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The Midheaven - A Staircase to the Highest Star

When you want something,  think about it, envision how it would feel to have what you want,  then release that desire to the universe,   this will set your intention and bring your desire to you.“    - Jasmeine Moonsong                

The Midheaven or tenth house cusp is the highest point in the sky and in the natal chart. A trusty astrologer I once confided in referred to the Midheaven sign as ‘where you want to be’. The Midheaven refers to one’s desires career wise, the approach to one’s profession, dreams, and the public image. In many ways it is like a hologram of the face we want to become, and can become, like a swirling energy we emit to the world. Because the tenth house is an angular house, it pertains to a major focus of the chart. The MC is like a blueprint of the future we dream of, and have the capability of achieving if only we reign in on our Capricorn (ruler of the tenth house) spirit. We are elevated through the Midheaven and develop our single consciousness whilst retaining our understanding of the oneness we all share. It’s the kind of impact we want to have on the world, but through an authentic self expression. .

Midheaven in Aries: I want to be where the action, light, and noise is
The image here is bright, sparkling, and stimulating. The individual may appear more reckless and perilous than he truly is. He dreams of pioneering into new territory and rarely tolerates professions that are repetitive or mundane. He dreams of one day becoming more adventurous, self assured, and confident. The public loves him for his childlike spirit and enthusiasm.
The associated careers could be childcare, engineering, sports, politics. He is at his most radiant when in the midst of their work or passions. He may streak through many new jobs and professional pathways.

Midheaven in Taurus: I want to be encased in luxury
A gentle, moving, and secure public image. The individual has a soothing and earthy effect on others and feels one with nature when working his dream career. The Midheaven in Taurus could relate to creative industries, beauty therapy, finance, accounting, agriculture, wildlife, landscaping, midwifery,  and retail. He will likely be drawn to careers that promise him security financially and job wise. Also those that pay a worthy income - he wants to be at comfort and ease. The public are receptive of his peaceful nature. He may also be very private

Midheaven in Gemini: I want to get lost in conversation
There will be a spiraling ,erratic energy seeming to radiate from the Gemini Midheaven person. He will likely have good public speaking skills and excel at broadcasting to a large audience. He seems to know what people are thinking. Many careers and educational courses will fascinate him, especially teaching, journalism, writing, media, blogging, although he really is a jack of all trades. He will have trouble pinning down his true hopes and dreams. A profession that provides him the opportunity for communication is imperative, and he may remain a permanent student. He is an inquisitive, and clever spirit at work, and he knows how to mold himself into any archetype the role requires. He will enjoy jobs that provide him the chance to learn.

Midheaven in Cancer: I want to be someone’s protector
There is a warm, comforting soul music that seems to shine from the Cancer Midheaven. A great need to protect, guard, and look after others associates with this placement, and being a parent could be the dream. The careers that could resonate here include childcare, midwifery, nursing, teaching, cooking, business, finance, psychology, real estate, and photography. The public feel very warmed and cradled by the individual, and he may find people naturally open up to him and share their deepest fears and worries. He has a psychic gauge on what the public wants and needs on very emotional and subconscious levels. The individual may try to comfort others through humor. There is a great need to provide for others.

Midheaven in Leo: I want to be on top of the world
The Leo Midheaven person seems to have a radiant, revitalizing, and seductive mist to others. Whether he likes it or not, he may find himself in the spotlight or in the middle of situations just for being himself. Careers that can be associated here include politics, justice, childcare and child protection, creative industries, theatre, management, music, writing, teaching, aged care, disability care, social work, and nursing. He will likely be very cheerful in his job and know how to make people happy. Something urges him to preserve his youthful appearance in some way. He has a lot of ambition when it comes to the imprint he leaves on the world.

Midheaven in Virgo: I want to serve others
Something about the Virgo Midheaven person is his ability to make others feel they can depend on him. There seems to be a very soothing connection with others, like a comforting and wise motherly understanding. This placement suggests the individual will be involved in a subordinate position and one of service. Careers that could resonate here include technology and IT support, nursing, pharmacy, technical skills, machinery, communications, teaching, nature work, accounting, and physiotherapy. There will be a great need to provide for others and show he is worthy of his role. He will appreciate job stability and a chaos free work environment.

Midheaven in Libra: I want to create a world of tranquility
There seems to be a very peaceful and serene mist diffusing from the Libra Midheaven person. People feel instantly at ease and in the company of an old friend upon meeting him. The individual has a very receptive gauge on social undercurrents and a disarming, welcoming, and gentle expression to others. People that have never met him may feel that they already know him. Careers that could associate here include law, psychology, criminal psychology, police work, politics, design, social work, relationship counselling and divorce law, mediation. He will require a high level of tranquility at work and need to restore chaos to calm when conflict ensues. His more temperamental, justice seeking, and debating side may emerge when in the workplace. He needs a good work/life balance.

Midheaven in Scorpio: I want to be engulfed in mystery
 
You can forgive people for feeling a little intimidated, a little seduced, and a little perplexed when contemplating a Scorpio Midheaven. He has a psychic awareness on how to soothe the public and likes to keep very private in his affairs. The individual leaves a very thick, resonant energy on his surroundings and seems to remain long after his body vanishes. Careers that could relate to this placement include pharmacy, medicine, psychology, science, nursing, research, law and justice, criminology, biology and marine biology, midwifery, radiography, and politics. He may appear more self assured and guarded than he really is. He just moves people - and doesn’t know how or why. In many ways, he is unforgettable.

Midheaven in Sagittarius: I want to run through unknown lands
Something like a big bubble of delight pops from the Sagittarius Midheaven person. The individual seems to have an authentic, congenial, and carefree image that is natural and genuine. He easily relates to others and enjoys the opportunities he has to learn. Careers that could be associated here include psychology, medicine, animals and wildlife, flying, teaching, academics, research, sports, motoring, pharmacy, philosophy, writing, air and land travel, and jobs overseas. He may feel he can truly achieve his dream when he relocates and enjoy jobs that are on the move and offer constant change. He likes to become a master of his field. The individual wants to know what the public are thinking. People are very warmed by his humorous, honest, and happy distant spirit. Success is a succession of successes.

Midheaven in Capricorn: I want the day I am successful
You feel like you instantly want to impress the Capricorn Midheaven person. Something about them spells a very proud, ambitious, mature, and wise language. There is a mystery about them and the secrets to success that radiate from their fingertips. The individual has very pronounced dreams and desires. Careers that can associate here include teaching, medicine, law and justice, politics, architecture, town planning, business, police work, management, wildlife preservation. He will likely have a great need to provide for others and a very paternal impact over others. He wants to protect and ensure and knows how to consolidate his talents. Many people have the urgency to naturally rely on him because he makes them feel that everything will be okay. He is the CEO of the cosmos.

