this is way different from shipping wars


Player boy stereotype? Or something else entirely: A look into gender stereotypes and crushes

So, believe me I hear you: The worry of Lance being a flirt and being the only Latinx main character is real, valid and necessary. That is NOT what this meta is about. This meta will cover another facet of Lance: his experience with flirtation and crushing, not so much the flirting itself. I think this meta will help you see, there was more to the vlog than you might have thought at first!

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(I know Perc’ahlia isn’t a thing actually happening, but I love the over protective sibling relationship between Vex and Vax and couldn’t pass this up.) // (I just realized this could be interpreted a different way, so, yes, it’s intended as Perc’ahlia and Vaxleth. Just to clarify.)

EDIT: Striked out some text because, guys, seriously, I was hard on this train then and honestly just put that text down to dissuade anyone who didn’t like the ship from coming to my inbox and being huffy. That wasn’t naiveté, that was me not wanting ship wars happening on reblogs or sent to me privately.


GoT men giving their most valuable possession to their lady-loves - in place of their hearts.

Jonsalocking (yes, I’m going to use this term from now on) Tinfoil - feel free to delete this part for the *aestethic* or whatever.

If we see their respective “gifts” (Jaime’s valyrian sword, Tyrion’s council,Jon’s trust in leaving Sansa in charge) as a metaphor for their love, or rather the next best thing to their love, don’t you notice an interesting difference?  

Tyrion is obviously smitten with Dany, but he doesn’t believe that she would ever love a man like him. There also is the issue of sleeping with your boss, though I don’t think that would be such a big problem. So he offers his council instead, for now and always. Maybe she will never reciprocate his love, maybe his council will have to be enough for now and always. (Really like this pairing though, wish something would happen. Don’t get me wrong.)

Jaime is in love with Brienne, but he is in a rather, complicated, toxic relationship with his twin-sister, making it impossible for him to actually pursue any kind of romance with her. They are also standing on opposite sides of a war, so … not the best place to start. Again, the word “always” is used. Oathkeeper, the embodiement of his respect and admiration for Brienne, will never be replaced with true love. (Like this pairing as well, really wish that ~something~ would happen.)

Jon has fallen heart over heels for Sansa, he (probably) just doesn’t realize it yet and since, you know, he believes she’s his sister, no romantic endavours here neither. Yet. What will be different once “he returns”? Both of them will know about R+L=J by then. Moving the only real obstacle for a romantic relationship out of the way … There still is the chance to replace “the north” with “his heart”. To make it more clear:

What do you all think? Look at his face, he could be totally saying that. “When I come back from the war babe, I’ll marry you. Just give me some time.”

Wynonna Earp Cast, Crew & Fans - a Famdom

,We’ve just began season 2 and as this show gains new fans, new followers on here, twitter and even YouTube, old fans wanna remind the new ones to please see how this fandom has acted and continue that way.

We don’t pry into the actors lives, we support them as they support us. When they have stuff going on in their personal lives we’re happy for them. If they care about a cause then we jump on board with them doing whatever we can to help. In term we’ve raised a couple thousand for different causes and charities. When something bad happens in their lives we dont pry, we give our love and support and the cast all know that we’re there for them whatever they need. 

There are no shipping wars in this fandom, I know from personal experience the 100 fandom and the Once fandom in particular can have one hell of a shipping war if people dont agree on a ship, and personally if everyone supported the exact same ship, itd get hella boring. if someone ships a couple of characters such as Waverly and Champ then we accept this. We all know the most famous ship at the moment is Wayhaught due to the show and it’s show writer defying the ‘bury your gay’ trope ( which FYI included a lesbian character being shot and living cause she wore a BPV). This happened in the middle of the big debate from Lexa being shot in the 100 after finally being happy to Root being shot in POI. It got to the stage where soon as Nicole was introduced people messaged Kat saying that ‘I hope your character has a bulletproof vest), it changed views, it made people remember that all LGBTQ+ people are valid and they can be happy and find love and be all the things in the world.

The cast themselves care so much about their portrayals, Dom and Kat even carrying out research into their roles and what LGBT means in the community right now, they’re researching the struggles, everything a person might go through and it’s changed them as people. The cast is doing anything and everything they can in order to change stereotypes, to give people confidence, to allow people to be themselves and to not be scared or ashamed, to be able to accept themselves and who they are. Its a show where people can be vulnerable, be a joker, be a fuck up, but still have so much inner strength, that we are more than just one thing. that we are more than what people perceive us to be.

Wynonna Earp is a show where people can find themselves, find their voice, find their inner strength, to face your demons, to accept themselves. Wynonna Earp is a show where the cast and crew treat the fans as friends and not just people the other side of the screen.Every con they make sure they talk to everyone, to hear their stories, to make sure our voices are heard too and they’re affected by this. They care so much and give back to their fans.

The crew behind the show constantly giving back to fans by doing giveaways, creating content to go with the show, to create awesome behind the scenes videos. (Major props to Allison, David, Robbie and all the gang at IDW)

There’s a video called Road to purgatory where the cast and crew talk bout the fans and what they mean to them.

Its a show where the fans have serious no chill from being the main reason why the show got S2, its a show where no chill involves sharing love every single day for each of the main cast and its show runner. A show where no chill involves saying thanks to the people BEHIND the show for everything they do and have done for fans. Its a show where the cast, crew and viewers all want the same thing.

This fandom is more than just a set of people with a similar interest, it’s an environment where people can be accepted, to make friends, to find their partners, when people are going through a hard time the fandom is right there offering support and a shoulder to lean on. Its a fandom where people can go when they believe all hope is lost, no matter what background, what race, gender, sexual orientation, everyone here matters, everyone is valid.  

It’s a famdom that can save people, that can heal wounds, that can make anyone feel at home. Its a place where people can talk about the show, the cast or just anything in general, its a place where people can make friends, find their partners, its a place simply full of love and support and passion.

This fandom is more than just a group of people, it’s a family that’d do anything to give back to each other and to support each other and I hope as it grows it stays this way. Just please if you’re new, see how the fandom has acted in the past and please keep that going so we’re a place of hope, love and compassion for anyone and everyone that might need that certain place in the future,

My Top 10 Anime Ships/OTPs (spoiler alert for some of the shows)

10. Levi x Petra

Levi x Petra is a rather subtle/ambiguous ship. They might not even have had anything going on between them, but the subtlety is what I love about the ship. I didn’t even think of Levi as the kind of guy to have any romantic relationships. But the very first time I watched AOT, I thought that if they were going to write a romance involving him, this implied/subtle ship is a good way of doing it.

Besides, I seem to have a thing for angst.

9. Rock x Revy

At first, I didn’t think they’d make a good pair at all. I mean Rock was just this average guy who seemed kind of wimpy compared to Revy. It was the fight scene where he stands up to her that completely changes my opinion about him (and their relationship). As the show went on, we could see Revy looking out for Rock. A lot. It was nice to see her soft spot. It was nice to see that one of Roanapur’s deadliest mercenaries needed the innocence and kindness of a (not so average) Japanese businessman, and would risk her life just to protect him.

Also, that cigarette kiss.

8. Satoru x Kayo

They’re so cute! Yeah, I know about this ship being “pedophilic”, but I have to disagree with that statement. 

My first impression of ERASED was a man who has regrets over what happened when he was 10 years old. A man who has the memory of a lonely girl in a red coat lingering in his mind. So when Satoru goes back in time, I see it as a second chance. A second chance to be 10 again. A second chance to make things right. 

So I don’t see it as a 29 year old stuck in a 10 year old boy’s body. I just see it as a man who became 10 years old again, but with 29 years’ worth of memory. 

But…is it weird that I’m glad one of my favourite ships didn’t happen?

Okay. Lemme explain. As I continued to watch the show, I realised that the show was more about a boy becoming a hero than a boy-saves-girl kind of story. Even though I was really upset about the ending at first, I ended up accepting it, and even becoming glad about it.

It would be unrealistic for Hinazuki to wait 15 years for Satoru. She’d be wasting the life he gave to her. But just because she married someone else, doesn’t mean that she ever forgot about the boy who saved her. He still remains a very important person in her heart. And he always will. 

In the end, I can only remember SatoKayo as a moment in time. A short, sweet time in their lives when they meet the person who will change their lives forever. It’s a kind of bittersweet beauty for me.

So I am glad about the ending. In a sad-glad kind of way.

