this is so haram

I rmr in elementary school I thought I had a crush on someone bc like that’s what kids do ?? and then I had a moment of panic and felt rly guilty bc I was like “what if having a crush is haram???” so I asked my mom if liking someone was haram and she told me “pyaar hai na? pyaar kabhi b haram nahi hota hai” (basically love is never haram)

and so now when I think about all of the ways that people are made to feel ashamed of who they love, I think of that moment. love? love can never be haram.

[Al-Mujib/The Ever Responsive/One who answers all]
“Surely my Lord is near, responsive to the prayers.” ‎﴾‬‎11.61﴿‬‎
A believer is taught that Allah is very close to him and ready to answer his prayers. “And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me.” ‎﴾‬‎2.186﴿‬
He listens to the prayers of the righteous. “And He answers [the supplication of] those who have believed and done righteous deeds and increases [for] them from His bounty.” ‎﴾42.26‬‎﴿‬
On the other hand, the disobedient man should not expect his prayer to be answered. The Prophet ‎ﷺ‎‬ mentioned [the case] of a man who, having journeyed far, is disheveled and dusty, and who spreads out his hands to the sky saying “O Lord! O Lord!,” while his food is haram (unlawful), his drink is haram, his clothing is haram, and he has been nourished with haram, so how can [his supplication] be answered? [Muslim]
Allah listens to man’s cry to agony and relieves his suffering. The Qur'ān directs the Prophet ‎ﷺ‎‬‎ to pose this challenging question to the unbelievers: “Is He [not best] who responds to the desperate one when he calls upon Him and removes evil and makes you inheritors of the earth?"‎‎﴾‬27.62﴿‬ Our belief in Allah’s nearness and responsiveness should make us all the more obedient and faithful to Him. Moreover, the above divine name should infuse more conviction and sincerity into our prayers to Allah. We should have the conviction that He will respond to our prayer in the way which suits us best.

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anonymous asked:

What advice would you give a college aged lesbian who's considering converting to Islam? It all feels so overwhelming and I don't know where to even start, not to mention I don't want to offend anyone.

Get to know Islam, read the Qur'an, learn what Islam is all about.

Remember that everyone has different interpretations and one line in the Qur'an can be perceived in hundreds of different ways by different people so I suggest you read it yourself and try to understand the religion yourself and find out what it means to you. Especially as a lesbian, you’ll hear so many people tell you that being gay is unlawful/haram because of some allegory they supposedly read in the Qur'an when in fact it’s just their homophobic and bigoted interpretations that deducted it in that way.

If you do decide to convert, what you should always keep in mind is you shouldn’t dress in a certain way or celebrate a certain thing because you want to be recognized as a Muslim by other people, you should do it because of your love for God. Islam is not about praying 5 times a day/wearing a hijab/etc, Islam is about your relationship with Allah SWT

All in all, Im wishing you the best of luck, you have my support! ❤️

Here are some pretty great posts filled with resources and tips that could help: 

lmao these insta skam fans are so fucking gross they’re literally asking adam if he’s a haram child like do these folk even know what the fuck that means?

they literally asked adam if he was a bastard child.

just bc you learn like 2 new arabic words don’t mean you start spouting them everywhere and anywhere and think ur some Arabic Expert™ fuck outta here.

Ramadhan bersama Istri part.1

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Preeet ah,

Ramadhan hari pertama.

Ngomong-ngomong soal ramadhan, aink ada cerita. Ceritanya tentang menjaga diri dari hal yang diharamkan ketika bulan ramadhan. So, last year a had a gf. Meskipun pacaran statusnya jelas haram, apa daya lah aink yang cuma remah-remah kripik pisang ini.

Mendekati ramadhan, aink bilang “yuk break dulu, kita ibadah masing-masing”. Niat aink sih selain menstabilkan emosi (yang waktu itu naik turun banget) aink pengen ramadhan kemarin bener-bener maksimal ibadahnya. Jadi ga pengen dulu lah ada chatting sama pacar, flirting, ato bahkan buka bareng pacar dan taraweh bareng. Sekilas tampak seperti ibadah bersama, padahal,…

Well, the thing is,..
she didn’t like the idea


We got a big misunderstanding, and got separated. Few days before ramadhan.

