this is regarding to my response to the post

coruscanti-scamp  asked:

Good news: Rebel Force Radio was removed from the podcast stage at Celebration! See @rfrsgreatesthits's latest post.

I saw that there was a schedule update! No official response yet, but looks like they might be heading that way. Though I wonder if they’re slated for the main stage instead?

I just want to point out that this is such a grey area, you know, and there has been a lot of concern regarding censorship in these discussions. My thought on this topic is that I am very much against censorship, and I absolutely believe Rebel Force Radio is entitled to having a podcast and expressing their beliefs. At the same time, Lucasfilm retains the authority to determine who they associate with, and associating with sexist podcasts is absolutely brand-damaging. Especially considering they have been trying, as a company, to be more inclusive of women. Not to mention there were bound to be protests and drama surrounding RFR’s panel if they were kept in the line-up.

I would not like to see Rebel Force Radio disappear from the web for reasons stated above, but I also know that there are a lot of fan sites, podcasts and blogs who would jump at the opportunity to have a slot at Celebration. Groups who are not scornful of women in the fandom.

I think call-out culture in general has gone too far, and is responsible for a degree of the polarization we see in politics these days (people resort to dragging as default, rather than trying to have a discussion or reason with an opposing party’s viewpoint). That being said, it’s important to point out condescending, oppressive rhetoric such as Rebel Force Radio’s commentary, as that kind of thinking perpetuates institutional sexism, and consequently effects the amount of representation of and opportunity for women in fandom, the workplace, and society as a whole. If it had been a first time offense, I would not have been so angry. However, they have repeated these behaviors and shown no remorse for the things they’ve said, and seem entirely indifferent to the inclusion of women in Star Wars and fandom. Thus, I have no pity for them if they’re removed from Celebration.

What’s Going on Over There!?

In response to questions about my earlier post from a C-EXOL in regards to Yixing (Lay) not being able to attend the upcoming Exordium in (insert country name) 2017 tour, I’m going to attempt to give a run down of what’s going on as I understand it. Any citizens of either country please correct me if there are any inaccuracies.

As of Today (yesterday for Korea) the South Korean court officially removed Park Geun-Hye as president…she gone. However, while she was in office (around summer time 2016), S. Korea and the U.S. of A came up with, agreed to creating and executed a THAAD (Terminal High Altitude Area Defense) defense system to protect them against the missile threats that were coming from N. Korea. China was not a fan of the system for they believe “it will enable deep military surveillance that undermines Chinese and Russian security.”

Once S. Korea gave the thumbs up to execute the system, China began restricting all things Hallyu:

Some of the restrictions reportedly outlined in the prohibition are:

  • A ban on Korean organizations filming in Korea
  • A ban on investing in new Korean agencies
  • A ban on Korean idol concerts with over 10,000 audience members
  • A ban on Korean-Chinese collaborative projects
  • A ban on broadcasting dramas with Korean actors

These bans include satellite broadcasts and online video sites. 

Remember when Uncontrollably Fond came out and Suzy and Kim Woo Bin were supposed to go over to China to promote the drama and do a fan meeting but it mysteriously got cancelled like the day before? yeah, this is why. Remember when EXO was supposed to do an Exordium in Shanghai and that abruptly got cancelled too? Yeah, this is why. Remember when Chou Tzu-yu from Twice waived a Taiwan flag on national television and some of y’all ripped her to shreds publicly causing the girl to have a mini nervous breakdown and Twice was banned from Chinese TV as a result!? yeah, China also opposes Taiwan’s independence. Remember when Yixing posted the Chinese flag on IG and dang near all of y’all ripped him to shreds too!?!? yeah….i’m gonna save that rant for another post.

So why are C-EXOLs asking for support for Yixing from international & K-EXOLs? because he is literally banned from any Korean activity!! our dear unicorn can’t be with EXO at this time because of political differences and this applies to any kpop group that has a Chinese member: F(X), Miss A, Super Junior, EXO, etc. etc. Yixing was the face for Lotte Duty free in Korea with EXO but all the Chinese uproar has cancelled that and he has been removed. 

So there you have it folks. It’s always unfortunate and discouraging to read about these things not just in your own country but around the world. Politics is a beast and it feeds on greed, fear and corruption. It’s like Biff Tannen from Back to the Future, like Scar from The Lion King, like Sid from Toy Story. Hopefully you will keep the other innocent citizens of said countries who are now caught in this mess in your thoughts as well.


Understanding Rhysand (and Tamlin): A Post-ACOMAF Reconciliation of Rhys’s Actions Under the Mountain in a Culture of Defeat

In other words, the sequel post to my “Rhysand Defense Post.”

This post is in response to the lovely nonnie who left this message in my inbox. Beware, this is long (but honestly, who is surprised? Not me. And probably not the nonnie haha).

Here was the question: 

Hello, Nonnie!

