for the record I don’t want to see anyone seriously using or defending “allosexual” on my dash. especially if you know there’s no such thing as “allosexual privilege”. it groups lgbtpn people together with cishets, who are our oppressors, and treats us as one coherent class of people, which we are not (and it is incredibly homophobic and transphobic to suggest that we are).
by creating a specific label, you claim the existence of a specific class which is socially organized, shares common relevant history, and holds common values or ideas. this is not the case. there is no “allosexual” group in any society anywhere in the world, there is no social group opposite to asexuality. what there is is a majority of people who share a single common characteristic: that they don’t identify as asexual, or any identity on the ace spectrum. this is not enough to form a class with a label.
what is appropriate to this portion of the population is a prefix. “non-ace”. it is what naturally comes to mind if one does not have a predetermined term for this population, and so it is not specifically designed to refer to a coherent class of people, thus it is not propagating homophobic or transphobic ideas. some say it is othering. that is the point. you are trying to distinguish between people who do and do not identify as ace or on the ace spectrum. this makes someone an other only in that context, and that is not avoidable, and that is not inherently a bad thing. you cannot unite with something that divides, with or without malice.
yes, the ace community has a right to determine what they call people who aren’t ace. but equally, our community has a right not to be forced into a class alongside our oppressors. when you do that, as the term “allosexual” inherently does, your issue becomes an inter-community issue, and we have a right to step in and say “you can’t use this term to refer to us. it’s homophobic and transphobic and we will not stand for that from you”. I don’t want to see it used seriously or defended seriously by anyone I follow. if you do, you will quickly become someone I don’t follow.