So there is rumors that ian is getting a "rip Monica" tattoo and shit next season. Do you think that the writers are going to go back to the fact that ian is Monica's kid and not Franks for how he reacts to the only biological parent he knew dying as part of the season or just the general *bonded by bipolar* relationship they've written for the past few season for Ian and Mon as the jumping off piont for s8?
Well, it’s more than just his only biological parent and bonded by bipolar, I think. As much as I don’t like to admit it because of how toxic she is, and I think even Ian doesn’t like to admit it most times, he REALLY loves his mother. She showed him the gay club scene and wasn’t just okay with his sexuality but embracing of it. They kept in contact off screen and he did that despite knowing how everyone else would feel. It was hinted that she knew about Mickey from what he told her of him, and that she supported that relationship even when no one else did. She “helped” him when he was manic and they lived together after he went AWOL. He turned to her when Mickey joined the popular opinion of the Gallaghers in wanting him medicated and probably felt ignored/betrayed because he really hates the meds. And though I think he probably would see it now, at the time he couldn’t see that Mickey and his family just wanted what was best for him. Monica, however, was the only person he could see as being in his corner because she understood how bad the meds make you feel when they just start working and she advocates for a free life, which I’m sure sounded great to him at the time. Luckily I think that time with her showed why he should take his meds or at least why he needs stability because the life he saw with her was not easy and scary at times. I also wondered in season 7 with how angry at her he seemed if he resents her for putting it in his head to break up with Mickey… It’s a stretch, but I have honestly wondered if he’s resented that he listened to her advice when she talked about how hard it is for loved ones to see you struggle and everything else she said, because as soon as he got home he broke up with the love of his life and if 7x09-7x11 is anything to go by, I’d say he regretted it a lot. But in the end, just like we all get angry at our parents, Ian still loves her and still recognizes that he’s going to miss her. I don’t think he took to heart all of the stuff everyone else has (and I’m not saying he’s better or worse than the other Gallaghers, he just has a different relationship with her).
So basically, his relationship with Monica is complicated, but I think that in a family where he is often ignored or forgotten, she made him feel cared about by at least one parental figure–even when she wasn’t around. My short answer, Anon, is I think Ian had a really well developed relationship with his mother that we only get hints of, and while he recognizes that the relationship isn’t super healthy because Monica herself was unhealthy, I think Ian really loved her and is going to grieve her as any child who loved their parent would.
I don’t know a thing about the tattoo but I’m sure it’s going to be beautiful or nice at the very least.
Thanks for the ask, Anon! <3