Aw, yes, this does come up quite a bit, and it can be difficult to reconcile Rhys’s actions in ACOTAR with the version of him in ACOMAF.  I have actually made several posts regarding this if you’d like to check them out (though they were made before ACOMAF came out). The two that immediately come to mind are my “Rhysand Defense Post” and “The Difference between Tamlin and Rhysand: The Man on the Throne and the Man in the Arena - ACOTAR and ACOMAF Excerpt Analysis”

In essence, when examining Rhys’s treatment of Feyre in ACOTAR, I think it’s crucial to remember that Rhys was acting as a trapped leader stuck between a rock and a hard place; he was working within a culture of defeat and was trying to not only survive, but protect both Feyre and his people.  Both Tamlin and Rhys are faced with what to do once Amarantha takes over, and they respond very differently: Tamlin with inaction/paralysis, and Rhys with action. Both of these responses are legitimate and entirely realistic in terms of how war leaders have historically responded to war and defeat. (I actually took an entire course in college that focused on the culture of defeat in times of war, particularly focusing on the Franco-Prussian War, the American Civil War, WWI, and WWII–and trust me, it is amazing how people–and especially leaders–act during these times. It can be ugly, and oftentimes a leader’s choices are very limited in what they can do to help their people.)

Keeping this in mind, we can see that Sarah doesn’t pull her punches in showing the sheer ugliness of war and–even more importantly–what comes after war. What happens when your people are defeated. What happens when a sadistic tyrant rules and displays her torture methods as a way to cow any potential rebels, to sew a culture of fear.

We see the ugliness of a culture of defeat, and how different people react. We see what happens to those who rebel (the High Lords who were killed); we see how conquered people are tormented and treated as animals (the hundreds of fae trapped in the caverns beneath the mountain to hunt each other in the dark); and we see the awful, terrible, horrendous choices that people in power must make.

Because they must make a choice, and there are no good choices.

You either act and hopefully begin a chain of events that could one day lead to your people’s freedom or you do nothing at all. When you do not act in the face of evil, you in turn perpetuate that evil. To not act is to be complicit in evil–and that is part of the reason why Feyre was so upset with Tamlin in ACOMAF when she speaks to the fact that he did not fight for her UtM. Because although he was trying to protect her by being stoic, he wasn’t really protecting her at all. She would have died, and he would have done nothing to stop it. (History doesn’t look kindly upon inaction in these situations–for example, think about how countries who were silent in the face of the Holocaust are viewed though they knew what was happening. Think about the countries who were not only silent, but did nothing as hundreds of thousands of their citizens were forcefully deported to their deaths. Think of the not-directly-affected countries who knew what was happening but did nothing–and yes, there were more that knew early on what was happening than we’d like to acknowledge. Silence–inaction–is truly its own choice, and Sarah is showing in ACOTAR that inaction is its own type of evil, really. We watch as the world goes to hell, thinking that by not acting at all we can at least protect our own people, protect ourselves–but then the wolf comes to your door and it’s too late to act. You have no allies, because everyone else has already been eaten, and in the end your people still die anyway, and all you can do is watch.

That is why Tamlin is so haunted after UtM. He had to watch as Feyre died. He could do nothing because his earlier inaction sealed his doom, and his people’s doom, and Feyre’s doom. This is also why his actions are so extreme in ACOMAF. He is trying to make up for how little he did UtM, but in doing so he smothers Feyre; he takes away her choices, her agency. Granted his power once more, he becomes the extreme protector. Tamlin can’t find a middle ground, but is bouncing between extremes. This is why he has his nightmares; why he is overbearing; why he focuses so much on what he can do to protect Feyre; why he watches in the night in beast form, ready to attack. He is haunted by his choice to not act, but now that he does act in ACOMAF, he goes too far.

Through Tamlin we see that not acting has its own horrors, its own traumas, its own hauntings.

Sarah shows us this: that inaction cannot save Prythian, just as it does not save people in real life. But she takes it one step further: she shows us the horror of what action brings as well.  Because although we would like to say that we should keep the moral high ground in times of war and defeat–that it is more important to do so then than at any other time–sometimes survival and the moral high ground can’t exist hand-in-hand. Leaders in war can have very limited options, and many times they try to choose what they believe is the lesser of two evils. They can’t always consult someone else; it is not always safe to do so. They play a dangerous game, and they try to save as many people as they can.

This is what Sarah shows us through Rhys’s character.

Rhys, whose actions are not savory and are very morally gray. Rhys who is neither the villain nor the hero in ACOTAR, but rather some complex character in between (which, let me tell you, is very realistic. No war commander or leader in history was a saint–they made choices that cost lives and agency and destruction. Such is the ugliness of war and defeat.). Rhys is a realistic war leader, even if the exact situation the fae are trapped in isn’t typical of a true war.

But Rhys is the man in the arena and he knows he is the only one standing between his people and destruction. Half of one of his courts is killed by Amarantha immediately upon her ascension, and time and again he is faced with hard choices that he must make–as he tells Feyre in ACOMAF–very quickly.  He sacrifices the majority of his remaining power to protect Velaris and his people, leaving him very little power to fend off Amarantha.  He sacrifices his body and his mental health by becoming his tormentor’s whore. He is raped and tortured and tormented to the point that the only thing keeping him going is the fact that he is the only one stopping Amarantha from finding his family and his people. He faces public ridicule and hatred; he must pretend that he enjoys his position by wearing the mask of an enemy (which is a tactic that past leaders and heroes have done. E.g., Oskar Schindler, who wore the uniform of a Nazi but saved hundreds of Jewish lives in WWII). But he tries to show mercy when he can (as with the summer fae, Tarquin’s friend who was staging a rebellion). He tries to keep going for 50 years, tries to lure Amarantha into making a fatal decision, tries to lure her into the woods where the Weaver waits. He has tried and tried and tried, and he is about to lose hope.

