this is why i hate group messages

Impressed // Sirius x Reader

Words // 1542

Warnings // None

Request // Can I make a request please? Can you write a Sirius x reader where he really likes the reader and he tries to talk to her but her friend hates him so he joins her favourite subject and he tries to read it before so when the professor asks he’ll answer and impress her? Oh and can you make the subject potion? 

A/N // This might read a little weird but the idea is that it’s written from Sirius’s point of view. Also Y/F/N = your friend’s name

Originally posted by dearremuslupin

“Who’s that?’’ Sirius asked as he curiously kept his eyes focused on a girl. James looked in the same direction and shrugged, he thought he knew but he wasn’t that sure, she might’ve been with Lily once or twice.

“That’s Y/N L/N, why’d you ask?’’ Peter responded, he had been with Y/N a few times before, mostly because they met by accident or he wanted to ask Y/N something about certain subjects which weren’t his strength.

“Just.. Curious.’’ Sirius said before getting up.

-8-

“Oh shut up I don’t do that.’’ Y/F/N responded and you laughed, you knew she definitely did that, everyone who knew her knew but she still didn’t admit it which made you laugh every single time, you didn’t know why but honestly it was just so funny to see someone ignore something she so clearly did like she was almost completely oblivious to it

“Of course you don’t.’’ You responded before taking another bite from your breakfast. Everyone continued talking up until one point where everyone just dropped silent, you looked up from your breakfast and saw Y/F/N suddenly standing up, looking very defensive.

“What do you want Black.’’ She spat like it was venom. You noticed it was Sirius Black who stood before you and your friend group. You had never really talked to him as you didn’t think it was necessary nor did you ever really have the opportunity. Still, you knew your best friend absolutely hated him although you weren’t completely sure why, you knew he had a bad reputation for dating a lot of people but you had known worse.

“Calm down Y/F/N, I just want to talk.’’ He said as he put up his hands, she pushed him back in response. This caught everyone by surprise but it also sent a very clear message she didn’t like him and because of this he just decided to leave and go back to his group of friends. You looked in surprise at her, she had gotten angry and definitely punched a few people before but she never seemed to be as passionate as this when it came to hating someone.

“Wow, never seen you this angry.’’ You said with a small chuckle in surprise, she shrugged and decided to go back to eating. After a few second everyone was back to chatting like normal again but you noticed she seemed obviously far more tense than she was before and you put a hand on her shoulder, she looked up at you with curiosity.

“What’ve you got against Black?’’ You asked curiously, she snorted in response.

“He’s a grade A arsehole if you didn’t know, that’s most of it honestly. I just hate him, good enough reason?’’ She asked, you huffed. “Not really but it seems like you don’t want to say a word more.’’ She nodded in response; she hated spending more time talking about him and really didn’t want to.

-8-

“Thanks, here’s what you asked for.’’ Sirius passed him both the sweets and the pranking supplies, the guy just smiled before walking away. Against the rationality of his friends he decided to make a deal with someone who could get the schedule of that girl. He knew her name by now, Y/N. Somehow he had convinced himself it was good to get her schedule so he could maybe switch some classes, as long as he was alright at them so it didn’t completely sacrifice his grades.

“Have you really gone through with that?’’ Remus asked as the three other boys approached, Sirius sheepishly grinned and nodded in response. He felt rather shamelessly about it, of course it went a bit too far but he had no choice because Y/F/N was really intent on hating him even though he never really did anything wrong to her, not anything personally.

“Don’t look at me like that, you saw her friend she would’ve killed me in a second.’’ Sirius responded as he immediately noticed how much Potions she had in her schedule and assumed that was her favourite subject, he could ask but it seemed rather obvious as she also had some classes with higher levels so he imagined she enjoyed the class she was best at.

“Still, couldn’t you’ve just asked her personally?’’ Peter continued.

“I could’ve if I knew her classes and now I do.’’ Sirius said, he was getting annoyed because to him it didn’t seem like the best thing to do but it seemed like the only logical thing to do because there was no other option, he couldn’t hopelessly look around every class and hope that she was in a class alone and the chances of that were almost minimal.

“You better get that girl because if she finds out about all the stupid things you’ve doen she’ll never want you.’’ Sirius smirked. “I’ve got enough charm, couldn’t say the same thing for you. At least I’ve been had success. You’re still going after Evans.’’ James gave him a glare but a few seconds later they were laughing again.

-8-

Sirius arrived surprisingly early but that was his plan so he was quite relieved, he knew Y/F/N arrived a lot later so he decided to just go earlier instead of hoping that she didn’t have Potions this period which also was a realistic option, either way he arrived early, just around the time Y/N was arriving.

“Hi. Mind if we sit next to each other? I’ve just switched classes.’’ He said smoothly, luckily it was still early into the year so he was allowed to do that. She looked up at him and seemed to think for a while before nodding, she seemed to be slightly suspicious but not necessarily cautious.

“I’m Y/N.’’ She said as she sat down. “Sirius.’’

She chuckled. “Yeah, I know who you are.’’

“Seems everyone does.’’

“Well, you are something infamous.’’ She said with a laugh.

“Do you agree with that?’’ She shrugged.

“I’ll judge you on your potion skills, seems fair enough. Just how your- our potion turns out and how you act this lesson should give me enough reason to judge whether I like you or not.’’ She said confidently, Sirius smirked. He liked a challenge.

-8-

“Mr. Black, now we are more private I have to admit you have never been this dillegent about Potions. What changed you? I’ve never seen you this passionate or be as present as you have been.’’ Slughorn said as he approached the two. Sirius was happy about the comment and looked at Y/N who was absorbed in the potion but did seem impressed at how much he knew. He hoped it was worth it because he had to practice and study a lot of Potion books.