7. Hitsugaya x Hinamori / Ishida x Orihime

I can’t choose between the two.

Anyone who’s seen my blog knows that I ship Hitsuhina. It’s a cute-angsty kind of ship that I wish I could see more of. 

Uryuhime is a painfully underrated ship. I know that some people ship IH because they love Orihime and want her to be happy. Well, I love Orihime too. But that’s why I can’t ship her with Ichigo. Yes, Ichigo does try to protect her, even to the point of turning into a monster to fight Ulquiorra (though he was also thinking about protecting Uryu). But that’s kind of his number one goal - to protect others. One of the things that made me not ship IH is the way Ishida looks at Orihime. It’s different from the way Ichigo does. He’s the one who knows her, protects her, understands her, and loves her. I think he’s the best guy for our princess.

6. Fakir x Ahiru

Aka the only ship I ship that breaks the first girl/guy rule. I’ve never seen a lead-girl-ends-up-not-with-the-main-guy kind of ship done so well. I can go on and on about the reasons why I ship Fakiru. 

But you know what, GO WATCH PRINCESS TUTU!!

5. Minato x Kushina

NaruHina? NaruSaku? SasuSaku? Forget about the shipping wars, this is my OTP from Naruto. I think what really got me into them is how Minato loved Kushina’s red hair, which she thought was ugly. For someone to love the very thing that you hate the most about yourself, the part of you that you feel is the ugliest, I think that it’s a beautiful thing.

4. Ichigo x Rukia


Screw you, Tite Kubo.

3. Roy x Riza

Picture says it all.

2. Ashitaka x San

This is my favourite Ghibli ship. Hayao Miyazaki’s films were what got me into anime in the first place. 

I’m not sure what it is I like about San and Ashitaka so much. I guess it’s the same reason I love movie - their scenes. Nope. These scenes are not the shoujo, lovey dovey kind of scenes. They’re powerful scenes that not only define their relationship, but also the movie itself. 

When Ashitaka first sees San, when he calls her beautiful, when she takes him to the Forest Spirit, when she feeds him, when he talks to Moro about her, when he tries to save her from Nago, when she stabs him and he responds with a hug…I can go on and on about this ship.

I’m not as passionate about this ship anymore, but I’m putting them at no.2 because of the impression they’ve left on me.

1. Soul x Maka

I think this is the first OTP I really fell in love with in anime. Ever since I saw how Soul protected Maka from Crona, I’ve been spiraling deeper and deeper into SoMa hell. I love their bond. I love how they argue but care for each other deeply. I love how they’ll support each other no matter what. I love how they’re always together. I love how they truly are partners.

SoMa even gave me the standard for my other favourite anime ships, namely Royai and Ichiruki. I’ve heard that your OTP reflects what you actually look for in a relationship.

Well, this is what I look for in a relationship. I don’t just want someone who will make butterflies flutter in my stomach. I want someone who will understand me. I don’t just want romantic dates or kisses in the rain. I want someone who will be there for me through all the hurricanes in my life. I don’t just want someone who will throw romantic gifts at me. I want someone who will truly care for me, and I for him. I want someone who will go together with me on this adventure we call life, someone a can share a real bond with.

Sorry for the long rant. And thanks if you managed to reach the end of this post.

I’m tagging @herprettysmile to make a top 10 anime ships list (if you have time or if you haven’t done one already)

Stop being such huge pissbabies about Shallura or Shaladins. It’s so fucking immature of you guys to be saying shit like “DON’T TALK TO ME IF YOU SHIP _______” or if you try to disprove / hate on the other ship because YOU don’t agree with it.

You know what we could do instead? Maybe fucking accept that people ship different things, and that these are FICTIONAL characters and in no way have any goddamn affect on the real world because they aren’t physical people?

Let people ship whatever the fuck they want to ship. Stop making it a war between you guys, this is why people look at our fandom and think we’re fucking bad. 

Sheith? Okay.

Shance? Okay.

Shidge? Okay.

Shunk? Okay. 

Shallura? Okay.

Asexual Shiro? Okay.

Shoran? GO FOR IT.

It doesn’t fucking MATTER what someone ships, whether it makes sense canonly, their ages (which by the way, nothing SOLID has been actually confirmed aside from general age gaps), their sizes, their races, ANYTHING. IT. DOESN’T. FUCKING. MATTER. 






anonymous asked:

How would you respond to people who say "Zutara shippers say Aang is too young for a relationship but he's not too young to be in a war"?

*drags hands down face*

Who says that? Like, who says that? I’ll fight them.

Seriously, anyone who says any of these characters aren’t too young to be in a war, come meet me at 3:37 A.M. CET in the liminal space of a McDonald’s parking. (We don’t have Denny’s here.)

The whole point is that they are all too young to be in a war! All of them!

But especially Aang.

Like, listen, listen, listen, All of them grew up with the war in the background. All of them, except Aang.

Aang grew up during peacetime. Aang grew up in a completely different world from the rest of them.

Aang’s whole journey for the first three seasons was with the naive childish hope that just by ending the war, the world could go back to the way it was a hundred years ago!

Season 4 was supposed to be about how that’s not how it works!

So instead of giving us a examination of what happens after childish idealism saves the day, they went with thirteen year-old child symbolically gets married, because we can’t bear the fact that this other ship is more popular. How petty can you get?

lita-of-jupiter  asked:

notwoarealike - could we see Obi-wan interacting with clones from "bad" batches? The works he found for them

Settling his hand onto 99’s shoulder, Obi-Wan smiled down at the Fett clone. “You alright?” He questioned carefully.

99 gave him the best smile he could, nodding happily. “Yes, the upgraded terminal you got me helped with the mobility issue I was having and I’m rerouting the messages and comm lines more efficiently now.” He grinned.

There was a mischievous spark in his eyes that made Obi-Wan chuckle and pat the aged clone.

Some of the clones, especially from the early batches, didn’t come out quite right.

And the standard practice of the Kamino’s would have those ‘put down’.

Basically killed and hadn’t that sent Obi-Wan into a towering rage when he had found out that the Kamino’s were basically snuffing out lives that just needed a bit of extra cares.

Just because they couldn’t fight didn’t make their lives less valuable to Obi-Wan and he’d be karked before he allowed them to kill off any clone, his own or Fett’s.

So he had taken over, any ‘bad batch’ clones were to be transferred directly to his command, any discovered clones euthanized by the Kamino’s without his say-so would be directly taken out of the pay and while they hadn’t been happy about that they had agreed.

So Obi-Wan took over, he found jobs for them.

Like settling 99 into communication.

It wasn’t fighting no, but it was useful work, work that made a difference to the war effort.

Some of the ‘bad batch’ clones were trained as technicians, ship workers, psychologists, comms specialists, cooks, engineers…

It came down to the genetic defects they had honestly, if they were mental ones then they could still physically be capable of things like repairing ships as long as they were supervised. If it was physical then there were ways to help them and jobs that did not require them to hurt themselves further working.

“Keep monitoring 99, you’re doing great work.” Obi-Wan settled on.

99 gave him a wide, lopsided grin at that from his own genetic defects. “Thank you Al’verde, I’ll do my best.” He offered proudly and Obi-Wan chuckled softly, nodding.

“I know you will.”  He squeezed the mans shoulder again before pulling back, moving away to greet others quietly and inquiring to their health and positions on Kamino’s.

Others he asked about their training for when they were shipped out to places like the cooks who were going to the added barracks on Coruscant.

While vode and his own clones could and would eat anything and just manage on protein pellets, Obi-Wan preferred to know they were well feed and so he had found that the clones who could not fight made wonderful cooks as they actually cared about what they feed their fellow clones.

“Caper, Sumac and Oatmeal.” Obi-Wan stopped in front of the trio, smiling a bit at them as Oatmeal instantly dropped his bag at being spoken to, the nervous redhead quickly picking it up again while giving Obi-Wan a weak grin. “You all set for Coruscant?”

“Yup.” Sumac popped the word, the blond running his one hand over his hair before grinning. “Just need to wait for Olive to pilot us. He’s late.” He shrugged.

Caper laughed. “I don’t mind, gave me time to finish packing. My best guess is that 69 distracted him.” He waggled his brows at everyone which caused groans from the Fett and Kenobi clone going with him.

“Again?” Oatmeal stuttered out.