And then Feyre comes.

This girl, whom he has dreamed of for months, who has given him hope. The girl whom he suspects from their very first meeting is his mate. The girl whom he tries to protect from Amarantha’s claws by trying to scare her away–both by warning her to leave this place (the Spring Court) and by putting on a show that would convince Tamlin to let her go.  But then she shows up UtM anyway, and Rhys is horrified because she is almost certainly doomed. He is going to have to watch as this girl–the girl who might be his mate–will be killed in front of him and he can do nothing to stop it.

But then she proves that she is just as clever as he is, and she strike a bargain with Amarantha. And in that moment–this very important moment–we see the decision that Rhys makes: “I decided, then and there, that I was going to fight. And I would fight dirty, and kill and torture and manipulate, but I was going to fight. If there was a shot of freeing us from Amarantha, you were it.  I thought…I thought the Cauldron had been sending me these dreams to tell me that you would be the one to save us. Save my people.”

Rhys will do whatever it takes to save his people and Feyre, and it is this resolve that culminates in his actions UtM during Feyre’s trials. As I’ve discussed in my Defense Post, Rhys plays a role–he wears a mask–in order to arrange the chess pieces on the board in such a way that he can take out the queen–but he must do all of this without raising suspicion.  

As for his actions concerning Feyre and the dancing, Rhys believed that this was his best option he had in the situation–and in reality, we can see that it killed not only two birds with one stone, but really more like 7 or 8. Not only does this allow him to be near his mate, but it gets him a legitimate reason to both get Feyre out of her cell (where her isolation was wrecking her mind) and to show Amarantha that Feyre is suffering sufficiently to not be given any other torturous variations of her “chores.” The dancing also diverts people from entertaining the possibility that they could be working together against Amarantha. If Rhys is casting Feyre as his harlot, it reaffirms Amarantha’s idea that humans are nothing more than lowly trash–not a possible threat. At the same time, Rhys and Feyre’s relationship appears antagonistic at best. With his actions, Rhys is assuring that no one could possibly guess that they are, in fact, mates. If anyone had found out that bit of information, then everything would have fallen apart.

(On a related note, and as has been discussed on a related post, Rhys also uses this situation to stand up to his abuser. He presents Feyre before Amarantha and her court with a crown on her head, thereby showing his support for her and his belief that she will win. On a more subtle level, it shows his deeper belief that Feyre is his equal: she wears a crown imbued with the symbolism of his court and psychological healing. He does not see Feyre as someone lower than him, even though he pretends he does. To everyone else, the image of Feyre in a crown and the sheer dress is a mockery, but in reality it is a subversion of this exact idea. Feyre is mortal, and is looked down upon–seen as an animal–but just as in the First Trial, Rhys is betting on her. He plays to Amarantha’s tune even as he subverts it.)

Although this decision to have Feyre dance and drink is morally gray, Rhys used the wine as a kindness. It helps Feyre forget the ordeal, which I’m sure he didn’t want to put his mate through in the first place. At the same time, Feyre doesn’t have to maintain a front (which she would not be nearly as good at as Rhys in the current state she was in - she could have given them away). The wine sweeps her away, so it’s easier for her to dance and let go (which she comes to welcome). And Rhys, being protective of her, makes sure she stays with him the majority of the night (or within view). She dances with him or sits on his lap, and those swirls of ink both allow him to know that no one has touched her or taken advantage of her and lets her know the next day that she was safe. It also lets her know that Rhys never took advantage of her either.

Of course, there is also the question of why Rhys didn’t simply ask Feyre to take part in this plan; it would have affirmed her agency. Honestly, this is a great question, especially since we saw how much Rhys values Feyre’s agency in ACOMAF–and we see then that she could play the part quite well (see: the scene in the Court of Nightmares when Feyre plays the harlot).

While I think we can all agree that we would have preferred Feyre knowing Rhys’s plan from the beginning, in terms of plot, suspense, and character arcs this decision might have unhinged the story.  

Let’s take a look.

What were some of the main motivations that Rhys would have to keep Feyre out of the loop?

1) She’s human, and thus her mind is as easy to crack as an eggshell. It is very easy to invade a human mind as a daemati–Rhys explains how Feyre’s thoughts were practically screaming to him because of the lack of barriers around her mind. Unfortunately, Rhys is most likely not the only daemati UtM. If Feyre knew Rhys’s plan to overthrow Amarantha–especially in her vulnerable mental state–it would be a very simple matter for one of Amarantha’s spies or lackeys to find out that Amarantha’s whore isn’t quite as obedient as she thought. Take Rhys out of the equation and Feyre wouldn’t stand a chance–it would be game over for everyone. This in turn ties in with reason #2.

2) Rhys must maintain a front and not raise (even more) suspicion.  He has already raised suspicion multiple times: he made a bargain with Feyre, he stopped her chores, he healed her arm, he disobeyed Amarantha’s order to shatter the summer fae’s mind, and he bet on Feyre in the first task. On top of that, Rhys’s family sided with the humans in the war against Hybern.  Rhys has to tread very carefully with this plan, as everyone is watching him. Even Feyre notices how his actions can spur suspicion; she says as much in his room UtM during the lentils scene. So Rhys must make sure he wears his mask at all times. He can’t risk Feyre seeing beneath it, even when he visits her cell, because if she knows, then others can find out from her. Or someone can overhear, or Feyre could give them away through her reactions to him (he can’t know how good of an actor she really is; he barely knows her, so he must play it safe).