Ga misunderstanding juga sih, tapi lebih ke beda pemahaman agama. Pola pikir kita ga sepaham dan hal itu lebih dari cukup sebagai alasan untuk berpisah.

Beberapa bulan setelah pisah itu, aink dapet kesempatan buat ketemu seorang akhwat yang wonderpul. Ga lama setelah kenal, aink langsung suka banget trus ngajakin nikah (seriously). Yang mana dijawab dengan iya.

Yay!

Ternyata mengupayakan menikah tidak segampang kata ustad. Tapi ga sesusah kata orang-orang yang ga beneran niat.

Beneran,
susah banget tapi bisa

Menjelang pergantian tahun 2016 ke 2017 aink ama si akhwat yang statusnya pacar baru dan calon istri (belum sah) ini ngebahas banyak hal. Termasuk ngebahas  soal ramadhan dan target nikah. Dulu pas awal jadian aink bilang target nikah aink adalah sebelum ramadhan tahun 2017.

Ketika ngobrol berdua kayak gitu, rencana pernikahan kita masih belum fix karena satu dan lain hal,. Lalu, aink mengutarakan hal yang sama dengan yang aink bilang ke mantan.

“ntar pas ramadhan, kalo masih belum sah kita break dulu ya”

Nekat sih sebenernya, tapi aink mesti bilang. Selain biar nikahnya jadi ada target aink mau nekenin sikap aink soal ramadhan. Sempet takut si calon ini akan berakhir seperti mantan. Tapi ternyata engga

“ayok”, dia bilang (ato iya, ato oke, ato apa gitu aink lupa tapi intinya dia setuju)


Dia nge-iya-in. Dari sejak saat itu aink uda bisa ngenilai dari sekian banyak perbedaan, seenggaknya pandangan kita soal agama itu sama. Sepaham. Hal itu yang bikin aink makin mantap untuk lanjut ke jenjang pernikahan.

Kata nabi, wanita dipilih dari empat hal dan yang paling penting adalah dari segi agamanya. Disini aink ga bicara soal apa dia uda hafal sekian juz atau serajin apa ibadahnya. Tapi lebih ke cara dia memaknai agama yang dia anut seperti apa lalu gimana respon dia terhadap perintah Allah dan contoh dari Rasul.

Setelah menikah dan menghadapi banyak (ga banyak sih, namanya juga newbie) hal aink jadi semakin bersyukur. Aink dan istri (yang sekarang uda sah) sepakat tentang hal-hal prinsipil dalam islam.

Kalo aja kita punya perbedaan paham dalam beribadah sesuai tuntunan Islam pasti repot. Banget. Debat ini itu. Hal hal kecil selain paham beragama masih bisa lah didiskusikan, tapi kan prinsip hidup ga demikian.


dalam rumah tangga, suami jadi kapten kapal dengan istri sebagai navigator (merangkap koki serta ketua departemen kebersihan, kesehatan dan keuangan)

^^


Buat aink, awal ramadhan akan selalu identik dengan perubahan.

Perubahan status ketika melepas mantan dan pertemuan dengan seseorang yang nantinya bersatu dalam pernikahan.

Perubahan status ketika melepas masa lajang dan men-sahkan dirinya dalam ikatan pernikahan.

[..] I am an Ezidi girl. My real age is 18 years old. […] I was 15 years old when Daesh attacked my village. They killed all the men of my village including my brother, my father, other relatives, young and old. They then took us to another place and they separated us between older and younger women. They killed the older women, they divided the younger girls among themselves and we were then traded on the slave trade market. I, myself, was sold 4 times by Daesh, and every single time I was sold, I tried to escape but was captured again and tortured and beat. One of them who was responsible for making explosive devices forced me to help him in the construction of bombs. The last Daesh who bought me was an Iraqi Doctor called Dr. Islam. He was the director of the Hawija hospital. He tortured me and the other Ezidis immensely. He would even rape girls who were only 9 or 10 years old.

