this shining moment where ron was in fact harry's very best friend

anonymous asked:

After reading that Ron defense post and how much you love him, I'm really curious as to why you like him so much! Have a good day xxxx

Of course! Okay, this is a mess, but off the top of my head:

Ron’s character comprises a lot of classic tropes that I particularly like—the big, stifling family; the humble beginnings; deep love under cover of laughter; the knight of heart who overcomes his fears. From the beginning, he’s colourful: an optimistic, humorous, buoyant kid, all red and gold and blue, flaring up in anger, in laughter, diffusing tensions with wide-eyed simplicity. To me, there’s something so charming in this self-proclaimed underdog, second always to his friends, and yet never hateful; so humble that he is oblivious to the fact that he is a key cog in his world dynamics.

Ron is never put under an admiring light, because Harry tends to rely on him with the spontaneity of a brother, and Hermione doesn’t share her insights with Harry. Because of Harry’s tranquil trust and because of his depiction in the movies, Ron has slowly become, in popular opinion, a simplistic oaf, a prop for crude comedic devices. To me, however, he is the easiest to identify with now—born in the worlds he inhabits, and yet overlooked by those who, he believes, shine brighter—at the Burrow, his twin brothers and his sisters, who bulldoze their way through life when he tends to take his lazy-ass time—in the magic world, Hermione and Harry, both raised by muggles and yet welcomed with open arms by strangers because of their skills. Ron’s skills are rarely put in the spotlight, and you know why? Because despite his tendency to frustration and anger, which are usually targeted towards himself anyway, he is usually quite unassuming, so convinced is he of his lack of self-worth.

Harry is humble, yes, and selfless, but he has a strong sense of his abilities, of his talent, and the luck that life, despite the hardships, has bestowed upon him. Hermione, potentially because of her blood status and lack of beauty in the early years of school, stuffs her cleverness in everybody’s face and has made it her definite trait. They can take pride in something. Ron, from beginning to end, is completely blind to his own abilities, damaging his sense of self in the process. As the series progresses, Ron falls more and more in the shadow of his friends, trying through temporary jolts to rise to the light (his trying out for the Quidditch team, Lavender,…), and falling back when this fails (keeper is still lesser than captain, and the respect he was looking for was Hermione’s, not Lavender’s). The point is: he is still looking for himself, as we all do at 15. He is still looking for a purpose, for a silver lining, when his close friends seem to have already found their purpose in life.

I think we don’t give Ron enough credit, again because Harry’s narration is biased. It’s been said that Ron is jealous, and angry, and susceptible, but time and time again Ron diffuses the tension between buttheads Hermione and Harry, and when he leaves—escaping the shadows I mentioned earlier, deciding to live for himself for a while—, Harry and Hermione’s relationship falls into silence and disinterest, because the link of warmth between them is ultimately Ron. I think he is very socially clever, despite being oblivious at times—he compliments Hermione when she most needs it, mingles his anger with Harry to lighten the burden, and is shown to worry and discuss Harry’s problems with Hermione behind the scenes, although we don’t have access to what is actually shared. He is also attuned to the atmosphere enough to crack a joke at exactly the right moment, unassumingly. I think this feelings-focused approach is also his biggest weakness: impulsive, he usually falls into self-hate and anxiety after his outbursts; attuned to his surroundings in a global rather than detailed way, he feels that he is overlooked, knows that he is under-valued, but does not know how to prove or to address it. Jealous, no—but envious of a life where he would feel more loved, more comfortable with himself, where he would get more admiration, absolutely. The issue comes from there, of course: his being poor, his being clumsy, his being always considered the Potter sidekick, second place, last place, these all erode his sense of self throughout the books. There’s a lack of self-respect in Ron: he always makes himself the butt of the joke, he becomes upset when people point out the flaws he knows and hates. But his need to be validated through others is both deeply immature and deeply relatable: it is a forced step before reaching the understanding that only you can know and respect yourself entirely.

To me, Ron (along with Neville) is the bravest of them all, and really deserves his place in Gryffindor. Contrarily to Hermione (who buckles under pressure often, because she is ultimately in need of control) and Harry, who is defined by his selflessness and is ready for self-sacrifice, Ron is always scared as fuck and yet always fights. He has the most to lose, being from such a big family. Yet he faces his arachnophobia at 12 in order to explore his best friend’s hunch about the spiders. At 11, he had chosen to potentially die in order to allow Harry safe-passing to the Mirror cave. He was born in the magical world: giants, Voldemort, even Sirius Black are not rational enemies to him, but the stuff of nightmares, legends that tamed and terrified him when he was little. How could he approach them with a level-head when he has been raised to fear them? He cannot be as rational as those who discover the existence of human villains when they reach teenagehood. To him, these are monsters. Ron not only has to fight them, he has to unlearn what petrified a whole nation, to challenge his education, the deeply ingrained fears and lore that has been part of his personality-building.