This is why Rhys must play the villain, despite the fact that he feels that bond with her, that he is falling in love with her and thinks she may be his mate.  Just as Tamlin chooses inaction to try to save her, Rhys chooses to wear the villain’s mask to protect her as she completes her challenges. He fights with her from the shadows; he is her ally and on a deeper level, she begins to realize that, even though she can only catch glimpses of his true intentions.

3) Rhys must act like a villain to keep suspicion away, but also to motivate Feyre. This is very important. Feyre acknowledges both in ACOTAR and ACOMAF that Rhys understands her psychologically; he knows what will motivate her.  In ACOMAF, he knows that riling her up by thinking about flirting or sex will make her react/get her mind off of her trauma, but in ACOTAR he knew flirting wouldn’t be enough/be the proper motivation (though he does use that tactic occasionally). Instead, he uses her other key motivator: anger. (In ACOMAF, before the Weaver scene, we have this line from Feyre, acknowledging this tactic: “Anger, this…flirtation, annoyance…He knew those were my crutches.”) It would be anger that she could harness–the only thing that could keep her fear and the rising insanity at bay. Her anger toward him empowered her; it focused her; it is what stopped her from shattering. He could not give her hope through a plan, so he gave her the other major emotion that can motivate a human through hard times: hatred. Between that and her love for Tamlin, Feyre is able to keep herself together. Thus, we can see that Rhys’s actions not only serve to divert suspicion and move the chess pieces on the board, but they also serve to focus Feyre during the months she’s sequestered away in the dark cells UtM, where night and day she can hear the screams of the tortured in that deep darkness.

It is only near the end, the night before the Third Task, that Rhys is able to start taking off that mask. He is able to talk to Feyre as himself, and she realizes that the glimpses she’s seen beyond that mask are real: that Rhys is lonely and tormented as well, and that he has been her ally all along.  Rhys acknowledges that Feyre could turn him in–end at all–but he was just raped by Amarantha after that kiss in the hallway and he needed someone to talk to. He’s been alone, dealt with this all alone for so long, and he just wants to be with his mate: to be without his mask with her for a few minutes.

This leads to 4) Rhys didn’t tell Feyre because he has been used to working alone. He could never rely on others to help him because if they were caught, he’d be compromised as well. For 50 years, he has had no one to confide in; he could not see his family or his friends, and the only people UtM were members from his dark court: the Court of Nightmares. (With the seeming exception of Feyre’s handmaidens, Nuala and Cerridwen.) Used to making decisions unilaterally and in secret, it is no wonder that Rhys is slow to reveal his plans to others, even to Feyre. Feyre is a human, a human that hates him and fears him for the most part; it would be suicide to let her know early on in the plan.

Importantly, we see that this learned behavior of his doesn’t go away immediately in ACOMAF. Because Rhys was used to making plans on his own for so long, there are several times in ACOMAF that he does things without talking to Feyre first (e.g. using Feyre as bait to lure in the Attor). Rightfully so, Feyre is furious with him and hands it to him. And afterwards, we see that he realizes he was wrong for doing what he did–that he deserved Feyre’s anger. He apologizes, and you know what? He learns and he stops doing it.  Unlike Tamlin, who apologizes to Feyre for taking away her agency but continues to do so, Rhys recognizes when he overstepped his boundaries and stops doing it.  He respects Feyre as his equal, and while he makes mistakes, he apologizes for them and tries to change his actions.

He apologizes for UtM as well (e.g., during a training scene: “I’m sorry I didn’t find a way to spare you from what happened Under the Mountain. […] From dying. From wanting to die.”), and tries to explain to Feyre why he did what he did. Some of his reasons are good, and some of them are not–though we can understand why those motivations were there. (For example, while some of what he did was to motivate Tamlin’s anger to strike out at Amarantha, Rhys also admits that it was partially to get back at him for killing Rhys’s mother and sister. Likewise, the kiss in the hallway had multiple motivations, including protecting Feyre from Amarantha [who would have had a bloody field day if she’d discovered Feyre’d been with Tamlin] and his jealousy that Tamlin was not only with Rhys’s (potential) mate, but had also not used that one opportunity to get Feyre out.)

As I’ve discussed in my other analyses, all of this culminates in the final battle with Amarantha, where we see that Rhysand is not the enemy, but the friend. (Not Rhysand, but Rhys.) And this is yet another reason why Rhys’s characterization and decisions over the course of ACOTAR are so important: because it sets up this wonderful reveal–the unmasking. This is where the heart of this tale–Beauty and the Beast–truly comes into play.

Because it is not only Tamlin who wears the mask, but also Rhys. We are not only supposed to look beyond the mask of our obvious romantic interest/beast; we are also supposed to apply that lesson to our complex villain/anti-hero figure as well–because he is the true beast.  While Tamlin’s unmasking and character evolution in ACOMAF reveals that the beauty Feyre expects behind the mask hides a corruption/trauma-induced abusive characteristics beneath (which in turn provides a brilliant depiction of how abusive relationships develop: i.e., the person sees the abuser in a romantic light at first, until they slowly realize how much power has been taken from them), Rhys’s unmasking shows the compassionate man beneath the villain’s mask.  Told in Feyre’s 1st person narrative, we see Tamlin and Rhys through her point of view, and as she slowly realizes the truths behind their characters–as she strips away those masks–we do as well. Those realizations are meant to be slow; they are meant to encourage us to truly look at the world around us and to not make those snap judgments, because character motivations may be much more complex than we realize.