Midheaven in Aquarius: I want to be in the future
Nothing zaps and lights up others like Aquarius Midheaven person. From afar he is jolting, energetic, intelligent, mentally lively, and quirky. Others may view him as more radical, detached, and outlandish than he really is. He will likely desire jobs that provide him a certain amount of stability with a large variety of opportunities and objectives. Careers we could associate with Aquarius Midheaven include science, music, exploration, conservation, animal work, politics, technology, blogging, psychiatry, gaming, social work, and anything that involves the mind. He has a tremendous humanitarian streak and you seem to feel a very maternal and compassionate embrace stirring out of them. There is a need to be protective, make others feel safe, and guide them wisely. He has an acute aptitude for gauging the thoughts of the public, like radio telepathy.

Midheaven in Pisces: I want to go back to heaven
There is an enigmatic, mystic, and puzzling aura filtering from the Pisces Midheaven person. The individual seems timeless, untouchable, and as if he has walked straight from another world. The career path here undergoes many confusing changes and may be hard to pin down. It likely represents an ideal and involves the opportunity to help others. Professions that could resonate here include spiritual work, drug and alcohol nursing and counselling, rehabilitation work, prison work, creative industries, art, theatre, music, writing, and opportunities surrounding the ocean. The public may perceive him to be quite profound, enchanting, and somewhat of a guru. His hands and spirit are encased with healing honey.

original artwork by: Greenfeed

Recognizing uniqueness is not a substitute for thinking about disability

Teachers who are really good at teaching typically developing kids sometimes have trouble understanding the significance of disability. I’ve heard a lot of things like “all kids are unique” and “I always individualize my approach for every kid” and “I don’t see the need to label any kids as disabled, it’s just a matter of finding what works for them”.

This sounds positive, but it can be a disaster for kids with disabilities.

We talk a lot about uniqueness, but a lot of effective teaching depends on understanding ways in which kids are similar to each other. Developmentally appropriate practice means understanding how kids the same age are similar to each other — then being flexible in ways that recognize kids’ unique humanity. We develop a sense of what the range of difference is for kids of a particular age.

Kids with disabilities are more different than that, and we need to take those differences seriously. Disability matters, and practices based on typical developmental milestones don’t account for it.

For instance:

Developmental milestones tell us:

  • Two year olds don’t have the motor skills to support handwriting.
  • Early education helps two year olds develop the motor skills that will eventually support handwriting.
  • Ten year olds do have the motor skills to support handwriting.
  • If they’ve had appropriate education, ten year olds should be able to write.

Developmental milestones don’t tell us:

  • How to teach ten year olds who don’t have the fine motor skills to support handwriting.
  • What early literacy and pre-writing instruction looks like for young children who are unlikely to develop the motor skills needed to support handwriting

It’s also important to understand the difference between unusual and unique. Disability means having unusual differences. But not every difference is unique. Some differences are shared by other people with disabilities. Those shared differences are important.

We need to understand the disability-related similarities. Part of that is having the right words to describe them. Calling disabilities by their right names isn’t about labeling, it’s about breaking isolation and making important things speakable.

For instance:

Braille:

  • Braille exists because blind people need it to exist
  • The differences between sighted people and blind people are a reason that braille needs to exist.
  • (And a reason that Braille is better than raised print).
  • The similarities between many blind people are a reason that braille *can* exist as a standard way of accessing literacy. 
  • If each blind person was completely unique, there would be no way to create a reading and writing system that would work for large numbers of blind people.

Some other examples:

  • Wheelchairs.
  • Ramps.
  • Large print.
  • Cars with hand controls and/or wheelchair lifts.
  • Text-to-speech communication devices.
  • VoiceOver and other screen reading software.
  • Signed languages.
  • Medications that manage symptoms.
  • Supportive seating.
  • The ADA, Section 504, IDEA and other disability rights laws.

People with disabilities are unique, and not interchangeable with each other. Similarly, kids the same age are unique, and not interchangeable with each other. Both the similarities and differences are important.

Tl;dr Sometimes progressive educators are uncomfortable with the concept of disability, and want to instead just see every kid’s uniqueness. That doesn’t work, because disability means having unusual differences — and because the differences aren’t unique; they’re shared with many other disabled people. Recognizing uniqueness isn’t enough — we also need to understand and accommodate disability.

More Words on Art Theft

I don’t know how many times I’ve said this, but please.

Stop. reposting. art. 😢

Many of you do this without malicious intent and even think you’re doing us a favor. I understand. You want to share things with the world. But like writing papers, you either need to have permission from the original artist OR you need to cite them (give them credit). Sometimes, an artist will allow either/or. Others, like myself, do not allow art reposted at all, credited or not. Only a certain few have permission and with specific pieces only. Here’s a definition for what art reposts are:

“Saving an image/art into your hard drive/computer/phone as a separate file and then proceeding to upload that file onto your profile(s).”

I’ll be honest. I’m tired. A lot of us are. Artists are constantly facing a battle with art theft and more than half the time, they lose by giving up or they stop making art entirely. I’ve since gotten into a habit of reporting whenever I’m alerted but I have no time to go hunting down for art reposts. Most recently, I experienced a case of an art reposter deliberately hiding their actions behind a private account, which brings me to this post.

First of all, to those who I’ve already reported from, please understand, I am not angry, nor do I hate any of you. I’m simply disappointed and while you may not care how I feel, you have to realize that what you’re doing is technically illegal and against the Terms and Regulations of the websites you re-upload art in. I just want you all to learn/realize that.

And I’m saying this now. It doesn’t matter if you’re using a public or private account. 

I have actually experienced a few occasions where a private account follows me and I notice that they appear to be fan-accounts. I’ve tried to ignore those. However, with this most recent issue, I attempted to follow back one of my followers, mostly out of curiosity (and a bit of suspicion). Long story short, I was rejected. In the end I found out that that they had over a thousand posts, majority of which were art reposts, a few from mine, many others from friends and other artists. But based on how I was rejected by the user, it’s clear they did not want me to see any of that (nor do I believe they would allow other original artists to see their account either). 

I won’t divulge how I found out or who I’m talking about in confidentiality.

So with that, I’m telling you straight. Just because you’re on a private account does not mean you’re safe from getting caught. 

I don’t try to single out anyone regarding this issue. Like I said, I don’t go hunting. So if you find yourself getting reported then, you probably just lucked out, I suppose. At least when it comes to my pieces.

 When I report something, it’s simply because I’m a copyright holder and I need to protect my work. I don’t do it out of spite. If anything, I do it to teach. I’d rather see an account change their ways than have their entire Instagram/Youtube account taken down because of multiple copyright violations. 

So if you’re one of these people, please, I implore you to take down any artwork that you know is not supposed to be there (i.e the artists do not want their work reposted/You do not have permission to re-upload their work). 

