i really like the advice “write marginalized characters but don’t write about marginalization unless you experience it”
absolutely i think cis people should expand their horizons and write trans characters, but they shouldn’t write stories about being trans. likewise i think allistic / NT authors should write about autistic characters! but not stories about being autistic.
represent us. absolutely. but don’t tell our stories. let us do that.
How often my conversations about feminism have spiraled into requests for assault. I say, “Women don’t need men to defend them,” and am asked, “Can I punch you, then?” And I say, “Women belong in movies and video games and everything,” and I hear terrible things, unprintable slurs and demands for my assault, the threatening of a young woman to shut up: What they would do to silence me. The things they’d shove between my teeth. I say, “Men cannot threaten any woman they disagrees with,” and I’m told, “Women are just as cruel. Am I not supposed to respond in kind?” In my inbox today I have deleted sixteen messages asking for my life. When I say, “Your virginity only means what you want it to mean,” I’m asked, “If you believe in sexual freedom can I fuck you?” When I say “All it takes to be a woman is to want to be a woman,” I am asked, “So if I just say that I’m a woman, can I watch you in the shower?” As if women stand shadowy behind each other in our private moments. As if being woman means sexually assaulting each other.
Part of me - cynical, unwilling to be frightened, says that it might be a nice dose of reality. My shower where I am naked but my hair becomes streaky and thin, where my body sags, where my makeup smears. To witness a woman less than sexy, legs akimbo while shaving, pulling up flab thighs to reach the underside. Part of me dares them to punch me because I fight to win and am small but I’ll kill a man if he touches me. Once I dropped a U.S Marine. Part of me, hellfire and ice queen - says come on, then. You want a fight? Come fight me.
But more is scared. More timidly deletes messages, makes sure my name is hidden, doesn’t answer the endless antifeminist comments. The insertion of men and their opinion on simple things like “I teach children to ask before hugging.” When I close my eyes sometimes I wonder if they’re right and that scares me. How much am I going to change when my voice only echoes around me.
Why are you angry. Why are you angry. What do you think we are taking from you? If it’s not already equal why would equality frighten you.
The ancient art of being a woman and trying to get your voice heard: the gentle suggestion, the peaceful comment. The quiet listening to another opinion and the fact we must acknowledge it before we can continue. That I must educate, be sweet, be feminine in my feminism or else it’s “invalid.” I must present my declaration as a timid thing: “Women maybe should be part of more things.” And then the apologies: of course I don’t hate men, yes I like plenty of things with men in them, no I don’t think women are better. And then the explanations: women are people, here is the number of women in media, here is the number of dead women in media, here are the number of shows led by men. And then I brace for it. For the bullying.
Every time I speak it’s from a flinch. From “maybe this isn’t always the case but for me it is.” From please listen. From less demanding. God forbid I state factually that men are violent. If I speak about our fathers and brothers and the cycle of anger unfolding. God forbid I suggest that just once we should cut the bullshit and treat women well without pandering to men about how that helps them. What if I say “Men shouldn’t hit anyone. Hitting isn’t an answer.”
I’ll tell you what happens. The post was up for four seconds with three notes. The message I get is “If hitting isn’t allowed I’ll just go ahead and shove a gun down your throat.”
In Episode 4, I noticed something really beautiful.
In the scene above, we see a set of dog prints in the sand and small footprints. The doggo’s footprints abruptly end in the part of the sand that hasn’t been smoothed over by the water. In a way, it could parallel Yuuri’s own steps with Vicchan. I found this scene to be painfully symbolic. Yuuri had to trudge on, as if nothing had happened, after Vicchan’s passing. He didn’t stop to grieve. He just went on with the GPF with the immense sadness and stress all inside of him (just like how these footprints continued on, not missing a step).