If Rhys had revealed his plans to Feyre early on, we would not have had a story that truly played with the idea of masks: masked faces, masked intentions, masked personalities, masked truths. The story would not be about this slow evolution of understanding that Feyre (and we) undergo, but rather a less-complex story about a heroic love interest helping Feyre defeat Amarantha. We would’ve lost several layers of meaning, including the entire dialogue about war leaders operating within a culture of defeat where every option is a bad option. (It’s much like an awful game of “would you rather.”) By keeping Rhys’s intentions hidden for most of the story, by telling it from Feyre’s 1st person pov, and by seeing the terrible choices he must make, we are asked to read this story more maturely and use the themes and lens of Beauty and the Beast to analyze these characters.

Using this lens, we can see that the characters in ACOTAR and ACOMAF are not black and white villains and heroes. They are complex characters–and this includes both Rhysand and Tamlin–with complex motivations that are entirely human, realistic, and–importantly–understandable. Whether it is Rhys’s actions in ACOTAR or Tamlin’s now in ACOMAF, we can see where these characters are coming from, and while we may not approve of those actions, we cannot deny that their characterizations and decisions shed light on the human condition: both during war and afterwards–but especially afterwards.  Whether under the rule of a tyrant or during the aftermath of freedom, facing the trauma of one’s choices and the effects of psychological, physical, emotional, and/or sexual abuse is never easy. We see how these experiences and traumas force/enable characters to grow and change–sometimes for the better, but not always.

So no, Rhys’s actions UtM–and Tamlin’s actions more recently in ACOMAF–are not always pretty, nor are they always right.  But to address Nonnie’s initial question more succinctly, I believe that Rhys’s actions in ACOTAR were meant to help as many people as he could. I believe his intentions were good, that his choices were not great, and that if we look closely at his potential options, he chose the best option he could in his circumstances and tried to mitigate the negative effects of those choices.  He took away Clare Beddor’s pain, he gave Feyre wine, and he killed the summer fae rather than shatter his mind; he stopped Feyre’s chores and gave her an alternative that put her less at risk while keeping her with him–which was the safest place she could be; he gave reason for Feyre to hate him: to focus her, to save her (despite the fact that his mate might hate him forever).  He gave her music–hope–when she had nothing else. He fought for her at every turn, before UtM, during it, and afterwards. He never gave up on her, even when she was ready to give up on herself. He gave her choices when he could, and he regrets when he couldn’t.  He was willing to let his mate go, to let her choose another male, because that’s what he believed she wanted. Rhys isn’t selfish. All he wants is for Feyre to be happy; to be able to make her own choices; to be able to be the strongest, happiest version of herself.  So yes, while Rhys isn’t perfect, he tries his best with what he’s given–and he is deeply sorry for the pain he wasn’t able to spare Feyre (or others) UtM.

Such is the cost of action; such is the cost of being a leader.

For Rhys is a leader, which means that no matter his actions, they will affect others. He is the leader that acts; he is the man in the arena, and it is easy to label his actions as not good enough, to label him as an abuser or a villain (which I don’t see him as). It is harder to try to understand him, but that is what Sarah and literature as a whole encourage us to do: to understand the other and see how his or her story relates to ours–and to the human condition more generally. Rhys’s and Feyre’s and Tamlin’s stories (and the other characters’ stories in ACOTAR/ACOMAF, honestly) brilliantly speak to humanity and its variations, and this (in many, many words) is how I feel about Rhys’s depiction and character arc in ACOTAR, especially in relation to the new information we have in ACOMAF.  

A Long Overdue Apology

I know that this is far past the point where it should have been done but I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately and it would be wrong of me to remain silent on the matter.

This is directly addressing the issue that I’m sure a lot of you are already familiar with. First off, I’d like to say that I AM sorry for hurting people either directly or indirectly from my actions AND my inaction. I made an off-handed post in response to what I thought to be people misinterpreting my original intention in regards to another separate post made long ago. However, in my flippancy I ended up hurting those who were validly criticizing me while attempting to dismiss what I thought to be invalid.

I understand that within the context of the screenshot I posted that it could perpetuate a negative stereotype against trans women. But what was infinitely more harmful was my dismissal of the possibility that I was wrong. For all of this I am very sorry. 

As people have pointed out, in the past I’ve used slurs against trans people, not in malice but in ignorance. At the time I was saying these slurs, I didn’t know the full ramification of the harm it was perpetuating, and at the time the videos were made I was called out on it too. After I was informed of the wrong I was doing I apologized (and will gladly apologize again now) and did my best to rectify my error. I would like to state that since the last time I used a t-slur a couple years ago I have never said it since because I know NOW what harm it can bring.

I’m not perfect and I wouldn’t want anyone to think that I am. But I am always trying to be a better person. I am very sorry that I betrayed the faith of those who previously believed in me and I would like to work towards gaining that trust again. I hope that it goes without saying that I respect everyone’s way of life so long as that does not harm anyone else in the world. I only want to promote goodwill and I hope that we can reconcile this error of mine and move forward towards a better understanding.