My childhood friend Katrin, I and Alma, a 9 year old girl were held and raped by him. The three of us  could escape from him but before we managed to arrive to safety, Katrin walked on a landmine that exploded under us. Katrin‘s screams were the very last thing that reached my ears.  When I woke up, I realized I had lost the sight of both my eyes. My body was burning and I did not believe that I would ever be able to open my eyes again.

I was then helped to travel from Iraq to Germany where I was medically treated. I am now able to see through one eye. I cannot think of myself alone. I believe God helped me so that I can be a voice for the victims. […] I too have vowed to become a voice for the voiceless. The Ezidis have been victims of extremism, violence and terrorism. They have lost their lives. But I firmly ask you and urge you to promise us that never again we will allow these kind of things to happen. That you will listen to the helpless so that justice will be done and so that the criminals can be held accountable. It‘s been two and a half years now since the tragedy that affected the Ezidi people. There are still more than 3500 of our girls and women and children in the hands of Daesh. They wish for their own death everyday. And Until the bones of our dead remain untouched in the mass graves, they will find no peace. Ezidi people are of no value in Iraq, whether dead or alive.

My village was very beautiful. It has been around Arab villages for hundreds of years. I remember, when our Arab Muslim neighbours visited us, they wouldn‘t eat the meat in our house because they said it was haram for them. We respected their religion so my father would ask our Muslim guests to slaughter the animal themselves to make it halal for them to eat the meat. But when the Islamic State arrived and attacked us, it was those neighbours that we respected, who before everyone else attacked us and killed our men and enslaved our women. As a result of this we have lost the social order in our own society and we have lost trust with these countries because they don’t treat us Ezidis as equal to other citizens.
Today we need Europe so that we can build up our country and experience again peace in our society. These criminals must be brought to justice and held to account. Ezidis and Christians need international protection. Both women and children are in need of programmes to escape that country, and in order to forget what has been done to them. Dear guests, I would like to thank you very much again for this prize. I stand here before you and I would like to accept this prize on behalf of all the women and girls and children who are now still living in camps in Kurdistan under appalling conditions. I very much hope that all of you will help us as well. […]

— 

Lamiya Aji Bashar

Ezidi activist and survivor of sexual violence and enslavement by IS, receiving the 2016 Sakharov Prize by the European Parlament

anonymous asked:

What is the whole picture of homosexuality when the Quran says: 7:81: You lust after men rather than women! You transgress all bounds! Is there more to this? Your thoughts on this would be much appreciated

1. The Quran says that qaum Lut have wives, why would they have wives if they were gay?

2. It doesn’t talk about men within the same tribe having sex with each other, it talks about men raping other men from other tribes. The stories behind it mentioned by historians and scholars are quite a few, most prominent of which say it started because they had a drought and wanted to protect what little land they had left so when anyone passed through they would rape the men to traumatise them and steal their belongings and with that they developed a reputation. The verses don’t say you approach each other, they don’t say you have sex with other, they say with the men, other verses clarify that these men are foreign to the tribe. That’s why Lut married one of them, because he was sent to them and he didn’t want to be considered an outsider. 

3. The Quran doesn’t talk about being gay anywhere else, and here it talks about married men raping people from other tribes. How do you take that concept in that context and generalise it to cross out being gay?

4. The hadiths on the matter have been almost entirely shown to be weak.

5. The general notion of Islam is that everything is halal until proven haram clearly by verse or decent hadith.

6. These ideas of gender identity were never really established in the East before colonialism, and in the west before the 18th/19th century. The very idea of imposing them on Islam is the working of colonised minds.

7. There was only the question of whether anal sex is haram. Never men or women being attracted to men or women. The question included women/men relations.

8. Sex change is allowed in Islam, if the notion is that of natural and unnatural, in what way is sex change manufactured in a surgical room “natural”, yet they’re allowed. 

9. What is haram in Islam is not haram just so that it could be haram, its haram for a purpose. premarital sex was made haram so that lineages don’t mix, marriage was instituted as sacred for that same reason. For gay people, lineages from each other are not  really a thing, therefore marriage for them is neither necessary nor sacred. Not my words of course, this is how fiqh works.