“I suppose something just kindled. How’s our Potion looking?’’ He decided to ask as he didn’t want to brag about it, unlike he usually would, he wanted to look the best he could in front of her. Slughorn seems surprised at the humble reply but turned to look at the potion.

“Hmm, the colour seems well enough. I’d suggest maybe stirring more so the colour will look more dull, it’s still quite bright but you have enough steps ahead to fix the colour.’’ He suggested and Sirius nodded before going back to work. Y/N didn’t speak for a while as she passed him the ingredients to cut whilst she stirred a bit more but still slow as the instructions told.

“Never knew you to be the humble kind of person.’’ She said curiously as she continued to stir, he chuckled in response. He was surprised himself he could keep the response as humble as it was, he had many things he could say but decided this seemed to be the best of the ones he could come up with.

“Suppose everyone has that side, it just isn’t as clear with everyone.’’ He commented and she smiled in response. They worked together surprisingly well. Y/N hadn’t expected that much of him, as she sometimes saw him and how he acted in different classes. Still, whenever Slughorn asked a question he knew the answer but if he didn’t when the answer came he asked further about it as if he really was trying his best to know and understand. She understood why her best friend didn’t really like him as he wasn’t that likeable in most classes but she had to admit she enjoyed working with him.

-8-

“Thanks for getting us best potion.’’ She said as she started to pack everything, he just shrugged.

“Seems to me you did the most work.’’ She chuckled and grinned, he had a feeling she was onto him as she had been very observant.

“You don’t have to act like this you know, if you suddenly turn into an arsehole when we’re dating I’ll still break up with you. So, isn’t this the moment you’re supposed to ask me out with the best flattery you have to offer?’’ She said with a smirk on her lips, he liked her even more now. She was sharp.

“Would you do me the honour, my lady, of allowing me to take you out on a date?’’ She laughed but nodded.

“Well, c’mon my lord we’ve got our next period.’’

I really don’t care if this is going to insult people. Feel free to hate me after you saw this, I don’t mind. I love Mercy76 , I even understand why people ship Reaper x Mercy, Reaper x Soldier or Genji x Mercy. I’m someone who’s able to tolerate every ship and I would never ever tell someone that they and/or their pairing are shit. Everybody has a different taste and that’s totally fine with me. Just live and let live. But if someone insults me and tries to tell me that I shouldn’t ship this or that pairing… well, then they cross a line.
I don’t like Pharah. Never did, she’s one of my last favourite heroes and besides that, I don’t like Pharmercy. This doesn’t mean I’m dumb, gross, an asshole or homophob. Hell, I even support Reaper76 and McHanzo, but people don’t seem to care about that. I don’t understand the whole Pharmercy-Pairing and it just doesn’t appeal to me.
But that’s not a reason for me to write hate messages, nor a reason to insult people or tell everybody on the internet how much I don’t like this ship. I don’t go to the tags to tell people how dumb they are for shipping it. No, I rather stay in my lawn, being happy with my OTPs and with people who also ship it. I don’t have the time nor the energy to insult people.
On this day, it’s a little bit different. I got another hate-mail out of the blue and I got insulted again.
It’s funny that it’s ALWAYS the Pharmercy-shippers who shit on my pairings. I even got followers who like other pairings than Mercy76 and yet they like my stuff. I’m so happy to hear nice things from them, without any kind of hate. I’m not gonna lie, I was pretty angry and upset to get another message full of hate, so that’s why I made this comic. I hope some poeple can understand the way I feel, and don’t worry: I know that there are people out there who ship Pharmercy and don’t hate people for shipping anything. And I do know that there are M76 shippers who are pieces of shit. But it has only happened to me with people who ship Pharmercy, even though I don’t want to insult the whole group. It’s just about the people who hate on everything I do.

roxan1314  asked:

Just wondering, why do you hate the live action Beauty and the Beast so much??? All of my friends that have already seen it loved it. And a close friend of mine is planning for our group to go see it for her birthday over the weekend.

Ok so I’m gonna make this a bulleted reply because I’ve got so many…

• Emma Watson’s singing was a huge turn off for me. I didn’t like her singing at all. I don’t know if Disney changed her voice because she was bad at singing or just because they could, but it was a bad move. She sounds robotic or metallic and it bothered me through the whole movie. 

• Emma Watson changed the dress because she didn’t like that she couldn’t move well in it like if she had to fight in it. Like, you use a dress to dance in, not fight. And she changed how it looked visually. It looks like Michael’s puked on a cheap prom dress that no one wanted because the design was crap and the quality was even worse. When they revealed her in her full dress I was kind of expecting it to be a cool reveal and I was so disappointed. The bodice looks like cheap fabric that was super glued together, the actual dress looks like a ridged banana, and the glitter glue on it made me think of my 3rd grade arts and craft class. The dress was supposed to be Belle’s most beauty and enchanting moment and she looked hideous.

• Emma Watson made Belle really mean in this movie. She was unnecessarily harsh and negatively emotive. In the original, Belle was much kinder and had a sense of dignity about her. In the original when Belle was being hounded by Gaston in her house, she let him down rather gently as compared to this movie when she’s basically screaming at him when he makes small talk with her.

• Beast’s design was way too human in my opinion. He looked like a furry. I just didn’t like how they designed him.

• Belle and Beast interacting felt fake and pushed. Every time they were together it felt like they knew they had to have a certain outcome, but the chemistry between the actors just wasn’t there. It was really cringey to watch.