This was also the episode where Yuuri kind of muses how he once thought he was fighting alone and how he admitted to bottling up his insecurities/weaknesses in front of Victor to put up a strong facade. By believing this mantra, he would’ve most likely put up a veneer of “I’m alright!” after Vicchan’s passing. In fact, when Yuuri first introduces himself in Episode 1 and his underwhelming performance at the GPF, he talks only briefly about his dog’s death. He just says that “my family dog died” and moves on from that. The only emotional stuff we get from in about Vicchan is in his own private thoughts. He never outwardly expressed them until he arrived back in Hasetsu. However, as the story progresses, we see that Yuuri is truly broken by Vicchan’s passing and we are shown snippets of how much Vicchan meant to Yuuri.
However, after finally admitting how this habit has only held him down and being open with Victor, we cut to the footprints scene above, which could mirror Yuuri’s own heart and how he has revealed his most intimate feelings with Victor. He has exposed a part of himself that he had once hidden (like his grief) and has begun letting go of his habit of bottling up his emotions.
This is what makes the next scene in Episode 12 even more beautiful.
Yuuri has finally embraced it openly. Instead of fighting alone, he has learned to depend on other people to carry his dream with him. Yuuri has learned that he can’t grow and reach his most promising potential if he carries the entire world on his shoulders alone.
He’s right next to Maccachin now, running side by side (perhaps like he and Vicchan once did) and continuing his journey with the faith that he’ll never have to be alone again. It’s a poignant continuation of the footprints scene in Episode 4 and a reminder of how far Yuuri has come.
I already know I am going to offend some people out there when I make this post, but this whole thing with Blake Shelton getting sexiest man alive has made me really mad. You pick this baked chicken over all these men of color? Like literally there are so many beautiful men of color out there! “The Sexiest Man Alive” is a scam that is mostly dominated by white men! Denzel is the only African-American male I know of that has got this ridiculous title. Like what the hell? So I have made a small list of some men of color that I think could bless a cover of Peoples magazine:
(I picked people in my opinion that I thought fit the bill better than Blake Shelton)
(Ps. Peoples Magazine, you are a joke :))
Harry Shum Jr.
All of these are in my opinion. I am just tired of American Media being mainly “white“. America is supposed to be a “melting pot” but it’s not. White ran media is over everything. There are multiple people of color out there and giving Blake Shelton Sexiest Man Alive in my opinion was brainless and stupid. There are so many other celebrities they could have chosen.
“An unhealthy INFP with a Fi-Si loop can experience extreme withdrawal from the external world, while having a Te grip can cause harsh, aggressive outbursts of negative emotion and is likely to happen if they’ve suffered some kind of significant emotional turmoil, particularly if that turmoil involved a prolonged disregard of the INFP’s values, emotions, or identity.” (x)
incorrect shadowhunters quotes (16/?): unknown. #such chemistry #amazing romance #he dislikes her so much it’s beautiful #looking straight into her eyes when he tells her how annoying she is #i wish i could find love like this 😍
Harry, was Sweet Creature written about a specific person?
*deep breath* um...in my opinion, I think most songs are written for one listener, in my personal opinion, in the way that I think, you know, people write books, they probably write them for one reader. and uhm...yeah I think it's a really amazing way of being able to say something to someone that, maybe they'll never know it's about them, maybe there's one thing in there that only they will know is about them. I think it's...you know like I said it's so much easier to say something in a song than it is to say it to someone. and I think it's...it's really amazing to be able to communicate through that and be able to wrap up everything you want to say in three and a half minutes and say it in a song.
for lack of, not like, really wanting to analyze your art right, you kind of said without saying that this song is kind of about somebody right? You had a message that you were looking to convey. Who makes you feel at home?
I think that's fair...I think that's a fair um...acknowledgement yeah
So does this person know that the song is written about them?
.....um...I actually don't know. I think the thing that's important to remember is it's not always necessarily...um...the first thing that you might think of but I obviously...would never...tell someone that what they thought was wrong. I think the best thing about music is that everyone can take away different things from stuff--
different to every ear!
