this is real and not for men

I’m not saying tumblr hates lesbians but tumblr

- says lesbian is a restrictive term
- says lesbians can and should like men
- derails lesbian positivity posts
- tells lesbians that they’re a porn category
- says real lesbians are sexual
- doesn’t acknowledge compulsory heterosexuality
- likes to say we’re all terfs
- tells us that saying lesbian-coded characters are lesbians is lesbophobic
- popularizes posts about lesbians being angry
- popularizes posts about lesbians being scary
- ignores lesbians
- pretends we don’t exist
- fucking hates us.

“Male privilege is not real because men have problems too.”

The difference is that those problems exist in a society that’s dominated by men. The majority of politicians are men. The majority of people controlling the media are men. The majority of police officers are men. The majority of judges are men. The majority of lawyers are men. The majority of CEOs are men.

Men have problems not because feminists don’t care enough to solve them, but because men don’t care enough to solve them. For example, when a female teacher rapes a teenage boy, the problem is not that feminists believe that men can’t be raped, but that men are too busy high-fiving each other and saying that it’s every teenage boy’s dream. When a pretty woman can get away with anything, the problem is not that feminists believe that women are infallible, but that men value women’s appearances above everything else and this one time it happened to work in a woman’s favor (it probably also involves racism, because their definition of “pretty” usually includes “white”).

anonymous asked:

What I've noticed with regards to mlm, is cultural differences. In the early days of One Direction, any interaction between bandmates that would seem "excessive" in American standards compared to European culture (as a whole) was suddenly deemed evidence of their gayness, by some fans. I shudder at real people fan fiction, for this reason... But this fetisation, I find, can lead to the ideology that any man seen together- it's suddenly gay. Like you know how two girls can have have their arms 1

2 around each other, in public, and it’s not seen as gay. They’re just two gals, friends, enjoying a stroll together? 2 around each other, in public, and it’s not seen as gay. They’re just two gals, friends, enjoying a stroll together? You’d never see that done with men, (in an American culture) for fear of being thought of as gay. And I find that those fetisations can pull men further away from each other… Yes, we’d also have to work on being gay = bad… But societal norms are also the most difficult things to change over time…

“You’d never see that done with men, (in an American culture) for fear of being thought of as gay. And I find that those fetisations can pull men further away from each other…”

I think it’s just a big circle, really. Like, men not being allowed to show affection to one another leads to women (and everyone) only seeing intimacy between gay men, which leads to the conclusion that men who show affection to other men are gay, which leads our homophobic society to tell men not to be “too” close to each other or they’ll be perceived as gay and gay = bad, which circles right back to the start. But I’ve done approximately zero research on this particular subject, so take my words with a grain of salt.

anonymous asked:

oh my god ur right xiumins face makes me want to laugh hes trying to hide how smug he is pcy follows ksoo prob to go to the restroom and talk abt jongin i love it but the tension in that stare though wow and how ksoo gets up like a gentle men with the hand on his blazer and he just looks at him 👌👌👌

anon i literally die inside whenever i look at umin he looks like he’s pissing himself gddfhsjhg and that intense eye contact tho i bet ksoo was trying to telll ji to follow him to the bathroom ::::) i lov how were all umin in that moment and hoooo boiii dont get me started on my boy ji he literally looked like this:

anonymous asked:

What do you think about masturbation as a female?

I think it is NECESSARY. On some real ass shit, you won’t experience a good orgasm with a man if you don’t masturbate and learn how to please yourself. masturbation is an intimate time with yourself, you’re getting to know your body, and in my opinion, it leaves you feeling super sexy. I even read somewhere that woman who masturbate more are naturally more attractive to men. I don’t know how true that is, but I do know there is a also a limit. Too much masturbating is not good and could suck the creativity and motivation right outta you. The great thing is that unlike men we don’t lose as much motivation and creative energy when we orgasm, sometimes we even gain more, so we should take advantage of that. not by fucking everyone though (lets face it, the truth is many of these men have a hard time making us cum in the first place so lets not waste our time giving it to em LOL).

Anyways, in my opinion, the best way to masturbate is thinking of things that turn you on, touching your body and just focusing on the feeling and the pleasure you’re giving yourself. I feel this way you will have a better, stronger, and longer orgasm than if you were to masturbate to porn. Don’t get me wrong, porn is great, its fun, but something about masturbating to porn leaves many of us feeling drained, and not fully satisfied.