I think that’s what I like best of all: because he is so flawed and realistic from the get-go, he is allowed to undergo the most amazing character development, and to grow up before our eyes. That kid who was dismissive of “know-it-alls” and “weirdos”, raised to be casually racist towards other magical races (goblins, elves and giants), deeply unsure of his own worth, tortured between envy and deep loyalty/love, hateful of his humble station, becomes by the end of book 7 a defender of the school underdogs—standing up for Luna, Hermione and Neville several times throughout the books—; actively attuned to social justice (admiring of Grawp’s efforts, striking friendships with elves and insisting to leave them a choice to fight or to flee); too impulsive and hurt and worried not to leave the hallows quest, but humble and brave enough to come back immediately; showing time and time again pride in his family, and finally finding pride in himself through the last of Harry’s missions. Harry gives him the sword so that he can destroy an Horcrux. By the end of the book, Ron is whole enough, stable enough that he can finally equate his friend and give Hermione the fang so that she can destroy the cup as well.

Ron never sheds his anxiety, his self-consciousness, never loses this impulse of hiding behind humour; his growth is, realistically, not an ideal one. Yet his development is so compelling, and so full of lessons in life and new-found self-awareness. So yeah. That’s why I like him very much!

Birthday Dinner:Harry x Reader

Request: A oneshot with Harry where you’re Sirius blacks daughter please? Except maybe without the whole Jily betrayal so they’re all alive and happy and she and Harry grew up together and maybe it’s over the holidays and the marauders,lily and the weasley family children come together to finally get Harry and her to confess they’re feelings and start dating? Like maybe they use jealousy&other failed plans til something finally works please?

Warnings: none :)

MASTERLIST

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“Dad, will you please relax,” I say as I finish cleaning my room. “There, are you happy?”

“Yes, as a matter of fact I am,” Sirius says.

“I don’t get what the big deal is, it’s just the Potters,” I mumble as I turn to my wardrobe to pick out an outfit for the night. Dad had been getting the house ridiculously prepared for our company, and I swear I have never seen the floors of Grimmauld Place shine like this before. I didn’t even know they were capable of shining at all.

“The big deal is that it’s Christmas,” he says. “And your birthday.”

“My birthday’s always been on Christmas, Dad.”

“Not your seventeenth birthday…” he says with a smirk. My eyes shoot to him.

“You did not,” I warn. “Dad, tell me you did not plan a surprise party for me, or I swear I will kill you.” He just smirks and shrugs. I groan and crash down on my bed.

“Relax, (Y/N), it’s just the Weasley’s and Granger’s,” he says, mocking me.

“Really?” I say, hopefully. He knows how much I hate large gatherings, but when it’s this particular crowd, it never feels too big.

“Really,” he says, and I sigh in relief. “Now, get ready, they’ll be here in an hour.” and he heads downstairs.

I pull on a dark maroon high necked blouse, white skinny jeans, and a pair of black booties, and meticulously style my (y/h/c) hair into a fabulous high ponytail before fixing my makeup. I admire my very properly badass apparel before heading downstairs to help out my Dad in the kitchen.

“Bets on who gets here first?” I ask him.

“Grangers, definitely,” he replies, pulling a carrot soufflé out of the oven; one of my favorites.

“Oh totally,” I say as I hear the doorbell ring. “I’VE GOT IT!”

I run to the door and open it to see, as predicted, Hermione and her parents standing on our front step.

“Oi, watch the hair,” I laugh as she attacks me with a hug. “It’s good to see you,” I say pulling away.

“You too! Happy Birthday! And Merry Christmas!” She says holding out a small stack of gifts.

“Oh thank you! And merry christmas to you, too!” I pull her inside and greet her parents as well. They each take a seat in our living room with my Dad while Hermione and I head up to my room, the walls clad with signed posters of my favorite bands, some moving and some not.

“So,” she says, jumping onto my bed, “who’s your latest target?”

“Who says I’ve got one?” I ask, climbing on after her.

“(Y/N), if I know anything about you it’s that you always have someone in mind,” she responds, taking a sip of her hot chocolate.

“That is not true!” I say, blushing a bit, but honestly, there was one certain person that popped into my head.

