t want to even think about it, but he was. It was on his mind like cheese was on pizza.

He bit back his emotions and blinked back his tears. He wasn’t going to stand for this but he couldn’t confront anyone now. Not like this.

He was in love with (Y/N). He assumed it was safe to say she didn’t feel the same way.

2015 in a nutshell
  • If you’re reading this it’s too late. It was a long tiiime ago in a galaxy far, far away, and these are their stories.
  • Me: hello... it's me. i'm auditioning for the role of right shark and i'll be singing hotline bling. you’ve heard of rickrolls, now get ready for george glass… with a gun. Young man, I know he ate a cheese / I said, young man, Dan Nicky your JOHN CENA
  • Rihanna: *winks*
  • Glunkus: 👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀👌👀 good shit go౦ԁ sHit👌 thats ✔ some good👌👌shit right👌👌th 👌 ere👌👌👌 right✔there ✔✔if i do ƽaү so my self 💯 i say so 💯 thats what im talking about right there right there (chorus: ʳᶦᵍʰᵗ ᵗʰᵉʳᵉ) mMMMMᎷМ💯 👌👌 👌НO0ОଠOOOOOОଠଠOoooᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒᵒ👌 👌👌 👌 💯 👌 👀 👀 👀 👌👌Good shit
  • Steve Harvey: you’re too hot, hot damn (Taylor Swift™ No copyright infringement intended. Property of TAS LLC management 2012©). you know who else is beautiful? zoobe.
  • Coppy: we are Straight Outta boc (bread of color) so have a sinnamon snoll (snail roll)!
  • Poot: I’m the untoasted bread discourse and i still get sausage
  • Psychic: *reading Putin's mind* wake up chad. listen. those feudal handmaidens are lesbians *closes buzzfeed* #thisgeneration
  • Iggy: *freestyles spongebob gothic*
  • Me: Charlie, Charlie, are you there? [uses hands as microphone] My interests are very singular. *takes a deep breath* I lo-
  • You: yes, you love the signs as concepts, we know, you love them so much, especially *takes a closer look at smudged writing on snout* pal gals, psychic ford rail jaundice, and nyan generous evaluation, the first meme of 2015, they’re the light of your life, we KNOW you’re a kid you’re a squid and Dick Cheney can't melt steel beams. WE GET IT
  • Me: There you are. (raising voice slightly to be heard) oi mate u fancy a cheeky Nando’s?
  • *20 minutes into stealing human bones and chill*
  • Me: What are thoooose?
  • You: white and gold minion shoes *trips* *thousands of photos of Tubbs in a Down with Cis shirt eating coleslaw spill out of your pockets* what haha these aren’t- *desperately trying to gather them as more fall out* I’m holding these for someone else I swear!
  • Me: *shoving breadsticks into purse* I gotta go
  • You: okay… that sounds fake but okay
  • Shakira’s hips: As a lesbian… supporter who respects creative integrity and intellectual property, I am disgusted.
  • Me: Son of a
  • You: You are mean to me you insult me and you dont appreciate anything that i
  • Me: i’m a jaded teenage girl. i’ve been through shit that you wouldn’t even dream of.
  • You: Why you always lyin mmmmmm
  • Me: You said you found a wallet on the ground with like $1,000 dollars in it. I said bitch where? You said under all those rare Pepes. I said bitch where?
  • You: I McFreakin’ lost it!
  • Me: And quit telling everyone I’m dead!
  • You: Buy my silence. Permanently. For $8,000 a month, I will stop.
  • Me: why?
  • You: you gotta. JUST DO IT
  • You: I didn’t get no sleep ‘cause of y’all
  • Me: how many times must you kink shame me under my own roof? hoe don't do it
  • Me: oh my god. “not all men” you're right. Paul Blart: Mall Cop would never do this.
  • You: Tony, what’s good?
  • Me: *spits at you* effective.
  • Power
  • لُلُصّبُلُلصّبُررً ॣ ॣh ॣ ॣ
  • *title card* Captain America: Civil War

Another first in 9 months… open road ride.

I’ll admit, I’ve been chicken shit when it comes to swimming and cycling. I got in the water again Monday night. I did a little bit more than I did Friday night. And then next time, I’ll take it a little bit further.

So last night was the bike… oh, the bike. I’ve spent 9 months getting “stronger” on the trainer. It’s easier to make excuses in the winter on the random nice days people would ride. And I keep a busy schedule during the week and weekends, it’s easy to decline an open road ride now, too. But I knew this day was coming. And it was coming in hot.

@ironmq and I both got tagged on a thread in our local biking club for a social ride happening last night. Not too long after, I get a text from Marie,
“What are you doing tonight?”
I know what that means. I know exactly why she’s asking. And I was scrambling for plans.

But of course, it’s a slowish week and I had nothing. Looks like I was going riding.

Laps at the dam, where it all started. I didn’t love it. But I didn’t hate it. I know I was probably a grump. And to be honest, non bike related, I just wasn’t feeling much yesterday. But it got done. And… it wasn’t awful.

“What’s next?” she asked. No clue. But I guess it’s time to figure that out.

Be good, kids.

anonymous asked:

Can I ask, what's your typing and/or editing process to get a chapter ready for posting on ao3? Like, for paragraph formatting and italics and what-not? Do you type the html tags in the original document as you go? Do you copy and paste the document in ao3 using the 'rich text' feature? I'm just curious, cause I'm a pretty new user over there, and it seems like a lot of work to get a chapter ready to be post-worthy!


Okay, so, I write in Word. Though I hear Google Docs is a very similar process.

And then I copy the chapter, and paste it into the rich text editor on AO3 when I’m ready.

That’s it. That’s all the hard work I do. Zero coding. The only HTML coding I’ll do is in the notes and summary, if I need to add links or images.

When I first started on AO3 I didn’t realise what the rich text editor did, and so I just basically hard coded everything, with my basic knowledge of HTML. It took so long, and I did most of the SAL stories that way.

But now the Rich Text Editor is my best friend of all time, and it preserves everything I do in Word, so I only need to copy/paste when I’m ready.

I also save all my story stuff directly into Dropbox, so it’s there if my computer ever dies.

If Dropbox dies though, I’m screwed, lol.

That being said, I usually have Word formatted so that I only press Enter once to create a paragraph break. This eliminates weird spacing issues in AO3 t hat can happen (though if they do happen, such as extra paragraph breaks, or no paragraph breaks, I go back in and manually edit it so for me it resembles the way an ‘AO3 fic’ should look (clear paragraph breaks, but not double paragraph breaks). 

This formatting is super inconvenient when I’m writing original novels though, which needs totally different formatting, lol. I should really create different templates, but I’m too lazy. So I just format the entire novel at the end.

I pretty much write the chapters the way they’re going to look on AO3, I include the italics and stuff I need while writing, with Word’s shortcuts to get those into the text. Basically it will really help to learn shortcuts like ctrl+i (italics) or ctrl+b (bold) etc. but a word processor will be your friend - Google Docs is free. :)