Really quick: do you have any ideas for how a male writer (me) could describe a female character's breasts without being gross or offensive? I'm writing for a team of witches, and four of the five are flat, but one is very well-endowed thanks to magic alteration of her body (she's kind of a nympho). How can I convey that part of her to the audience without it sounding all pervy and weird?
As usual, I am no expert in either writing nor the portrayal of women in fiction, so take all of this with a HUGE grain of salt.
Okay, so in general I find it hard to describe that kind of feature without veering into perv zone. Especially in the “she has big breasts and she likes sex” vibe because that’s an old stereotype that can be extremely demeaning and dismissive. So for starters, I would advise you to make sure there is more to your character than “nympho with big breasts” before going ahead, otherwise it will not work. (Also, describing your character as a nympho is already kind of objectifying/shaming, so you may want to rework that part first)
(Also, having a whole plot point around big breasts is pretty iffy in general, so you may want to reconsider before going ahead)
The two main elements that give of perv vibes are 1) A sense of voyeurism and 2) Objectifying, so here are a few things to avoid for sure:
1) Avoid lingering on the first go. If you think of your descriptions are the protagonists/readers eye, it becomes much easier to direct them to the important part. Consequently, if you spend a whole paragraph on “wow, big breasts!” and “she’s so skinny, but has such big breasts!!!!” “BREASTS!!!!!!!!” it will be pervy for sure.
2) Don’t keep coming back to them. Don’t specify that each outfit reveals her “generous cleavage”. Don’t have her “large breast bounce” when she stumbles. Don’t have every single new character comment on her cleavage.
3)Have her be the “large breasted one”. She is a person, there is more than that to her.
Then, the main issue will be bringing that up in a way that feels organic. There are many ways for them to do it, but the important thing is that the central issue cannot be about “wow, them breasts!!!!! *µ*”.
How men react to her in ways she doesn’t want, how she asserts her self-agency, how her body works for her/is an asset to manipulate. Someone tries to shame her, how does she react? Some man makes unwanted advances on the premise that she uses appearance magic so she must automatically “be up for it”, what happens?
The point being: if she used that spell, she did it for herself. It is a choice she made, and one that is interesting to explore. (Think of breasts implants, and how controversial they can be today). Your character and her appearance are not sex objects, and it’s important that you never loose sight of that.
so today i played about 4-5 matches in a row as mercy and i had the same team (for the most part) for 3 of those 5 matches. we won the first 2 matches and i got potg for both, then the teams reshuffled and my ex-teammates all complained in the chat about losing me and one person even literally left bc they refused to play against me and if that’s not #goals as a mercy main idk what is
How do you think the paladins, Allura, and Coran would react to finding out their s/o can tap dance?
Man dancing is so rad. I wish I could dance like at all. Being talented must be nice.
-Hes a bit taken back, he prides himself on being very informed on all things, but curious to see their skills
-He probably knows famous tap dance routines, things from movies and such, and asks them if they know how to do that
-He mostly just finds it adorable and he hopes that they enjoy it. He hopes they werent forced into learning like he was with ballroom dancing
-Omg no he didn’t just admit his mother made him take ballroom dancing …. these things never leave the privacy of their bedroom
-Hes is mostly just confused
-One he wants to know how this topic even got brought up and two he wants to know the point in learning something like that
-He is a very practical person so he just doesn’t understand the concept of learning something that isn’t directly related to helping you survive or w/e
-Yet still … he wants to see them perform. He has heard of tap dancing but he doesn’t think that hes ever seen it
-He finds it cute how into it they can get but the noise … he can’t stand it. So then s/o of course has to use it to their advantage whenever they need to annoy him. Lance also finds this hilarious and wants to learn how to tap dance to achieve the same effect
-The way she finds out is actually kind of funny. She gets slightly irritated when s/o is tapping their foot while she is trying to work so she tells them that they should just pick up tap dancing if they want to make so much noise
-S/o is petty and tap dances out of the room
-She has so many questions about this but isn’t sure where to start. Her main question is why? Tap dancing seems like such a old school style she wasn’t even aware that it was around any more
-Its not something that really effects her every day life so she doesn’t think about it too often but she does smile any time she hears s/o tapping their foot now
-He is HYPE
-He wants a TALENT SHOW and he wants PRIZES and he wants this cause he knows that together they can WIN
-They would totally do a cute dance routine together cause Lance is surprisingly a good dancer and quickly picks up the steps
-He acts as if its all for the sake of the joke but really its all some elaborate ruse to spend more time with s/o
-S/o figures this out pretty quickly but doesn’t mind and deliberately messes up just so that practices take a little bit longer
-Just when he thought that s/o couldnt get any more cute he finds this out and !!! why are they so adorable!!
-He wants to know everything about why they chose this and when they started and if they have ever performed and just a billion questions
-He just loves knowing everything about his s/o so he looks forward to listening to everything and wants to see them perform
-She isn’t sure what tap dancing is but is sure it is a very difficult task and is very proud of them
-Once she sees what it is she is mesmerized and intrigued
-She wants to learn how to tap dance too! Its such a unique form of dance and like nothing that she is use to
-She isn’t very good at it, she actually has two left feet when it comes to dancing, but s/o thinks she is super cute and is more than willing to help her out
-Anything that his s/o does is the best thing in the entire universe and he is sure that this is no exception
-And surprise! He was right and he gushes over their talent and absolutely wonderful sense of timing and rhythm
-He wants to watch them all day and wants to show it off to anyone who is willing to watch. It gets to the point where s/o is tired and everyone else hears tap dancing in their nightmares
-He on the other hand never gets tired of it and just finds it to be so pure and innocent and he is so lucky to be able to experience this piece of Earth culture with his s/o
that auditory processing feel when someone pronounces words differently than ur used to and ur ability to guess what they’re saying is off and u feel so embarrassed because they’re fine it’s your auditory processing that’s terrible and ur so close to catching the gist of what they’re saying but it’s just out of reach