• Her skirt was hiked up on one side because they thought it would be easier for her to get on Philipe with one side already folded up. Hint: if they were not complete dunces then they would know you can get on a horse without having to hike up a dress. And they never actually showed her getting on Philipe so it was just awkward seeing her undergarments. It felt unnatural, didn’t fit the time period, and looked like she was flashing everyone she met.

• Emma Watson’s acting was stiff like a board. She was worse than Kirsten Stewart. I hated how she acted in this movie. Anytime she interacted with other character’s it either fell flat or she was overly expressive. There was no in between. She was a mess.

• They made LaFou gay because progressivism. I don’t mind that he was a gay character, but if LaFou was gay in that time the town’s people would have shunned him at best and killed him at worst.

• The Beast’s gift was coincidence and not out of genuine heartfelt caring. The library was supposed to be his gesture of beginning to care for Belle. It was supposed to be this turning point in the movie where you could see something blooming between the both of them, but in the new movie it was the Beast just making a point. It fell on it’s face, hard. 

• Emma Watson changed so much of Belle’s original character. Belle is supposed to be this caring and compassionate character that shows the Beast that he doesn’t have to be a jerk to everyone. However, Emma made Belle to be this “independent” woman and she came across as a jerk herself. 

• Gaston wasn’t a jerk for like half of the movie. They made it obvious that he wanted to marry her, but whenever he spoke to her for the first half of the movie, she would just scream at him for making small talk. Then during the other half it was like the director remembered that Gaston was the villain of the movie and made him mean. It also felt pushed and was fake.

There’s probably more that I can’t think of right now, but this is the bulk of what made it a terrible remake. 

INFPS in group chats...

At one point you say something overly silly or stupid, or really sarcastically, and they see it but don’t respond. You then go on to panic thinking they are hurt or offended, or maybe they will stop talking to you, maybe they will think you are weird maybe you said something wrong maybe they are weirded out maybe they will hate you what if what if WHAT IF?
And then they message you 10 minutes later with one word and you start a new train of anxious thoughts. AGH

Leave me alone

Now that i have been attacked openly by this person, I feel it necessary to tell my side of the story. It probably will not matter to anyone concerned, but I am outraged that anyone would call me the things that this person has, and I will be damned if I take that in silence.

Ru approached the first week of November and began asking me questions, as per the usual way that readers do. To which, I replied politely. They gave me very helpful feedback on their impression reading one segment of my diary. That very week the elections happened. Ru was distraught and threatened to kill themselves. I spent almost six hours talking to them, encouraging them not to do anything rash. It occurred to me, about half way through that process, that this person was not going to hurt themselves, but was instead in need of someone to talk to. I can understand that, and if I could be of service, it did not harm me to console them. I kept in contact.

Shortly after that, i began a Tumblr-based social club to watch movies. It was very successful, and Ru was a very central part of that group, coming to nearly all the showings we organized. Ru’s family troubles, their depression, their habits, and their tendency not to eat became of grave importance to the group. We all encouraged Ru to leave the abusive household and to eat regular meals. Such that Ru and I made a bargain - I promised to write Ru a personal letter with a sketch inside if Ru could show me they had eaten 1700 calories a day for one week. This happened, and I did, in fact, send that letter. Ru spoke to me literally every day, and even received a Christmas present from me. Ru also asked if they could refer to me as a parent figure or father figure. I consented.

But then Ru’s behavior became somewhat problematic, from mocking other people’s reactions to certain films or shows, to making bizarre statements and going suddenly offline. On the day we watched “Django Unchained”, it was a few days after the death of a friend of mine. I was depressed. Ru opted out of the film, because films involving racism tend to trigger them, which is perfectly understandable. We all said farewell. About fifteen minutes later, Ru reentered the chatroom, and instantly began railing about the film. Ru objected to the use of certain words, to the content, to anything that had anything to do with the history. Ru claimed that the one scene in the movie that mocks the KKK as the idiots they are was “humanizing them” to which, several of us said we did not think it did any such thing. To me, it made racists look of sub-par intelligence. Buffoons. Ru became completely inconsolable and accused the entire group (which was not all white) of being racists and KKK sympathizers. Ru then said they “hate all white people”. I was angry, because I thought that Ru had purposefully involved themselves in a situation that would make them angry and was now taking out all their feelings on everyone in the room, instead of the people who truly deserve to be treated in such a way. I left the room. For two hours, Ru insisted on messaging me, demanding to know why I was being a racist. I said I was not. Ru insisted that I believed in “reverse racism” because I told them that they were being rude and distracting from the film. I denied that, but asked Ru why they felt that they needed to assume everyone in the group was white, and why they had come to the film if they knew it would trigger them to lash out against their friends. They then came back to the room with me and apologized for being so upset and saying what they said.

They then remained friends with our group for several more weeks, but I noticed that their behavior toward everyone was particularly odd. They would tell one person one thing and then tell another person something different. On a Friday, they came into the group and told the several of us present that they had accidentally overdosed the previous evening by taking 3 of their antidepressant medications with a bottle of wine, and that while delirious, set up a timed Tumblr post to trigger at midnight, if they couldn’t wake up to undo that scheduled post. According to Ru, the post read “If you see this I have died”. At once, this rang as bizarre to me. I asked why, if they felt so ill, and were afraid they might not wake up they didn’t call an ambulance? How, if that ill and that frightened, could they type and then schedule a Tumblr post? They said that it was quite alright, that everything was fine and they were no longer in danger, that it wouldn’t happen again because they had developed a system for making sure they didn’t accidentally take too many pills when they were drinking.

