Hi Mister (love ur blog) I'm a little. I've known since last year. I have been trying to learn as much as I can about dd/lg. The daddy I have isn't workin with me. I asked him after a few months of us talkin. I wanted him to learn how to be a proper daddy. I have to give hints I want his attention or affection more & more lately. When I came out to tell him, it's like he's ignoring my questions. I don't even do a quarter of the things I see other littles & daddies do. What should I do?
It can be difficult sometimes when we are blindly following our heart instead of our mind.
A person can have a lot of great qualities, they can be attractive… make us feel good… have a great personality. But that doesnt mean they are cut out to love us.
Ask yourself… why am I really wanting to be with this person?
Is it because they are or can fulfill my needs?
Is it because they make me feel good about myself?
Is it because they are attractive and send great pictures of themselves to me?
One of the absolute first things I always used to do with a new sub/little when I had them standing in position in front of me the first time was simply ask… “Why?”
Why are you here… right now.. in this moment? Why have you chosen to submit to me? Why have you decided I deserve this great honor and gift of your submission? and have you even asked yourself… why?
A sub once told me that one of my best qualities wasnt in how hard I could spank, or the looks I gave, or even my voice… it was that I was constantly making her think.
A daddy should be growing you… bringing you into a better place each day. Focusing on your needs and wants.. giving them the attention they deserve.. and building you up.
Ask yourself…. Why? Why do I want this person? Why them? and if the answers you give yourself back dont begin with positive growth within your mind, emotions, mental state and overall well being first…. then you need to consider moving on.
All too often we get lost in the focus of the aesthetic.. of being lonely… of being desperate… of just wanting someone there… of compromising our own limits, needs, wants, etc just feel any kind of love we can get our hands on… and ultimately that leaves us worse than we were before.
Its okay to be alone.
Its okay to wait.
Its okay to have goals and standards and morals and wants and needs and desires that are selfish to you…. because its certainly ok for you to stand your ground to get what you actually deserve and not settle for less.
A real man.. a real daddy… hes going to fill all of those things for you without frustration, laziness, or apathy.
you want him so badly to be something hes not becoming… and nothing but himself is going to change that. will you still be happy with this a month from now?