Muslims talk about this all the time, marginalise LGBTQ people in their communities thinking they’re doing what God wants. How many studies have they done on the matter? On gender and sexuality? How much science stands behind these “natural” and “unnatural” claims?

More importantly is realising that this conversation is entirely pointless, because what do you think you’re doing? The LGBTQ communities around the world are some of the most educated and politically/socially aware and active people on the planet. Do you think you’re going to [not the anon, generally] stand in their face with a fatwa and say “oh no you’re doing it all wrong please the women find yourself a penis, men fetch a vagina and marry it thank you very much”? You have literally no say in this, the worst you can do is make Muslim LGBTQ people’s lives harder, and if you’re lucky you’ll manage to convince some of them to stop being Muslim. Unfortunately for you though, they’re also quite intelligent and have looked through their religion and wrote very interesting things on the nonsense of patriarchy and its monopoly on “naturalness”. 

Straight people have straight people privilege. We look at LGBTQ people like the bourgeoisie looks at the working and peasant classes. “Why can’t they be like us? They did this to themselves. They should fight it. They made the choice.”  Yeah because people usually make the choice to be oppressed.Your narrative is like that of ISIS who chucks gay men off the top of buildings. Because if you accept the weak hadith that talk of it (whatever it in the hadith is) then you must accept that equally as weak ones that dehumanise them and make them worthy of being chucked off buildings. So you become ISIS, at least at heart.

anonymous asked:

Brother I understand that you answered that question as best you could, no one should be shaming you because you are offering advice that you could have easily ignored. However I would just say that to just mention how women may backbite was insensitive and unnecessary. Imagine all the stigma us sisters face on a daily basis, everyday we have certain brothers telling us what we should and should not be doing whilst they engage in haram activities. (1)

Continued: So imagine when someone asks you about porn addiction that has nothing to do with women backbiting, and even then we are bought into it, I’m sure as an understanding brother you can see. Tomorrow if someone has a problem yet I say “Don’t worry it’s less of a sin as millions of Muslims especially men, don’t grow their beards to the proper length, you are no worse than them”, look how insensitive that seems. I hope I have not offended you brother, it is our duty to guide with kindness and openess

Thank you for your kindly phrased message. I understand what you are saying, and I’m sure you are right when you say you have suffered unjust criticism.

I have never considered women a class, like feminists imagine, separate from men. I consider them humans, my equals, and hold them to the same standards. I don’t walk on eggshells when I discuss men’s problems, and I will not start walking on eggshells when discussing women’s problem’s.

I consider you my equal, and that means we both should be free to speak our minds. You shouldn’t be silenced if you have a truth to speak just because it may hurt some men’s feelings, and I shouldn’t be silenced if I have a truth to speak just because it may hurt some women’s feelings.

It is certainly good manners to not bring up negative facts about someone in ordinary daily interactions. You do not call an overweight person fat even if it is true. 

But if I’m trying to solve a technical problem, I expect people to put their feelings aside, to sit down like adults and to discuss the problem rationally, and that is what I was doing in my answer.

If I’m doing a scientific study on finding ways to reduce backbiting among women, would you call it insensitive? I’m sure many would, that it is somehow oppressive and unjust to focus on females, that if I discover a method that works well in preventing females from backbiting, I should shove it under the carpet in case some woman’s feelings is hurt, even if it will do them good in the long-term.

We cannot have progress if we are not allowed to speak our minds freely, if we have random no-go zones where we are not allowed to analyse things in case it hurts this group’s feelings, or that group’s, or that group’s. That’s censorship and regression, that’s not progress.

It is like saying I should not talk about the unhealthy effects of being obese because it will hurt obese people’s feelings. Should we just throw out all obesity-related research in case some obese person comes across it and has their feelings hurt?

I was helping put a mostly-male problem into perspective using a mostly-female problem, as an intellectual exercise. I consider women equals, not superiors and not inferiors, but equals, humans to be treated with the same standards, not to be treated like children, but treated equally, like I would treat any man, and I certainly never worry about hurting men’s feelings when I bring up facts that reflect negatively on them.

