this man is honestly such a big inspiration to me

JL // Snapchat: Mars Lab // 3/14/17

Please dearleto do not tell me *this* is what Jared is listening to for Mars Is Coming inspiration. Boy, you are a 45 year old man and I know you love yourself a popstar or three and Zedd is your homeboy* - but nope.

*tho honestly, he couldn’t invite you to do his big Welcome concert he organized and is hosting next month, which would’ve been a fab opportunity for you and Mars, especially considering you have a tour starting up then like a couple weeks later and it would be a helluva nice way to kick things off and stir up interest cause shit isn’t sold out - but what do I know**?

**nothing, I know nothing

Since it’s Pride month, and I’ve seen a few tear-jerkingly inspirational coming out posts on my dash, allow me to introduce myself through a coming out post of my own - Phoebe, the raging pansexual.

I know for a fact that people like me are often looked over in the LGBTQIA+ community, either because pansexuality is not entirely easy to understand, or (and this really gets my goat) because people assume that whoever you’re with at the time dictates your sexuality.

It doesn’t. Not one bit.

I’m with a straight man, and honestly, I’ll always be with the big dope. I am engaged to a straight man, to the only person I have ever been in a relationship with, the only person I’ve ever had sex with. 

Does that make me straight? 

No. No it does not. Not at all.

I am still pansexual, even if I’m never with anyone of any other gender or sexuality. I am still pansexual, even if I’m married to this knob for the rest of my life. I am still pansexual because my attraction to people is regardless of biological gender, gender identity, or sexuality. Literally everyone is hot. All ya’ll slay me.

Does that make me greedy?

Does finding more than one person attractive make straight people greedy? Or gay people? No.

Does that mean I’m more likely to be unfaithful to my husband?


I know there are a lot of you who can’t make posts like this on any website for a variety of reasons, and I am very fortunate to have come to the conclusion as early as I did that my sexuality is not some big plot twist, or red flag I have to wave, or something I have to warn other people about when we start to get close.

My name is Phoebe. I’m a fanfic writer and I’m pansexual. I’m an international politics student with a specialisation in gender politics and I’m pansexual. I’m a medieval reenactor, I play video games, I’m writing my own novel, I run my own small business, I’ve never missed a year of Eurovision since I was born - even if I was only a small potato propped up on the sofa cushions with mum - I’m getting married and graduating and travelling to New York to visit my best friend and I’m pansexual.

See? For me it isn’t something that needs to be hidden away, or something that needs to be shouted, it’s part of who I am, in amongst a medley of other things that make me me. 

And I know I’ve been blessed with a family who accept that, even if I casually have to remind them every now and again. Their confusion is an opportunity for me to educate them, and I’ve been very lucky that they’ve been so receptive to that education. 

So for those of you who don’t feel safe enough to come out, or for those of who who don’t feel confident enough yet, or for those of you who know they absolutely can’t, I’ll say this - 

Being queer might be a huge part of who you are, but it isn’t all you are, and it certainly shouldn’t determine your worth in your own eyes. You are everything else that makes you you, and you just happen to have a little extra something special thrown in there too.

- Phoebe x

The Rock helps inspire Pittsburgh man battling cancer
[November 10th, 2015]

Honestly, just when you think you couldn’t be more amazed by The Rock, he posts this story on Instagram:

Yesterday a buddy of mine @shawnperine sent me a story to read about an amazing man named #MattKlutka. Matt has terminal cancer and told he only has a few weeks left. He told me Matt was a big fan of mine and a phone call would mean the world to him. I emailed my bud back with simply, “Are you kidding me? I’ll call him in 15 minutes!” As it turned out it was a call I’ll never forget for the rest of my life.

Matt couldn’t have been more upbeat and positive. We talked about our favorite movies, our passion for hard core workouts (he still trains hard and pushes himself DAILY), told a dirty joke or two and talked about our pride of being fathers (he has an 11yr old son Cebran and says “I couldn’t ask for a better kid!”). As we wrapped up the call I told him how proud I was of him and how much just hearing his voice has inspired me. He thanked me from the bottom of his heart and said with vigor and determination, “I just gotta keep pushing”. I hung up the phone a grateful man and knew how blessed I was to hear his voice.

Thank you Matt for the inspiration and reminding all of us that time is indeed our greatest currency. To use it as best we can, to have as much fun as we can and to love as strongly as we can, because we never know when our time will be up.

Stay strong brother. And keep pushing. DJ
MattKlutka #CebranKlutka #KeepPushing

The Rock: Real-life awesome dude. Hundred percent icon.