“Alright, sure,” she says, dropping the subject, but smirking at me nonetheless. I hear the doorbell ring again and squeal as I race down the stairs to answer it. I am immediately faced with a sea of red hair as I look at the Weasley family in front of me. A rather tall wizard with a ponytail and a leather jacket is the first to sweep me up into a hug.

“Bill! Hi!” I say, now blushing rather furiously. Bill had always been my childhood crush, and the two of us get along famously, despite the age gap.

“How’s it going, (Y/N)?” He says as he reaches to pat the top of my head. I swat his hand away with a “don’t you dare” look in my eyes, and greet the rest of the family.

Ron, Hermione and I start to pull away from the crowd when the doorbell rings again. I feel my heart leap and butterflies in my stomach and I don’t know why, but I don’t squeal and run to the door this time. But Hermione does. She opens the door to reveal my Dad’s best friends, Lily and James, and their son/my best friend. Harry. My eyes lock onto his emerald green ones and a huge grin breaks across both of our faces. He runs to me and picks me up and spins me around, yelling, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!” and I’m giggling profusely. Finally he sets me down and I get a good look at him.

“You–you’re wearing a suit. Why are you wearing a suit? You never wear suits,” I say, rambling a bit.

“Eh. I felt like dressing up a bit,” he says. “You look amazing.”

“No need to sound so surprised, Potter,” I say elbowing him in the ribs. Out of the corner of my eye I see my father and James laughing at us from the corner of the room.

Ron, Hermione, Harry and I rejoin the rest of our families in the kitchen as we sit down for dinner, the four of us rounding the end of the table closest to the door.

“(Y/N), I heard you and Seamus broke up,” Ginny says from a few seats down, making me blush yet again.

“Er–yeah a couple months ago, actually,” I respond, taking a bite of the carrot soufflé.

“Are you dating anyone now?” she asks me.

“Ginny,” Ron snaps lightly from across the table. The unspoken words in that were “Shut. Up.”

“It’s alright,” I say smiling at him. “No, I’m not at the moment.” I resist the urge to look over at the dark and messy haired wizard sitting next to me.

“I heard from Parvati that Cormac McLaggen fancies you,” she says. I feel both Harry and Ron tense up next to me, knowing full well how much they dislike said wizard.

“Cormac’s a sleaze,” I rebuke, and Ron relaxes a bit, but I don’t feel the shift in tension from Harry’s side.

“I’m–Um–excuse me for a moment,” Harry says, scraping his chair back and getting up from the table. The table goes practically silent and all eyes are down at my end.

“I–er–I’ll be right back,” I say, following him from the room.

I follow the sound of his footsteps to the room with my family tree painted on the wall and find Harry pacing back and forth.

“Hey, are you alright?” I ask, knowing fully well he was not alright. This is not what alright looked like on him.

“Yeah, sorry, I’m fine,” he says, forcing a smile.

“Don’t you dare lie to me, Harry Potter,” I say stepping nearer to him and grabbing his hand. “You’re my best friend, you can talk to me.”

He lets out a deep sigh and looks back up into my eyes, shifting nervously. “I–er–bloody hell,” he begins running his other hand through his hair, making it even more messy than before, “I fancy you, (Y/N).”

At his words, I feel my stomach lurch as the butterflies go crazy and a smile spreads on my lips. “You do?”

“Yeah, I do,” he says, now smiling a bit, too. “A lot.”

“Whoa,” I respond. “I–er,” and I laugh a bit. “I do, too. Fancy you, I mean.”

He looks at me with disbelief and a little shock. “You do?”

And now I giggle a bit. “Yeah.”

And suddenly I’m in his arms being twirled in the air again. He sets me down and brings a hand to the back of my neck and pulls me in as he connects our lips in a gentle but passionate kiss, and I completely melt into it. He wraps his other arm around my waist, holding me even tighter to him. After a couple minutes of just the best snogging session I’ve ever had in my life, and cut way too short, I pull away, remembering we’re supposed to be at my birthday/christmas dinner.

“We should probably go back in,” I say.

“Just a minute,” he says, pulling me close again. “D’you wanna be my girlfriend?”

I smile even broader, “Of course.”

He links his fingers with mine and we re-enter the kitchen, and I notice three things happen:
Ginny gasps.
Hermione holds a hand out to Ron and says “Pay up.”
And I see Harry’s and my Dad fist bump.

Ron Weasley: ENFP [Harry Potter Series by J.K. Rowling]

ENFP Follower Favorite Winner 2016.

