I've been seeing this really amazing guy for about a month now and we wanted it to be exclusive but we arent bf and gf yet but i went out and screwed it all up because i totally went out with a friend and we ended up fooling around. Idk why i did it and i regret it so much. I feel like a terrible, discusting person and i feel so so bad. Every time something good happens in my life, i go and mess it up. Idk if i should tell him that i kind of screwed him over and lied to him... (pt 1)
I dont know whether to tell him and risk him not trusting me ever again, him hating me or him just totally ignoring me or if i should just ignore it completely. I know 100% that i will never do it again because it made me realize how much i truly like him. I just feel so guilty and so damn stupid and i dont know what to do (pt2) pls help
Yikes. I mean you basically have two options here -
Option 1: Easiest now, harder later. The first would be not to tell him. This doesn’t set up a great standard of communication in the relationship, and even though you guys aren’t committed so imo you didn’t technically do anything wrong, the fact that you’re stressing out enough to send this tells me that it could still be a problem later down the line, especially if he finds out.
Option 2: Best in the long run. You could also just come clean. Tell him that you were scared to tell him because you didn’t want to lose him and that you made a mistake (even though you guys aren’t technically dating). This risks the possibility of losing him, but sets up a good standard of honesty and trust in the relationship if it continues. I honestly would prefer my partner to choose this if I were in his situation. Even though he could leave you, I don’t think there’s much good in setting up a relationship based on lies. You made the choice, and I think this is your best option if you want things to work out long-term w this guy.