this one looks domestic so i love~

zuhbreen asked:

Hiiii! I read a fic a while ago about Larry. Harry's really domestic and enjoys pampering Louis and what not. But one day Louis' mum tells him to be responsible and help with the chores so Louis starts helping but Harry doesn't like that. It basically leads to lots of smut. I've tried looking for it, but I can't find it. It'll be ace if u can find it for me. Thank you❤️

Hii, love, I’m pretty sure it’s Make Tea, Not War. :)

anonymous asked:

Pls talk to me about psau octaven!! Are they legit together or friends? Did they know each other before being roomies? If they did, how long? What are their most obvious qualities? Who's the one that leans more towards domesticity and who's like "fuck me in the public bathroom"? Who says I love you first? Who's the big spoon? Who reaches for the other's hand first? Who drives on road trips? Who always pays for dates? Who drags the other to look at the stars with them? Who kisses the other first?

are they legit together or friends?

just friends but they’re in love.

did they know each other before being roomies? if they did, how long?

yeah, they met octavia’s freshman year. raven had taken a year off to recover from her accident so she got the short end of the housing stick and ended up back in a freshman dorm so that’s not too fun for her. so they knew each other abt a year before moving in together.

what are their most obvious qualities?

raven’s fierce protectiveness i think is the thing that’s most obvious about her. she’s very protective of clarke, she’s very protective of octavia.

octavia’s is her free-spirted ness. her willingness to try new things and to go with the flow of life.

who’s the one that leans more towards domesticity and who’s like “fuck me in the public bathroom”?

octavia is a Domestic Goddess in this fic honestly she’s the reason their apartment remains livable.

and 100% raven is like ‘fuck me in the bathroom nobody will notice if we disappear’ and octavia is bright red but like…..fine…..

who says I love you first?

honestly i think octavia says i love you first because she can’t bury and internalize the same way that raven can. once octavia realizes that what she feels for raven is actual, real love, she can’t keep it to herself.

who’s the big spoon?

i think they alternate bc there are some nights when raven really just needs to be held like she’s getting phantom pain in her leg and she feels helpless and like things aren’t going to start getting better, ever, and she needs it. i think this happens more often.

but sometimes octavia needs to be held. when clarke finally tells them what happens, that night, octavia breaks down because how could she not see it? how didn’t she know? and maybe if they’d stayed in touch, she could have done something. and god, she’d been cycling through dudes in this apartment like it was no big deal and how could she not see that that was destroying clarke? so octavia feels a lot of guilt about the way she’d been acting and she just needs raven to hold her.

who reaches for the other’s hand first?

raven hands down (heh). she’s the person who wants to be touching octavia whenever possible. little touches maybe. just thighs connected or pinkies intertwined or holding hands. just anything to keep her close. (cause raven’s got this pattern of losing things that matter to her and if she keeps octavia close, then maybe this time, she’ll be able to keep the person who means the world).

who drives on road trips?

both, though usually octavia likes to have control of aux.

who always pays for dates?

they actually argue over this like they both want to pay for each other but neither of them is willing to let it happen like on their first actual date, they’re at dinner and they’re bickering about the check in front of the waiter who is just standing there so confused. poor dude. octavia is slightly more stubborn than raven so she wins most of the time.

who drags the other to look at the stars with them?

octavia and tbh, raven spends more time looking at octavia than at the stars.

who kisses the other first?

raven. after octavia’s ‘i love you’, she just kisses her.

Jacked up on your own hype!

I am 44, male and in pretty good shape, and I love looking good. 

The danger is that this makes me vulnerable to my own hype and self obsession, potentially training myself into a mid life crisis!!

The point is life is about balance and so in my humble opinion is your gym. Eat well, map out your carbs, proteins, fats and water intakes. Train with intensity and discipline but also live with the same mentality!  Have fun and treat your loved ones and peers and responsibilities both domestically and at work with the same diligence, care and consideration as you do your gym life.

The danger is, if you do not, you just become that  guy who is jacked up on his own ego, and yet when you scratch away at the surface you are faced with a shallow former self.

So when you look in the mirror make sure you are brave enough to see the whole you and not just your physical state.. 

corruptmedicine asked:

PLS GIVE ME THE DOMESTIC SHIP THING FOR SEB AND RORY... IT'S IMPORTANT

  • Who’s more dominant: looks pointedly at rory
  • Who’s the cuddler: sebastian i need to lay down 
  • Who’s the big spoon/little spoon: seb/rory respectively 
  • What’s their favorite non-sexual activity:
  • Who uses all the hot water: rory and it drives seb crazy
  • Most trivial thing they fight over: i dont know if you’d call this trivial but a lot of their fights are somehow about the fact that theyre both emotionally terrible as well as the whole jealousy thing. 
  • Who does most of the cleaning: they’re both pretty neat so they don’t need to clean a lot because things just stay neat, but when they do need to clean both of them do.
  • What has a season pass on their dvr/Who controls the netflix queue: they have netflix and they each have their own profile, they both use it a fair amount actually. they’re both busy so they don’t watch a ton but if one is busy the other one takes over and vice versa.
  • Who calls up the super/landlord when the heat’s not working: seb!
  • Who leaves their stuff around: neither of them too much? like i said, neither of them are super messy.
  • Who remembers to buy the milk: seb because rory literally eats takeout and goldfish 24/7. he’ll usually text her about it and she’ll grab it on the way home.
  • Who remembers anniversaries: seb rory sucks about that stuff, she remembers his birthday? and its on her calendar! she just doesn’t remember on her own
  • Who cooks normally: seb! rory can cook and sometimes she’ll help but generally her diet is just shit.
  • How often do they fight: often about really small stuff that are more like little spats that end in an hour, not as often about bigger stuff. 
  • What do they do when they’re away from each other: rory and seb are not a codependent couple and i lowkey really like that like they’re awesome? as a team but seb has his own job and… hobbies that he does perfectly well on his own, rory is a super busy person as well and she has her job and they both just?? have their own stuff going on. they both have other friends they hang out with as well and all that, so yeah! they send each other a few messages throughout the day and stuff but they don’t need to be around each other 24/7.
  • Nicknames for each other: seb / rora, rory. ror does the babe/sweetheart/honey thing a lot rip.
  • Who is more likely to pay for dinner: they alternate. 
  • Who steals the covers at night: AURORA i went through their whole sleep routine in the other one
  • Who kissed who first: seb @ rory winks
  • Who made the first move: well. seb lmao?
  • Who remembers things: it depends on the thing. rora remembers birthdays, important things like that, seb makes rory do things like eat like someone thats not 7 years old and take vitamins and stuff like that.
  • Who started the relationship: it was rory but it wasnt a super outward thing they didnt really talk about it someone just asked rory if she was dating anyone and she was like yeah points @ seb and that was that
  • Who cusses more: rory lmao
  • What would they do if the other one was hurt: it depends on how they’re hurt. if they stubbed their toe it’d just be a u ok, broke an arm theyd make sure the other didnt get themselves into a bad situation in the meantime and make them take their meds and stuff, if it was something worse they’d stress and they’d be so fucking annoying but they’d both be like cats. never leaving the other persons side but acting like it’s a complete coincidence that they literally havent left the other alone for the last like 3 days. dumb.
  • A head canon: there are many! 1) i always have a thing about them being jealous easily but also lowkey committed like they get annoyed by them flirting with other people but they also wouldn’t cheat on each other and if someone legitimately approached them like ur bf/gf is cheating they’d be like??? no lmao go away. 2) eventually, when they’re really gross and domestic they get a dog. 3) they’re pretty casual like they’re not? big romantic gestures but they buy stuff the other one likes for their house and kiss when they leave rooms and bring each other lunch. 4) they’re both bilingual and assholes, sometimes they speak to each other in a different language about other people. 5) seb gains like a million followers when he and rory start dating because she’s active on social media and given her family and stuff she’s got a lot of followers and its the funniest thing in the world because people keep trying to follow him and he wants it 2 stop. he’s on her social media accounts a lot! 6) they call each other their actual names when they’re pissed with each other like an old married couple and it sounds funny because their names are both proper and sometimes people they work with catch on so whenever they hear one of them talking into the phone like aurora/sebastian they know to steer clear because they’re both annoyed when they’re fighting.
All that matters...

“Now there are varieties of gifts, but the same Spirit.”~1 Corinthians 12:4 

There is a meme that has been floating around the internet streets for a couple years, so old in fact I think I had it on one of my first vision boards. It’s of a domesticated cat looking in a mirror and seeing themselves as a lion. As cute and motivational as that is supposed to be, it’s completely unrealistic, unfair, and not motivational at all. My dad likes to make this analogy when teaching health seminars “Danny Devito will have a body type like Michael Jordan and Michael Jordan will never have a body type like Danny Devito.” Meaning if you’re a 6′5 black man, trying to shrink yourself into a 4′11 white man will not work no matter how you see yourself. Self realization and embracing exactly who you are, how you are is the greatest thing you can do. So many of us waste years trying to be someone/something we are not. Dear cat, you will never be a lion no matter how you see yourself. 

“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.”~James 3:16

For the longest time I struggled with jealousy, insecurity, and low self-esteem. I believed that I wasn’t enough and I envied other people, namely my younger sister because I believed she was everything I wasn’t. She was friendly, outgoing, thin with a great body, the men seemed to like her, and people were always comparing us with her, more often than not, having the upper hand. This affected our relationship and caused us to fight-a lot. It was only until recently that I began to realize I was enough and that I would never be my sister because I am enough. God didn’t make two of us for a reason. God made a me and a her because the world needs both of us and it would be a disservice to myself to not live in the full glory of who/what God made me. How many of us have wasted years trying to be something/someone we’re not? Tryi5-8ng to emulate someone/something? Mimicking the voice and actions of another? Trying to be anything but ourselves. You’re in another lane and you’re going to crash. Think about merging lanes. Only one car can ride safely in that space in that lane or there will be an accident. Stop trying to drive in a lane that isn’t yours. 

“So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another. 6 Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, let us prophesy in proportion to our faith; or ministry, let us use it in our ministering; he who teaches, in teaching; he who exhorts, in exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness.”~Romans 12:5-8

The more I think about that cat in the picture, the more I feel sorry for it. That cat has probably wasted many years of its life trying to be a lion and none trying to be a cat. You are already graced with a gift that fits you like a glove. A gift that God created just for you. Your purpose is uniquely yours and your gifts are uniquely yours and your path is God ordained but God cannot bless who you pretend to be. So the longer you pretend to be something you are not, the longer you keep yourself from your purpose. 

“It’s who you are and the way you live that count before God. Your worship must engage your spirit in the pursuit of truth. That’s the kind of people the Father is out looking for: those who are simply and honestly themselves before him in their worship. God is sheer being itself—Spirit. Those who worship him must do it out of their very being, their spirits, their true selves, in adoration.”~John 4:23-24 (MSG)