The very next evening, I received several frantic messages from multiple members of the group, demanding that I give them Ru’s address, because they needed to call an ambulance. I asked why. I am not about to give someone’s address out to complete strangers. The members said that Ru had accidentally taken too many medications and needed help. I messaged Ru, and received no reply. One of the others who had messaged me was apparently on the telephone with Ru and said that Ru was completely incoherent and groggy, and that they had told Ru to go vomit up the medications, but the phone line had gone dead. I messaged Ru again, demanding that they reply to me, that if they did not I wouldn’t speak to them again, and I would call the police. About one minute elapsed, and I received a perfectly spelled and completely coherent message saying that they couldn’t speak to me, because they were on the phone with the other person. Except that that call had terminated several minutes before. They then went on to say they had taken 2 pills by mistake, when just the previous evening, they had said that 2 was their normal dose, and 3 was too much. This discrepancy concerned me.

I could be wrong, but a person dying of an OD, who is incoherent one moment is not going to vomit up pills and be perfectly fine the next. I was confused and suspicious. I showed the chat conversation to the other concerned parties, and they agreed with my suspicions. One of these people had lost a friend to an overdose, and was instantly very angry and hurt. They blocked Ru that instant. The other wrote Ru a long letter saying they wanted distance from Ru. When Ru saw that letter, they came to me and demanded to know why this was happening. I confronted Ru and told them that it seemed very obvious that their two “accidental” overdoses were planned. They denied nothing. I told them I had nothing to say to them and this this type of action was going to cost them friends.

Several others blocked Ru, as I understand it, not based on anything I said, but based upon more of Ru’s behavior (of which I was not told). Ru again came to me and asked what they could do to repair their friendships. I instructed them to apologize and admit what they’d done and then attempt to work their way back into the group by being honest and compassionate to the others.

They then turned around and went to the ones who had been involved, and wrote apology letters admitting to faking the overdoses. However, after a week, with no one willing to speak to them still, Ru came to me and spent literally five hours telling me why I had ruined all their friendships by spreading lies, that I was unhealthy for them, that I was ruining their life. I told them if they felt that way they could block me and that that was perfectly fine with me. They then said “but I don’t blame you.” As if after saying such malicious things and doing such malicious things for weeks could be erased by saying, “but I don’t blame you”. Why should I be blamed for Ru’s behavior? They then said that they “never lied except to lie about the overdoses.” I asked what that meant. Ru said that those false OD’s were actually suicide attempts, and that they lied to everyone about having made them up because I told them it was the only way to get their friends back. That is plainly untrue. I told them to tell the truth. I told them what it looked like and that they alone could explain. That aside, it became apparent that they blamed their lack of contact with the others one one person: me. Regardless of all that, the circumstances also don’t match suicide attempts, because the amounts of medications they claimed to take versus their normal doses, still made no sense. I realized that this was all a game to them, that we people on the internet are pawns and some kind of psychological pleasure was derived from playing us off each other.

I then asked Ru to leave me alone and finally blocked them.

For weeks now, Ru has attempted to contact me via all my other social networks saying things like “If you don’t want to talk to me you should block me.” So I obliged. I blocked Ru on every single social network. Then Ru began making secondary blogs and contacting all of those who had blocked them via those. I blocked them again. Then Ru tried to send messages to members of the group via mutuals who had not yet blocked. This offended these people, and I assume they blocked Ru. Now Ru has again made new accounts and is out and out calling me a racist. Now I learn that conversations that (happened weeks before we ever parted company) lasted literally hours and worked through many tangents, have been carefully photographed and complied to make me seem as terrible a person as they assert I am.

Never mind that this disagreement over the film took place weeks before they were blocked and no longer welcome to the group. Never mind that this “Call out” took place from two URL’s each belonging to Ru, designed to look as if it came from a group of people who all unanimously hate me. Never mind that I have spent days and even weeks conversing with Ru, trying to get them into a good therapy program, trying to encourage them to apply themselves to school, asking them to be mindful of their health. Hours and hours of conversations in Spanish, in English, and what have you. Never mind that this person called me “Dad”. All Ru cares about is that some people they’ve never met, blocked them because they behaved poorly. We are the villains and they will carefully tweak all our private discourse to fit that narrative. This is manipulative and cruel.

I am hurt. I am offended. But mostly, I am saddened. I cannot believe I trusted someone who clearly does not care about anyone but themselves. I am depressed that I wasted time I could have devoted to someone else. What’s more, I’m angry that this person feels the need to resort to such extremes when all they had to do is walk away. Every week it is something new, and I am the focus of their anger.

I am forced to reexamine everything they ever said to me, about their abusive home life, their relationship with their parents, their discussions of their gender and sexuality. I realize I cannot trust anything they said, and I say this with the full knowledge of the irony in place.

Doubtless Ru will find some way to read this and to tell the world why everything in it is false, and why I am to blame for all their misery, compile and curate more screen caps to outline why I am a wretched bastard. I can only tell you that this is what I experienced, that I never once gave anyone orders demanding that they block Ru. I can only say that the fact that an entire group of people chose to block this person is proof enough of their character, and that has nothing to do with me.

I do not wish to have contact with this person. This person ignores that fact and continues to find ways to harass me, from messaging me, sending me “anons” that are not anonymous because I can track IP’s, messaging others with whom I am in contact, and now, tagging me on posts. I have blocked them numerous times. I am within my rights to do so

If that seems bigoted to you…I cannot help that.