Shaking his head, Obi-Wan gave Sumac and Caper pats on the shoulders. “Well, good luck on the trip.” He offered bemusedly before slipping off as they returned the sentiments, heading for his quarters, greeting others quietly until he reached his destination.

Slipping into the dark room, Obi-Wan didn’t bother to turn on the light as he headed over to his liquor cabinet and poured a glass, setting it down then pouring another. “So, you here to kill me Jango?” He questioned quietly.

In the corner of the room there was some shifting before an all to familiar figure moved towards Obi-Wan, taking the glass of the cabinet counter.

The man silently took a sip, watching Obi-Wan’s face with the faint light. “Well there is a bounty on your life but I don’t think you’re in any danger from me.” He smirked faintly.

“Oh good.” Obi-Wan hummed as he sipped slowly. “That leaves the question why you’re he-” A hand gently grasped his chin and turned his head, bringing him into a slow and familiar kiss.

Glasses forgotten and still half full, Obi-Wan let himself be backed towards the bedroom through the dark room by the other bounty hunter.

Okay I don’t know why I thought this was a good idea because I haven’t written anything that wasn’t an academic essay in my life, but here is my first drabble-thingy for Minato/Ichigo because I ship this way more than I ought to. I hope you enjoy it! Please excuse me while I die from embarrassment >_<

Life was out to get him.

Because Ichigo had no other explanation for how he went from fighting one of Aizen’s stray experiments to being transported and dropped on his ass in a completely different dimension where ninjas were a thing and could do strange shit with just hand signs. And if that wasn’t bad enough, it was just his luck that he got chucked from one war into another. Honestly, what had he ever done to deserve this? Fuck.

At least in this dimension, he didn’t necessarily have to get involved. But then again, he was never one to play the bystander, not when people were dying and he had the power to do something.

That was why, only a few hours after landing in this dimension, when he was met with the sight of a one-sided fight between a group of ten and a lone shinobi with bright blond hair he didn’t think twice about becoming involved to even the odds even just a little bit. Because for all Ichigo’s seen and experienced and matured in his relatively short 17 years of life, he was still an impulsive teenager whose blood boiled at the sight of group of people ganging up on another person. He’s been there and hell if he’s about to let that happen to someone else.

Minato cursed his luck.

He was already bruised and exhausted from his recently completed mission, and now to add insult to injury he just had to be ambushed by a group of ten Iwa shinobi. Gripping the kunai held in his hand, he was tensed to receive the blow from one of the Iwa-nin’s sword when a stranger suddenly appeared in front of him, parrying the blow with his own cleaver-like sword.

Resting his sword against his shoulder as though it weighed nothing, the stranger growled, “How about we even the odds a little?” And suddenly, he was gone again in something similar to a shunshin but faster.

Minato could do nothing but stare in shock as each of the ten Iwa-nin was incapacitated. Just who was this stranger to be able to easily handle ten jounin level nin? And behind his shock, or maybe it was wonderment too because the way the stranger moved was almost beautiful in all its efficiency and swiftness, he noticed that the stranger couldn’t possibly be a shinobi. The stranger didn’t have chakra—at least it didn’t feel like chakra.

Before Minato could do much more than comprehend what happened, the stranger turned around with his sword was strapped to his back once the last Iwa-nin was knocked unconscious.

And despite the multitude of questions swirling around his head, Minato found his throat suddenly dry when he finally got a good look at the stranger who helped him. There was no way someone could look so damn pretty with neon-orange hair and a seemingly permanent scowl on his face, but somehow the stranger did because that hair looked like it might just contain the sun and that scowl on that face looked endearing and Minato needs to stop because he sounds like a lovesick fool and—wait the stranger was approaching him.

“Hey, sorry about interfering like that. You all right?” the stranger asked as he stood in front of Minato, almost awkwardly like he didn’t exactly know what to say.

And maybe Minato is a lovesick fool because he couldn’t help but find it adorable how the stranger went from kicking ass to not knowing what to say to a stranger he helped. He might’ve also been staring in silence for too long as the orange-haired stranger began to nervously rub the back of his neck as a blush rose on his cheeks. Oh, Minato dazedly thinks to himself, I shouldn’t find that as attractive as I do right now.

“Pretty,” was all Minato was able to get out distracted by his thoughts as he was. He became further distracted as the stranger’s face reddened even further after hearing that, before his scowled deepened.

“Well if you’re fine, I’ll be on my way.” The pretty stranger made his way to turn around and leave.

With rising panic as he realized that the attractive stranger was leaving, Minato quickly grabbed the stranger’s arm and blurted out, “Namikaze Minato!” And yes, it was most definitely the stupidest thing he has ever done because who in their right mind gives out their entire name to a complete stranger, but he couldn’t just let the pretty stranger leave.

Confused, the stranger turned back around. “Wha—”

“My name. My name’s Namikaze Minato,” he repeated, trying to calm his rapid heartbeat due to his panic.

Staring down at the hand still enclosed around his arm, the stranger replied, “Kurosaki Ichigo.”

It shouldn’t make him so happy to know the stranger’s name but it does because he can put a name to the person who’s strong and attractive and who he may have a budding attraction to. He was pulled out of his thoughts though when he felt Ichigo beginning to tug his arm away from his grasp. And instead of being smart and letting go, Minato held on tighter and tugged Ichigo towards himself.

Not expecting to be pulled, Ichigo stumbled right into Minato and quickly Minato moved his other arm to his waist to hold him closer against himself.

With a rising blush, Ichigo began to struggle to get out of his grasp. “What the hell—let go!”

Minato grinned. There was no way he was letting this pretty stranger get away from him. “So Kurosaki, why don’t we get something to eat? It’ll be my treat as thank you for helping me earlier.”

Face scrunched up in preparation to refuse the offer, Ichigo retorted, “Like hell I’m going to go—“ only to be interrupted by his stomach growling. He flushed in embarrassment.

Minato’s grin only grew wider. “Looks like your stomach disagrees.” Pulling Ichigo almost completely against himself, he leaned down to whisper into Ichigo’s reddening ear. “I look forward to getting to know you Ichigo.”

And if the startled gasp that elicited from Ichigo made his grin change into a smirk, well no one would know. Minato was the cat that got the cream and he was most certainly going to thoroughly enjoy the wonderful present life decided to drop directly in front of him. Maybe his luck wasn’t so bad after all—not if he got Kurosaki Ichigo suddenly thrown into his life. And Minato wasn’t about to let him go because now Ichigo was his.

So... It’s time to join #jonsa family.

I’ve been around for a while here, I went through #jonsa #jonsametas #jonsaisendgame tags for like a month or so… And I really love everything about it. Of course I’ve always loved Sansa and the rest of the Starks but I never really thought about the idea of joining jonsa fandom. IDK why. But all your posts really hooked me. 

>amazingly good written metas
>super nice people

I was told that people from GoT fandom was very aggressive in tumblr, but I’ve never seen a Jonsa shipper atacking other people or other ships. Specially you know who… Really, in my research during a month I only saw how jonsa shippers were super decent and kind of censoring some words so their posts wouldn’t appear in certain tags.

I also saw how people from another ship constantly attacked jonsa blogs for no reason. And it’s fun how *her stans* are as aggressive and random as *her* (you know who, the person who solves every problem in her way by burning everything. 
-Someone wants to get the payment they were offered by a fair trade? Burn them
-You are captured? Burn them
-You win a battle and get war prisoners who don’t want to bend the knee? No brainer, burn them.

Her fans are not really that different, aren’t they?
-You see someone politely disagreeing with your ship and explaining their reasons to believe their ship is endgame? BURN THEM 

Yeah. Um. This is my first post. If you are #jonsa like it or follow me so I can follow everyone and get a nice looking stark TL. 

What every ship needs:

Originally posted by thegracelessliability

The thing is, most of the people ship characters for life, like, Person A is Person B’s happy ever after.

I don’t think I could ever see them that way. Because if we see a ship just as a happy-ever-after then isn’t their story always the same? And I know, the plots are different but if we have a different perspective on the ship the whole fanfiction changes.

Let’s put it this way: what if I ship Person A and Person B because they work so good together but even though they make such a perfect couple they are deeply issued people…

e.g. Harry’s issues after the war are the main problem in him maintaining his relationship with Ginny and that makes the circumstances perfect for his and Draco’s relationship to develop.