Dominant Function, Extroverted Intuition, Ne: Extroverted Intuition in its basic form takes in as few details as possible and gets the ‘gist’ of the situation. Luckily, ENPs are right most the time, but can run into real trouble when they are not. We see this a lot with Ron when it comes to his studies. Ron gets bored with his studies once he understands the basic ideas behind what he is doing, the actual implementation of writing a paper or finishing a project are boring to him as his Ne deals with ideas and potentials. Once he gets the gist of the assignment, Ron feels done and has a hard time completing his work and actualizing his ideas. 

Contrast this style with Hermione (ESTJ). Hermione needs to go step-by-step (Te) through every reading and assignment and gather every minute fact and detail (Si). With dominant Ne, Ron has little time to go through concrete data and details, especially in order. Such methods hold little interest for him. For Ron his Ne makes him focused on the bigger picture and potentials, so dealing with actual implementation bores him and feels like a lot of work. For many ENPs once the idea is had, it feels completed, so following through becomes a major issue as the ENP, like Ron, feels they already did it. It is why many ENPs delegate tasks that deal with those details to others when they can. Ron most certainly does this by copying off of Hermione and making her do what he sees as the ‘grunt-work.’

Extroverted Intuition can seem veryb  bleek looked at only through his study habits. However, his Ne is what makes him such a great chess player. His Ne floods with all the potential moves of his opponent and he reacts accordingly. Chess is all a game of potentials and trying to figuring out your next move. It is a future oriented game, at least that is Ron’s style. This shines in The Philosopher’s Stone. He may not be physical or in the present moment (Se) like Harry (ISFP) who gets the key task, and he may not have the best memory for details (Si) and mind for dealing with rational principles (Te), like Hermione who gets the potions task, but he has a mind for potentials (Ne) and winging it (perceiver) making him a great strategist and the best for the chess task.

Many mistype Ron’s Ne for Se. As extroverted perceiving functions they seem very similar on the surface. While Se deals with the now and facts, Ne deals with the future, potentials, and ideas. Ron has a very difficult time living in the now. One way we see this difference is that a dominant Se moves from activity to activity for very clear reasons. The excitement is gone, the thrill of the experience has dissipated and they move on to the next new exciting adventure. Ron as an Ne users moves on for less clear reasons. Because he is so much in his own head, thinking of the future, he will lose interest in an activity before it is ever actualized. Ron often shares his dreams and ideas for the future with Harry, but we see very little of these things actually happen. However, his Ne enthusiasm for the future and possibilities is the energy that Harry loves about Ron. 

He often imagines many futures for himself without having very much information on the present. This is what creates a worrying Ron. He often doesn’t do things because in his head he has tried and failed. Despite Harry and Hermione pointing out that those futures aren’t inevitable, Ron often puts more faith in his conjured realities of the future than in what is happening around him. He already sees himself failing at getting Hermione to date him, he already sees himself losing the quidditch match, and he sees himself failing his classes, etc. His mind is in the future of what could happen (Ne) that he doesn’t bother with the possibilities of the present (Se). He doesn’t feel in control of his own fate, which is a result of a lack of self reflection, of not using enough of his auxiliary function.

Auxiliary Function, Introverted Feeling, Fi: Ron’s Fi gives him a people focus. Combined with his Ne that looks at potentials, this makes Ron interested in the potentials and dreams of others. He sees the Hero in Harry that Harry doesn’t and he sees the amazingly brilliant witch in Hermione. He sees so much in his friends. He wants to help them realize their own potentials. However, because he doesn’t use this function enough to self reflect, he doesn’t have the same positive view of himself. His Fi being used minimally leads him to want and think he needs positive feedback from others for support. He becomes super concerned with how others perceive him and what they think about him. When Harry gets all the glory and feedback in The Goblet of Fire we see his envy bubble to the surface. 

We see Ron wield Fi in the way he makes judgments. He puts a lot of importance and meaning into his own personal experiences. This can actually work against him, making him closed minded. He doesn’t put as much value in the personal experiences of others. It is what makes him so judgey of someone like Luna Lovegood who sees the world in such a different way. Based on his own experiences are how he judges future, new events, and people. Fi can be used to also see the importance of the personal experiences of others, however, when Ron isn’t self reflective it can make him very closed minded to the views and experiences of others. He judges with his own personal experience of Fi and uses his Te to shut down the perspectives of others.

Fi also gives Ron a sense of personal responsibility. When skipped over to Te the effect is quite different (and will be explored in the tertiary function section). Ron needs to realize that his fate is not in the hands of those around him, that he is personally responsible for his own happiness. This becomes most evident in The Deathly Hallows. Ron under the spell of the horcrux necklace was thrown into his worst Ne-Te loop and blamed others around him for all of his life problems and what was happening to his family. Once it was removed and he was on his own to self reflect, he takes personal responsibility for his life, his choices, and his happiness. Therefore, is brought back to the group to help them take down Voldemort.