Here’s one way to think about this: Artists take time to make their artwork and post it online. You would take *less* time putting an image through a search engine to find the original source of the picture. Just saying! ^^ 

You. Are. Better. Than. This.

Now, if you have any grievances or comments (say, you’re one of the people I reported from or you’re guilty of reposting art), you may message me on Tumblr. I am opening the floor.

TL;DR: STOP. RE-UPLOADING OR REPOSTING. ART. 

Many of us make studyblrs to improve our productivity but, as much as we like to deny it, looking at pictures of notes + reading tips does not equal studying. So here are five ways you can use your studyblr to your advantage!

1. Find an accountability partner! 

Finding someone who reminds you to get stuff done is really easy! Just post about it and you’ll probably get at least one person who’s interested!

You can just check in with each other through the day and make sure both of you are making the most of your time!

2. Find a study buddy! 

Find someone who’s studying some of the same subjects as you and teach each other for practice or if you don’t understand something! The best way to go about this is to find a few studyblrs who are taking these classes and outright ask them! Don’t be shy, the worst they could say is no!

3. Post your bujo or planner or a cute to-do list! 

Personally, the thought of having all boxes checked off when I post a picture really motivates me to get stuff done.

4. Take the 100 days of productivity challenge! 

You don’t even have to post a picture (I sure as hell don’t), just write a little summary of what you’ve accomplished that day and set some goals for the next day. It’s a great way to keep yourself accountable.

5. Post studyspo after studying

Let’s be honest, there are probably studyblrs who take their studyspo pictures before they even begin to study. But that won’t really do anything for you. Instead, tell yourself that if you study today, you get to take a picture of your studying. If you study some more, you get to edit said picture. And once you’re done, you get to proudly post it!

Anyway, those are all the little ways I personally use my studyblr to be more productive. Feel free to add any other ways in which you use studyblr to your advantage!

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Shoutout sa manyak na blogger na ‘to. I received a TA from an anon kahapon (you can backtrack it sa blog ko) at ayun ‘yung first photo. Hinayaan ko na lang since may nag-TA naman at medyo binash ‘yang si heyitsmeclark na 'yan.

Around 6pm today, nakareceive uli ako ng two consecutive TAs from an anon. Alarming masyado so I tracked him down. I’M TELLING YOU GUYS. MAS SINISIPAG AKO MANGTRACK NG ANON KAPAG MAY SAKIT AKO TAPOS MAKAKATANGGAP PA AKO NG GANYANG TAs. I cannot tell you kung paano ko nahack ang IP niya para malaman ko na siya 'yung anon pero I can teach you another way para malaman niyo if ever na may matanggap kayong ganitong klaseng messages.

Sa lahat ng niffollow at followers ko na nakakausap nitong Clark na 'to, beware. And if you have received the same kind of messages, you can follow these steps para macheck kung sino:
(Note: You can only do this via PC or Laptop)

1. Check your blog’s inbox at hanapin niyo 'yung unanswered na TA.
2. Click niyo 'yung tatlong dots sa tabi ng reply button ng TA then click “Block”. Blocking means blocking the anon’s IP address. Hindi mapupunta sa Block list ng account niyo 'yung URL ng blogger but it will stop him/her from sending you another set of nasty TAs. You cannot unblock the IP address once na magawa niyo 'to. Sino ba namang gugustuhing mang-unblock din ng manyak 'di ba?
3. If you want to know who that anon is, go to friendorfollow.com or madebymagnitude tapos sign up lang kayo then i-connect niyo sa Tumblr niyo. Check the blogs of those people who recently unfollowed you. Tapos kung sino 'yung nakablock sa inyo, definitely, siya ang anon niyo.

Ayun lang. Ingat kayo sa mga katulad niya. Maputulan sana sila ng balls.

And to you, Mister. Sabi mo ang sarap sapakin ng anon ko kasi ang bastos, di ba? I dare you to slap yourself. Kung hindi, baka ako mismo ang sumapak sa'yo. 'Wag ako. Sa susunod na gustuhin mong mambastos (kung may kapal ng mukha ka pa na natitira), siguraduhin mong hindi hacker ang babastusin mo. And today, kinalaban mo lang 'yung badtrip at may sakit na hacker. Ichura nito.

anonymous asked:

how does capitalism affect academia?

Oh, there are a bunch of ways of answering this! There’s a shit-ton of literature on the “neoliberalization” of the university (i.e., the university becoming a strictly economic institution). This has meant climbing tuition, increasing administrative bloat, and the stagnation of tenure track hiring. Last I checked, about three-quarters of teaching positions at American universities now are casualized in some way – adjunct, “visiting,” and non-tenure track lecturer positions have become increasingly common over the past couple decades.

Now, the risk in just dealing with the neoliberal university is in slurring over how the university functioned economically before that. There’s a kind of nostalgia you get in accounts from David Graeber, Wendy Brown, Frank Donoghue, and the like, that I find counterproductive. While it’s true that the public university prior to neoliberalization was cheaper (in some cases, like UC and CUNY, free!) and kinder to faculty, it could function this way because it wasn’t really meant to serve everybody. During the public university’s “golden age,” there was still a whole realm of heavily unionized careers, mostly in manufacturing, that one could get into without a university degree. This is no longer the case, and now a B.A. is a prerequisite for most jobs outside of the ballooning service sector. So the neoliberalization of the university is largely a conversion of the university into a vocational school, but that’s because the university needs to assume that function now to sustain capitalism in the First World.

In other words, before de-industrialization, academia used to be kind of a special realm for petty bourgeois kids to feel real smart (and it still is to an extent), but now that most livable careers require a university degree, it’s becoming, of necessity, vocational training, which brings a whole bunch of institutional changes with it.