If men are unjustly criticizing you, I fully support your right to fire back at them and put them in their place. I defend your right to speak your mind. And I defend my right to speak my mind. We are not enemies, and we are not different species. We are both humans, and we can treat each other as such.

We do not achieve equality by enforcing double-standards where a male speaker is not allowed to say certain things in case it hurts women’s feelings. We achieve equality when no one thinks about their own sexual parts but can consider the problem and its solution rationally, like adults. The speaker says men have a problem with ignoring their wives? Fine, I will try to be a better husband. The speaker says that women have a problem with ignoring their husbands? Instead of getting offended that a person of the opposite sex is pointing out a fault, women can choose to benefit from it, “Fine, I will try to be a better wife.”

This is equality, where I am not forced to treat you like a “woman”, but like a human, and where I do not patronize and belittle you by censoring my speech in case it hurts your fragile feelings, but where I can treat you like I treat any man, expecting you to be intelligent and confident enough to accept it and roll with it.

These are my standards when it comes to public speech. In private interactions, it is good manners to hide people’s faults, to not criticize, and to make them feel good about themselves. But in public, for example if I’m doing a scientific paper studying women’s psychology, I will not sugarcoat my findings just because it may hurt women’s feelings, in this case telling the truth takes precedence over being nice.

And as a nice person, I will never mock an obese person by calling them fat, and i will not let others do it if I can stop them. But I will happily continue researching the eugenics of obesity (how genes affect obesity, and how obesity affects future genes) like I currently do no matter how many obese people are offended by it.

In the same way, I will continue to be frank and straightforward when writing about women, since in my research writing, truth always takes precedence over being nice. But when dealing with women in my personal life, I will always be as kind, gracious and uncritical as is required by good manners, civility and Islam.

anonymous asked:

In islam dating is haram. So what is the best way to get to know our soulmate before getting married? It feels so weird to just marry a man then live with him without knowing anything about him. Is there any dating guidelines in islam?

Assalamu Alaikum,

Dating is haram and yes there are guidelines that we should  follow when seeking a spouse.

“Marriage is not something to throw yourself into all by yourself. Getting the help of someone, especially parents, relatives, an Imam, and/or respected and trustworthy members of the Muslim community to either look for the right spouse or initiate and participate in a communication process is very important.

Involving others, by the way, does not mean signing over your right to say yes or no to a marriage proposal. It simply increases the likelihood of finding out important information about a prospective partner in a way that maintains rules of Islamic modesty (i.e. not meeting alone, see next point).

Getting that third party involved also helps verify if the person you are interested in is decent, honest and respectful. This person(s) often checks out references, asks about the individual’s character and behavior, and looks out for your best interest in general.

This person should be a trustworthy Muslim, since you are seeking a Muslim in marriage, and would want someone familiar with the Islamic way of doing things.

For those blessed with Muslim parents, remember that they are probably your best allies and helpers in seeking the right husband or wife. They have known you all of your life, and have your best interest at heart.

However, parents must be open and attentive to what their children are looking for, and never forget the element of choice. Ultimately, it is their son or daughter who is going to make the final decision. They must never become too pushy or aggressive, whether this pressure is being applied on their own son or daughter, or on the person s/he is interested in.

If parents, other family members, an Imam or members of the community are not available, you can also try seeking a husband or wife through the matrimonial services offered by a number of different Muslim organizations.

Always ask for references

This is also where your “third party” comes in handy. Not only will they be able to be your reference. They can also check out a prospective mate’s references.

A reference can include an Imam who knows the brother who proposed to you, a sister who knows the woman you may want to marry well, a family friend, a boss, a co-worker, and/or business partner.

A note about honesty and references: the people you ask may know something not very nice about your prospective spouse. Remind them that if they reveal this information, they would not be backbiting from the Islamic perspective. In fact, in the case of seeking marriage, complete information should be given about an individual, both good and bad.

The advice of one of the companions of the Prophet, Umar Ibn al-Khattab Radi Allahu Ta’ala Anhu, can help in this regard:

A man came to Umar ibn al-Khattab and spoke in praise of another. Umar asked him: “Are you his nearest neighbor such that you know his goings and his comings?”

