I know I’ve been making a lot of little quips about things that antis do that bug me, but I feel like this really needs to be said.
I get so frustrated whenever I see an anti post something that ends in something to the degree of “Sorry sweetie I don’t make the rules uwu.” Mostly because making the rules is exactly what they’re doing.
These posts almost always begin with something really awful, along the lines of “If you ship ____ you’re ugly/gross/icky”, and that isn’t okay. It isn’t okay to judge a person’s character based on their tastes in fiction.
An alternative to the above is “If you ship this you’re an abuse apologist/pedophile/not a true fan”, which is much more harmful. Using such strong language towards someone who merely has different tastes in fiction than you is just… wrong.
On top of this, many of them add a little not in the tags that, in my eyes, makes things go from bad to worse. “This isn’t directed towards survivors, you’re only allowed to ship it if you’re coping.”
This little footnote doesn’t change the fact that these antis just said that people who ship this are as bad as abusers themselves. All it does is show a halfhearted attempt to seem like they genuinely care about survivors.
In closing, posts like this are far more harmful than the problematic ships that they’re trying to protect the world from. We’re not the ones saying every person who enjoys a particular relationship is gross, or evil, or abusive. We’re not the ones tacking on a weak attempt to seem like we care about people, ignoring that survivors of abuse, while a large group of cops shippers, are not the only who use ships to feel normal.
Just something to think about.