But if we want to see the true side of a story and if we want to write from a bit realistic and deeper point of view (which I always do try) their relationship wouldn’t last. They would split up in a horrific way which would make them strangers again, not even enemies, but they would learn from it and build relationships with new people that would last.

And don’t get me wrong - I appreciate people who like happy endings and prefer ending everything with a happy-ever-after but I like to experiment.

I deeply enjoy unique fics that place the characters in situations people usually wouldn’t because they are either too serious or too ridiculous… too far from the original idea or just… too simple? I like risk certain authors are taking by putting them in these situations because there is a big chance of the audience not excepting it because the fic doesn’t fit the usual “mold”, generic AU’s or doesn’t include Headcanons that make a ship the ship.

I believe that every ship deserves a risk taker willing to give up a certain delight from the readers for a bit of fun; for a bit of uniqueness.

Because there will always be Mpreg au’s and 8th year au’s and depression and influences from the war and questioning sexuality and truth or dare games and challanges and love potions and all the things that we usually see in Drarry fanfiction (im not saying this is all ffs but we know there are a bunch of them with these elements - heck, i even wrote one).

What every ship really needs is a fic that will make you forget that it is a piece of amateur writing and it should have an influence on you so great that you don’t forget about in awhile…

And now my point is messy and unclear but what I’m trying to say is that every ship - not only drarry needs a little devil helper that will make you fall in love with things human mind can come up with.

So I’m asking you, all of you who see this post, to take a dare.

I challange you, here and now, write me a fic. Write me a fic with little magic in it. Make it original, make it as good as you can. Make me cry and laugh and question everything. Make me fall in love with Drarry all over again. Crush my heart to a million pieces.

Give me two criminal masterminds fighting for revenge (and give them a heavy backstory with an actual good reason for fighting). Give me two patients in a mental hospital clinging on the edge of insanity. Give me two artists who told their stories but no one listened. Give me a one night stand and a billion what if’s with no answer,no rushing to the other’s door, no calling; just a realistic chance of something that never had a chance to grow. Give me two strangers, meeting once on the street, on a bus, while waiting for coffee - make them smile when they see each other again. Don’t make them fall in love - make them happy. Give me a love affair ending badly in one of the people getting a divorce which ended the love affair that caused it. Give me life, drama, potential… Give me a fic!

So for one last time:

I dare you. Write me a fic.

So, let's talk about Shipping wars...

I’ve been debating whether or not to bring this up, but I think it needs to be addressed.

Ship-bashing is bullying.

If you dislike a pairing, then just leave it alone and let those who do like it do their thing. Don’t try to shove your ship down their throat. You wouldn’t like it if someone hated on you for shipping your OTP, so why do it to others?

I only bring this up as I recently saw a post that was essentially bashing the Star Wars ship, Reylo.

Now I know there’s a lot of contraversy around this topic, and I’m not trying to start a war here. But here’s it in short. Whether you like the ship or not, there are some people who do. In bashing on it you’re isolating those people from the community and making them feel bad for a pairing they think would work. Now that’s a horrible feeling.

It’s happened to me, where a ship blew up all over tumblr, and it was constantly getting shoved in my face. It wasn’t something I personally agreed with, but did I flame the people who did like it? NO! That’s just not what you do. Golden rule everyone.

Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Don’t like a ship? Leave it alone and support your own ship. If you have a ship that’s different from the majority, I actually encourage you to stick with that. Remember, it’s your One True Pairing, not theirs.

If you made it this far congrats, and, may the force be with you, always!


blueseyy  asked:

i'm not worried about jonsa being endgame but what frustrates me is that we're going to have to deal with loud and annoying j0n3rys shippers claiming that their ship is endgame and that we're delusional for at least over a year now D: sigh.

I know :( 

I really don’t understand why they feel the need to tell us this if they’re so bloody secure in their own ship. And they all seem to think Jonsa is a crackship anyways, so why is there even a shipping war? Why do they care? 

In our fandom, from what I’ve observed, most of our criticism against Jon3rys seems to stem from what we perceive to be Danielle’s darker path, which wouldn’t make Jon3rys compatible in any way. Or the shoddy as shit job D&D has done in showing us they’re in love. Although I still maintain that that’s for a reason, ie. it’s all a ploy on Jon’s part and Jon3rys is a red herring for Jonsa ;D 

But still… Aren’t we allowed to have a difference of opinion? Seriously, Jon3rys stans, gtfo. You don’t even go here.

Rowaelin and Feylin; Parallels and Abuse: Why Context Matters

Right, we need to sit down and have a very serious talk about something: Feylin and Rowaelin. The ways in which they are…Not alike. Not even a little bit. This is a meta concerning the fact that Feylin is abusive, yes, absolutely, without doubt. Rowaelin is not. If you can’t possibly get your head around that I suggest you leave now, the next few paragraphs are unlikely to be ones you’ll respond well to.

For everyone else I’m going to sit here and hammer this out because I feel like it’s something that needs to be said. Perhaps understandably this fandom has started comparing various things between the ToG series and the ACOTAR series. Chief among them are some of the relationships and how the dynamics differ or feel the same. The main ones I’ve spotted have been Feylin and Rowaelin comparisons and FeyRhys and Rowaelin comparisons. I think there are issues in both of them and I will talk briefly about FeyRhys/Rowaelin to further a point or two but the more serious comparison is the one between Feylin and Rowaelin which is what this is going to focus on.

I’ve seen a couple of posts now that try and argue the fact that Rowaelin and Feylin share certain similarities and that, more specifically, Tamlin and Rowan parallel each other and the argument is that Tamlin is abusive and has been shown to be so within the narrative; Rowan is as well, the only difference is that Rowan’s abusive tendencies aren’t called out within the narrative. This is something I have a pretty serious issue with.

Tamlin and Rowan as characters I can understand being paralleled. There are certain similarities between them. Both of them are male (and love interests for our leading lady); both of them are Fae; both of them are warriors; both of them are outwardly quite stoic and reserved; both of them have been shown to have quite territorial and protective instincts. That all parallels on a very surface, very simplistic level, yes, I’ll give you that. That’s where it ends.

You cannot simply compare and contrast traits and use them to say that someone is abusive as a result. It doesn’t work that way. These characters operate within completely different worlds, completely different sets of circumstances with completely different pasts, back-stories, personalities, motivations, drives, and methods. It’s fair to say that they have similar traits; it is not fair to extrapolate from those traits and say that they are the same, that they behave the same or that their relationships with two completely different female characters are the same. There’s no basis for that whatsoever.

The name of the game here is context. Context, especially within media where it’s been very carefully built up and ties in with the character dynamics, developments as well as the plot line, is incredibly important. If I twist and manipulate context I can make anything look pretty much exactly the way I want it to suit my argument. That’s what’s being done here. And to be completely honest I’m sick, tired and fed up with it.

You want to compare and contrast Rowan and Tamlin, their narratives and their relationships with Aelin and Feyre respectively? Fine. Let’s do that. Let me compare and contrast and show exactly how and why they’re completely different, why Rowaelin is a healthy, positive relationship and why I get supremely pissed off when people plaster the word ‘abusive’ all over it to try and suit their ship war needs.

Protectiveness. That’s the main issue that people are comparing in Rowan and Tamlin’s storylines. Protectiveness and the way it can quickly become possessive and controlling. Tamlin is protective of Feyre; Rowan is protective of Aelin; those are the facts. Where the argument on abusive behaviour moves on from here is: Tamlin is protective and abusive; Rowan is protective; therefore Rowan is also abusive. Makes for a seemingly quite neat and logical argument doesn’t it? Except for the fact that it’s blatantly false. There is nothing inherently abusive in being protective; there is nothing inherently abusive in wanting to shield or defend a significant person in your life.

So with protectiveness itself the parallels between Rowan and Tamlin end and the contrasts begin. The way they respond to this protectiveness, their reasons behind it, the context of the narrative in which it’s framed are all vastly different and they’re all incredibly important. These relationships are all very complex, deeply layered, nuanced and there’s a real emphasis on subtlety. This means that making ham-fisted comments like the above argument is pretty disrespectful to the text and the issues that it’s pointing out as well as the character, relationship and world-building that have gone into making them. Simplifying them for the sake of a point is petty, childish and wrong. So let’s not. Let’s compare them properly in depth.