From a young age, our societies disempower women by teaching them that pleasing their men should be their foremost priority even if they’re in toxic relationships, even if they’re incessantly hurt and stripped of dignity. You’re supposed to look the other way when he cheats on you because you’re lucky enough to have a husband that doesn’t hit you and if he hits you, you’re still better than a woman who has no husband because a bad husband is better than no husband. No. Just no. These teachings are one of the underlying reasons why women don’t walk away when they’re being abused mentally, physically, emotionally or financially because they’re ‘lucky’ to at least have a man by their side. Instead of holding the men to account, women are expected to pacify their anger, submit and serve. Where’s the dignity in this?

one of the most irritating things i see a lot re: kavinsky is the constant refrain “ronan didn’t owe kavinsky anything” 

now i one hundred percent agree with this, ronan doesn’t owe kavinsky anything. ronan is not kavinsky’s caretaker. ronan doesn’t owe anyone basic human decency or his time or his attention. 

that being said, i feel like a lot of people who use that refrain fail to acknowledge ronan’s dick moves. ronan lynch is an asshole. i’m not saying this to upset anyone, he’s kind of a dick and he’s a flawed character. that’s okay. what’s not okay is when his mistreatment of other characters is dismissed because of this. ronan doesn’t owe kavinsky anything but if he couldn’t muster up the smallest amount of sympathy or basic human decency for kavinsky, he’s not the Soft and Kind boy you all make him out to be, not when his very visible edges have cut people. ronan essentially used kavinsky for learning how to dream and dropped him the minute, the minute, he manifested the camero. he got in the car, told kavinsky who had spent all this time teaching him to essentially fuck off and drove off. that? A Dick Move. ronan learnt everything he could from kavinsky and then told him there was no chance that they were ever going to be friends.

and honestly this isn’t just regarding kavinsky either because ronan treats declan the same way, like absolute shit, even when declan goes out of his way to take care of ronan

ronan doesn’t owe kavinsky anything but his actions also have consequences that he’s not held accountable for. ur always stringing up kavinsky like “why dont kavinsky stans see kavinskys faults” but suddenly yall cant read when people point out that ronan and the gangsey were absolute trashbags to kavinsky and im tired of it. yeah ronan didnt owe kavinsky anything but he should have given kavinsky an explanation after blatantly using him as a means to his own ends (which i repeat!!! a dick move!!) and then told him to stop dreaming bc ronan said so. yeah ronan didnt owe kavinsky anything but just because you dont owe someone basic human decency doesn’t mean you shouldnt give it to them

Steven Universe White Diamond Theory

Hello everyone! Like most people in the fandom, I was pretty shook when I watched the new wanted promo. However, this clip in particular really caught my interest:

who is this person, and what are they smashing? Well, those arms obviously don’t belong to Yellow or Blue Diamond, since they have different color palettes. Therefore, the only logical conclusion is that this is our first ever view of White Diamond! And speaking of palettes, when you account for the dark lighting in this scene, that red object very closely resembles Rose Quartz gem in color. Therefore, I believe this scene is of White Diamond killing Steven.

At first I was upset that Steven was going to die, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense and seemed like the best possible way to end the show. Steven dying for his mother’s crimes would bring closure to the diamonds and be a very emotionally powerful moment. It would also teach the show’s young audience about death and vengeance. I’m so excited for this show to tackle another real life issue in a way that children can understand and relate to! This special is going to rock!

The Gift of Rosie

Happy Mother’s Day, my lovely friends! Here’s a little Rosie story for you all. It’s rated G. Big thanks to @mizjoely for looking it over for me and @mrsmcrieff for her Britishness! It’s also on AO3 and FF.net. Enjoy ~Lil~


Molly had picked Rosie up from school and was taking her to John’s where the sitter was waiting on them. She was in a bit of a hurry because she’d had to split her shift with a coworker in order to help John with the running. Since Mary’s death, Mike had been much more accommodating with Molly’s schedule, especially considering the amount of overtime she’d put in over the years.

“Aunt Molly,” Rosie said as the cab rounded the corner on her street.

“Yes, love?”

“Where’s your mummy?” the five year old asked.

Rosie had become more and more inquisitive about Mary and mothers in general in recent months. It was heartbreaking, but expected.

“My mummy died when I was little, Rosie,” she answered.

“Like mine.”

“Well, yes. But I was a bit older. I was six.”

“I’ll be six soon.”

“Yes you will, dearheart,” Molly said with a smile.

“You remember your mummy, don’t you?”

Molly swallowed back tears. “Yes, I do.”

“I wish Daddy would marry you so I could have a mummy all the time.”

She wrapped her arms around the little girl. “Rosie, you may not be my daughter, but I couldn’t love you more even if you were.” She kissed her little blonde head, then drew back and looked in her blue eyes. “Your mum is always with you. She was an amazing woman and she loved you so much.”

Rosie blinked and nodded. For a moment Molly thought the child might cry, but she didn’t. “I love you too, Aunt Molly.” She snuggled up against Molly’s side and sniffled. “Daddy needs a girlfriend.”

Molly laughed, not only because it was a strange observation from a five year old, but because John had a girlfriend, he just hadn’t introduced Rosie and Emma yet.

“And not that accountant woman. They won’t last another month,” she said before turning back to watch the passing scenery.

Molly just shook her head. Rosie might not remember her mother but there was no doubt that she was the child of Mary Watson. Not to mention Sherlock had been teaching her the science of deduction practically since birth.


“I want to do something for Molly for Mother’s Day,” John said to Sherlock on their way to the scene of a triple murder two and a half weeks later.

“I don’t think Tobias counts as an actual child, John,” the detective replied drily.

“You know what I’m talking about, Sherlock!”

“Of course I do, and I’d thought about it as well. She’s a mother figure to Rosie. Your child adores her.” Sherlock looked at John and thought carefully before he continued, “The other day she told Molly that she wished you would marry her so that she’d have a full time mum.”

John’s head jerked up. “She said that?”

Sherlock nodded.

“Hmm…”

“She also predicted your break-up with the accountant before you ever introduced them,” Sherlock said smugly.

“I should limit your time together.”

“Don’t discount DNA, John. She’s very much her mother’s daughter.”

The doctor smiled fondly. “That she is.”

Not wanting to see his friend fall into a gloom over Mary’s memory, Sherlock changed the subject back to Molly, “So, Mothering Sunday…”

“Ah, yes. I was thinking that the three of us could take Molly to lunch. Make a fuss over her. Give her flowers or something.”

Sherlock rolled his eyes. Typical. “That’s a bit conventional, don’t you think?”

“What do you suggest?”

He thought for a moment, then had a brilliant idea. “This shouldn’t be up to us, John. We should let Rosamund decide.”


“Why won’t you tell me where we’re going, Sherlock? You’re making me nervous,” Molly said as she studied the passing countryside.

“Relax, Molly. It’s not as if I’d take you somewhere dang…er…ous.” He dragged out the last word as if he knew it wasn’t true.

She turned and looked at him, her head cocked to the side, eyebrow raised judgmentally.

“Okay, perhaps I would. But not today. It’s a surprise. You like surprises.”

His voice was suspiciously high and… odd. “Listen, William…” He gave her the stink eye, the same stink eye he always gave her when she called him by his first name. “…tell me what’s going on, now!” He knew better than to try to use his tricks on her.

“For God’s sake, Molly, calm down. It will be worth it, I promise.” He pulled his mobile out of his pocket, then added, “And if you call me William again I’ll tell everyone about the incident with the falafel vendor.”

She gasped. “You wouldn’t!”

Sherlock smirked. “You know that I would,” he said, without looking up.

Just then the cab pulled to a stop.

“We’re here.” He leaned forward and paid the fare.

Looking out her window at the large empty field, she asked, “Where?”