“No.”

“Have you been his companion on a journey so that you could see evidence of his good character?”

“No.”

“Have you had dealings with him involving dinars and dirhams [money] which would indicate the piety of the man?”

“No.”

“I think you saw him standing in the mosque muttering the Quran and moving his head up and down?”

“Yes.”

“Go, for you do not know him…”

And to the man in question, Umar said, “Go and bring me someone who knows you.”

(quoted from Islam The Natural Way by Abdul Wahid Hamid, p. 66)

This gives you three types of people you can ask about a prospective mate’s character: a neighbor, business colleague or someone who has traveled with them.

When you meet, don’t be alone

The Prophet said: “Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Shaytan makes a third” (Tirmidhi).

He also advised men: “Not one of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative within the prohibited degrees” (Bukhari, Muslim).

When you speak, be businesslike and to the point.

The purpose of meeting and talking to each other must also remain within Islamic guidelines. That means no flirtatious speech of a sexual nature on either side.

Imam Nur Abdullah says some of the topics discussed can include each other’s interests, financial situation of the man, who is Islamically responsible for providing for his wife and children, and the two potential spouses’ relationship with their parents.

He notes that conversations between potential mates cannot be talking just for the sake of talking. There should be a firm and clear intention of either pursuing engagement and marriage, or, if one of the two or both the man and woman feel they are not compatible, a quick end to the relationship.

This ensures both sides are safe from getting hurt more than they could in this kind of a situation and remain within the bounds of Islam, In shaa Allah.

With regards to questions pertaining to a person’s sexual history (for example, has s/he had a boy/girlfriend, does s/he have any type of sexually transmitted diseases), Imam Nur Abdullah says these things have to be investigated at the very beginning, when the communication for marriage begins. This is not something that should be brought up at the last stage.

Other topics that should also be discussed at the early stages include level of Islamic knowledge and practice, future career and education plans, home making skills and where the couple will live right after marriage and in the future (state and/or country, with in-laws or in their own apartment/home).

The Imam also says the couple can even get a blood test to ensure both are healthy. Some states require this before marriage.

Seeking marriage is something highly recommended in Islam. While looking for a potential mate should be something Muslims help each other with, this cannot be done at the expense of Islamic rules pertaining to modesty and respect between the sexes.

While trying your best, never stop praying to Allah to grant you your wish.”

(taken from islam21c)

Following are the dua’s that you can recite:

1.Perform your obligatory prayer and after every prayer recite this dua you will get a good husband/wife when the time’s come in shaa Allah,

“Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” (Quran 25:74)

2.Rabbi inni lemaa anzalta elayya min khairin faqeer (Chapter 28, verse 24)

My Lord! I am needy of whatever good You Send down for me

So, what you have to do is after you read this verse a number of times; make sure to ask Allah (God) in a way similar to what follows:

 "Oh Allah! You have made every living thing in pairs. The sincere, beautiful and pious pair that you have created for me, please give it to me"

It is recommended that one recites this verse at least 10times and after finishing this dua ask Allah Almighty for a spouse that is kind, beautiful, soft hearted, pious, loving and a gentle soul mate. What you want in your spouse is what you should ask but if you don’t ask for piety or kind heartedness then don’t blame anyone but yourself.

3.”Rabbana aatina fi’d dunya hasana wa fi’l aakhirati hasana wa qina `adhab an-nar.” [O Lord! Grant us good in this life, and good in the next, and save us from the torment of the Fire] (Qur’an, 2: 200). Recite this dua’ with the intention of marriage as it is included in the phrase “fi’d dunya hasana” (good in this life).

4.My Lord, do not leave me alone and You are the best of inheritors. (Surah al-Anbiya` 21:89)

I hope it will be helpful. May Allah guide us all to the straight path.

Ameen

anonymous asked:

Assalaam i wanted to ask for your advise please. Basically, I'm in a relationship with this guy and he's promised to ask my dad for my hand in marriage when we both finish our education. We're both in our final year of university. I know it's haram and I know I'm getting sins, I'm so attached to him and I want to marry him now but I know I can't becoz of studies. What should I do?