Firstly, the way in which Rowan and Tamlin see and treat protection is interesting and important. Tamlin, as I’ve argued before on several occasions, uses protection as a front for his control. This has been his MO since the moment Feyre walked into that manor house:

·         He glamours her so she can’t see most of the faeries around her and the ones she can see look ‘normal’ and she justifies this on him trying to look out for her and stop her from trying to run away and get herself hurt in the wilder lands beyond the manor house. That was indeed his motivation but he’s controlling and manipulating her mind in order to do so.

·         The dinner scene on her first night: he uses magic to bind her in place and refuses to let her up until she’s eaten. On the surface the ‘motivation’ behind this is fairly reasonable: you’re about to keel over, I want you to eat something for your own well-being. But again it strips away her agency and the choices that she has every right to make.

·         The act of biting her neck on Calanmai with the order “Don’t ever disobey me again.” She disobeyed him; he used physical force to punish her after she disobeyed his orders (orders that he never explained – keeping her ignorant about her surroundings, even when they put her in very real danger, is also another form of control) He then puts the blame for this onto her; he holds her accountable for his responses to her. His assault on her is termed as the consequences of her actions; he never takes responsibility for it.

·         Then in ACOMAF this issue becomes even more pronounced and unhealthy. He has guards follow her everywhere and refuses to let her leave the estate grounds despite her repeated requests to do so. In the end he uses magic to forcibly trap her in the house to prevent her from leaving and keep her safe. This triggers her PTSD and causes her to have a panic attack as a result – this is the final straw, the thing that makes her realise that he has placed her ‘protection’ and safety for his own peace of mind above all else – including her physical and mental well-being and it’s the final thing that makes us as readers realise how controlling and abusive this relationship has become.

So, in each of these instances Tamlin does something incredibly problematic in that each one of them results in him controlling some aspect of Feyre’s life. They all strip away her agency, her freedom and her choices. But they’re also all apparently for her own good. They’re also all framed in such a way that makes it very difficult for her, or anyone in her situation, to see them as abusive. He justifies them all with ideas of love and protection. These are things that generally have very positive associations with them, loving, protecting and wanting to keep those you care about safe is not an inherently bad thing what becomes bad is when you do this to the exclusion of all else; when protecting them becomes controlling them because you’re smothering them and refuse to listen when they tell you so or stop when they ask you to.  

Tamlin stripping away Feyre’s agency, choices, freedom and control is what makes this dynamic abusive and unhealthy. Not Tamlin’s protectiveness in and of itself; there is nothing unhealthy in that; there is something very unhealthy in the way in which he uses it.

Rowan’s idea of protection is very, very different. He never crosses that line; he never attempts to use that protectiveness as a way to emotionally manipulate Aelin or force her into accepting his control. Several times Feyre feels obliged to go along with Tamlin’s abusive behaviours and accept them even though they’re hurting her because she thinks he has her best interests at heart. Rowan never does this; Rowan I don’t think ever actually outright forces Aelin into doing anything .

Their storyline, from the very beginning, is dictated by Aelin’s choices; not Rowan’s. Aelin chooses to allow Rowan to train her and determine if she’s worthy to join Maeve; that’s what sparks of their whole Heir of Fire plot. Aelin chooses to accompany Rowan into every single dangerous situation that he takes her in to as part of her training.

Rowan does not manipulate her in any one of them; Rowan explicitly lays out the scenario for her and she chooses to enter into it. So yes Rowan’s training sometimes puts Aelin in danger but he never manipulates her into it; never backs her into a corner or makes her feel like she has no choice. Aelin has very clear and very defined choices throughout their relationship and in fact at one point she chooses to leave and Rowan makes absolutely no move to stop her. He goes after her to stop her from getting herself killed…But then she chooses to return and train with him.

Consent and agency are important here. The fact that Aelin is running everything is important when we’re talking about this in context of a potentially abusive relationship. Unlike Feyre and Tamlin Rowan gives Aelin very clear choices. She is free to leave whenever she wishes. She is free to stop training with him whenever she chooses. She is free to remove herself from this situation the moment she’s not happy or comfortable with it. Feyre doesn’t have that freedom with Tamlin; she becomes trapped in her situation by his abuse and that is why it’s unhealthy.

Back to the issue of protectiveness which is something people seem to have a bigger issue with in QoS than HoF (HoF has a whole other host of so-called ‘issues’ that I may or may not get into more) but this scene in QoS I’ve seen referenced as evidence for Rowan’s abuse of Aelin:

“I was perfectly safe.” Lie. She hadn’t been sure whether Lorcan would even show up—or whether he would fall for her little trap.
Rowan poked her cheek gently, and pain rippled. “You’re lucky scraping you is all he did. The next time you sneak out to pick a fight with Lorcan, you will tell me beforehand.”
“I will do no such thing. It’s my damn business, and—”
It’s not just your business, not anymore. You will take me along with you the next time.
“The next time I sneak out,” she seethed, “if I catch you following me like some overprotective nursemaid, I will—”
“You’ll what?” He stepped up close enough to share breath with her, his fangs flashing.
In the light of the lantern, she could clearly see his eyes—and he could see hers as she silently said,
I don’t know what I’ll do, you bastard, but I’ll make your life a living hell for it.
He snarled, and the sound stroked down her skin as she read the unspoken words in his eyes. Stop being stubborn. Is this some attempt to cling to your independence?
And so what if it is? she shot back. Just—let me do these things on my own.
“I can’t promise that,” he said, the dim light caressing his tan skin, the elegant tattoo.
She punched him in the bicep—hurting herself more than him. “Just because you’re older and stronger doesn’t mean you’re entitled to order me around.”
“It’s exactly because of those things that I can do whatever I please.” - (Queen of Shadows, Chapter 36)

On a surface level I get why people call this part out and start taking issue with it. But on a purely surface level, without further consideration, Tamlin’s behaviour can be excused away. It’s why Feyre and the reader were taken in by him in ACOTAR and why she struggled to accept the situation she’d fallen in to and the realities of it. If you actually look at this scene in greater depth I think I can explain why it doesn’t imply anything unhealthy at all for Rowan and Aelin’s relationship.

First of all, on a pretty basic level, there’s a massive, massive difference between what these two male characters are having an issue with/becoming protective about in these scenes. Tamlin is saying: do not leave the house or gardens alone, I don’t think it’s safe, my own PTSD and trauma is making me obsessed with your safety and I’m perceiving threats where there are none and refusing to listen to when you try and counter that.

Rowan is saying: the next time you sneak out of the house and nearly get yourself killed by the most powerful warrior in Maeve’s cadre would you please tell me about it first. (Note that Rowan in this scene never actually says to her: never do that again; he just says, the next time you do that, don’t do it without a bit of back-up which, I don’t know, personally, sounds a hell of a lot like common sense)

There’s been a question of Rowan questioning Aelin’s independence here and tying that in with Tamlin stripping away Feyre’s agency and yes; I think Rowan is questioning Aelin’s independence (rightly so) but not in the same way that Tamlin strips away Feyre’s.

Aelin struggles a lot in QoS with her shifting roles, with completely letting go of Celaena Sardothien, the assassin who did not have to follow any rules or laws, didn’t have to worry about perception or politics, who existed and behaved exactly as she decided with very little thought of the consequences. Aelin can’t do that. Aelin can’t have the same sort of independence that Celaena had because Aelin is a queen. Aelin has the hopes and hearts of an entire nation; an entire people, in fact an entire continent balanced on her shoulders. She cannot do the things she once did. She cannot do whatever she pleases. She cannot just do everything alone with no thought to her personal safety because Rowan is right; it’s not just her damn business anymore: it’s the whole of Terassen’s.

Aelin as a character, especially in QoS, is incredibly independent and incredibly mistrustful. The girl just gets shit done and she rarely hangs around to discuss those plans with anyone else. But she can’t think or operate like that anymore. She is a queen who is gathering a court to her; she is not a reckless child. Her growth in this book is very largely centred around that fact: around her learning to really become Aelin, a mantle she rejected for so long precisely because of the responsibilities and restrictions that came with it.

Rowan isn’t looking at her and seeing someone he wants to control: he’s looking at her and seeing his queen here. And he’s seeing his duty to her. Rowan is bloodsworn to Aelin; he will give his life to protect hers, he will kill and main and fight and die for her if need be. But that’s a give and take relationship: he protects and serves her so she can protect and serve her people. There’s a reason that monarchs have protectors like Rowan: they’re important; they’re the one we need to keep alive; because they do not represent their own individual interests anymore: they represent their people’s.