I would also like to state that I DO NOT condone the attacking of anyone for their opinion. Just because someone has a different opinion than you doesn’t automatically make them wrong, even if you feel very strongly they are. I’m okay with people not liking me for my content or my actions, but please don’t bully or harass anyone in the name of “Markiplier” or this community. We should strive towards acceptance and empathy and a better world for all, not just those who agree with us. Remember that we’re all part of ONE community and that we need to be there for each other. Always.

Thank you so much for listening,


Pet Peeves regarding KuzuPeko ship hate.

Now, I am making this post because I have recently seen a lot of posts regarding KuzuPeko ship hate. If anyone on this site knows me, even just by looking at my icon, you can tell that I absolutely adore KuzuPeko. And I am getting quite annoyed at the baseless ship hate made towards KuzuPeko. In this very post, I will be debunking any and all ship hate arguments against KuzuPeko.

My first argument is on the topic of “kuzupeko is incest!!1!11!one!”

Now, if you look at the image above from an outside perspective and have not played or seen the game at all, you might think that these two are brother and sister. That is not the case. Sure, Pekoyama was inducted into the Kuzuryuu clan by Fuyuhiko’s parents, but that doesn’t mean she was adopted by them. If Pekoyama was adopted by Fuyuhiko’s parents, wouldn’t she share a similar last name to Fuyuhiko? The answer is no, as she was only inducted into the clan and not formerly adopted.

Even if Pekoyama was adopted, that does not mean that it would be incest for the two of them to have sex or date. Adopted incest is not an actual form of incest, as there is no actual definition in any official dictionary. And besides, Japan’s laws on incest are different to the laws of Western Countries.

My second argument is on the topic of “kuzupeko is abusive!!1!11!one!”

If anyone who makes this argument has even played SDR2, they would know that Kuzuryuu has a large amount of respect for Peko. This is evident in the fact that Kuzuryuu was very aggressive towards everybody in Class Trials 1 & 2, and the reason for that aggression was so that he could prove Pekoyama’s innocence. He also showed respect towards Peko in the form of reassuring her that it was okay for her to have those bowel problems of hers, and that nobody blames her for it.

And that concludes my response to KuzuPeko ship hate. Please feel free to try and debunk my arguments, and I will passively see if I can debunk your debunk.

Thank you for reading! Have this cute picture as a reward! (art made by: huyandere)

Thank you

Hey, all you cool people, thank you so much for your responses and encouraging words regarding my last post about Newlyn Hills. It looks like most people would prefer shells, so I think I will go with that. Real life continues to be busy as heck (last weekend was a total bust - and I guess clubs were broken anyway?) but I might have some time this weekend. I know I said that last weekend, and that didn’t work out, so I can’t make any promises, but I’m going to try my darnedest to get something uploaded. 

First I will have to finish the park, because it’s not really a shell, and I can’t just leave an assortment of items and blotches of terrain paint on the lot. XD I also have some more monkeying around to do with the clubs that I have set up in town. If I can at least get those two things finished, I can upload Newlyn Hills/Lynport as is. Then I will upload completed versions of the shell lots as I finish them. I have some time off around Christmas, so maybe that’ll be a good time to wrap things up. 

Whew. Thanks again to everyone for being so patient! I am behind on Tumblr so I have been missing everyone’s lovely posts, but I hope you’re having fun. :)

My dear lgbt+ children, 

Your trans brother Oliver @frogthemouse wrote this letter i want to share with you: 

“ I just saw your post to another of your trans sons regarding their period.   Just wanted to throw in a little about my own experience with birth control.

Most forms of birth control, specifically IUDs and the pill, affect your natural hormone levels.  They’ve been known to aggravate things like depression or anxiety.  The response varies from person to person, but I know both trans men and cis woman who cannot take those forms of birth control for those reasons.

For me, birth control makes me feel even more feminine.  It does help alleviate some period symptoms, but it makes me emotionally unbalanced.  I cry easier, and can’t rein in my emotions as well.  There’s nothing wrong with crying, for anyone or any gender. It can be healthy, and is important for your mental well being.  But something about being on the pill  made me cry at the drop of the hat.  I’d drop my pen, or accidentally stutter over a word, and then burst into full blown hysterics.  It’s hard to avoid the tropes and the commentary about how being on their period makes someone unstable when you embody that stereotype so completely.   The teasing and the comments, and people walking on eggshells around me were worse for me than just dealing with my natural period.   

A few other tips for dealing with periods for my brothers and sisters and siblings: Gender neutral language is great.  My favorite is Shark Week.  It’s descriptive, and kind of light hearted. 

If you have cramps, having a friend or a partner give you a back rub can really help. Also hot pads, hot showers and stretching.   Physical activity, of you can get through the pain on the beginning, helps ease cramps over the long run.  Hula hooping is great; it combines movement with a built in massage.  

Pain killers can help with cramps as well.  Midol is designed to help with period symptoms, and is pretty effective at it.  But, if you want to avoid buying a product that’s pretty obvious in its intent, any basic painkiller like acetaminophen or ibuprofen (taken correctly and safely of course) will work. Caffine can help boost the effects of painkillers, so a cup of coffee can help.  (Also a good trick for  headaches) 

That’s everything off the top of my head.  I hope it’s helpful!” 