Here,” he said sarcastically.

Molly wanted to reply, but decided against and started to open the door.

Sherlock reached across her, grabbing her hand. “Stop. Stay right where you are.” Then he pulled a black sleeping mask out of his pocket. “Put this on.”

“Oh no! Last time you blindfolded me I ended up in the Thames.”

Sherlock laughed. “That was hilarious!”

Molly was NOT amused. She took the mask from his outstretched hand, then pinched his thigh.

“Ow! That really hurt!” He rubbed at his ‘injury’.

“It wasn’t supposed to tickle.” Holding up the mask she asked, “Why do I need this?”

“If I tell you, I’ll have to kill you.”

Sherlock…”

He sighed. “It involves our goddaughter, is that enough?”

Of course it was! “Fine.” She put on the mask. “Now what?”

“Just wait.”

Molly heard the car door open and shut, then she thought she heard the boot open and shut as well. She waited, wondering what the hell was going on. Finally, her door opened and someone, Sherlock obviously, took her hand.

“Step out, Molly, I’ve got you,” he said.

She did, carefully, very glad that she hadn’t seen any large bodies of water when she had looked around before she put on the mask. “Okay, Sherlock, what’s next?”

“Now we wait,” he explained.

“For how long?”

“As long as it takes.”

It took more than fifteen minutes. Eventually, she convinced Sherlock that she needed to sit down. He put a blanket (she assumed it was a blanket, at least it felt like one) on the ground and helped her sit. They spoke very little, but she heard him typing on his phone and occasionally talking to himself.

Finally he said, “There you are. I was wondering if you were going to show.”

“Someone was being indecisive about what to wear,” John said. “Hello, Molly. Curious yet?”

“Only completely,” she answered. “What’s going on?”

She was suddenly startled by a hug. A hug from a very small person. “Happy Mother’s Day, Aunt Molly,” Rosie Watson said, then kissed her cheek.

“What? I- I mean, thank you, Rosie,” Molly responded, a little choked up.

“Help her up, Uncle Sherlock,” Rosie demanded. “We have a lot to do.”

He did, then they were on their way.

As they started to walk, Rosie took hold of her hand. “Uncle Sherlock, you’ll have to hold her other hand or she’ll fall. Unless you want daddy to do it?”

“I won’t let her fall, Rosamund,” he said gruffly, taking hold of Molly’s free hand.

“I bet you won’t,” the child responded.

John laughed.

They walked (mostly uphill), and sure enough when Molly stumbled on the uneven ground, Sherlock was there to steady her. Rosie prattled on about school, deducing her classmates and teachers all the while. Sherlock kept asking questions, egging her on. Finally they came to a stop, and both Rosie and Sherlock released her hands.

“Okay, Aunt Molly, you can take off your blindfold now.”

She removed the mask and looked around. It was a bright, sunny day and it took a few seconds for her eyes to adjust. When they did, she couldn’t believe what she was seeing.

“What do you think?” Rosie asked excitedly, jumping up and down.

“Wh- what… are we really riding in that?” Molly asked, dumbstruck.

“Of course! We’re having a picnic after the ride and ice cream when we get back home. It was all my idea,” she added proudly.

“Rosie also wanted to pet a unicorn, but Sherlock explained that they didn’t exist,” John interjected.

“Then I said that just because he’s never seen something that doesn’t mean it’s not real!” the five year old said, cutting her uncle a scathing look. “He needs to use his imagination more.” She stuck her tongue out at him. The gesture was returned by the forty-three year old man-child.

Molly laughed as they were ushered into the basket attached to the colorful hotair balloon.

The ride was simply breathtaking. Rosie squealed and laughed the entire time, completely unafraid of the dizzying heights. The child was a wonder; the perfect combination of Mary and John. She was beautiful and kind, intelligent and brave. She was perfect. Molly felt herself tearing up as she watched John pointing out some castle ruins to her goddaughter. It wasn’t fair, Mary was missing everything.

“Molly,” Sherlock’s voice pulled her from her dark thoughts.

She wiped a tear from her cheek as she turned to him. “Yes, Sherlock.”

“She’s happy, you know. We have to take some comfort in that.” He wiped away another tear that had fallen, then tucked a piece of hair behind her ear. “She loves you so much.”

Molly nodded, unable to speak.

“That’s a feeling I completely understand,” he whispered with a soft smile.

Over the roar of the wind and the burners, Molly heard Rosie say to her father, “I was wrong, daddy. I want Aunt Molly to marry Uncle Sherlock. Besides, I already have a mummy and she’s always with me. Aunt Molly said so.”

The Midheaven - A Staircase to the Highest Star

The Midheaven or tenth house cusp is the highest point in the sky and in the natal chart. A trusty astrologer I once confided in referred to the Midheaven sign as ‘where you want to be’. The Midheaven refers to one’s desires career wise, the approach to one’s profession, dreams, and the public image. In many ways it is like a hologram of the face we want to become, and can become, like a swirling energy we emit to the world. Because the tenth house is an angular house, it pertains to a major focus of the chart. The MC is like a blueprint of the future we dream of, and have the capability of achieving if only we reign in on our Capricorn (ruler of the tenth house) spirit. We are elevated through the Midheaven and develop our single consciousness whilst retaining our understanding of the oneness we all share. It’s the kind of impact we want to have on the world, but through an authentic self expression. .

Midheaven in Aries: The image here is bright, sparkling, and stimulating. The individual may appear more reckless and perilous than he truly is. He dreams of pioneering into new territory and rarely tolerates professions that are repetitive or mundane. He dreams of one day becoming more adventurous, self assured, and confident. The public loves him for his childlike spirit and enthusiasm.
The associated careers could be childcare, engineering, sports, politics. He is at his most radiant when in the midst of their work or passions. He may streak through many new jobs and professional pathways.

Midheaven in Taurus: A gentle, moving, and secure public image. The individual has a soothing and earthy effect on others and feels one with nature when working his dream career. The Midheaven in Taurus could relate to creative industries, beauty therapy, finance, accounting, agriculture, wildlife, landscaping, midwifery,  and retail. He will likely be drawn to careers that promise him security financially and job wise. Also those that pay a worthy income - he wants to be at comfort and ease. The public are receptive of his peaceful nature. He may also be very private

Midheaven in Gemini: There will be a spiraling ,erratic energy seeming to radiate from the Gemini Midheaven person. He will likely have good public speaking skills and excel at broadcasting to a large audience. He seems to know what people are thinking. Many careers and educational courses will fascinate him, especially teaching, journalism, writing, media, blogging, although he really is a jack of all trades. He will have trouble pinning down his true hopes and dreams. A profession that provides him the opportunity for communication is imperative, and he may remain a permanent student. He is an inquisitive, and clever spirit at work, and he knows how to mold himself into any archetype the role requires. He will enjoy jobs that provide him the chance to learn.