This is what Rowan is referring to here when he tells her it’s not just her damn business anymore. This is what the issue is for him with her sneaking out to do things on her own. It’s not that he personally doesn’t want her doing it because it puts her in jeopardy (though I’m sure he wouldn’t be jumping up and down at the thought of it) he reacts this way because it his sworn job and duty to serve and protect her, to keep her safe and make sure she wakes up every morning. He swore a blood oath to this effect and it’s something he takes incredibly seriously.

For contrast; consider the scene in Heir of Fire where Aelin leaves Mistward. He lets her go (again; as he let her go that night with Lorcan; I’ll get to that in a minute though) He doesn’t try and stop her but he does go after her and stop her from getting herself killed because she’s bitten off more than she can chew. This is the same idea as that. In both instances he helps her and saves her from a dangerous situation (because he did save her from Lorcan here; she’d have been in deep shit if he hadn’t found her) the only difference in HoF is that now she’s not just his student or a person he wished to save from an unpleasant fate: she’s also his queen.

This is what informs on his behaviour; this is what makes her tell him the next time she does something like this to bring him with her. It’s not a desire to control it is a genuine desire to protect  someone that he’s sworn to do. He’s essentially saying here, look dear, I get it, you’re an independent assassin who can take care of yourself, but you’re also making my job fucking difficult, could you not?

As a queen, baiting and trapping Lorcan the way she did has very far reaching consequences (I doubt Maeve would have been delighted if she’d killed her commander for instance) Rowan is there to protect and serve. His job, his duty, the duty that she chose for him to have is to protect her, to keep her safe and make her consider the things that she’s not considering herself.

Finally, on this point, I think there’s also a lot to be said for the difference between actions and words. Rowan here tells her that “I can’t promise that,” he can’t promise not to come and protect her if she does something daft and dangerous again. But he does not say I will stop you doing it. When he’s initially telling her off he doesn’t actually get pissed at her decision to do this; just that she keeps him out of the loop and doesn’t tell him what’s going on (which again makes his job difficult)

Rowan never actually tells her that she can’t do something. And Rowan sure as hell doesn’t actively stop her from doing anything. That’s another big difference with Tamlin. Tamlin uses magic to forcibly and physically trap Feyre inside the house. He forces her to comply with his will, he forces his choices and his authority on her and utterly strips her of her agency and control in the process. Rowan never tells Aelin what she can’t do. Rowan never forcibly stops Aelin from doing anything or forcing his will or authority onto her.

He says he can do as he pleases, he orders her to tell him the next time she does something like this. But he never follows-through on that. He never forces her to comply with his will. He expresses his unhappiness at what she’s done; he explains why; he calls her out on her reckless behaviour. But at the end of the day he never actually does anything about it. He never restrains her or locks her up or does anything at all that strips her of her agency. He lets her make her choices and lets her do what she sees fit: he just also tags along to make sure that in doing so she doesn’t get herself killed (which is his job.)

That’s another issue that I have with the Rowaelin/Feylin comparisons. Not only are their motivations completely different their relationships are completely different. And I’m not just talking about the fact that Feyre and Aelin are incredibly different characters in themselves I’m talking about the actual basic stripped back relationship dynamics. Feyre and Tamlin’s relationship is almost exclusively romantic (he deliberately shuts her out of any kind of power; she will be his wife and consort but never his High Lady or equal, she does not have power)

Meanwhile at this point Aelin holds almost all of the power in her and Rowan’s relationship (though she never twists it in the way that Tamlin does with say Lucien) but if anything Aelin is more comparable to Tamlin here status wise. She is Rowan’s queen; as Tamlin is Feyre’s High Lord. Tamlin and Feyre’s relationship is based on their romantic partnership Aelin and Rowan’s is far, far more than that. They have both taken on various different roles, mentor and student, commander and soldier, queen and protector, friends, carranam and finally lovers.

The dynamics are completely different which makes all of their interactions informed and altered by this dynamic. It’s another thing that needs to be taken into consideration because, as I think I demonstrated above, the queen and protector dynamic is the main one that’s in play here. Yes I’m sure Rowan is also looking out for Aelin as his friend but in this scene, when she’s recklessly endangering her own life she is his queen first and foremost and he is adhering to his duty to defend her which completely and utterly transforms the nature of this scene.

Once again, I’m going to reinforce the fact that context matters. You cannot strip this scene of its context or Aelin and Rowan’s relationship of that context and talk about it as starkly as has been done.

In looking at each of the above scenarios, both with Rowan and Tamlin and considering and evaluating their behaviour I considered the context very carefully. As it happens I can pretty easily twist each of the above Feylin scenarios and sell that as being a healthy relationship if I so choose:

Tamlin is trying to protect Feyre. Tamlin just wants to keep the person that he loves most in the world safe. Tamlin gives her guards to look after her and has her stay in the grounds and the manor house because that’s where she’s safest and that’s his number one priority: looking after his betrothed and keeping her from the harm he couldn’t keep her from while they were trapped Under the Mountain together.

See? If I strip that relationship of all of its context; if I remove Feyre’s past, if I don’t consider the broader circumstances surrounding this: the fact that Feyre feels suffocated by this, the fact that it triggers her PTSD and puts her physical and mental health in extreme jeopardy (a fact which Tamlin seems content to ignore), the fact that it strips her of her control and her agency, the fact that she’s specifically told Tamlin this and he only tightened his hold and made things worse than I can make Feylin sound actually pretty positive when in fact it’s horrifically abusive.

This is the same effect that takes place when people try and argue against Rowaelin. They strip away context; they strip away the relationship dynamics, they strip away the narrative arc, they strip away Rowan’s motivations, they strip away all of the character and relationship development these two went through in QoS, they strip it down until we’re left with very bare, surface actions that, when removed of everything above, have about as much to do with them as the theory that the moon is made of cheese: if all I use to go on that is the fact that “well they look really similar therefore they must be the same” I can sell that shit to anyone who’s willing to listen. But it doesn’t stop it from being what it is: a steaming pile of complete and utter bullshit. Same difference here.

Finally, just to address one last thing while we’re on the subject of ACOTAR and ToG comparisons in relation to this discussion I’ve also seen Rhys and Rowan contrasted to try and make a point. Rhys’ very strong emphasis on reinforcing Feyre’s choices and agency set against Rowan’s protectiveness and things like the scene I quoted above to try and show that Rowan is abusive and that Rowaelin is unhealthy…Because it doesn’t function in exactly the same way to FeyRhys and obviously there is only one exact template for a healthy relationship and if it doesn’t fall into that category it’s abusive. Yeah. Great logic.

Once again (at least it’s consistent) this completely and utterly ignores the context of both relationships. I mean first of all it’s really quite disrespectful of Aelin and Feyre as individual characters? Rowan and Rhys respond to them differently because they are very different people with very different backgrounds, situations, personalities and needs.

Aelin is learning to become queen, Aelin is learning to grow into her crown and Rowan is helping her do that by pointing out the fact that she no longer exists solely for herself. She has a greater purpose now and she cannot do that entirely on her own. Meanwhile Feyre has just come out of an incredibly controlling and abusive situation. Rhys reinforcing the idea that her agency is valid and completely her own, reminding her repeatedly that she has choices and freedom is what she needs because that is vital to her recovery and her learning how to be in and form healthy relationships again.

Rowan and Rhys’ responses are different because their partners, the people that they are responding to are completely different and need different things from them. What would be bad is if they were identical. Tamlin refuses to vary his treatment of anyone in ACOMAF; his own well-being, his own recovery, his own mental health reinforced by his feeling in control is prioritised not only over Feyre’s well-being but also Lucien’s and his people’s. He calls in the Tithe and reasserts his control three months after Amarantha’s downfall; exactly the same way he does with Feyre. Varying responses based on situation, personality and need is good. Of course they don’t respond the same because Feyre and Aelin aren’t the same and don’t need the same things from their partners.

This comparison is also incredibly reductive of Rowan and Rhys’ characters (and the effort and obvious time and care SJM has invested in crafting them) A character’s motivations and actions in this series never come from one place alone: they’re tied in to various different aspects of the story as whole; the narrative itself, the themes of the narrative, but also their own personality, the relationship dynamic in question but also their own pasts.