  • the list is private because if u post it publicly then the dick bags will change their urls and ur gonna have to find them and block them all over again. Nor am I gonna invite harassment. So vague post all ya want dude. If someone else wants to post it idc, its not gonna be me as a Jewish person the last thing I need is a bunch of nazis in my inbox and as someone who has already dealt with explicit furry porn of my dogs fuck that shit.
  • If u message me I will give it to u
  • I have 2 jobs and 4 dogs if u can’t wait a couple days, chill, I have 200 inbox messages asking for the list not including the ones I have already answered!!!
  • No one is on the list without proof, again, chill. So if you want to know why u can message me if it isn’t obvious, but ur not getting names or explicit details because this is not about ur gossip girl group, victims deserve privacy. People on the list are backed up not by one person by by MULTIPLE sources.
  • people on the list are altright, animal abusers, zoophiles, people who draw explicit animal porn of any kind, TERFs, hateful toward the LBGTQ community, abusers of people whether physical/emotional/psychological or a combo of the above.
  • Its up to u to decide if u want to block them, not my job to tell u what to do. If you are okay with certain things whatever its your decision.
  • Message ME for the list, I cannot go through replies and tags, if you want it inbox me or PM me if we are mutuals.
Asynchronous communication

The other night, @emilociraptor was walking me home from work bc I was dizzy, and we were talking about methods of communication. I mentioned that I prefer asynchronous communication, i. e. e-mails, twitter @replies, tagging in tumblr posts, etc. They were shocked, they had never thought about methods of communication in this way.

I figured there are definitely other people who could use this term to explain their preferred methods of communication. I learned about it through a class in my masters program, for library science, where we were discussing different methods that people contact the reference desk in a library. 

There are the synchronous methods of communication: in person, phone calls, text messages, live chats. 

Then there are the asynchronous, which in the library setting mostly refers to emails. 

In asynchronous communication, there is an understanding that the other person does not have to reply immediately and often, it is a surprise if they do so. The assumption is that they are not sitting down at that method of communication at the same time, so there will be a delay in receiving a response. 

In interpersonal relations, there are the other methods I mentioned up there ^ where it is the same assumption. When you @reply someone on twitter, you don’t except them to respond immediately. Sometimes, you don’t expect them to reply at all. Same with many replies to tumblr posts; it can be a way of saying “I see this, I have something to add or respond to in regards to this post, but this may be a one-way street.” Sometimes it can be as simple as a message of support on a post about someone being in a bad place, where liking the post might be read in a different way.

Synchronous communication, which can apply to various forms of chat, text messaging (which can go either way, depending on the people using it), phone calls, and others, can be hard for a lot of people. I personally suffer from chronic fatigue, and I find many synchronous communication to be tiring, so I limit it and try to only participate in it when it gives me a positive feeling. 

For example, I am currently in a group chat with a handful of other people, and it is a good mid-point between synchronous and asynchronous for me: I can follow the chat, but there is never a need to reply. I only have to reply when I want to, or when I have something to say. 

So, I give you these terms, tumblr! Use them to help people understand why you hate picking up the phone when they call, or when you feel like you have to apologize for being bad at responding to facebook messages or texts. Overall, remember that you don’t owe anyone your time, energy, or attention. 

You guys. Please. Stop calling everyone you disagree with “abusive”. Please stop fucking throwing that term around. That’s a really serious thing to accuse someone of and it’s so hugely offensive and damaging to actual victims. And I know sometimes some of your hearts are in the right place, but you’re usually wrong and just slandering people and it’s not ok, especially when your only interaction has been a few arguments and no actual personal relationship. Please fucking stop calling everyone you don’t like abusive. Please.

❗️EDIT PLEASE READ❗️: I’ve been getting a lot of hateful messages calling me a victim blamer and saying that I’m accusing actual victims of just throwing around the term. And now I’ve been getting more violent messages and even some threats on different apps. I made this post because I was in a situation where there was an argument between one person against many other people. The one person was someone that’s just not liked among a group I’m in on tumblr. In the argument these people got really aggressive and said something like “what you just said was abusive. Why are you abusive? Why do you hate women? Why do you hate abuse victims?” And that was making me and MANY OTHER abuse victims question our own experiences as abuse. When I made this, in the group I’m in on this website, it was very clear who I was talking to and I was literally asking for it to stop. I was reaching out because it was actually detrimental to my mental health. You could scroll back and see that I was not handling it well. This post wasn’t a PSA and it wasn’t meant for a general audience. I really wanted this to go away because I (as an abuse victim) was hurt by it because it wouldn’t stop. It’s not fair that I had to sit there and watch people accuse this person of abuse in retaliation to everything they said to get under their skin when I know what abuse feels like. They were JUST doing this to get under that persons skin. They /wanted/ to exaggerate. That was the point of it. They were using abuse as a shock factor. It’s actually been a really common argument tactic used lately among this group and it’s sickening bc “abuse” isn’t the only word they’re using. They’re accusing people of any awful thing they can for a shock factors. It wasn’t just harmful to me. I was watching lots of other abuse victims make posts like mine trying to get it to stop. Mine just blew up for some reason. Please stop. Please stop accusing me of being a victim blamer. Please stop sending me the things you’re sending me based off that assumption. It’s getting so bad. I made this post like a month ago and I’m writing this now bc it’s the first time since I made it that I’m able to write anything on it without breaking down. The responses I’ve been getting to this are fucking destroying me. Please. Stop.

xavviers  asked:

Alex. PUBLISH THIS PLSSSS: mkay. So y'all don't even know what a blessing Alex is. She's a sweetheart, she's hilarious, she's super talented, and she's incredibly caring. I've met her person and I talk to her all the fraking time on the texty text chit chat apps so we're like best buds and she's just always there for me & anyone else in our group chat to vent, she's always supportive of all our endeavors. She doesn't deserve this hate. No one does. Why spend your energy trying to hurt someone?