--and that's not wrong, there's not really a wrong answer. I feel like a lot of my favourite songs that mean something to me, I'd be disappointed if someone told me they were about something else, it might ruin the song for me, so, uhm yeah I think Sweet Creature is definitely about one person but uh...yeah I think it's important to remember that there's many different types of things that it could be about you know a person...yeah you know what I mean? That an answer?
I just read an article recommending budgies and cockatiels among other small commonly mistreated animals as pets for young children and I'm pretty sure I can hear my veins popping
A five year old does not need a pet, especially a small pet. If they’re not old enough to take care of themselves, they’re not old enough to take care of another life.
No hate to people who did get their own pet young, so did I, but I know I’m definitely not going to be doing that for my kids. I was 13 when I got my first bird (a parrotlet) and I know I was NOT mature enough. Don’t get me wrong, I loved him, he was the center of my universe and he got plenty of attention and interaction and love, but I was not mature enough for the less fun parts of pet care. I also had ADHD, so my brain was(is) a bit behind developmentally on certain aspects, but still.
If you’re going to get a pet, make it a family pet, and don’t get it just for your kids. Get it because you want it too, because you’d better believe you’re going to be the one taking care of it.
And if you have small kids, don’t get delicate pet that needs to be handled! Please! Kids mean well but they’re still kids! If you’re going to get a small pet, get one that doesn’t need to be handled, and is happier being left alone. (And then make sure you’re kids leave it alone, including no tapping on the cage to get its attention).
And also, there’s no such thing as an easy pet to take care of. If you think there is, then you’re probably not caring for it correctly. The best thing for a pet (especially non domesticated ones) is to recreate all the beneficial aspects of their natural environment.
And don’t trust what the pet store tells you. Do research at home before making the decision to get the pet. And I mean research that isn’t from the pet store website.
Super sorry this turned into such a long post, I just really love animals and think they deserve so much better than what the pet trade typically gives them.
And please don’t think that I’m trying to make anyone feel bad or guilty! Like I said, I had several childhood pets that I didn’t take care of properly, even though I loved them, because I didn’t know any better. I’m so grateful to the people who explained all this stuff to me
Kill La Kill: see above, but with a commentary on fanservice and the anime industry. also main female characters
Death Note : morally ambiguous main character kills people, eats potato chips. everyone loses their shit
Fullmetal Alchemist (both 2003 and Brotherhood) : 2 brothers fuck shit up, also save the world through alchemy.
Cowboy Bebop : guns in space
Every Goddamn Ghibli Movie : do it, you weakling. watch them all theyre all good
Ghost In The Shell : theres more than just the first movie. watch the other ones. also the tv series. do it. its about being human
Code Geass : snotty rich boi decides to take over an entire empire through sheer assholery and somehow manages it, but god, at what goddamn cost.
Yu-Gi-Oh : believe in the power of the fucking cards karen
CLASSICS II (you probably haven’t watched these and it makes me sad):
Perfect Blue : the movie black swan tried (and failed) to rip off properly
Future Boy Conan : because miyazaki also does tv series
Revolutionary Girl Utena : sword lesbian, a lesbian with a sword
Oban Star Racers : racing, but in space. half french
Mushishi : spirits, in all their contemplative beauty
Black Jack (the OVAs are the best but you can watch the rest as well): the original Dr House, with more money and assholery
Koi Kaze : quite possibly the only redeemable anime about incest
Sherlock Hound: did i mention miyazaki doing great tv series yet
SHONEN (young boys fuck shit up):
My Hero Academia : crybaby protagonist turns out to be most loveable character of all time. becomes a cool hero. love him
Mob Psycho 100 : a show about a boy who just wants to be good. ONE manifests in your house to physically punch shonen tropes in the face. breathtaking animation. read the manga before tho. trust me
Avatar The Last Airbender (& Avatar The Legend Of Korra) : fuck you its anime because i fucking said so. watch it. the story is great and culturally diverse and also cool shit happens
Naruto & Naruto Shippuden : whatever you say some arcs were fucking legendary so whenever you want just watch some cool, non-filler shit. every thing after the Pain arc doesnt matter dont watch it
Soul Eater: i have no goddamn clue whats going on but it looks cool. also spirit vore
Hunter x Hunter : young boy adopts new adults in his family, gets killer best friend. literally
Keroro Gunsou : alien frogs try to take over the world. it,,,,, doesnt work very well. featuring otaku frog, angry frog, gay fanboy frog, gay nerd frog, alone frog as well as many other things. the humans are also good
Wakfu : its. basically french anime. fantasy stuff, it has great animation (especially in the later episodes) and the main villains are fucking incredible. its on netflix and by all that is holy watch it in french with english subs else i will physically manifest in your house and punch you.
