Don't know if this has been answered, but will there be a chapter on when Oliver and Felicity first learned about Ellie's sexuality? I'm obviously assuming that they're okay with it because they're amazing people, but did they ever fall into that heteronormative ideal and think about Ellie and her future with a husband until they learned?
God that’s a good question. First off, they both take Ellie’s sexuality in stride. They’d both seen the truth of that well before she was ready to discuss it and they’d had plenty of time to get used to the idea. Did they fall into heteronormative daydreams about her future… probably, when she was little. I think most parents do.
I’m kinda weird that way because I’ve never done that with my kids. I tend to forget that most people do. My husband and I have always talked with the kids interchangeably about a possible eventual husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend. I don’t think I’ve ever just assumed one of them was straight. I find that kind of silly, really, without some reason to think that. But, I’m not most people on that front and I know it. So… probably Oliver and Felicity do have those assumptions, at least a little.
But… but Ellie’s so obviously in love with Sara. I think it went from being perceived as a cute kind of hero-worship of an older best friend to an ‘oh… OH… that’s not what this is at all’ realization by middle school at latest. Add to that that Ellie never once expresses an interest in boys and it’s pretty obvious to her parents.
I don’t have planned to write any kind of conversation when it dawns on them that she’s gay. I guess I could. It would be a challenge to think about that from their perspective, either before or after it’s confirmed in the oneshot where Sara goes to prom. I’ll think about that. It’s a tempting idea, anon, and rough shoes for me to step into writing-wise. I’m straight, but I’m also someone who’s always made it clear to my kids that whatever their gender preference, the only way it matters to me is the extent to which it impacts the challenges in their lives. I’m more interested in watching them discover who they are than dictating to them who I think they should be. On the flip side, I watched my parents struggle through counseling and depression and blaming themselves after my brother came out when he was in high school. Oliver and Felicity would be somewhere in the middle and I don’t immediately know what that looks like. But it definitely is worth thinking about.