this literally almost made me tear up I’m love you 

anonymous asked:

You do realize isis has forces in most countries in the middle east and a handful in Africa? Terror groups pledged themselves to isis all over the world.

lmao why are you on anon first of all? and second of all I don’t get your point in telling me this, this doesn’t erase the fact 95,000 INNOCENT PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT WITH ISIS live where trump bombed- muslims are against ISIS… don’t message me on anon with irrelevant shit to avoid the fact trump is a pig. those innocent civilians who now have to suffer because of evil usa who intervenes in every fucking situation and is the reason behind the hate and terrorism- those innocent afghan lives are just as precious as any other. I am AGAINST ISIS and bombing innocent people isn’t going to achieve anything- ISIS is stationed mainly in Iraq and Syria so goodbye trump doesn’t know shit, he couldn’t even remember what country he bombed in an interview. dont message me anymore i don’t have time for your irrelevant points :)

anonymous asked:

It makes me sad that you are still getting abuse from shamy shippers. I've never seen a more aggressive group of people whose ship is canon.

Right!? It’s like… why aren’t you enjoying your ship!? I literally do not sit and make comments about how much I hate shamy… why waste time!? But they’re obsessed!? It’s creepy and weird. There’s a whole message board dedicated to the hatred of shenny or even Sheldon and Penny away from their parasite s/o’s…. I just don’t get it…

But then part of me does bc they know that shenny makes sense, looks good, is awesome! And they hate it. They can’t find faults in shenny (not that they’re perfect but no couple is… that realistic!)

Anyway… thanks though 😊

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TW: binary hate speech towards feminine trans guys /enbys + rape/abuse mention

So this post was on an ftm page i am part of on facebook . From experience , many trans guys are like this , especially on ftm pages in general because everyone just loves to assert their masculinity .

I am very happy though that while this post was up , 90% of comments were by people dragging the op , calling him out on why his message is harmful and how it should not be something posted in a group that is supposed to be a safe space for the trans community.

anonymous asked:

Having seen the play, i'm surprised how much hate CC receives. I think people had their own headcanons that CC didn't follow or is just hate for the sake of hate like it happens with many things in social media. Or is because it's not the same reading the script and watching the play. Anyway, I have a question for you. The only part that i never expected was JKR giving Draco a somehow redemption storyline. (1)

           She was very adamant in the past to keep telling people (mainly teen girls) that they shouldn’t romanticized him and it’s unhealthy to believe that a special girl is going to change him. Then CC comes and she does exactly that. She gives him a sad storyline with his sick wife that made him a better person, an excuse for his past actions (if you’re alone you can go dark) and even uses Cedric to prove that anyone could be like Draco and in the end she makes him a part of the group.(2)      

This is exactly what she stood against for many years. Do you think she just gave up trying and gave Draco fans what they always wanted? I’m not asking if you agree with Draco’s storyline or not, that’s irrelevant. I’m asking why you think JKR did something that contradicts all her past comments about Draco. Sorry for the 3 part message.            


I agree about your reasons for people being negative about CC, headcanons, the same hate for hate’s sake that’s always been a big part of fandom. (Back when I was on livejournal I started a community where members were meant to be positive about Harry Potter and people freaked out. Like, all of fandom wasn’t big enough for them, then needed to infiltrate my one little community with their Slytherin appologist/anti-JKR/anti-Gryffindor nonsense as well.)

ANYWAY,

It is really funny about Draco, isn’t it? I was honest to god shocked, but in a really good way. I 100% agree with JKR about people needing to take a step back and look at book Draco for who he really was. (And it wasn’t just teens, it’s adult women in their 30s and 40s too. I just think JKR couldn’t imagine that she’d have to point out to grown women that a racist, over-entitled bully might not be the best character to romanticise.) The reaction to her Pottermore post on Draco was fucking ridiculous and left me embarrassed to be part of Drarry fandom.  Develop your own headcanon if you like, but then don’t blame JKR when she reminds you that it’s a headcanon and that Draco wasn’t that much of a sweetheart in the books.

The Pottermore article does say that he changed after the war and refused to “follow the same old pure-blood line”. And the idea that Astoria supported the softening of Draco’s bigotry also comes directly from JKR in the Pottermore article: “Astoria refused to raise their grandson Scorpius in the belief that Muggles were scum, family gatherings were often fraught with tension.” So she never said that we were meant to view him as Lucius 2. She also says that he was in a large part the result of his upbringing. That’s not just in the play.

Also this: “I see in his hobbies further confirmation of his dual nature. The collection of Dark artefacts harks back to family history, even though he keeps them in glass cases and does not use them. However, his strange interest in alchemical manuscripts, from which he never attempts to make a Philosopher’s Stone, hints at a wish for something other than wealth, perhaps even the wish to be a better man. I have high hopes that he will raise Scorpius to be a much kinder and more tolerant Malfoy than he was in his own youth.“ & “There is, after all - and at the risk of re-kindling unhealthy fantasies - some unextinguished good at the heart of Draco.“

So JKR was never insistent that Draco was irredeemably bad or dark-hearted. The man we see in the play doesn’t really contradict anything she’s previously said. (Draco does become friends with Harry, kind-of-a-little-bit, but they aren’t best friends.)