Tertiary Function, Extroverted Thinking, Te: Extroverted Thinking is a hierarchical and rational function. In an ENFP it shows itself by having the ENFP set logical priorities for themselves, but more importantly to see the logic of the priorities of others and respect the priorities of others. This is actually very explicit in Ron at a very young age, where in The Philosopher’s Stone we have a very popular line, “She really needs to sort out her priorities.” He points out that Hermione caring more about being expelled than dying is in fact rather illogical. This is how Ron has his more rational moments. 

However, his Te becomes much more prominent in his unhealthy behavior caused by his lack of using Fi and compensating with Te. He often uses Te as a defense when he feels people are judging his Ne behaviors. Hermione triggers this a lot in her judgement of his looser/casual Ne habits. Without his Fi reflection, Ron doesn’t take personal responsibility and seems very irresponsible to an ESTJ like Hermione. Without enough proper use of Fi, Ron starts to surf through life. Hermione is trying her best to help him out of this, but Ron without his Fi become extremely sensitive to outside criticisms. He sees her comments as negative and trying to control him. 

He takes her comments very personally. His Te blames her and others outside of himself for problems he has with himself and his own happiness. His Te moves his eyes away from himself and becomes extremely critical of others. Hermione immediately triggered this from their first meeting on the train. Ron puts too much stock in the opinions of others, so her snarky comments highly offended him. (His stock in the opinion’s of others  is also why we see Ron look the most angry whenever they deal with Draco). He then is quite harsh to Hermione, becoming critical of her and her choices. The more uncertain Ron is about himself and his own values the more critical he becomes of others. 

This is super strong in his jealousy of Harry. Ron wants to be “The Champion,” but as Harry gets more and more attention and approval from others, Ron grows angry and uncertain. Especially, when his own family dotes on Harry more than they dote on him. Ron deals with this specific dilemma most in The Goblet of Fire in his fight with Harry. Ron appears very selfish because his Te convinces him that people should care about his personal priorities. The problem with this Ne-Te combo is he is investing too much of his personal identity, his sense of self, in the opinions of others. He is relying on Harry and Hermione to give him confidence and to form his identity. He is constantly comparing himself to them and how he is or isn’t like them. If he were to really utilize his Fi, really self reflect he would find himself outside the perspective of others, which brings us to his Si.

Inferior Function, Introverted Sensing, Si: Introverted Sensing as an inferior function pushes Ron to stabilize his life in some unconditional way. For Ron, with his Fi people focus, he is looking for people that will love him unconditionally, who he can always rely on. He wants people to be there for him no matter what happens. The more Hermione and Harry seem to criticize him, the more insecure he gets as he has placed them in this unhealthy position of needing to always positively support him. The more he feels they are criticizing him the more he suspects that they completely disapprove of him and are disappointed with him.

This inferior Si impulse of finding someone to stabilize him comes out most in his dating of Lavender Brown in The Half-Blood Prince. He clearly likes and wants Hermione, but Hermione questions his Ne way of life and drives him up a wall (which is kind of what he needs). The more he thinks she is pushing him away, the more Ron acts out with Ne-Te and pushes her even further away. Lavender Brown is a very clingy girlfriend who thinks the world of Ron. She feeds into his unhealthy need to have constant support. As Ron grows though, he realizes that this kind of support is artificial for him. He is still insecure, but he breaks up with Lavender.

By the time Ron gets back to helping the gang in The Deathly Hallows and has reflected by himself, we get a very different Ron who returns. He takes responsibility for his actions and does the final act of destroying the horcux that brought out his worst Ne-Te looping self. From a functional perspective, he is symbolically self actualizing his Fi. His Fi then helps him see from Hermione’s and Harry’s personal experiences and point of view without brushing them aside as much as he used to. 

The necklace showing his darkest suspicions brought all of his suppressed Fi thoughts to the surface and helped him deal in the realities of the present. It showed how absurd his Ne thoughts were becoming when he didn’t reflect on them or himself. With this new found confidence, Ron doesn’t rely as much on the opinions of others to define himself. He is then ready to be with Hermione, and in her and his friendship with Harry he really does find a healthy form of unconditional love.

Harry Potter and the Cursed Child Fic: School Stories

2.5k words, G rated.

Albus asks Draco to tell him about what Harry got up to at school, and Draco is only too happy to oblige. 

This was written as a birthday fic for my wonderful beta and amazing friend @bounding-heart. (Sorry it was so late!)

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