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You will fall in love with your friends. Deep, passionate love. You will create a second family with them, a kind of tribe that makes you feel less vulnerable. Sometimes our families can’t love us all the time. Sometimes we’re born into families who don’t know how to love us properly. They do as much as they can but the rest is up to our friends. They can love you all the time, without judgement. At least the good ones can.
—  Ryan O'Connell
And kid, you’ve got to love yourself. You’ve got wake up at four in the morning, brew black coffee, and stare at the birds drowning in the darkness of the dawn. You’ve got to sit next to the man at the train station who’s reading your favorite book and start a conversation. You’ve got to come home after a bad day and burn your skin from a shower. Then you’ve got to wash all your sheets until they smell of lemon detergent you bought for four dollars at the local grocery store. You’ve got to stop taking everything so goddam personally. You are not the moon kissing the black sky. You’ve got to compliment someones crooked brows at an art fair and tell them that their eyes remind you of green swimming pools in mid July. You’ve got to stop letting yourself get upset about things that won’t matter in two years. Sleep in on Saturday mornings and wake yourself up early on Sunday. You’ve got to stop worrying about what you’re going to tell her when she finds out. You’ve got to stop over thinking why he stopped caring about you over six months ago. You’ve got to stop asking everyone for their opinions. Fuck it. Love yourself, kiddo. You’ve got to love yourself.

When talking about issues with straight relationships in media, take care to acknowledge that there are positive representations of straight relationships, and those should be encouraged. Most of the population of the world is straight; we can’t just say that everyone should stop writing straight relationships. Rather, we should transition from creepy, manipulative, harmful, or dangerous relationship tropes (sexual harassment is sexy, the man should have no idea how to cook/clean/take care of himself, pregnancy means you’re stuck forever for life, etc.) towards portrayals of healthy straight romantic/sexual relationships.

This is obviously not to say that we shouldn’t also have more and better portrayals of same-gender relationships, relationships involving bi individuals, relationships involving NB people, etc. But there’s a tendency, particularly on Tumblr, to say “Ugh, straight relationships, I’m so sick of seeing those,” which is understandable but not particularly helpful.