That said, I also think there was an element of giving Draco fans what they’d always wanted. She’s incredibly giving that way, despite all the neverending shit she gets from fandomers. There are a lot of things in the play that feel like gifts to me: The “Ron and Hermione are in love in every reality” thread felt like an apology for the Wonderland interview. Harry’s journey felt like a response to all the people who complained that Harry didn’t show enough evidence of trauma. Harry’s conversation with Dumbledore was something a lot of people needed to see. And the friendship between Albus and Scorpius was something I think a whole, whole lot of us hoped for.

tbh when you have to spend all your time making posts about people who don’t even concern you, maybe it’s time to take a break and step the fuck back from this website? i admit im not the biggest fan of larries (harrie larries to be specific), but do you really think that a larrie would hack harry just to quote a tweet from a day ago with a broken link?

and id never condone nastiness in anyone’s inbox, but you also cant pretend that non-larries dont send the same type of hate to larries. i can go through anons and anons on my blog with countless sexual harassment and abuse in every message. instead of pinning the blame onto a sole group of people maybe bring up the fact the /no one/ should be sending /anyone/ messages like those. why don’t you focus on the bigger picture at hand rather than bullying larries for something they didnt do.

cynical---blog  asked:

I'm totally spamming ur account all I see are my '''asks''' heck- wwait only 10$?? That's like a total dream omg;; i got my album for almost 40$;; I checked and an album here costs 40$ im already broke why tho;;; but my bro bought me play music membership so I have their albums """for free"""!!! but I want them physically but at least I have something ahaha--- also same??? I listen to every genre as well!! Idk man she just hates it hah if I tell her one more thing about k-pop she'll block me

HAHAHA ITS OK MAN!!!!! just hmu in private messaging if u start freaking out bc ur everywhere hehe

BUT YEAH MAN it was all the oldkpop groups back in the day and all their albums were rly thing and there was like 10 photos and nowadays theres like 5000 photos in a photobook so its like MORE EXPENSIVE NOW ZZZ

bu tomg………………. wat the HECK 40$$$$$$$$ DANG MAN 2 expensive for me hehe but omg that’s pretty good tho!!!!!! i feel u there i just needed the physical copies and stuff (now im kinda less needing of it but i still like the albums inb4 infinite comes back and i buy their album again- i have like all the infinite albums) I LOVE MUSIC AH

but omg wat the heck is ur “””””””mom”””””””””” das rly strange hehe

anonymous asked:

You know what's been bugging me for a while? No one ever found out that Mabel (unknowingly) gave the rift to Bill, or her reason for doing so (wanting to "freeze" time to have an "endless summer"). Like, I know that Dipper would've forgiven her, but it's still surprising that it was never brought up, and it would've been interesting to see how the other characters would have reacted.

okay i’ve gotten this message like literally a dozen times since the finale so i’m finally going to address it

i’ve found that a lot of people (not this message specifically, but a lot of people) use the “she should’ve told them about the rift” argument to actively bash mabel further.  and while the character responses may have been interesting, i’d argue that…the responses probably wouldn’t have even been there to begin with?

like, i’m sure mabel would’ve disclosed that it was bill disguised as blendin that she encountered.  heck, nobody even told her what the rift was, she had every reason to assume it was a trinket.  basically, she would never intentionally make a deal with the one villain they were trying to avoid, and i’m sure the other characters would know that right off the bat. honestly, stan, dipper, and yes, even ford (who’s made his fair share of mistakes and didn’t blame dipper for the events of sock opera at all) would’ve probably forgiven her in a heartbeat, so…i can see why it was never addressed. nothing would’ve really happened.

other technical reasons i’m sure the writers didn’t include it as well: time constraints, inability to fit it with the flow of the story…plus the fact that it was pretty much unnecessary after dipper and mabel reconciled in the first place; it would’ve added nothing to the plot after the siblings already overcame a hurdle as big as mabelland. they had their spat. they had their reunion. plot-wise, it was time to move on.

don’t get me wrong! i’m not mad about this message at all! i really appreciate the fact that you highlighted that mabel did it unknowingly and that dipper would’ve probably forgiven her anyway. but i’ve had people come into my inbox like “man i hate mabel cause she gets away with everything like she didn’t even have to tell anybody about the rift and she got off scot-free” or like “man if mabel had told them how she gave the rift to bill that would’ve changed everything they would’ve all been so mad,” like…no? hasn’t this entire family been under enough stress already?

mabel has flaws. i’ll admit that. all the characters do! nobody, even the sweetest, most well-intentioned character, is a perfectly pure peach (except maybe soos). but this family had already been through so much and were united against a common enemy (even stan and ford, involved in their baby fights), there would be no need to single one of them out. i’m pretty sure that mabel felt enough guilt as it was.

so while the potential outcome may have been interesting, the most likely outcome would’ve just…not been as big as one may have expected. i actually had somebody suggest to me once that they were surprised bill didn’t point it out to drive them apart (which is honestly the route that would’ve made the most sense) but looking at the pines family at that point, and how their only goal really was to protect each other?

like, i don’t think the group would’ve even batted an eye.

I feel compelled to share the definition of the word “bigotry” because it has completely lost all meaning these past few years.

There is a huge misconception among the SJW movement about how language works. You see, language is not a tool to be changed and molded to fit your agenda. Language is an objective concept with very well established boundaries. [EDIT: I am not saying language is static, I’m saying that as of this moment, bigotry is bigotry. In other words, you can’t personally create definitions of words as logical refutes and expect that to hold merit; language is consensus-based.]

In other words, you cannot throw the word “bigot” around while simultaneously shunning a huge group of people. I’m speaking specifically of the recent “cishet” hate among the LGBT community. It is very amusing to me to see statements like, “I hate cishets” from the supposed tolerant left. Not only have they adopted their own lofty form of bigotry, but they refuse to even acknowledge it.