Midheaven in Cancer: There is a warm, comforting soul music that seems to shine from the Cancer Midheaven. A great need to protect, guard, and look after others associates with this placement, and being a parent could be the dream. The careers that could resonate here include childcare, midwifery, nursing, teaching, cooking, business, finance, psychology, real estate, and photography. The public feel very warmed and cradled by the individual, and he may find people naturally open up to him and share their deepest fears and worries. He has a psychic gauge on what the public wants and needs on very emotional and subconscious levels. The individual may try to comfort others through humor. There is a great need to provide for others.

Midheaven in Leo: The Leo Midheaven person seems to have a radiant, revitalizing, and seductive mist to others. Whether he likes it or not, he may find himself in the spotlight or in the middle of situations just for being himself. Careers that can be associated here include politics, justice, childcare and child protection, creative industries, theatre, management, music, writing, teaching, aged care, disability care, social work, and nursing. He will likely be very cheerful in his job and know how to make people happy. Something urges him to preserve his youthful appearance in some way. He has a lot of ambition when it comes to the imprint he leaves on the world.

Midheaven in Virgo: Something about the Virgo Midheaven person is his ability to make others feel they can depend on him. There seems to be a very soothing connection with others, like a comforting and wise motherly understanding. This placement suggests the individual will be involved in a subordinate position and one of service. Careers that could resonate here include technology and IT support, nursing, pharmacy, technical skills, machinery, communications, teaching, nature work, accounting, and physiotherapy. There will be a great need to provide for others and show he is worthy of his role. He will appreciate job stability and a chaos free work environment.

Midheaven in Libra: There seems to be a very peaceful and serene mist diffusing from the Libra Midheaven person. People feel instantly at ease and in the company of an old friend upon meeting him. The individual has a very receptive gauge on social undercurrents and a disarming, welcoming, and gentle expression to others. People that have never met him may feel that they already know him. Careers that could associate here include law, psychology, criminal psychology, police work, politics, design, social work, relationship counselling and divorce law, mediation. He will require a high level of tranquility at work and need to restore chaos to calm when conflict ensues. His more temperamental, justice seeking, and debating side may emerge when in the workplace. He needs a good work/life balance.

Midheaven in Scorpio: You can forgive people for feeling a little intimidated, a little seduced, and a little perplexed when contemplating a Scorpio Midheaven. He has a psychic awareness on how to soothe the public and likes to keep very private in his affairs. The individual leaves a very thick, resonant energy on his surroundings and seems to remain long after his body vanishes. Careers that could relate to this placement include pharmacy, medicine, psychology, science, nursing, research, law and justice, criminology, biology and marine biology, midwifery, radiography, and politics. He may appear more self assured and guarded than he really is. He just moves people - and doesn’t know how or why. In many ways, he is unforgettable.

Midheaven in Sagittarius: Something like a big bubble of delight pops from the Sagittarius Midheaven person. The individual seems to have an authentic, congenial, and carefree image that is natural and genuine. He easily relates to others and enjoys the opportunities he has to learn. Careers that could be associated here include psychology, medicine, animals and wildlife, flying, teaching, academics, research, sports, motoring, pharmacy, philosophy, writing, air and land travel, and jobs overseas. He may feel he can truly achieve his dream when he relocates and enjoy jobs that are on the move and offer constant change. He likes to become a master of his field. The individual wants to know what the public are thinking. People are very warmed by his humorous, honest, and happy distant spirit. Success is a succession of successes.

Midheaven in Capricorn: You feel like you instantly want to impress the Capricorn Midheaven person. Something about them spells a very proud, ambitious, mature, and wise language. There is a mystery about them and the secrets to success that radiate from their fingertips. The individual has very pronounced dreams and desires. Careers that can associate here include teaching, medicine, law and justice, politics, architecture, town planning, business, police work, management, wildlife preservation. He will likely have a great need to provide for others and a very paternal impact over others. He wants to protect and ensure and knows how to consolidate his talents. Many people have the urgency to naturally rely on him because he makes them feel that everything will be okay. He is the CEO of the cosmos.

Midheaven in Aquarius: Nothing zaps and lights up others like Aquarius Midheaven person. From afar he is jolting, energetic, intelligent, mentally lively, and quirky. Others may view him as more radical, detached, and outlandish than he really is. He will likely desire jobs that provide him a certain amount of stability with a large variety of opportunities and objectives. Careers we could associate with Aquarius Midheaven include science, music, exploration, conservation, animal work, politics, technology, blogging, psychiatry, gaming, social work, and anything that involves the mind. He has a tremendous humanitarian streak and you seem to feel a very maternal and compassionate embrace stirring out of them. There is a need to be protective, make others feel safe, and guide them wisely. He has an acute aptitude for gauging the thoughts of the public, like radio telepathy. 

Midheaven in Pisces: There is an enigmatic, mystic, and puzzling aura filtering from the Pisces Midheaven person. The individual seems timeless, untouchable, and as if he has walked straight from another world. The career path here undergoes many confusing changes and may be hard to pin down. It likely represents an ideal and involves the opportunity to help others. Professions that could resonate here include spiritual work, drug and alcohol nursing and counselling, rehabilitation work, prison work, creative industries, art, theatre, music, writing, and opportunities surrounding the ocean. The public may perceive him to be quite profound, enchanting, and somewhat of a guru. His hands and spirit are encased with healing honey.

-Cherry

About why INFPs aren’t always pure and sometimes downright dangerous

I usually don’t post anything about MBTI on this blog, but there’s something I really need to get off my chest about INFP.

I’m INFP myself, and what I hate the most is that we’re mostly portrayed as kind, daydreaming beings, too good for this world, too pure. No. We aren’t.

Our dominant Fi means we’re lead by our own ethical agenda and our corresponding emotions - in a lot of cases, this makes us understanding, peaceful, and mindful of others because we believe that’s the right thing to do. We are perceived as Good Beings™ because society values compassion.

But remember, it’s because we believe in this agenda, and made it our very core.