One Punch Man : ONE tries to mock shonen manga, does it too well
Shaman King : the french OP is in my head and I CANT GET IT OUT
Black Rock Shooter (OVA + series) : this times its girls fucking shit up, and theyre also crying. it looks amazing
SPORTS ANIME (i dont give a shit about sports but goddamn i love these):
Baby Steps : the most realistic and likeable sports anime ever. weak art but great story telling and pacing
Haikyuu!! : what even is volleyball. i care about these characters and the animation is fucking phenomenal. the soundtrack is so good. watch it
Ping Pong - The Animation : weird-ass art in the best way, great story & characters. cant fucking believe this was achieved on flash
Welcome To The Ballroom : n e c k s
Hajime No Ippo : punching people and your own FEELINGS
Yuri On Ice!!! : gay ice skating. everyone loves quadruples. very nice and sweet. you will care about dogs
Akagi: lets just pretend playing mah-jong while using your blood to bet is an actual sport. also known as ‘wow thats a peculiar art style - the anime’
One Outs: was introduced to me as “akagi but with baseball” and boy was i not disappointed
OTHER SHIT I’M TOO LAZY TO CATEGORIZE (but watch them theyre good i promise):
Fume Wo Amu : autistic man discovers how to make dictionaries and friends. some sad happens
Shouwa Genroku Rakugo Shinjuu : like a greek tragedy, except sadder and directed by gods. incredible animation as well. gr8 storytelling
Doukyuusei : a short, sweet love story. the animation style is stunning i fucking love it with all my heart
Steins;Gate : time travel bullshit. great direction
Journey To Agartha : a movie i tried to get people to watch back when they didnt know who makoto shinkai was yet. pls watch its good
Usagi Drop : aka “dont read the manga - the anime”. the fluffiest piece of animation you will ever encounter. a dad dadding his life away
Psycho-Pass : great thriller/action show. makes you question morality
Uchuu Patrol Luluco : fuck you and your feelings im more important
Monster : naoki urasawa Does It Again™
Kiznaiver : a deconstruction of drama anime in general, with godlike animation and art. the OP makes me want to cry because its so good
Wandering Son : a touching anime about trans kids. read the manga
Akagi : just makin sure you watch that one. while youre ahead read the manga too
Nichijou : slice of life anime presented in the most hilarious way
Mahou Shoujo Madoka Magica : magical girls but with a twist. dont fuckin trust that piece of shit plushie
Lupin III : arsène lupin except hes more of a piece of shit than usual
Parasyte : i am scarred for life by the things i have seen
Jojo’s Bizarre Adventures: whatever the fuck is going on here
thats it for now, i will probably update this in the future when i think of it. these are my opinions and my opinions only im not some kind of anime guru kthx
tbh maybe this is unpopular but i also understand why vex would feel closer to tary than scanlan now? because i get why people are upset but i also think it’s important to remember that scanlan singled out vex for bringing kaylie and yelled at her and said that they only went to the feywild because of her “fucking daddy issues” meanwhile she literally bonded with tary because of her “daddy issues”
like idk i absolutely understand why scanlan lashed out and i was supportive of him leaving but i also think it’s perfectly reasonable for vex to feel like something broke between them and she’s just not as close with scanlan after that? because i’ve had a friendship break down like that and it’s not fun at all so idk maybe im just projecting but like……. idk