Thankyou, Oliver! <3 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom    

PS: All credit belongs to the linked blog 

Responses to {Part 23} I Won’t Stop You // Jeon Jungkook, Vampire!AU Asks~

Please ‘Keep Reading’ to find my response to your ask ^^ As always, I have copied and pasted all asks into this post in regards to last night’s chapter to avoid clogging up people’s dashboards and to avoid spoilers for those who may still wish to read the chapter. Thank you ^^

(I have also included asks that I received in the hours before IWSY was posted ^^)

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regarding 'blue'

the blue that billie brings on tour and plays during shows in indeed the original one from when he was 10 years old. a lot of people believe that it’s a replica, but billie has stated himself that he has played the original blue at every green day show except for like 4 or 5 times (a few shows during the nimrod tour as well as a couple in 2010 i believe). other than that however, there has only ever been one blue that he plays at shows ✨

Like all adult abused children, I’m terrified of becoming my mother in regards to my kid. But then I’m reading some of these responses to that post, and remembering some of the shit I went through that I remember before the age of 4, and I’m not so worried anymore.

I don’t understand how people can treat their kids that way. My kid is 4 and I have a hard enough time not treating him like a spoiled baby and not crying that he’s so big now. I can’t imagine isolating him in his room constantly or locking him outside. It makes me ache. Ugh.

Responses to {Part 22} I Won’t Stop You // Jeon Jungkook, Vampire!AU Asks~

Please ‘Keep Reading’ to find my response to your ask ^^ As always, I have copied and pasted all asks into this post in regards to last night’s chapter to avoid clogging up people’s dashboards and to avoid spoilers for those who may still wish to read the chapter. Thank you ^^

(I have also included asks that I received in the hours before IWSY was posted ^^)

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EDIT: I’ve deleted all the posted asks I was sent regarding this since it has been nearly 12 hours and I have had plenty of people tell me my feelings are not unfounded and the responses were gross. I have received the support I needed and prefer to keep the negativity from my blog. Thank you for your support. <3

Both @starrypawz and @gerdavonrinnlingen requested the prompt, “realize - when one character realizes they love another”. So I am answering you both in one post!

In a different prompt response, I described when Quinn realized he was in love with Mara. It was just before the hearing convened regarding his execution of Moff Broysc, and you can read it here. Mara only took a smidgen longer to realize.

“Malavai?” Mara called as she closed the front door behind her.

“Yes?” He leaned through the doorway leading into the kitchen. “Did Jaesa’s training go well?”

Mara nodded, already removing her utility belt. The pine forests surrounding her estate were ideal for Sith training of various flavots - she herself had received no small amount of training here from her mother and aunts - and she and Jaesa had been making the most of the opportunity.

“She is progressing nicely. In a few months’ time I may have finally broken her of the habit of apologizing every time she hits me.” She laughed ruefully. “Still, she’s sparring with me without flinching, so that’s progress. I’m going to take a shower.”

Half an hour later she returned to the kitchen, drawn in by the smell of spices. She paused in the doorway to observe the tableau in front of her. Malavai was wearing a soft grey sweater and casual trousers, the sleeves of the sweater pushed up to keep them out of the way. A small dish of flimsy-thin slices of meat sat on the counter next to him - he must have ventured out to the local market, or asked someone to go for him - and he was stirring something in a pot while reading a screen in front of him.

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xion-megitsune  asked:

How about a love letter from bruno buccellati? (ˋ▽ˊ)ノ

Of course~! Man I’m really falling behind on these letters hope I can get them all finished by the end of the week O3O


Hopefully this letter reaches you as soon as possible so that my lack of responses these past few days doesn’t trouble you anymore than what it already has .(you always do worry when that happens, I may not be there now but I know how concerned you can be in regards to this fact) Things at the moment are a little tense given that we haven’t been able to return home for quite a while now, however I assure you that everyone is in good spirits…well, almost everyone (I doubt I will ever understand Abbacchio’s way of thinking, especially when I spot him mixing alcohol into his tea or coffee in the mornings - but even he seems to be in a…less annoyed mood than he typically is)

The rest of Passione are almost as eager to see you again as I am, not a day has passed without either Narancia or Mista ask about how you’re doing and if you miss everyone, Trish, Giorno and Fugo often come to me in order to check up on how you’re faring - and Abbacchio, well even he seems to miss having you around even if you aren’t part of Passione yourself. It appears as though you’ve left quite the impression on all of them amore although I can hardly say I’m surprised, it’s impossible to not fall for your charm and kindness the moment anyone is fortunate enough to lay eyes on you and this fact alone makes me feel all the more honored to call you my partner.

Whilst we may be separated the unwavering love and support which you have never failed to express so openly to me has kept me strong and set about finishing my work so that I can come home all the more sooner, and I can assure you that as I write this letter to you now our latest mission is finally coming to it’s conclusion and within the next few days I will be back to your welcoming presence where I can finally begin to make up for all of our days and nights spent apart and start repaying you for your boundless affection and adoration.

Ah, It appears that I’m not the only one who wants to send a message so I’ll let Mista and Narancia have their say as I bring this message to you to a close, remember amore - ti amo, con tutto il mio essere ti amo

- Bruno

See ya soon S/O!!! - NARA and Mista


Sorry I just had to add that on at the end I have no idea why ^^ hope you like it :3

@robthepensioner replied to your post “@robthepensioner replied to your link “Gendered toys could deter…”

So sexual attraction has nothing to do with the structure of the brain? Silly me, there I was thinking that it did. I mean, where does it come from if not the brain?