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Humans Are Weird; Swimmy-Danger-Frens

OKAY BUT aliens reading literature, human literature, and just being so confused by our constant references to a “Light” and “dark” side.
Like, these aliens find damp, cool, dark places preferable (they have night-vision and the light actually bothers their eyes a bit) and when we refer to “murky depths” and “the darkness creeping up on us” they get so confused and puzzled. Because to them, the dark is a cool, relaxing place to sit and hang around in and hides them from many predators; the waters are their homes and the murky depths spell out adventure and places to hide so that they may hunt.
And maybe them being confused by how often we compare things to other things, even when giving information (when teaching math, we draw parallels between real life applications and the way it will be used in class; chemistry is all like “you see soda? It is THIS TYPE OF SOLUTION; etc.) because everything is much more literal in their minds.Humans use so many metaphors, analogies, parallelisms, symbolisms, etc., do the aliens fo that as well; do some aliens favor the human style of writing or take more literal approaches in literature, Do the aliens find our stories fascinating and inspiring, or overdone and unnecessary? Also, aquatic alien literature?? At first it’s all accounts of hunting and hardships, but then those aliens begin to take to the land and discover, and suddenly there are stories of wild adventures and thrilling discoveries.
Aquatic-based aliens who aspire to one day traverse through Earth’s oceans, the equivalent of sky diving, climbing all the way to the top of Mount Everest, and finding buried treasure(when putting it in human terms).
I’m writing this down so that I may, hopefully, make a short story on it later, but if you have any ideas for this feel free to pick it up and *sprint* with this (running is for n00bs- fast, faster, or dead, my friends.)

glennrhee  asked:

Hi sorry to bother you I was just saw the gif set you made for ftwd and there was an effect you did that I've been looking for a tutorial on. The one where you make the background a solid color and only have text or an image show through. I've been looking and I just can't find out how to do it. If you're busy no worries but I appreciate any help you can give. Thanks! -Kristen

Hey Kristen, you’re not bothering me at all, I’m happy to help!

Tutorial: Manipulating Backgrounds In Gifs

Disclaimer: I taught myself how to do this and I am 100% sure there are easier ways to do this effect, but I usually prefer to teach myself things like this. I really recommend looking for alternative tutorials on photoshop tutorial tumblr accounts such as itsphotoshop and yeahpsds after reading mine, not every tutorial suits a creator so it’s always a good idea to explore different methods!

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A healthy relationship while having BPD doesn’t mean you never have incidents or meltdowns or splitting or lash out.

That means having complete control over your BPD. While having a lot of control is important, complete control is fucking impossible. It’d be like requiring me to not have any fibromyalgia symptoms that could hurt or disrupt my partner in order to have a healthy relationship. It’s not possible.

What DOES determine a healthy relationship is how you communicate and do damage control and take responsibility and be accountable and LISTEN and ask questions.

I tell my partners when my brain is being an asshole.

“Hey, I keep thinking you’re stupid for this. I don’t actually believe this, or feel this way, but I’m BPD splitting. I thought u should know. It’s not u, don’t worry. I’m sorry if I get impatient or split or lash out. Let me know if anything bothers you, okay?”

It’s not that you never split, you never say stupid shit or hurt each other or lash out or fight (even if it’s just because your brain wants a fight). It’s that you accomodate that and account for it with communication. It’s hard to learn and no one teaches you it. But you can do it.

And that’s literally ANY relationship, whether someone in it is sick, or not. Almost always, relationships get hurt and fuck up and heal, just like the people in them. Like everyone.

Healthy relationships don’t require being healthy.

The new ambassador for Germany

Hello dear community.
My name is Nathalie-Victoria, NIkki for short, and I will, from now on, act as the passive ambassador for Germany in the Hetalia community.
Hobbies include writing, languages, rp and taking notes to just about everything. My second account is @ask-the-icelandic-little

As already implied, I am from Germany, was born and live here, and since Hetalia I got way more interested in my country as well and now love to research about the different cultures from Hamburg to Bavaria and would be happy to share.

I would be happy to teach more about my nation then just the World War 2 part of history everyone already knows, about our history before and after and, if interest is there, also a bit about the germanic tribes if you would like. About our culture as well, food, drinks and more! 
One of my main goals will also be to teach everyone interested a bit of german, since I have often enough seen wrong use or slightly messed up words in fanart and fanfiction already.
I wont blame you for that, “German language, difficult language” is even a figure of speech here in Germany, but we can always do better!
I have already translated some phrases for the writer @worldcakecakecake and plan to do so in the future as well, whenever a question should arise!
Whenever you need an accurate translation of every so small word, I would be happy to help!
With that, at the end of my introduction, I will leave you with some small facts about Germany for now.

1.) The in America known “german” tradition of the Chirstmas pickle actually isnt german at all! It was made up by german settlers when they first arrived in America, that may be, but nobody in Germany will have an idea what you are talking about when you ask them about it!
2.) Bavaria = Germany. In most cases, even here, the first things people think about when Germany is mentioned are Lederhosen, Oktoberfest, Weißwurst beer in one liter glasses.
That, though, are only the most common Bavarian things! You will never see anyone in Hamburg celebrating Oktoberfest, or, for that matter, seeing Bavaria as part of Germany in the first place.
The north is very different from the south and was way more under Prussian influence, while Bavaria is, culture wise, closer to Austria actually.
3.) A short fact, but Hamburg is the city (/state) with the most bridges in all of Europe, topping even Amsterdam and Venice!

I hope with that I could give you all a small look into Germany already and hope for good work together!

Best wishes,
Nikki.

SWAN QUEEN FICRECS

FOREVER FAVORITE

1.     The Secret’s in the Telling by pyrophoric                
Summary:

“It’s the sixth of October. A pivotal moment in Storybrooke’s history and the turning point in Regina Mills’ life. And it all began with a spell, a Sheriff, and a thief.”
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WTF WTF WTF WTF WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!
(I know it is a slow start but give it a try and it’s all worth it.)

2.    The Worlds You Never See by writetherest
Summary:

   The lives I’ll never lead / Couldn’t make me sing / Could they? Could they? Could they?
   **
   As soon as she had stepped through the doorway, the door closed tightly. And only then, with Regina inside, did the lines, curves, and swirls shift and move, assembling themselves into words within the heart.
   The Road You Didn’t Take

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*cry emoji*

3.     The Art of Being Extraordinary by purplehershey
Summary:
AU. Henry, age 23, decides to give the crowd what they want, what they really want. A story. So he tells them the only one he knows: the greatest love story of all time, and it just so happens, that this love story is his mothers’. Henry’s on and off POV. WARNING: VERY ANGSTY MAY OR MAY NOT CONTAIN A CHARACTER DEATH
Reaction:
 I cried.

4.     Shadow Haven by Delirious_Comfort                
Summary:

   Emma Swan is a PR agent who is sent on a holiday by her boss. Regina Mills is the owner of a private island named Shadow Haven. There is more to Regina than initially meets the eye. This story dips heavily into the BDSM subculture. Swan Queen romance / BDSM story.
   Emma was silent for a long time. Truth be told, she had no idea if she wanted to stay here. She desperately wanted the break, but didn’t want to spend her time with some stranger who had been hostile from the moment she had laid eyes on her. Hostility that had been replaced by semi-friendliness as soon as money had been added into the equation, and Emma wasn’t sure how she felt about that.
   “I don’t know,” Emma finally said.
   “Give it one week, Miss Swan. If you are not enjoying yourself here on Shadow Haven at the end of that time, we will look into the possibilities of returning you home,” Regina offered as she stood up from her spot on the couch and made her way over to Emma. She held out her hand to the younger woman when she reluctantly gave the gorgeous brunette a nod, “It is nice to meet you Miss Swan. My name is Regina Mills. Welcome to Shadow Haven, I do hope you will enjoy your time here.”

