Y'know considering I’ve only run into “queer is a slur so no one can use it!!! tag for the q-slur!” from anti-ace blogs, I really REALLY suspect it just. comes from the ace discourse
like idt it’s a coincidence. I think aces started calling themselves queer and then anti-aces went “you can’t use that word, it hasn’t been used as a slur against you” and that morphed into “using queer is Bad no matter who uses it it’s not an umbrella term it’s a slur in all contexts lol look at these dumb radikweers”
which, like…regardless of what you think of aces or the LGBT acronym, this is leading to some really nasty denials of history and stigmatizing of personal identities. it’s a lil indicative of a broader discomfort with ambiguity and inclusivity, because “queer” was meant to be inclusive and ambiguous from the moment activists started picking it up in the 80s.
EDIT: Jesus, guys, I didn’t realize I’d have to explicate the entire history of the word “queer” in this post to make it clear that I was talking about this most recent wave of people saying not to use queer. I know that queer was historically used as a slur and in some places is still a slur, I just ALSO know that it went through a long rough process of reclamation in the 80s/90s and has now commonly been used in very positive ways by our irl communities: “queer lit” queer cinema" “queer comix” “queerbaiting” “we’re here we’re queer” “queer studies” “queer history” etc etc etc. I don’t think the ace discourse invented the idea that queer is a slur, I just think this desire to remove “queer” from our collective vocabulary is misguided and harmful.
also, ffs, think before you sling ad hominem attacks at people on the internet. I spent like a year of my life in high school fighting the school board to get a GSA established. I currently do irl community work with my college GSA. I live in a rural area (the closest city only has a pop of like 50,000) and you can bet your ass there’s a lot of real, awful homophobia here. I’m a gnc bisexual who gets misgendered A LOT and who’s had other slurs thrown at her, but I don’t deny people the possibility of using the words that hurt me in their activism because that would be a shitty thing to do.