Your original statement was in regard to male and female brains and marketing with their supposed differences in mind, and you oversimplify a very complex question. I’m not sure why you’re bringing up sexual attraction now. I encourage you to go back to my response and read the articles I posted.

anonymous asked:

Are you a perfect human being? Aly said one thing privately in 2013 that was really fucking dumbing and insensitive. And was escalated by Nastia and Jordyn. Should she have made fun of someone privately... fuck no. Should Nastia and Jo have made it public. Definitely not. But if you took some of the things I said to my friends when I was 19 I legit should be bitchslapped x100. Trying to invalidate what someone goes through is just as bad. People are allowed to feel a certain way.

I’m not the one to judge, but you should be held responsible (or bitchslapped, if you will) if you said shit to your friends when you were 19. By what standards are you not considered a rational adult at age 19?

Regarding Aly, like I said if you had bothered to read my post, I find it amazing she wants to help girls be positive about their bodies and I hope she keeps it up. I never invalidated her struggle or never really bashed Aly before. I was just explaining that some people got tired of hearing her story of being criticised for her body, when she, herself, body shamed someone else. She’s doing a great thing for young girls, but as I said, double standards. Body shaming is horrible when someone does it to you, but it’s fine when you do it to others? Is it fine if you’re 19?

Tumblr rant when people are just plain stupid

I had a person send me a pm yesterday because I happened to respond to a post regarding teenage girls who have been reported missing a twitter message put up regarding how many ‘white’ women don’t seem to care when 'black’ women matter…
The point I put across was my personal opinion and that ALL lives should matter, regardless of skin tone. I won’t give the person 'sad bitter so called feminist’ anymore advertisement except to simply say I responded to the pm and then blocked them. They have since deleted their message and my response to it.

Feminism some women need to understand the definition of the word and use it. If you are a strong woman then you fight with your strength for all women’s beliefs and strengths. I don’t give a sh*t what colour your skin is, what religion you believe in. Whether you wear a hijab or not. If you respect me, I will respect you. As far as I am concerned a group of women either black or white is something to feel concerned about. Black women are the strongest voices, because the have fought the longest to get their voices heard. White women, ethnic women, women or colour or divide… There is no colour when you are standing together, there is no religion when you all believe in a higher bring than yourself. There is no clothing that will hide you or discriminate you when we were all born with skin, naked and exposed to the world. As women we shouldn’t be judging other women’s beliefs or thoughts, we should respect each others opinions as we are the strongest when we march together for the right to be heard.

Call for Submissions: Asexuality in YA Series

During the Asexuality in YA series we want to use our space on GayYA to support ace spectrum voices. Last year, we decided to host Awareness Week Series over the various LGBTQIA+ Awareness Weeks throughout the year. Though we hope to include everyone on the site at all times, we wanted to dedicate a concentrated space to people from a specific community to talk about how they’re represented in YA. The response from the community was phenomenal– we got to feature many fantastic and thought-provoking posts, and watched as the community fostered some nuanced discussions via our identity-centric Twit Chats. I personally remember feeling amazed as I read the posts that were sent in and scrolled through the Twit Chat hashtag. I realized I wasn’t alone in my feelings of discontent regarding the representation of my identities, or my hopes for what that representation could look like in the future. I got to meet and connect with so many smart and passionate people.

So of course, we had to do the Awareness Week Series again this year.

Unfortunately, the dates for this year’s Asexual Awareness Week (Oct 23rd-29th) ended up never getting on our calendar. We’re so SO sorry for this mishap! We ran across this year’s dates two days ago. We debated trying to pull something together last minute, but since these weeks are driven by guest posts, we didn’t want to ask people to rush their work. We also have a number of resources we’re developing for libraries & bookstores, and want to take the time to get them done right! So we decided instead to reschedule and take the time to truly make a dedicated and purposeful space for an Asexuality in YA Series. So! Our Asexuality in YA series will be held December 5th-10th.

During the 2016 Asexuality in YA series, we’ll feature 5-7 posts from various ace-spec contributors over the course of the week, and dedicate a space to talk about ace representation in YA.

Interested in contributing? Here are the details:

  • Posts should be between 800-2500 words, and somehow tie into ace representation in YA. Your posts may go through light edits or a collaborative workshopping process.
  • Send your post as a Word or Google doc to Please include a 2-5 sentence bio about yourself including links to your blog, Twitter, website, or tumblr. Any links you’d like to use should be included as hyperlinks in the post. If you’d like to include a headshot or other images please attach them to the email– do not embed images in the document!
  • We do not offer monetary compensation of any sort, but are usually happy to help you out in other ways if we can. Just ask!
  • The deadline for submitting a post is November 28th.

A Few Words of Advice:

We will consider any topic that is related to LGBTQIA+ YA, however please be aware that we try to avoid repeating similar takes on identical topics. The more specific you can be, the more likely we are to accept your submission. If you have a few topic ideas and want feedback on which would work best, email us you ideas and we’ll work together to find the best fit!

Lastly… we are EXTREMELY interested in post submissions from teens & young adults. Your voice is the most important in discussions about representation in YA, and we want to hear from you. With that said, all are encouraged to send pieces in! :)

Email with any questions. We look forward to reading your submissions!