وعليكم السلام

Dearest Sister, I pray you and your family are in the best of health & emaan.

The fact that you have acknowledged the problem and feel some type of guilt just shows that you have your head screwed on. You’d be surprised at how many sisters/brothers make excuses for this type of behaviour so may Allāh swt bless you!

Right so, this brother has allegedly promised to propose to you after you both finish your education? There’s two approaches you can take:

1) You say you’re in your third year of Uni which makes you around 21-22 years of age I’m guessing? If you both have the means to get married, then by Allāh, do so. Make it halal as soon as possible. I understand that you’re both studying, but remember Allāh swt will sustain you if you do this for His sake and His sake alone. Rizq is from Allāh but of course, tie your camel, I’m not saying get up and leave everything (your education) but there’s soooo many sisters who get married whilst in University, it’s feasible!

2) Cut this brother off until you find a route to get married. I’m not going to sugar coat it. If he’s serious about you, he would go about it the right way and ask your mahram for your hand in marriage, not string you along with ‘promises’. By Allāh, the amount of stories I hear from sisters who meet a brother who promises to marry them and it ends up in a disaster, it may feel like it’s the 'real thing’ now but you don’t even know what today holds let alone tomorrow!! It may hurt at first but remember if you give something up from the sake of Allāh, He will provide you with better (and you never know, He may even make this situation easier for you).

I want you to think of it like this:
Allāh has written the name of your spouse before you was even born. What is meant for you will reach you even if it is beneath two mountains, and what isn’t meant for you, won’t reach you even if it’s between your lips.

Repent. Repent. Repent. And have patience.

May Allāh swt make this easy for you and keep you steadfast.

All mistakes are from me and all goodness is from Allāh swt.

The Haram memes group on fb is such a mess

So much toxic misogyny and homophobia coming from brown dudes and lmao so many of these dudes are decrying “liberal muslim sjws” and calling people “Triggered snowflakes” and it’s so funny how many of them sound like the alt right

…yikes

So basically, I finally managed to convince my little sister to start reading webtoons. So far she’s read Super Secret, Where Tangents Meet and Sirens Lament (I’m trying to get her to read Noblesse).

So she started reading lookism yesterday and my mum just barged in our room, so she was scared and locked her phone. My mum told her she had to open her phone so she did and it was at that scene where it shows Daniels naked body and she was all like “Wallahi it’s just one part” and my mum was like “You keep seeing these Haram things” and she was so flustered and ended up trying to tell my mum that it was about bullying.

anonymous asked:

Assalamalaikum, sis. I recently started practicing Islam and I'm trying to cut off every source of sin. My friends are really haram and whenever I hangout with them I sin, so I decided to distant myself from them. Now I feel lonely, I know Allah is my friend and the Angels are my friends but I really want practicing Muslim friends, what should I do?

Wa aleikom salaam

First: where are you from? If youre from amsterdam youre always welcome to hang out with me and sisters.

Second: It takes allot of courage and strenght to take a step back from your old friends who carry bad vibes. May allah bless you for this step.

Third: How my network kinda grows is by visiting some mosques and just volunteer there, like cleaning the mosque etc. Ofcourse renew your intention when you do this, volunteer for the sake of Allah. But one of the effects is that you will get to know maaaaaaaany sisters.

Besides that, visit mosques during friday khutba and other days and just do your adkhaar and extra salah there. And you will def find a sister doing the same there. Just talk with eachother tbh. Or just start cleaning the mosque and you will find a sister asking you if you need any help, or you can ask a sister for help.

Why i am saying visit the mosque is bcs you really have to find the kind of friends who spend their time and energy in something good. And the mosque is the best place to be tbh. So search for sisters in good places and you will find good friends.

Idk where you live but i can ask sisters on tumblr if they live near you, you can talk to them and just see how it rolls. If it grows to an friendship thats cool, and if it doesnt thats okay too.

anonymous asked:

I would just get you coffee and walk around the city, or just sit somewhere under a tree and talk about random stuff. Thats not haram :)

So haraaaaaaaaaam