If you disagree with this post, comment or directly message me and explain why. If you just block me, you are doing nothing but proving my points even further and are probably running from aspects of yourself you haven’t accepted.

Pushing the Limits of my Heart

@swawesomesanta for flib (if you know what their tumblr is, assuming they have one, please pass it one to me!)

Summary: Bitty passes in front of Kent, drawing Tater’s attention to him.

They lock eyes and Tater’s expression immediately turns sour, while at the same time his eyes widen slightly. He looks sort of like a giant, angry buck caught in a car’s headlights, and despite himself, Kent finds it strangely cute.

“Why is Parson here?” Tater almost hisses, his shoulders tensing up to his ears.

Kent looks down at his lap as he feels his cheeks heat up and his stomach drop. Jack was perhaps a little quick to dismiss his observation and say that it was possible that Tater didn’t hate him, because the man sitting a few feet away from Kent looks like he hates him with every fiber of his being.

A/N: So flib requested Bitty/Kent/Jack group chat drama with Patater as the main ship and the gc drama is…well, it’s still a big part of this fic? But uh, I hope you don’t mind that I started with idea and just kinda…ran with it. Okay, to be fair, I didn’t intend for it to be this long. I really wanted to write something that was short and very cute with a side dish of snarky Kent and Bitty interactions and then–well, I hit a point where I realized that the story I wanted to tell would require the fic to be a lot longer that I had in mind (clearly, a lot longer). And though I’m not sure that this fits what you may have had in mind, I still really have to thank you for this prompt though, because I had been in the middle of a creative dry spell (see me not having posted since August), but your prompt honestly just sparked something in my mind. I’ve been so eager and excited to share this fic with you :)

Now I have to give a lot of thanks to @cakemakethme and to @bahoreal, my two best friends who without them, this fic probably wouldn’t have happened (or at the very least it wouldn’t have been as good). From their ideas that they were always so willing to offer up, to their patience as I used them extensively as sounding boards as I overhauled the plot three separate times which required so many messages sent back and forth, and not being bothered as I sent them the entire fic in IM’s while I worked on it, their support was invaluable. And of course, I have to give an extra special thanks to Jay for the incredible art they supplied for this fic (if you need art commissioned, you should check them out!).

I really hope y'all enjoy this fic!!! :)

Read it on AO3!

Group Chat with Bitty and Jack

Kent: Holy fucking shit
Kent: I honestly don’t understand
Kent: How did he do that?

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Apparently, there are people out there who hate on our precious, almost unproblematic rogue which is why I thought it would be a great idea to (finally!) create a LEONARD SNART DEFENSE SQUAD

Looking for

- people who love Leonard Snart :)

What this network is for

- to spread some love for Len
- to discuss scenes, traits, relationships, etc. within our group chat
- to make new friends
- to share original work with people on the network

What you have to do to join

- reblog this post
- message me that you’d like to join (everyone will be accepted)
- track #leonardsnartdefensesquad so you can see len edits by other members of the chat

Send me an AU and I'll give you a Starter/Drabble (roles can be switched around)
  • First Kiss: Kissing means binding your souls together for the rest of your lives, so how about an accidental first kiss? Can we say oops?
  • Toy Mission: The toys are living beings, too, but they exist to make their owners happy. I didn't like you at first, you were a terrible owner, but I hate seeing you cry, too, so I'll fulfill my duty to you.
  • Thief by Accident: You kept stealing from your alliance in the game and we all decided to kick you out of the group, and then you messaged me to ask why and it turned out that you were new.
  • False Alarm: Your alarm keeps going off every time you get home and I'm getting very annoyed by showing up and it turning out to not be an intruder after all, but then when I took a while longer the next time, it really was an intruder.
  • Child of Ours: My baby got stolen away from me and now I've found the child, but you adopted the baby from an orphanage and have been raising the child for five years.
  • Summoning Ritual: You constantly annoy me so today I let you walk in on me pretending to be summoning the Devil to offer my soul in exchange for you going away except apparently this ritual was the real deal.
  • Accidentally Blind: You lost your sight in a traffic accident that I was the cause of and I had the bright idea to get you balloons and a card to apologize and I keep stepping into the salad every time I speak to you yet you still laugh at me.
  • Frog Prince: I was drunk and spotted a frog and figured I might as well try out the myth and it turns out the frog was poisonous but luckily you found me by the road and drove me to the hospital.
  • Costume Party: I was dressed up for a Parade but it started raining and it got cancelled so now I'm stuck in the city for hours without anything to do or anywhere to go, but on the plus side you were there for it when it got cancelled and live here, so now I'm mooching off of your hospitality.
  • Coven Terror: Your coven leader had found the perfect new member to turn into a Vampire but didn't have the time to do it themselves, so you had to do it and you picked the wrong person. Now I'm giving the entire coven Hell, because I definitely didn't sign up for this bullshit.
  • Music Loss: You ruined my headset by accident while getting out of the vehicle and now I'm stalking you on your way home to ensure that you suffer just as much as I did with the loss of music.
  • Sibling Rivalry: I was aiming for your sibling but instead I kissed you and now you won't stop pursuing me. It's actually a little flattering except for when you sneak into my home to leave presents. The flowers were nice, but the breaking into my home part isn't.
  • Dragon Slaying: You keep refusing my advances, claiming I'm not your type or that I'm just not good enough, so I decide to prove it by slaying a dragon. But the dragon is like a selfish puppy and followed me back home and every time I try to approach you, it starts breathing fire.