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Definitely NSFW, This story is not just hot but I also love the development of Emma and Regina’s relationship.

5.      Bait and Switch by JuiceCup
Summary:
Henry Mills is sick and tired of his mothers skating around the truth and not realizing that they are perfect for each other and that they belong together.  So he has a plan to bring them together and convinces his grandmother to help.Robin and Marian had never left. The story starts out with MILD Outlaw Queen but there is NO KISSING and NO SEX, so NO WORRIES!  THIS is a Swan Queen story with major Swan Queen feels already in the first chapter!
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DO NOT READ THIS WHEN YOU’RE GOING TO SLEEP! IT WILL KEEP YOU UP DUE TO MAJOR SWAN QUEEN FEELS!!!

6.      I’m Not A Writer I Just Drink A Lot About It by Exquisiteliltart            
Summary:

Regina decides to write her own happy ending and Emma helps.
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So much feels!!! Fluff and Swan-Mills Family *sighs and watch them live happily ever after*

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anonymous asked:

Hello :) could you do RFA (including V and Saeran) teaching MC Korean :)

Hey Anon (^v^) This ask is so unique are you by any chance Korean? Just curious! No matter where you’re from, we love you and thank you for your support! I may have gotten too carried away in my content but still, hope you’ll like it! Love, Mod Yoo.


Scenario
Fem!MC could be someone of other nationality or a Korean “dong-po” (diaspora in English) born and bred in a foreign land (where English is their main language) outside of Korea where she grew up as an orphan. Under special yet personal circumstances, she returned to Korea wanting to start anew in her home country. Unfortunately, she doesn’t know where to start: clueless to her native language, doesn’t have any acquaintances. A member of a cult (from which its leader’s intent is to cripple the entire RFA) led MC to a seemingly deceased RFA leader’s secret apartment. MC was told that the accommodation will remain free-of-charge as long as the unit’s upkeep is maintained.


***Start imagining that each of the MM character is the only one fluent in both the English Language and Korean Language, in their respective canons. Each one of them will get MC to attempt at translating (note: she could always use internet, but we all know how accurate they turn out.) a sentence after they mastered the basics (some of them get surprised by MC instead). Assuming that V tasks the character-in-canon (excluding unknown) to manage the invites with MC, and the other RFA members will be helping her to pull through her 1st party.***

(p/s I’m no Korean language expert, please don’t penalise me and instead enlighten me if I made any mistakes. ^^;”)

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anonymous asked:

(sigh) there's been a lot of negative posts I keep seeing sometimes in completely unrelated tags about stimming isn't for "neurotypicals". It kind of made me feel a little down. I'm very mentally ill, but I also have a lot of traits associated with Sensory Processing Disorder... I don't have the energy to go see if I really do or not... I just want to keep doing what helps me stay sane. I really appreciate your blog, and all of the resources you put out there. Thank you.

Lovely anon, I am sorry for keeping you waiting on this.

I’ve seen a few of those posts myself, with regards to spinners, which are apparently popular right now in the US.

(Not being American - here in Australia handmade slime is just starting to catch on - I can only go by what Americans are posting, which appears to be posts on stores selling out of spinners and discussions about popularity resulting in teachers banning spinners from classrooms.)

I’ll say to you this: You. Are. Not. Neurotypical. Like, neurodiversity isn’t a “if you hit fifty points or more you’re ND” quiz. It isn’t. (I know they can assess autism this way, which was how mine was, but since I came to agree with that assessment through community exploration, I don’t consider it all that worthwhile.) If you have a need for stim toys, if you have mental illness, if you have SPD traits, even if you never get a paper diagnosis, you’re ND, and you’re us. If you’re only ND in one or two aspects, you’re not neurotypical. If your only problem is smell sensitivity and you stim because of that, you are not neurotypical. All you need is some difference that causes disability in some way, for which stim toys are an aid as much as a crutch or chair. You cannot sit still through a class? Here’s an aid that will help you do that. That’s it.

(I am absolutely and unequivocally for self-diagnosis or partial diagnosis or people who are questioning but find they need stimming. I am here for “ND, but not sure exactly how yet” and engaging in the stim community because it is a need that helps them survive. I am absolutely and unequivocally not for any kind of gatekeeping that stops ND people, who may not know they’re ND because we’re all forced to mimic neurotypical behaviour, from finding connection, community and support.)

I understand why people are blogging as they are: when something is adopted by the masses, teachers in a classroom setting tend to ban it as a distraction, meaning those who need it (especially those without paper diagnoses or poor support systems in place) no longer have access to it. It’s a problem, a very real problem. Stim toys need to be in ND hands. Having a disability aid turned into a fashion or fad means that disabled people have to find alternatives and run the risk of even those alternatives not being accepted.

But. We need to discuss this problem in ways that don’t alienate or exclude people who think themselves NT who are exploring popular stim toys and discover they need these toys as much as we do. We need to remember that ableism teaches us to act as NT as possible, so much so that we repress our differences in thought and feeling, so much so that we lose stimming. (I know I did.) We need to remember that autism (as one case example) is often diagnosed late in people who aren’t white and cis masculine, and some of those annoying NT stimmers who have appropriated the toy might actually need it themselves.

I’m wary, as I’ve said before, of outright statements like “stimming isn’t for neurotypicals”. I’m wary because I’m late diagnosed, because I didn’t even get a depression or GAD diagnosis after I was twenty despite having been the most anxious person ever my whole childhood, because I know that a great many ND people can spend years of their life not knowing they are ND. Because society teaches us to bury, as best we can, our neurodiversity. I’m wary because I think it doesn’t give ND people who don’t know they’re ND entry into the community they need.

In a way, I think it’s a dreadful catch twenty-two: the problem is born of ableism (an aid turned into a fad), but the dialogue about it doesn’t take into account how ableism stops people knowing themselves.

I don’t know, not really, what is the best way to approach this conversation.

All I can say is that if you need to stim, given that I consider that need a sign of neurodiversity in some way, you’re welcome here. You don’t need to tell me how you’re neurodiverse, because I don’t care. You don’t have to fully know yourself - all you need to know is what you’ve said, that stim toys are an aid. This space is for you. Stimming is for you. You absolutely belong here, anon.

(And general reminder that “neurotypical” doesn’t equal “not-autistic”, and allistic neurodiverse folk who stim are valid, wonderful and absolutely belong in the stim community.)