The way in which Rowan and Rhys respond to Aelin and Feyre in these instances is; as well as being the response that benefits and supports them, is also deeply tied into their own histories and traumas.

Rowan protects Aelin, Rowan emphasises keeping her safe and doing his job and his duty to her because he failed Lyria. He was bound to protect her too as his mate and the mother of his unborn child and he failed her. He left her. With that in mind these scenes where he goes after Aelin, where he makes sure that he’s there for her if she needs him is directly died into his own history with Lyria. He left her alone and completely undefended and she was brutally murdered because he wasn’t there.

He makes sure that he is there to protect Aelin; he makes sure that he will never fail her the way he failed Lyria. But he never crosses into that same extreme as Tamlin: he makes sure he’s there but he never stops herself putting herself in danger or doing what she feels like she needs to do. He just makes sure he’s not a million miles away when the danger is happening.

Meanwhile Rhys’ responses to Feyre are very keyed in to his own past, to the rape and abuse that he suffered at Amarantha’s hands for nearly fifty years .Remember that Rhys has only very recently come out of his own abusive relationship where his agency, control, choices and freedoms were denied him just as Feyre’s were. He sees her and understands her struggles on a very personal, very intimate level because he has lived through them too.

He gives Feyre what she needs in reinforcing her choices and her agency because he understands that that’s what he needed to. When he was finally freed from that relationship he needed someone to remind him that he had choices and agency and control and this is the lesson that he helps Feyre learn as well.

Trying to just flatly parallel these two characters and situations without considering any of this is, frankly, idiotic. Their responses are informed both by their partner’s needs and situations but also by their own pasts and traumas. And all of that is ignored in favour of trying to make a character look bad/abusive in order to discredit a ship.

That’s actually the thing I have the most problem with here. Tamlin and Feyre’s storyline resonates with and is incredibly helpful to the people who have survived that kind of abuse. The idea that he can love her but still hurt her is important. The idea that he can call it protection but it can actually be abuse and control is important. The idea that someone can truly wish to help us and protect us can cause us incredible amounts of pain and damage us is important.

And all of that is getting brushed over for the sake of trying to ‘call out’ abuse to discredit a ship. Frankly, if you can’t see how that might be wrong, if you can’t see that very shallowly plastering a very real, very serious issue over a fictional relationship because you don’t really like it is a fairly fucked up thing to do we need to talk.

I’m not saying that people have done this deliberately or even actively but I’m saying that ignoring canon, ignoring the context of these nuanced delicate situations can lead to drawing conclusions that can actually be very damaging to people. Abuse is not something to be thrown around lightly or used to make a point on why a character should or shouldn’t be with someone.

SJM has done an incredible job with the Tamlin/Feyre relationship and the representation that she’s very delicately and carefully handled with it. It’s very saddening to see so much of the rich complexity of this series and of these relationships glossed over at best and utterly ignored at worst for the sake of petty fandom ship wars, and in all honesty, the fact that this is being routinely done kind of disgusts me. Abuse is not something you can wave around the way you would the thought that ‘their personalities clash’ or something.  It’s a very real, very serious real life issue that Maas has done an incredibly job drawing attention to and it’s not something that I want to be obscured for ship wars, that’s the bottom line here.

TL;DR: Feylin is abusive; Rowaelin is not. Tamlin and Rowan are both protective, yes, but Rowan is genuinely protective and has every right to be as Aelin’s bloodsworn shield defending his queen. Tamlin’s protection transcends it and very quickly becomes a paper thin justification for control and abuse. The context in which Rowaelin and Feylin take place need to be considered: their specific relationship dynamics, the difference between Feyre and Aelin, the power imbalance in Feylin which isn’t present in Rowaelin.

Protectiveness itself is not abusive. The way in which Tamlin manipulates it is what makes it abusive: he strips away Feyre’s agency, choices, freedom and control and justifies it with love; he prioritises making himself feel better by thinking he’s keeping her safe over her mental health and well-being and excuses it because he claims to be protecting her. This is never present in Rowaelin. Aelin drives that relationship; Aelin’s choices drive that relationship and have done from the moment she agreed to allow Rowan to train her.

The characters and the world have been built up with an extraordinary amount of care and detail. The abusive relationships that are present have been handled with an incredible amount of sensitivity and delicacy: something that the fandom is very clearly missing when they draw and draw poorly thought out parallels that are damaging to abuse survivors and show complete lack of respect for the very careful narrative which has been drawn up here.

Characters relate to one another in different ways for different reasons and their responses are often framed by their own personalities and pasts. It is impossible to strip these away when analysing the content of these novels. It’s possible to completely change the way something looks if you remove all context. It’s something we need to stop doing because it’s damaging, reductive and just flat out wrong.

Feylin is an incredibly well crafted abusive relationship which has been handled so well by SJM. Rowaelin simply is not. There is no actual evidence for Rowaelin being abusive in any way shape or form. You cannot parallel any of these characters to such an extreme extent without the conclusions being paper thin and honestly just false. Please stop doing it.

I find it kinda funny that I’ve seen more posts complaining about problematic pharmercy art than actual problematic pharmercy art…

Like, don’t get me wrong, there are a few that make me feel gross every now and then, but I can go days or weeks without something popping up, and if it does, it’s typically a repost of an older existing gross picture, which I don’t count as I’ve already said how that’s gross.

The complaints on the other hand, I can’t go one day without someone complaining about how people draw Pharah. Not one!!! I’ve tagged Fareeha Amari, Pharah, and pharmercy, and I’m not seeing any of this art y'all are speaking of.

Which then brings me to the possibility… How many of you actually are talking about problematic art cause you genuinely saw some, and how many ate simply doing it to bring the ship down or join a bandwagon that you know nothing of?

Like, I totally can see a few people perusing older artwork and just now mentioning it cause it’s their first time seeing it. But out of the 25+ posts I’ve seen in the last few days alone, how many fit that description, and how many are simply trying to fulfill an ulterior motive?

Now I don’t want to assume the worst in people, I like to be optimistic. And I’m not saying you shouldn’t call out pharmercy art that is problematic, hell no! Inform the artist or writer about why that piece is a problem. If they are respectable about it, good, no further conflict needed. If they aren’t, then blacklist their names and warn others. Simple.

But if you’re doing this as a way to bring ships down, please stop. I don’t go into your tags and bring up negative things about your ship, I expect the same common courtesy.

And while I’m on the subject, for anyone reading this, don’t make up shit or shame other people for liking something when they have the best of intentions, especially as a way to defend yourself. Don’t say shit like:

“You have a problem with pharmercy’s age difference, what about roadrat or mercy76, etc.?”

This does nothing but isolate fans of other ships away from you, so when we need support or someone to stick up with us, who the hell would? You insulted another’s ship for no reason!

Fandom and shipping is supposed to be friendly, a way to meet nice people, see fantastic “what if” art, read interesting stories, and be a unified of a mutual thing we love. Don’t turn it into a war zone.

A quote by my grandfather can fit this best:

“It takes way more effort to look for a fight and engage in it, than to continue your day without problems.”

Meta on Michael Burnham and James Kirk

After seeing the first two episodes of Star Trek Discovery and watching how Michael Burnham unwittingly helped bring about the very war she was trying to prevent I couldn’t help but think “There but for Khan, goes James T Kirk.”

The parallels between Michael Burnham’s actions and Kirk’s actions are quite strong. Where they differ is in their reasons and in their outcomes.

In many ways Burnham and Kirk’s backgrounds are also similar and that is where we need to begin. Both of them lost their parents to attacks by the Federations’ enemies, Michael lost both her parents to a Klingon bombing of Doctari Alpha. But then she was taken in as a foster child by Sarek and Amanda. Jim on the other hand lost his father at birth to the Romulan Nero and the attack of the Narada. His childhood after that was much darker than Michael’s. In canon we only have that one scene from the 2009 movie but it is illuminating. First that Kirk’s mother is off planet.

“You get one scratch on that car and I’m going to whip your ass … ”

Second that the man on the phone (Frank he’s called in a deleted clip) threatens Kirk with abuse. Third Kirk drives that car off a cliff into a huge mining pit, only jumping out at the last minute. No ten-year-old child attempts to commit suicide, last minute change of heart or not unless there is a serious and dangerous level of abuse going on at home. And for Winona Kirk to be completely unaware of this is signs of a very distant and absent parent. All of this led to Jim Kirk being a “genius level repeat offender” by the age of 22.

Then Michael and Kirk enter Starfleet. Both of them gain parental figures and mentors there; Captain Georgiou for Michael and Captain, later Admiral Pike for Kirk. It is where they face their greatest fears, that of losing those that they love that their two parallel lives collide.

Michael acted in fear and advocated striking first against the Klingons because that is what worked for the Vulcans. Captain Georgiou thought that it was the Vulcan part of her that was in control here but it was actually the human part. She was faced with her greatest fear, losing her new family to the same enemy that had killed her first one. She said it over and over again.

“I’m trying to protect you.”

When Georgiou wouldn’t listen to her, she mutinied.

“You want to know how I turned on you? I believed saving you and the crew was more important than Starfleet’s principles. Was it logical? Emotional? I don’t know.”

It is after the battle when Georgiou is planning a Kamikaze attack on the Klingon sarcophagus ship that Michael intervenes with another plan. Killing T’Kuvma would make him a martyr, a rallying point for the Klingons. Capturing him alive would shame them and give them a bargaining point as leverage. The plan backfires horribly and everything that Michael feared came to pass because of her. Captain Georgiou was killed by T’Kuvma and in revenge Michael killed T’Kuvma thereby making him the martyr. Her fear and her actions cost her everything but her life.

Kirk on the other hand has already lost his Captaincy and his ship and crew due to his violation of the Prime Directive when Khan attacks the Daystom Conference. Pike’s death sends Kirk careening out of control as much as Michael’s fear did her.

Kirk went to Marcus and practically begged to go after “John Harrison” and kill him. He did so knowing that he was violating not only Starfleet regulations but also Federation law as the Federation Charter explicitly forbade the interference in the internal affairs of a sovereign state. He also knew that if he got caught war between the Federation and the Klingon Empire would be the result.

Fortunately for all parties involved Spock was able to talk Kirk down off that ledge, much as Captain Georgiou tried to do for Michael. The difference is that Michael’s “family” was still in harm’s way from the Klingons while Kirk knew that “John Harrison” was hiding on Qo’noS.

“He’s got to be hiding there, sir! He knows if we even go near Klingon space, it’d be all-out war. Starfleet can’t go after him, but I can. Please, sir.”

There is no mention in any of Kirk’s speeches about “John Harrison” being any kind of threat to either Starfleet or the Federation. It’s all about Pike.

Now he does change kill to capture thus derailing Marcus’ original plans somewhat. But then he leads his ship into Klingon territory and his away team to Qo’noS to capture Khan and by so doing he puts his crew in danger and almost brings about the destruction of everyone he loves. Just as Michael did when she talked Captain Georgiou into boarding the Klingon vessel to capture T’Kuvma albeit for somewhat different reasons. And this is where their parallel lines diverge. Michael’s path led into dishonour and the death of the one she was most trying to protect. Kirk’s lead into redemption and heroism, all because of the actions of Khan Noonien Singh.

Because it is Khan who saves the lives of Kirk and his away team and by extension Kirk’s ship and crew and ultimately prevents the war that Marcus wanted.

Without Khan’s timely intervention on Qo’noS, Kirk, Spock and Uhura at the very least (we don’t know the fate of the two red shirts) would have been captured, tortured and then executed …

I knew what awaited them on Qo’noS, degradation, torture, slow public death.”

 … the Enterprise would have been discovered and probably destroyed, the Klingons would have declared war on the Federation, Marcus would have lived to enjoy the fruits of his treachery and all of those deaths would have been laid at Jim Kirk’s doorstep or tombstone in this case.

If Marcus’ plan had worked Kirk would have been branded a rogue captain, blinded by the pain at the loss of his mentor, who mutinied and went off on his own mission of revenge and struck first thereby bringing the Klingons into war just like Michael Burnham is held to have done in the original timeline. Kirk’s unthinking recklessness and pain and loss led him to blunder blindly straight into Marcus’s trap. One of the greatest acts of ironies in the movie is that it was the actions of the very man he originally sent out to destroy who prevented the destruction of everything and everyone he held dear and saved him from death or utter ruin.

anonymous asked:

Okay shit you love Steve? Like fuck yes, my baby. Buff Steve or preserum!steve? What's with Stucky? Steggy? Steve×Peggy×Bucky? Which uniform? Stony? I have so many questions xD please ignore me if you don't want to get into a lengthy discussion about my punkrock baby fighter. And like Chris Evans? What about Chris? Like do you love him as much as Stevie? Sexuality headcanons? Ugh, I need someone to talk xD okay bye -TJ

((OOC: Right sit down because it’s story time motherfuckers. 

Its impossible to pick between preserum and buff Steve, I love them both although in very different ways. 
I ship both Stucky and Steggy (because Steve is bisexual af lets just face it, Straight men don’t look at each other like this:

In my personal head cannon Bucky is the one great love of Steves life. He protected him, provided for him, loved him and in return Steve loved him back. Obviously it wasn’t accepted back then so they both hid it from the rest of the world. Bucky dated too much to compensate but it was always Steve that he cuddled up to at the end of the night.

The the war came and everything went to shit… Enter the second gorgeous brunette: Peggy Carter. She filled the hole that Bucky left and allowed Steve a chance to be happy again. Bucky coming back didn’t change the way he felt about Peggy (I imagine this being vaguely similar to the fact that Sirius’ return didn’t change the way Remus felt about Tonks) and in my head Bucky and to accept that Steve wasn’t the same person and most importantly wasn’t His any more (*cries forever*)  

Bucky’s ‘death’ changes Steve’s perspective on everything and he goes from ‘I don’t want to kill anyone’ to ‘I’m not going to stop till all of Hydra is dead or captured’…. Skip forward 70 years and Steve has Bucky back but by this point they are two entirely different, broken people… cue years of learning to love and allowing themselves to be healed by the other all over again. 

I go through phases of shipping Stony however thats a relationship that in my head is purely physical rather than emotional. They are the antithesis of each other and while constant arguing wouldn’t work in a relationship it definitely makes for pretty great sex. 

also yES I also love Chris Evans 

Bloody hell that was long winded, I’m so sorry XD I just want to point out though that these are just my own personal views and I’m well aware that people have completely different views)) 

All this Star Wars discussion reminds me of an idea I had for a Star Wars d20 campaign that I had a long time ago, but the campaign idea never got off the ground.

The summary was this: Just prior to the beginning of the Clone Wars, a Chu’unthor, “Academy” class ship, a vessel designed to be an ambulatory Jedi Praxeum. where students could be trained and rest at a distance from the temple on Coruscant.

(Chu’unthor below, Star Destroyer on top.)

Now, the Chu’unthor goes into deep space, maybe as part of an expedition into the unknown regions, like project Outbound Flight, or they get pulled in by some anomaly. Either way, they have to journey ten years to get back into Republic Space.

Only when they get back, it’s the Empire who’s waiting for them. The protagonists, young Jedi and travelers who grew up on the ship, or hitched a ride, or are diplomats from a distant world, find themselves in hostile territory.From that point on, they have to decide to flee back into uncharted space, fight against the Empire, or go their own separate ways in a galaxy very different than the one they left.

It was intended to feel like a crossover of Star Wars and the reimagined Battlestar Galactica, with the Chu’unthor being a besieged refuge with the enemy in pursuit. If the Jedi had elected to fight, I’d have encouraged them to turn it into an early Rebel flagship, and using it as a refuge for Force Users persecuted by the Empire. That way, alternative ideals and beliefs on the Force could mix into an already interesting melting pot of culture, like the Dathormir witches, the Baran Do, Matukai, and more.

Given the chance, I’d still love to play or host such a game.

anonymous asked:

Okay but what would have happened if Maglor had gone 'Fuck this, Caranthir you're in charge until I get back and if I find anyone followed me I'll toss them tied up into Angband myself.' then gone and rescued Maedhros himself, by himself?

  • A Maglor that actually has the strength of character to know a course of action is right and then commit to it would make different choices throughout the story - at the very least he tells Maedhros to fuck off with his plan to steal from the host of the West. 
  • No eagles
  • I don’t get all weepy and emotional about amputation 
  • seriously how dare you take the defining moment of my ship from me.
  • Celegorm throws a shitfit and, with Curufin’s help, undermines Caranthir and seizes the regency. If Maglor and Maedhros return (unlikely) it is to a three-way civil war.